Am I being a pest to my married friend?
Q. I am reasonably friendly with a female work colleague and we do tend to get on well and have good conversations, saying hello and smiling at each other at work, and occasionally having the odd short discussion. She always smiles when we do run i...
A. 15 June 2011: Looks like slowly creeping infatuation, if it's reached a point where you're so worried about it. If married or otherwise involved, put more emotional energy into your own relationship, if not, put ALL your energy into finding someone for yourself. ... (read in full...)
I cant help but feel tempted, whenever I am with her my imagination runs wild! Help!
Q. Hi. I am 19 years old and I need some help and good advice about love, temptation and sex. I am so confused now about my feelings and desires. My parents are religious, however I am not but I really respect and abide the values and morals a lo...
A. 14 June 2011: 'Religious' laws of this nature were put in place by jealous old people who are no longer capable of having fun. No other reason. And I speak as a rational 55 year old, not a hormonal adolescent. After two years it's really time for the pair of ... (read in full...)
Should I apologize to my religious friend?
Q. Well...I made an offensive joke to my friend who is trying to be religious now. Sometimes I'm a bit harsh and so I made a joke and I told her she cannot watch a movie with Witches and Wizards if she believes in God. (I said that because she told...
A. 14 June 2011: She says that "can pick and choose as she wants" and yet still chooses to condemn you for your music and sexuality. It might be an idea to pick and choose your own friends a bit more carefully. Tell her that God spake unto thee in a vision ... (read in full...)
Feeling very guilty for cheating on my girlfriend....should I tell her?
Q. I cant stop this terrible feeling of guilt after cheating on my girlfriend recently. I want to tell her but im scared if i do i will lose her. She means the world to me and im gutted ive now ruined everything after a stupid one night stand. Ive lied ...
A. 14 June 2011: Clearing your conscience by destroying your relationship and hurting the woman you love is a stupid thing to do. Don't say a word. And don't do it again. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about the money
Q. Me and my boyfriend did a broker business to sell a vehicle.. and we were supposed to share the profits equally.. I found the car and my boyfriend found a customer to sell it. So after the deal was done my boyfriend said that the customer cheated ...
A. 13 June 2011: For a tiny (relatively speaking) amount you have learned that the man you love is a liar, a thief and a cheat. Fortunately you learned this before house, children and joint bank account entered the picture. Write it off, and from now on completely ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be depressed on holiday when I see my friend's figures in bikinis!
Q. I'm going on holiday in two weeks with my best friends, but it's just hit me how amazing they're bodies are compared to mine. One of them is 6ft and she has a great figure that many guys love and girls are jealous of. In fact it's intimidatin...
A. 7 June 2011: Men don't like skinny women. The 'ideal figure' for women is one which has been set by gay fashion designers, who do not and will never sleep with women. I'm not into porn, but I can tell you that the girls in it are chosen because theeir figures ... (read in full...)
Husband emotionally empty and I'm incredibly lonely
Q. I have a picture perfect life. I have been married 12 years (together for 20) to a handsome man who makes a good living. We have 2 great kids. We live in a nice house in a nice neighbourhood. I am attractive and have a great social life with lots ...
A. 6 June 2011: You have to take into account that the affluent life you say you have is due to your husband's hard work. (you haven't mentioned having a career yourself; if I'm mistaken, my apologies) Sometimes a man who cannot express himself emotionally will ... (read in full...)
I want to ask him out, but I know he's broke
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I recently met this guy, and i want to ask him about going on our first date. He said he might be able to meet this Wednesday, but he hasn't had much money lately. I feel funny about asking him about going out since he ...
A. 6 June 2011: Plenty of stuff you can do without money. Wander around a park and feed the ducks, (it's almost summer, after all) take in a free concert, go to an art gallery. The important thing is just to be with one another to see how things progress. Any of ... (read in full...)
Why should I care? She dumped me!
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and we were on pretty good terms.i started hanging out with an old friend alot(a girl)and when my ex asked me if i was seeing anyone i lied(my mistake i know) and told her that i was interested in someone ...
A. 5 June 2011: Unfortunately with some people jealousy outlasts love. If mature they learn to control this, but some never do. You're well rid of this idiot- she's just demonstrated how It's genuinely none of her business, and just shows how childish she is. Move ... (read in full...)
How to kiss a shorter guy?
Q. How do you kiss a guy shorter than you without making it akward. He is 5ft 5" and I am 5ft 11"....
A. 5 June 2011: He angles his head up and you angle yours down. Get used to it- there won't always be a convenient curb for him to stand on. However, congrats on having the guts to go with your heart and overcome the unwritten rule against the woman being taller ... (read in full...)
I cannot get past the idea of his threesome with his then-wife and their neighbour!
Q. I have been in a relationship with the same man for over 5 years. Very early on he told me he had a 3some with his then wife and her friend who was also their married neighbour. This continues to bother me. What bothers me is there must have ...
A. 5 June 2011: If her husband was babysitting the kids and his wife just happened to pop next door to engage in group sex it sounds like he was in on the whole thing. Some men like their wives/partners telling them about engaging in sexual activity with other ... (read in full...)
Lost interest in Sex. Wife angrily says I will get it back with another woman. Is this true?
Q. I have a sexual dysfunction ,what started 8 years ago. The doctor couldn't diagnose me with any condition,what can cause this. Not even after several specialists visit. As strange as it sounds ,I don't know why do I have this problem. That I...
A. 5 June 2011: You've been together over 30 years. You are suffering from what is called "The Coolidge Effect", named after American president Calvin Coolidge. The President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental government farm. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be this in love without meeting someone?
Q. Help! for nearly a year i have been talking to a turkish guy online and i can honestly say that i really like him. Hes so lovely and although i have never met him in person, im sure i will like him. he is really like my dream man and he honestly ...
A. 5 June 2011: Find someone of your own culture and in your own neighbourhood. It can be done, it's safer, and at least you know you're not being used to provide an immigrant visa.... (read in full...)
Might he have feelings for me? Am I being naive over my former tutor?
Q. Hi this is quite a common question, but I haven't found any answers that help me. I live in the UK and have just left college, only exams left to do. In my first year I got on very well with one of my lecturers (he was also my tutor). By the time...
A. 5 June 2011: Articles about teachers' careers ruined by students, fairly or otherwise, are very common in newspapers these days. I worry that any tentative friendship he is showing you is only a guarantee against you going off the rails again- keep your friends ... (read in full...)
Was Shy and Diffident - now Strong and Confident: Can a guy outgrow his past with someone that knew him then?
Q. I am a very careful person when it comes to relations , I dont wanna date anyone until im married because i believe in pure relationships . There was a girl whom i knew 2 years ago in highschool she is definitely the woman of my dreams everything i ...
A. 4 June 2011: "im now even a teacher on university level in front of 50 students with all confidence."
Something doesn't quite ring true here....... (read in full...)
Why does it feel like he's bored of me?
Q. My boyfriend and I text, well, 24/7, and it is him who texts me first. Now, this may seem weird, but he sent me a text saying :'no offense, but I wanna concentrate on this film.' I understand most of you think I am over reacting but the point is...
A. 4 June 2011: Emotions run high at your age- it isn't easy but things tend to smooth out as you get older and that of course will happen naturally. Everyone needs a bit of downtime, just to be alone and relax. You do, and so does he, so try to be a bit calmer, ... (read in full...)
I cannot get past the idea of his threesome with his then-wife and their neighbour!
Q. I have been in a relationship with the same man for over 5 years. Very early on he told me he had a 3some with his then wife and her friend who was also their married neighbour. This continues to bother me. What bothers me is there must have ...
A. 4 June 2011: If you keep on deliberately punishing him with second-rate sex for something he engaged in before you even met him, and keep fantasising over his role in something of which, as a typical male, he probably forgot most of the details years ago, you ... (read in full...)
After graduating from college I'm really lost!
Q. This is most likely off topic but I'll try anyway considering it's a forum... I'm really depressed with my life right now. I got a degree in journalism and tried to pave a path to law school. Then I realized the hard truth of how the LSAT determi...
A. 3 June 2011: Take a breather for a year- no more- and travel around or do anything that isn't academic. You've been force-fed knowledge for the past 17 years since you were 4 or 5 and maybe it's time to digest it and find out what you're like as a person outside ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get a guy's respect back after you gave yourself to him too soon?
Q. Just a quick question, dearest Aunts. (: I was casually seeing a guy I was very interested in, and was adamant to myself that I was going to hold out a long time before I slept with him, but one night I slipped up, I just couldn't help mysel...
A. 3 June 2011: Setting an arbitrary time limit for sleeping with someone is un-natural- you're best off seeing how things go and acting accordingly. And if it felt like the right thing to do, (and it was obviously a mutual thing), then I suggest you simply see ... (read in full...)
Recently graduated from school.....should I tell my former teacher that I'm attracted to him?
Q. Hi, guys! I'm just a little torn on what to do here. I've been attracted to my teacher since roughly January. I recently graduated, and since then I've been debating on whether or not I should tell him that I'm attracted to him. I really do want to, ...
A. 3 June 2011: You're at least 18, so legally an adult, he's single, you're no longer his student and nothing went on when you were- go ahead and good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm great in bed if I'm not into the girl, but when it comes to a girl I like I'm terrible!
Q. hELLO Everyone.. i have a quite weird problem..its a sex related problem..the thing is when i have sex with a girl that im basically not really attracted to or like a one night stand..my sex performance is just amazing..i last so long and i feel soo...
A. 3 June 2011: This is like an athlete or actor being wonderful in practise/rehearsal but awful IRL. Too much thinking!! Also I suspect that you're not afraid of a one-night stand because you already know in advance you're not going to see her again, so your ... (read in full...)
I want to be more than sex to somebody but it seems that's all men want from me! Should I just accept it?
Q. I am a young woman, does get hit on when I'm out and I've been called "hot" etc but I just feel hideous compared to everyone else. It just seems like guys only want one thing and aren't interested in getting to know me. I wonder if this has anything ...
A. 1 June 2011: Preliminary rambling: You'll be interested to know that for some reason redheads have been unfairly tarred in England because both Judas Iscariot and Shylock from 'The Merchant of Venice' were traditionally portrayed with red hair and beards. ... (read in full...)
She has inexplicably blocked me and I can't help but feel rejected. Should I give up on online dating?
Q. A girl I met online and have been talking to for the past couple of months has inexplicably blocked me. I say inexplicably because we had been getting along just fine (so I thought anyway) and had established a while ago that we'd like to meet up ...
A. 1 June 2011: Chatting to someone for months online is a waste of time. It could well be that she wasn't whom she said she was- different age, weight, circumstances, appearance- even a different sex if you hadn't spoken by webcam. Internet dating is only one way ... (read in full...)
Help me romance her with roses to show how beautiful she really is!
Q. hi I have a new gf, but I want to show her how beautiful I think she is, but I have a idea, but need advice on if its good or bad. basically im going to buy a bunch of roses(12 but take one out), and give them to her, with the one of followin...
A. 27 May 2011: Always send roses to a woman at her place of work or study if at all possible. Not only will she be happy with the present, but also delighted by the envy of all her female co-worker/students.... (read in full...)
I lost weight and now I am no longer interested in heavier women. Is that normal?
Q. I've lost quite a bit of weight this past year, and it certainly shows. I'm a bit worried about myself, however. Back when I was overweight, I never wanted to get into relationships. I really felt I needed to make a solid first impression first, so ...
A. 21 May 2011: Some men like overweight women and some don't. However, I've never met an overweight woman who was happy being overweight. You, on the other hand, instead of simply moaning about being fat, did something about it. You now realize that with a bit of ... (read in full...)
Can you break your hymen during a shower?
Q. I want to know is it possible to broke hymen while using shower water for masturbution ...
A. 11 May 2011: It shouldn't matter to you or anyone else. You are a human being, not merely a membrane.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my parents about my non-christian boyfriend?
Q. I am a Christian, and have been my whole life. I am very open to hearing about and understanding peoples points of view, and am not offended by people who think differently than I do. I am currently dating a non-christian boy. We broke up before,...
A. 11 May 2011: At your age, he may not be the ultimate boy for you for any number of reasons. What is with religions that go on endlessly about love and can have so many adherents, but in those same religions can have adherents who can hate? Or be bigoted and hate... (read in full...)
Does it become harder to find love beyond the ages of 40 and 50s?
Q. Hi all! I just turned 51 and its been six months since my last breakup with my girlfriend. It was hard for me to end that relationship because I feel like I am getting older and may not find love again. But that relationship had to be ended ...
A. 1 May 2011: Aged 50 I married a beautiful professional ballet dancer (female!) aged 24, whom I'd been seeing for 18 months previous to that. We'll soon be celebrating our 5th anniversary. Yes, honestly, and I'm not rich or famous. While I realize this situation ... (read in full...)
Why would he have this type of porn on his computer?
Q. I found heaps of Asian porn on my husbands computer. Now I am worried he prefers them to me and I am getting very upset about it. Everytime we go out I am worried he is perving at them and preferring them to me. We fight about it all the time. I am ...
A. 27 April 2011: If you were Asian, he might be looking at pictures of white women. It is harmless, meaningless, goes with being male and is simply our version of one of your favourite pastime, window shopping.... (read in full...)
I kicked him out because he watched too much porn, please advise.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now (we are both 30) and we moved in with each other at the end of November. I have been blissfully happy and not even thought about anyone else, I was ready marry this person and have children. I used to go ...
A. 19 April 2011: So he's looking at porn. Well, are you giving him the enthusiastic sex any man appreciates, or the PC kind in which everything is always gentle, you never give him oral, and it's all in 'dignified' positions so you don't feel 'oppressed' or ... (read in full...)
No interest in sex!
Q. I am a woman 62 years old;I've had 4 children;for 3 years I have no interest in sex and the little that we do it it hurts real bad;it's as if there's no room inside for him and it hurts lots after too. Things are not too good with us but it's not ...
A. 19 April 2011: The fact that he's still interested at 64 proves he still loves you and finds you attractive. But post-menopausal women often have problems with thinning and loss of muscle tone in the vaginal walls, which causes pain during sex, which causes ... (read in full...)
Whom do men really have on their minds the next time they have sex after watching porn? Their partner or the hot chick from the last porn they watched ?
Q. My husband used to watch porn quite a lot, wich I found out by accident. I was shocked and confronted him later after I couln't keep those tremendous hurt feelings to myselfe anymore. After a while he was able to cut his visits to the pornsites ...
A. 19 April 2011: Your role is wife, the woman they love, never a substitute for the girls from the porn films. I've done light porn in my younger days (being the spanker in two spanking videos and the 'top' in some bondage stuff) and when you've shared a dressing ... (read in full...)
What would you think of this age difference?
Q. Please be as brutally honest as your thoughts might be. If you saw an 18yr old girl walking down the street holding hands with a grey haired 49yr old man what would you think? Thank you for your time xxx...
A. 18 April 2011: Speaking as a 55 yesr old with for six years and legally married for four to a professional ballet dancer (female!)who is now 28, I'd say he should shave his head.... (read in full...)
I want to stop masturbating because I don't feel good afterwards
Q. ok i haven't had a girlfriend before or had sex and i just keep masterbating. the other day i masterbated twice before 7am which is just crazy. what should I do to stop masterbating. i want to stop because i don't feel good after i have finished ...
A. 18 April 2011: I will set a very controversial task for you. It is, however, possible. Hear me out, and remember that if your body deserately needs to 'release' itself, this will happen involuntarily during a wet dream as your sleep, so it's not as if you are ... (read in full...)
My sister just walked in on me wanking & I think I'm going to die of embarrassment!!!
Q. Well no easy way to ask this so i'm just gonna blurt it out. My sister just walked in on me wanking and i think i'm going to die from embrassment. This is so much worse than i could imagine. What do i do? Do i say anything to her? Or do i treat it ...
A. 16 April 2011: One of those unfortunate things- just let it go. Also she might be grateful if you avoid shaking hands with her for a week or so...... (read in full...)
My friend tries to discourage all of us from dating!
Q. Hi I'm 15 and I have a friend let's call her Beth. Now me and my group of friends are either in a relationship or really like a guy. Beth however is not in a relationship and as far as we can tell has no interest in any guys. We often all talk about ...
A. 16 April 2011: Is she the 'Ugly Duckling' of your group of friends- unable to attract fellows herself so is jealous of girls who can? Or is she the type who cannot bear sharing her friends with boys, seeing this as a sort of betrayal? Or- teenage males be... (read in full...)
Recently discovered my BF is looking to hook up with men. I don't know what to do.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for quite some time.(3.5 years) Recently when i looked at the computers history I noticed he was looking at M4M ads on craigslist(maleformale) This disgusted me so much, but I was even more disgusted when I saw ...
A. 14 April 2011: Let your imagination run free on what they're going to do together (and which role your boyfriend will take) and act accordingly.... (read in full...)
Masturbation every night. Should I get help?
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I masturbate every night. I was wondering if this is common or should I get some help? Please help...
A. 13 April 2011: Yes, you should definitely get help, from a girl your own age. It's more fun that way.... (read in full...)
What else can I say, that is genuine, but not harsh, to say no to his unwanted attention?
Q. Last week i met a guy. my friends gave my number to him, because he asked for it. But i don't want him to think i'm interested, because he keeps flirting and i'm not doing it back, hoping he will get the idea. I don't want to say the same thing mo...
A. 13 April 2011: You owe it to yourself and him just to say unambiguously you are not interested in him and won't be. One of the more embarrassing things in my youth (mid 1980s) occurred when a girl was lukewarm to me so as a male I tried to 'fix' things, as is ... (read in full...)
Why do guys get clingy after sex?? I just want to have fun and not be tied down.
Q. Hey. I need some advice. I am 18 and nearing the end of my first year of college. I am very independent and am not looking for a relationship. I just want to have fun and not be tied down. I figure now is the time to get the party girl out of my ...
A. 13 April 2011: I'm not going to be judgmental here, but simply respond to your question. Typically, it's difficult for men to find sex, so when they finally manage to do so without too much trouble (this seemed to be a straight hookup- he got lucky)they often want ... (read in full...)
B/f's family hates me and is making me miserable
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I love him very much and he makes me happy. We only have one problem his family. They are such busy bodies and have to know everything about our relationship. They treat him like a child and he is ...
A. 12 April 2011: If he's such a wimp that he lets his family walk all over him and you, you are fortunate to have escaped. Or would you prefer to marry him and have the lot of them for in-laws? Find yourself a man with the sort of glands attached to him that start ... (read in full...)
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