How can I either improve my singing voice or learn to feel comfortable with it as is?
Q. At school I got put in a class that I didn't pick because what I picked was full. The class I got put in was chorus and I can't sing at all. Today we song and I was the one that stuck out because I had the worst voice so I had to practice in front...
A. 7 January 2012: Classical vocal teachers , that is, those who teach opera singers generally agree that a bass voice doesn't fully mature until it's 'owner' is about 35, so don't worry- it's nothing you can help. Just get through the next few months as best you can ... (read in full...)
Why is it that when men play around they are champs and women are called names???
Q. I just want to know why is it when men play around with 3 or more women its ok. Hes looked up to as the CHAMP. BUT if a female plays around with 3 men or more. She gets called a "HOE" : "SLUT" : A "WHORE". JUST about every name in the book. why is ...
A. 6 January 2012: I'll spare you the political rubbish and give you an answer.
The double standard exists because an average looking woman with an average body can sleep with pretty much any guy she wants to sleep with, if she's brave enough to ask him, if she d... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheating with S and M mistress?
Q. My boyfriend is into S and M (bondage) He doesn't want to do it with me because he thinks I'm only doing it to please him. Our sex is not great. He complains that he cant get into it because the S and M is what turns him on the most. He is meet...
A. 6 January 2012: Note that he said he's meeting a professional mistress rather than a professional submissive. (Both exist) Well, he's correct on one count- he'll neither have intercourse with her, touch her sexually or see her naked- she won't allow it as the lack ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my religion or just enjoy being young?
Q. I go to a Roman Catholic school and In Religious Education we were discussing sex before marriage. everyone in my class was saying that they can't wait to have sex and are not waiting for marriage, but for some reason, I want to wait. I am not a ...
A. 28 December 2011: To comment specifically on your Catholic school qualms about having sex, the Spanish Inquisition executed its last victim, a schoolteacher by the name of Cayetano Ripoll, who was publicly garotted (strangled) in the main square of Valencia, Spain on ... (read in full...)
All communication stopped after I said "when can I see you again?"
Q. So I hooked up with a girl after a night out, she came back to my house, self explanatory what happened next, she took my number and she left the following morning. We had texted a little the next day and I think I made a big mistake by slipp...
A. 28 December 2011: "Tell me more, are women true?" "Some love change, and so do you." From 'The Knight of the Burning Pestle' a play by by Beaumont and Fletcher, 1607. Nothing changes. She may get in touch, she may not. Some women hate one night stands, other... (read in full...)
Problem in the bedroom
Q. How can I help my boyfriend with erection issues? What can be done? My boyfriend is 26 and we've been dating a couple months. Our sex life has been far from sucessful. I had barely any sexual experience and he hadn't had sex for years. We spend ...
A. 18 October 2011: Since sex is supposed to be fun, focus on that aspect of it to keep things light. Put the condom on for him as part of foreplay. Or since he can ejaculate through masturbation, do that for him so you cn familiarise yourselves with one another ... (read in full...)
I cant even get a woman to go on a first date with me!
Q. I am an asian man, who is completely bald, and living in the midwest. And by bald, i mean i've almost lost all hair on my scalp and now, losing my eyebrows too. I'm professionally successful, relatively healthy, average built, 6 feet tall, 170lb...
A. 17 October 2011: At 30, I was 5'7", under 130 pounds and partially bald. I still had a good relationship with women because I forced myself to be pleasantly outgoing even when I felt shy. Then I shaved my head completely and things got a lot better. So don't blame ... (read in full...)
Was my thinking wrong? My manager's mother died and I didn't go to the funeral because I haven't even started the job yet!
Q. i just started a new job literally a week ago. Unfortunately my manager's mother passed..i actually don't even have an official work e-mail yet; still waiting for the process to be done. So i hear it through word of mouth. I feel bad but i figured i ...
A. 12 October 2011: Sending a card and expressing your condolences to your manager when next you meet is more than enough. You've just started your job, barely know him/her, and have never met the deceased. The manager has more on his or her mind at this stressful time ... (read in full...)
I love my bf so much but seeing his ex's name tattooed on his arm makes me wonder...does he still love her?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend been 2gether almost a year now.. And I really love him! He makes me happy and I couldnt picture me with anybody else but him. Well b4 me nd him got 2gether he had a baby by his ex, he even has her name tattoed on his arm! I ...
A. 9 October 2011: DON'T go on at him too much or this might happen to you!! A sixtysomething female friend of mine is named 'Wanda' which is a rather unusual name in this day and age, but happened to be the name of her father's first girlfriend- and he had the t... (read in full...)
I'm new to the area. How can I make friends and meet women?
Q. hi everyone, ive recently moved to a new area, 160 miles from my home town, for a job. the contract was only for a year and i didnt know anyone here, but a job's a job so i took it. been here for 6 months now and i really like my job and the peop...
A. 6 October 2011: If you're a rugby player you're already an athletic guy of a certain size and fitness. Join a local gym, keep up with your workouts and see what develops with the women who also go there. ... (read in full...)
Am I having a mid life crisis? It seems so important to increase the number of woman I have sex with. So would paying for it be a quick solution?
Q. I am single and am no spring chicken anymore, although Im not exactly geriatric either. In my life I havent really had many girlfriends and can count the number of sexual partners I've had on one hand. Im starting to feel that 'I've missed out...
A. 6 October 2011: Patronising a prostitute is not exactly having sex, but rather renting an aperture. Their job is simply to find you irresistible as long as your money lasts. You will not learn anything about the ways and means of seducing a woman this way, or even ... (read in full...)
DC aunts, do any of you like going out to bars and clubs by yourselves?
Q. Do any women here like going out to bars and clubs on their own ? I'm in my 20's and dont really have many friends so i'm wondering whether to go out on my own ? I think i would feel nervous and self conscious though.i think men are brave to go out ...
A. 5 October 2011: Try art galleries or the theatre instead- you'll meet a better class of person and he's more likely to be sober.... (read in full...)
Do we tell the parents of my son's girlfriend that we walked in on them having oral sex?
Q. My husband and I walked in on my 17 year old son performing oral sex on his girl friend who is 16. My husband and I disagree on what we should do. I think that we should call her parents and tell them what happened. My husband on the other hand said ...
A. 1 October 2011: If you want your son to detest you for the rest of your life, go ahead.... (read in full...)
How do I make guys interested in me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm an average sized 15 yr. old girl- 5'6", 130lbs, ect.. and I model on the side. But guys at my school have never showed interest in me. I'm outgoing and athletic and generally easy to get along with, but they find me unattractive!...
A. 1 October 2011: If you are attractive enough to model it may be that the boys are a bit intimidated by your looks- the 'We Are Not Worthy' syndrome. This sometimes means you'll be passed over by the nice guys but targeted by the annoying, louder types. It could be ... (read in full...)
My HUSBAND was interviewed, but I saw that he kept looking in the direction where girls were?
Q. he is a theater actor and was interviewed at a talk show. i noticed that he was frequently looking the direction where many girls were sitting there were men too but the staring became too noticeable. i saw that he kept looking in the other di...
A. 1 October 2011: How do you know he wasn't simply interacting with the camera lens? As an audience member and presumably not in show business, you mightn't be aware that in a multicamera shoot he was aware (because of being told by the production team beforehand) of ... (read in full...)
Unexpected! I just don't want this....What can I do or say to get her to stay?
Q. Hey there everyone I need some help on my relationship. My GF and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. Everything has been going great we moved in together in April of this year and everything was perfect. But today she approched me after work and ...
A. 28 September 2011: Unfortunately women often discuss 'marital' problems with girlfriends first, rather than the guy in question, so the man is almost invariably the last to know if his relationship's dysfunctional. At your age being asked to choose between girl and... (read in full...)
How do I get this sex addict some help?
Q. A member of my immediate family is gay. None of us have a problem with this, however his behaviour over the last 16 years is causing me to question whether he is a possible sex addict. He has never had a meaningful relationship in his life. He has...
A. 27 September 2011: The average straight man would happily have wild, anonymous/polygamous/group/oral/whatever sex with a huge proportion of the women he meets or just sees in daily life, but women aren't wired that way so he can't. Unless, of course, the man's a rock ... (read in full...)
How do I get this older guy, who's known me since I was little, to notice me and see me as a woman?
Q. i really need help with this, pleaseeee. i've known this guy almost all my life, years have gone by and we have both definitely grown a lot. He is so attractive and hot, and i am just now starting to notice him. He is a couple of years older then...
A. 25 September 2011: I think this is a difficult situation. As a boy I had a seven-year age gap with the fat little toddler down the street, who grew up to become a fashion model. Editorial/catwalk rather than catalogue so high-fashion not girl-next-door. When I saw her ... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 21 September 2011: You only get one first time, and you will remember that for better of worse all the rest of your life. For your own sake try to arrange things so that you can look back on it fondly and without regret. So- if you can, get a hotel room- even if you ... (read in full...)
Where do I hide the condoms?
Q. My friends bought me some condoms (I have a new boyfriend- he's gorgeous and very sexy- they were joking around), but I want to hang onto them just in case anything does happen- better safe than sorry! Does anyone have any ideas as to where in my ro...
A. 21 September 2011: Definitely not your underwear drawer. It's the first place anyone, especially a mother, will look. Instead, remove the bottom drawer of your dresser or desk. Tape an envelope to the OUTSIDE back of said drawer, with the opening facing up. Store the ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend I cheated 2 years later?
Q. Me and my bf had been together nearly 2 years when i cheated. I was away on a school trip i was 18. On the last night things got out of control, loads of drinking from the students and teachers. I was really drunk ,I know its not an excuse. ...
A. 12 September 2011: Casting yourself in the role of a Scarlet Woman when your behaviour barely qualifies you to be pale pink is being a bit hard on yourself. A drunken fumble lasting no time at all at a young age with no clothing removed and no sex certainly doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is she a bot, is this a scam?
Q. alright this girl friended me on facebook and I was suspicious to begin with because she is the typical facebook bot. really pretty girl and has under 100 friends. well here is what made me change my mind. My number is on my facebook and she ...
A. 9 September 2011: There's telephone software easily available to make a male voice sound female. If she won't chat via webcam (first option) go for broke and ask for a meeting within two weekends in a PUBLIC place like a Starbucks or something for mutual safety. ... (read in full...)
How to deal with the unfairness of life?
Q. Growing up I was poor and my 2 best friends were from rich families. It was hard for me, but I realized it was not my fault and it was not their accomplishment. Now, we have all finished the same university, have the same degree and have our first ...
A. 8 September 2011: If they come from a wealthy background, it's very likely that your friends acquired their jobs through family connections. Plum jobs are rarely advertised, but rather are mentioned around and filled by those who happen to be within the social circle ... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted to someone else when I know I could never love anyone other than my boyfriend?
Q. Hey. simple situation where I would like an insight on my emotions. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half solid years. We are now living together. We have had our bumps and lows but we have always loved each other dearly. I love him and I...
A. 8 September 2011: Welcome to the uncertainty of being human. The greatest mistake we make in childhood or adolescence is to believe that everything magically sorts itself out by a certain age,and that we then become perfect, rational beings. A look at our parents ... (read in full...)
Is this a scam?
Q. I have an appointment with a Casting Agency, which i applied to to become a Supporting Artist/Extra, but they told me that i have to pay £40 to have some photos taken !. Do you think this is a scam, and should i not bother going to them ?. I have ...
A. 7 September 2011: Scam. I've been a professional actor for 35 years and this is one of the oldest tricks in the book. Any photos required to promote you should be by a professional photographer you've found yourself. Researching prospective photographers is part of ... (read in full...)
Why is my mom so upset about the way my husband and I treat each other?
Q. Hello, I am a 31 year old married woman. You have given me great advice in the past. Here is my problem: This is a little long with background. My father and my husband get along great. My dad usually calls him, son, when he talks to him; ...
A. 6 September 2011: Submission is a selective, rather than a general thing, in the same vein as having sex. Sex with one does not mean sex with all, and submitting to one does not mean being submissive to everyone. You have offered your submission to your husband and ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to say "I love you"?
Q. Okay, so recently (about a month)I started dating this girl. She was my first girlfriend I did ANYTHING with, I even lost my virginity to her...Is it too soon to say "I love you" or am I just caught up in post sex lust? ...
A. 4 September 2011: Probably, but as you grow up/mature/get older/whatever you find that love comes in different forms,and every previous love affair gets re-evalutated. 'True love' can be seen as puppy love, for example, in later years (or later months!!) and ... (read in full...)
Do women want to see men dressed provacatively?
Q. We All know men love to see womens' bodies - especially the private bits. Women often play upon this in how they dress, to get attention. My question is whether there is any reciprical feeling in women. Do women like to see any part of the anatomy ...
A. 2 September 2011: Men and women are wired differently as far as 'looking' goes.
Male fantasy: Your doorbell rings late one night when you're home alone, you answer, and an attractive naked young woman your age but a total stranger to you is standing there smiling ... (read in full...)
My GF has the sex drive of a man-is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found the perfect woman, but that's the problem - she's too perfect. She doesn't care that I've just been made redundant, orgasms through penetration alone when we have sex, genuinely finds me physically attractive and explai...
A. 1 September 2011: There's a great variation among women, and you seem to have got lucky with this one. It's perfectly normal for a woman to enjoy sex, (9 men in two years is not terribly promiscuous, not that the number of guys she's slept with is anyone's business ... (read in full...)
I did Snoop. Did I read too much into this? What's the next step to rectify the situation?
Q. I read my girlfriend's journal to find that she has nothing but scathing personal thoughts about me: "I don't love him anymore...I don't respect him," and I also found her transcribing conversations with an ex-bf whom I think she may have stayed ...
A. 1 September 2011: A passing thought is one thing, but taking the time to write it down in various forms in a diary is quite another. Notice she was only angry because you invaded her privacy, not because of what you found when you did so. I think it's time to go. And ... (read in full...)
Is my ex contacting me just to check up on me?
Q. Is my ex contacting me purely to check up on me? Why is she doing this? Since we broke up for circumstantial reasons 6 months ago, she has moved on. She moved on very quickly (within a month) and has been in a relationship ever since. I've date...
A. 1 September 2011: Jealousy, say the French, outlasts love. That's why she's keeping in touch. Your life is no longer her business, and I suggest you cut all ties with this woman and channel the energy thus freed into finding yourself another girlfriend ASAP.... (read in full...)
He wants me to have sex with someone else because he has no sex drive, and he wants to fool around with a man again as he is bisexual! How do I cope with this?
Q. I'm in need of some serious advice. So lately my husband's sex drive has plummeted and our sex life hasn't been that great because along with his sex drive his stamina has plummeted as well. Well he sat me down two days ago and said that he knows he ...
A. 30 August 2011: I think he's more gay than bisexual, and married you partially to try to sort this side of himself out. And it hasn't worked, through NO FAULT of yours- do not feel guilty. You are young and will find a far superior closeness with a man happy with ... (read in full...)
Finding a unique name for a baby boy
Q. Dear all...hope you all are fit and fine. I needed you guys help. My sis has just given birth to a baby boy and we are looking for a sweet unique name starting with either A or S. Can you all please suggest some unique names....Thank you...
A. 30 August 2011: First, congrats on the new arrival. But please keep in mind that this baby boy will one day be a grown man, and if you give him a 'sweet and unique' name it may be one which causes teasing in childhood and may alienate conservative prospective ... (read in full...)
Older husband has ED, do I cheat?
Q. need help.my husband is older by 12 yrs..he has ED.i am only 33 even though we r married..do i stop hhaving sex cause he cant..i like having sex..our sex life has never been great anyway..so do i find me someone on the side just for sex or just stop ...
A. 7 August 2011: 45 is young for ED- does he have other problems like obesity, alchoholism or diabetes, all of which can cause impotence? Get him to a doctor and if your husband's willing to work on sorting things out you're on the road to recovery. If not- then ... (read in full...)
I'm 28 and she is 18, can we overcome the age gap?
Q. This is very weird for me to talk about because I know this is not commonly accepted (especially since I would not normally accept this). I am 28, just moved to the states, and I have become involved with an 18 year old. I have never dated someone ...
A. 6 August 2011: If she's of voting age and thus old enough to be trusted to choose the next President of the United States, she's old enough to decide who she's in love with. I was 49 and my future wife was 22 when we met almost seven years ago, and we're about to ... (read in full...)
I'm a 21 year old male virgin and I feel so pressured to lose it.
Q. Hi, I'm 21 soon to be 22 and I'm still a virgin. For the most part I'm OK with it 90% of the time but the other 10% is hard to deal with. Growing up I was usually the last of the bunch to do certain things (driving, dating, etc.) and I still am and ...
A. 31 July 2011: Unfortunately nice guys always have lots of female friends, but everyone else is sleeping with them. It's very possible that women ARE attracted to you, and as far as they are concerned making it obvious, but usually the woman's way of making a pass ... (read in full...)
Found my 8 year old brother and a girl playing together naked, what should I do?
Q. Hi right now I am very scared and disturbed. For two years now I have been sexually active with my bf and we have done it at my house quite a few times when my parents were not home. However some of those times my little brother who is now 8 was ...
A. 30 July 2011: Kids do this anyway sometimes. It's perfectly normal 'I'll show you mine if you show me yours' behaviour, and don't worry about you being the one at fault for giving your brother ideas- kids with no brothers or sisters get up to it too. As an only ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable with my chest size...how should I deal with this? How should I react when I get sleazy comments?
Q. So in a nutshell, I have large boobs. I am 25, probably D cup size, and only 5'1" and 130 lbs; I don't know my cup size for sure because it's been so long since I got measured. And the reason it's been so long is because going to Victoria's Secret ...
A. 30 July 2011: Considering thst many women have to go through expensive, painful and potentially dangerous surgery to achieve what nature's simply bestowed upon you, I'm afraid that few of the aunties here will fall over themselves to offer consolation. I assure ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose and how do I handle this situation efficiently?
Q. The commitment phobic guy who will always cheat or the man who might not be able to fully understand me and my issues. Am a somewhat complex individual with a few issues which means only a few people understand me and can handle my mood swings, ...
A. 28 July 2011: Your problem is not the boyfriend choice, but your underlying mental/emotional problems. Have the courage to work on curing those with a proper professional, since you've also had the courage to admit them. A larger pool of men will then be ... (read in full...)
Girl I have been dating, poses for sexy nude modeling photos on the side. How should I deal with it?
Q. Hello, Maybe you all can help me with my problem. I am a 31-year old guy, and I recently started dating this very beautiful girl I met randomly in the metro station. She's 26, and works as a legal assistant. But on the side, she models. She hope...
A. 25 July 2011: The stuff she poses for seems very mild and innocent cheesecake, not porn. My wife's a glamour model between ballet assignments, and I'm absolutely fine with it. She restricts heself to pinup stuff, mostly posed solo, and the very occasional soft ... (read in full...)
Opinion on a girl who has made out with 13 guys before age 18?
Q. Guys, in complete an utter honesty. If you were seeing an 18 year old girl and she told you she's got with (kissed) about 13 guys, none of whom she was in a relationship with. What would your opinion on her be? And would you want her to tell you ...
A. 25 July 2011: No-one's business but that of the girl herself- if she's attactive enough that lots of guys want to kiss her, and responsive enough to find kissing back enjoyable, let her get on with it.... (read in full...)
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