A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm not sure where to start. I wrote on here a week or two ago asking if people thought they could fall online. I don't question my feelings, but I have had to end things with my 'online love' because his true colours have started to show. Well they started to show a long time ago but I just had myself convinced that it was just the wait making him act like that (after talking for a year, we were going to finally meet up next year). It's quite a complicated situation. He lives in Australia and I was planning on travelling there anyway this year so it coincidided. I don't know what to do. We were planning on travelling together and made all these plans on the assumption things would be great in person still. Now I feel lost, and I really don't feel like going travelling. I feel a fool for falling for someone that turned out to have a very dark side (he has a troubled past and anxiety altho thats no excuse, he's behaviour has been somewhat aggressive/controlling/possessive lately). Which has what made me run. I've blocked him on everything but I can't on the forum we met on. Sorry for this I'm just feeling quite hurt and lost and need to let off steam... Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sammy1986 +, writes (14 July 2011):
i think you did the right thing personally blocking him you don,t want someone possesive and controlling they can be very dangerous people
A
male
reader, wiseoldman +, writes (14 July 2011):
It's always sad when a relationship takes an unexpected turn for the worse, and regrettably 'Learning Experiences' can hurt sometimes. But at least in this case the pain was only of the emotional variety; luckily you only experienced 'his very dark side' as you put it, online where it's safe rather than IRL. So, fortunate escape, and I think you're more aware now that it's best to avoid emotional involvement with people you only know online. Always best to meet an online friend face-to-face ASAP because your natural intuition can tell you a lot that you mightn't be able to see or sense via a computer screen.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): I meant next month not year*
...............................
|
