How can I meet girls that are into girls?
Q. So I've been bicurious for a while, but despite knowing there are plenty of lesbian/bi girls out there, I never seem to meet any. The only ones I ever notice are because they are kissing in public or holding hands (aka taken.) And I don't like the ...
A. 19 March 2013: There is an organisation called Wild Women Vacations So google wild women vacations They specialise in affordable package holidays (Vegas, Jamaica, etc) for lesbians and bicurious women. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend about my past?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it has been going great. I work in a different state but travel often to see her and will be seeing her in a month. In one of our recent conversations a topic i am not comfortable with ...
A. 15 March 2013: Tell her you never kept count because your profession meant you could have been sent into action and killed at any time, so you tried to put this out of your mind by seeking comfort and companionship. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says four is too many guys to have been intimate with. He broke up with me
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Few hours later we decided to make it a short break of 2 days or so just to take some time off. The reason why that happened? I told him that I have been intimate with four guys before we met(We are in a ...
A. 15 March 2013: Your past is your own business. And I've often thought that it's ill-endowed men who worry most about a woman's past lovers because they're afraid of being compared unfavourably. Drop him and move on. I suspect you've had a lucky escape.... (read in full...)
Frustrated that online guys only want sex.
Q. I am extremely frustrated in my dating life! I seem to be attracting guys who are just interested in me for sex. I am not sure what it is, it could possibly just be my ethnicity. I do not dress scantily, or act flirtatiously or inappropriately. When ...
A. 17 February 2013: Sex is difficult for men to get, but easy to enjoy when they get it. A woman can always get sex, but might not enjoy it when she does. That's the difference and also the problem. ... (read in full...)
Help! I am Catholic, my boyfriend is Sikh. His family has other plans for him.
Q. hi guys i have a problem and i think you can help me im in a forbidden love kind of situation. im catholic and im in love with an indian guy he is about my age, his religion is sikh. we have been together a while now. he always told me that in c...
A. 17 February 2013: Sorry, but he's hiding behind his parents. If he really wanted to continue with you and defy their wishes he's capable of marching out his own front door to be with you. People of certain religions, forbidden to have sex within their own communities ... (read in full...)
What to do? Sex is destroying our loving relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months. I am 17 and he is 18. Our relationship is very loving, supportive and intimate. We were both virgins when we met and after a month we decided to make love. We were both very nervous, the...
A. 9 February 2013: This reminds me of the story about the cavalry recruit who told his troop sergeant he's never ridden a horse before. The sergeant helpfully supplied him with a horse who'd never been ridden so the two of them could learn together. Your mutual pr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me to wear makeup or nice clothes
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for these past five months. I love him dearly but he's very possesive. He constantly tells me not to wear make-up and not to wear the latest trends, insisting on letting me wear only shabby clothes. When I tell him why, ...
A. 22 December 2012: This is the kind of imbecile who is so jealous and immature that he cannot bear even the thought of his significant other betraying him with another guy. So he forces her to look unattractive so other men will ignore her. An almost inevitable ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. I have been single for years I cant seem to meet women interested in me. Women I have dated all dumped me for other people , they all say I am a "lovely guy" but they always see, to go for arrogant pretty boys who usually treat them like crap.Every ...
A. 22 December 2012: If you sleep with a prostitute for your first time, in a way you'll still be a virgin. This is because you will still not have discovered how to meet an ordinary girl and negotiate your way to having sex with her. It's a skill men simply have to ... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind when he watches porn?
Q. Can some actually explain to us women what happens when watching porn? Does it make the man feel like he is having sex with the woman on the screen? Apparently I am told they are not watching it to pretend they are the man in the video. I am ...
A. 12 December 2012: Whether you believe it or not, men are visual and our sexuality is very basic. Clothes on a girl= bad. No clothes on a girl= good. We like to look at naked women, which is why lesbian porn is even more fun, since there are more breasts on screen. ... (read in full...)
I need help getting back to normal life after a traumatic experience
Q. Ok a long time (few years) ago I made out and got intimate (no oral/vaginal sex) with what I thought was a women but it was a mtf transsexual with full surgery. That was a traumatic experience for me and I have been depressed about it ever since. I ...
A. 5 December 2012: This is the equivalent of getting drunk and waking up with someone so unattractive that you feel disgusted with yourself. You're still hetero- had you known this person was a transsexual you wouldn't have been interested. Instead you were tricked by ... (read in full...)
Still a virgin. Is this normal? It’s not sex that I’m looking for, just some companionship
Q. Hey guys, I have a question regarding virginity. I know is a question that’s probably asked a lot, but I wanna know if what I’m feeling is stupid or normal. I’ve just turned 20 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve never been kissed, never had any interest...
A. 15 October 2012: "I've just turned 20 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve never been kissed, never had any interest from women. In fact I've never even held hands with a girl" Actually you HAVE had interest, and I can practically guarantee that. Your problem is that ... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there who actually don't like strip clubs?
Q. Are there guys out there who actually DON'T like strip clubs? I live in a mining town and strip clubs are starting to pop up everywhere, and since mining is a very male dominated field, guys go there after work to bond, and blah blah. I've been ...
A. 4 September 2012: I dated a few girls who happened to strip when I was younger, but they were students putting themselves through degree programs, and waitressing would have have consumed more study time for less money.
I like to look at a naked woman dancing,... (read in full...)
Should I confront the man my wife had a one night stand with?
Q. My wife had a one night stand behind my back. She was in school with this guy and he knew she was married. I know where this guy lives, my question is do i go round there and hit the shit out of him?...
A. 25 August 2012: Generally a man will take what is offered, and your wife offered it. You'll have to ask both yourself and her why she did it- the other man (who could have been any man) isn't the problem, just the symptom.... (read in full...)
Us plus sex equals not working. Hes down I'm frusterated please help!?
Q. Please help, i have just had unsatisfying sex again with my fiancee. Normally our sex life is good, but lately i havent been able to orgasm at all. I can really only achieve one by masturbating or in other words clitoral stimulation. My fiancee ...
A. 25 August 2012: You should never marry solely for sex, but if the sex is irreparably wrong you should not marry at all. Sexual compatibility is vital to a marriage, and it seems your attitudes and tastes do not mesh. You say your sex life was good previously- but ... (read in full...)
Handcuffs and restraints from Ann Summers: will they fit my bigger wrists?
Q. Hey, i need some answers from people who have used them, please.... I want to buy some handcuffs from ann summers, just the normal fluffy ones, and possibly some restraints. However, i do not have small wrists, they are more like a mans wrists (b...
A. 24 August 2012: DON'T buy handcuffs. The fluffy ones sold in sex shops break easily and/or bruise the wrists, and proper police ones can REALLY hurt/cut off circulation etc.- plus you can always lose the key. You are better off buying four pashminas (long soft ... (read in full...)
Handcuffs and restraints from Ann Summers: will they fit my bigger wrists?
Q. Hey, i need some answers from people who have used them, please.... I want to buy some handcuffs from ann summers, just the normal fluffy ones, and possibly some restraints. However, i do not have small wrists, they are more like a mans wrists (b...
A. 24 August 2012: DON'T buy handcuffs. The fluffy ones sold in sex shops break easily and/or bruise the wrists, and proper police ones can REALLY hurt/cut off circulation etc.- plus you can always lose the key. You are better off buying four pashminas (long soft ... (read in full...)
My social anxiety and loneliness is killing me... Any advice?
Q. I just feel so alone right now. So tired of seeing happy couples everywhere I go. I feel like all I need right now is a girlfriend who I can share my life with. Sure this reeks of desperation but I can't hide the truth. It seems like all the ta...
A. 24 August 2012: When adults used to tell me when I was 17 (I was short, impossibly skinny, about 2 years behind my classmates socially and much worse, generally more intelligent than they were) "that these are the best years of your life" I wanted to say no. At the ... (read in full...)
I snooped. I didn't find evidence of cheating, but what I did find is really bothering me
Q. I snooped. He always has said I could go through phone, email, anything whenever I wanted because he has nothing to hide. Something he said the other day raised some suspicion so I snooped somewhere I've never looked before. I did not find evidence ...
A. 22 August 2012: My mother had an entire boxful of letters she received from various soldiers, one a boyfriend, others just male friends, during WW2. Not one of them was from my father, whom she met at a later date. He knew she had them, and never complained or ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever felt this cramp in their toes at the point of orgasm? What is it? How is it fixed?
Q. This is going to sound silly, but every time I get close to orgasm, I get the worst cramp ever in my toes, which kinda spoils the moment! It's never been a problem until now....and all this week, my almost orgasms (both solo and with my BF) have ...
A. 22 August 2012: Instead of having sex, for a change just lie together in a convenient position and have him masturbate you while kneading and rubbing your feet/toes with his other hand. While a man generally has only one erogenous zone, practically speaking, many ... (read in full...)
Any advice for a 44 year old virgin? I tried an escourt but had Erectile Dysfunction so she suggested a longer visit next time.
Q. I recently visited an escort agency to have sex for the first time at 44yrs of age but was unable to obtain an erection and nothing happened. Of course i was nervous even though the lady was very attractive, i booked for an hour. She suggeste...
A. 4 August 2012: If you can function on your own, your plumbing works fine- you do not need Viagra. You're just nervous. Book the same girl for two hours, and have a bath with her first(she'll be happy to accommodate this) gently wash her all over and listen to what ... (read in full...)
Will b/f only be happy if he can try things with a she/male and not just watch porn?
Q. I'm 24 and female, my bf is 25 and male. We've been together 3 and a half years now and 3 years ago, I found out he likes shemale porn (apologies if that term is offensive, I don't know!). At the time, he wasn't entirely sure why he liked it. We ...
A. 22 July 2012: Your boyfriend is either gay or bi. In any case he's in denial. No-one is or can be aroused or interested by something he reads unless it strikes a receptive chord- meaning that the desire has to be there in the first place. Leave him to his 'Chicks ... (read in full...)
I had a threesome with two of my girlfriends, and now I'm wondering whether or not to tell my boyfriend.
Q. I am a girl and currently in a relationship with a boy who I truly love.We have been together for a year.But I feel very guilty and I feel akward whenever im around my bf or my friends.Because just a week ago me and my 2 friends,who are girls had a ...
A. 13 July 2012: Tell him absolutely every detail and then see if you can convince your girlfriends to let him join you. If you can manage this there is no chance of his ever leaving you. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
Q. Is it possible to love two persons at the same time? actually i am in a relationship, and we love each other a lot. i never want to loose him. but few months before i met a guy. he is my classmate. we also both love each other. but we have not ...
A. 13 July 2012: If you love two people equally at the same time neither is the right one for you, because neither attracts you enough to make the choice.... (read in full...)
Too early in the game to ask him to start experimenting in bed?
Q. I have just started dating this guy and things are off to a great start. We've started getting intimate pretty early on in getting to know each other but I've been crossing an idea recently and wonder how he would take it . Even though we a...
A. 11 July 2012: Present him with a copy of 'Fifty Shades of Grey', and a copy of 'Two Knotty Boys Show You the Ropes' which are both available on Amazon, posted in the proverbial plain brown wrapper, smile prettily and ask if he's like to see your scarf collection. ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dream?
Q. Hi all, this is not a relationship question, rather a life question. I have just graduated uni with an accounting degree (I did extremely well and was accepted into a big 4 accounting firm). The thing is, I love film. I figured it out in my last ...
A. 25 June 2012: Ever considered the fact that film companies, theatrical agencies and casting directors' offices need accountants too? There's a lot of money involved in that field and it has to be tracked and (for want of a better word) accounted for. A guy I w... (read in full...)
What are the UK laws involving sex at this age?
Q. ok i recently turned 16 and i dont know the laws on sex. i just want to know one thing i like this girl who is 15 now i dont want to go out with her because im scared about certain laws that i think are in place.( pedofilia i definatly dont want to ...
A. 21 June 2012: Paedophilia is not necessarily simply having sex with an underage person, it is the perversion of being attracted to a child's body, that is, someone who is too young to have reached the age of puberty. The fact that you, a sixteen year old boy, are ... (read in full...)
Why does he aways pee before we have sex?
Q. so i been with my boyfriend for a while now and we started to get closer and by that i mean that we have started to have sex. sex just gets better and better everytime but there is one small thing. When we start to play around with eachother, and we ...
A. 15 June 2012: Before answering this I checked the age of consent in Mexico, and at your age it's perfectly legal. As for your question- is your boyfriend no longer erect when he returns, but 'back in shape' shortly after the two of you start playing around again? ... (read in full...)
Do some women like rough sex?
Q. Few days back I was watching a adult movie with my wife. There was a rape scene. After the movie my wife wanted to rewind and see the scene again and she saw that again. How come a Rape which is supposed to be a disgusting act can be stimulating. Ok ...
A. 4 June 2012: Yes, some do, but only if it fits their fantasies. For instance, if a woman's imagining being raped by pirates, the fantasy pirates are never authentic pirates, e.g. ugly unwashed pirates of these days. No, it's a gang-bang by Johnny Depp and his ... (read in full...)
His balding is becoming such an obsession lately...how do I get him to embrace it?
Q. I have been dating my guy for hitting 2 years now. I am 29, he is 35. His hair is thinning, just as it was when I first met him. It has become such an obsession with him over the last six months, and its driving me nuts. He has stopped going out ...
A. 12 February 2012: Tell him to shave it. As a teenager my hair was down to my waist in thick waves and my female classmates joked that they hated me. At 22 it started to thin on top and my hairline receded. I bore it for a few years and then shaved it all off. I've ... (read in full...)
I am against drinking but b/f has started to drink! How do I deal with this?
Q. I was wondering, how much action i should take or not take with my boyfriend and alcohol. hear me out. I was raised in a very religious home, i have never even SEEN alcohol outside of TV/ads/in the store. In highschool, I never was around t...
A. 12 February 2012: If you're religious, make him promise to switch to wine, and join him in a glass. The Bible says it's OK, as long as it's 'a little'. Look it up.
King James Version,
1 Timothy 5:23
"Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy ... (read in full...)
What to do with old sex tapes? When to get rid of them?
Q. I think it's fairly likely that I will be in a new relationship soon and I'm not quite sure what to do with sex tapes that were made with about 7 or 8 different partners over the past ten years or so. I suspect that if we become a couple she'd b...
A. 12 February 2012: As I approach sixty years of age, I realize that quite soon not only will women no longer be interested in me, but that I'll be useless to them even if they were. (I'm married to a much younger girl- tragedy approaches.) However I'll still remember ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend kept all photos/numbers of his ex girlfriends but lied to me about it
Q. hi im in a new relationship but had problems already my boyfriend kept all hes exes letters photos and numnbers after telling me he had got rid of them .its only been over a month and i dont want to lose trust ....
A. 7 February 2012: My late mother had a box (which I have now) full of stacks of letters and pictures from soldiers/boyfriends she was corresponding with during WW2. My late father knew about them, never mentioned them, and never asked her to get rid of them. The ... (read in full...)
Twice my age but interested, curious but nervous
Q. So to make a long story short, I am 22 and my boyfriend for 3 years and I broke up just before the new year (2012). Shortly there after, one the regular customers at the restaurant I work at, whom I talk to on a daily basis and have gotten to know ...
A. 7 February 2012: The age difference does not matter if you are compatible- I've been with, for seven years, and legally married to for five years, a woman who's 27 years my junior. First, be strong and don't be lied to; second, don't be strung along. Tell him ... (read in full...)
Urinary incontinence during sex. Help!
Q. I have a rather embarrassing question... During an intimate lovemaking session with my fiancee, I was blindfolded, and had earmuffs on so I couldn't hear anything..this allowed me to focus only on what I was feeling...and I was lost in the sensatio...
A. 1 February 2012: A highly aroused woman will sometimes ejaculate, which is different from the usual type or orgasm. Some of my exes have, and my wife can as well, but not every girl I've slept with has managed this- not with me, anyway! It's different from the usual ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 31 January 2012: I completely agree that if a man's in a relationship, has a partner willing to provide him with a regular sex life and yet still looks at pornography for masturbatory purposes, he's a loser. However, I can't see that viewing mainstreet-ish stuff now ... (read in full...)
My B/f says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break! Is that even possible? And he watched porn the very next night!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been having sex pretty much every night for the past week to the point where he can't cum. He says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break, which we both agreed to under certain conditions: he not ...
A. 28 January 2012: serve a man steak every night, no matter how succulent, and he'll eventually want a hamburger. This explanation is offered without prejudice or a political agenda.... (read in full...)
If I drink energy drinks can I have sex multiple times?
Q. Hello. Me and my girlfriend are going on a trip to New York City and she been making comments like having sex all the time multiple times a day on this trip. It's only days, I'm a little nervous I won't perform okay. She is 31 and I'm 20 and a...
A. 25 January 2012: No, being 20 will perk you up and you can have sex multiple times.... (read in full...)
Should I be upset and jealous over his remarks??
Q. I was watching TV with my boyfriend and Faith Hill came on for a moment. This is what he said.... "Mmmm Faith Hill is a scrumptious treat. I want to eat her up. She is sooooooo fucking hot!!!" I got upset and we had a huge argument about it...
A. 23 January 2012: I'm a professional actor, a complete unknown but have worked in small roles with many female stars over the past 35 years. You should see how a lot of them look when they arrive at the studio in the morning for the day's work before they go into ... (read in full...)
In love with a prostitute
Q. My wife passed away few years ago. I lived with teenage daugter. I did not like to make new connection with other woman. Now I am in love with prostitute. She lived and worked in another country. She actually doing her job but I am in love. I am s...
A. 15 January 2012: Her job is to make you think you are handsome and wonderful in bed, and she will do this as long as you have the money to hire her. Run.... (read in full...)
Found boyfriend on a fetish website!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He is very kind, sweet and generous and I've never had any doubts that he's a good person. The only real problem we've had is his porn usage - I don't like it, I think the majority is degrading to ...
A. 12 January 2012: Sometimes there are things about ourselves we can admit to strangers, but are afraid to talk about with the people we love for fear of ruining their opinion of us. What he has done is far from ideal, but maybe this is the reason. You have a choice. ... (read in full...)
How can I either improve my singing voice or learn to feel comfortable with it as is?
Q. At school I got put in a class that I didn't pick because what I picked was full. The class I got put in was chorus and I can't sing at all. Today we song and I was the one that stuck out because I had the worst voice so I had to practice in front...
A. 7 January 2012: Classical vocal teachers , that is, those who teach opera singers generally agree that a bass voice doesn't fully mature until it's 'owner' is about 35, so don't worry- it's nothing you can help. Just get through the next few months as best you can ... (read in full...)
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