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writes:I have been married with my husband for 10 years, Last week while they were taking him some X-rays, I readed his text messages (It was the first time I did it)and I discover that his Research assitant was inviting him to celebrate something and that she sent her messages like sweet dreams etc. I also discover that he rejected the invitation (saying he has the exams) and that he doesn´t respond to the sweet dreams messages. We talked talked for a long time about and he ensures that that is all. He ask me if I want him to talk her aobut it (but I don´t know if it will be worst) or that he will continue ignoring it. I have even think in responding her a message, but it also can be worst.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Being that he rejected it and there were no "kind" words said to her back, I wouldn't worry about it to much. Alot of women write stuff and put the xoxo, smooches, kisses, etc...after many texts/emails...however, if she knows he's married (like if I knew he was), I wouldn't put that on their myself...but that is me.
It wouldn't hurt to introduce yourself to her if she doesn't know you. Or that you exist. If she is interested in him, maybe she is unaware he's married or if she doesn't care, let her know "you" do in a wife's way. :)
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 October 2007):
You know him best. People always have to deal with all styles of other people. Let him deal. It's OK for you to keep an open eye.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Yes, I think he is telling you the truth.
It sounds like your man is being very loyal, and that is rare. As long as he is not persuing, you shouldn't either.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Let it go for now; it sounds like he's ignoring her. You don't need to trust her, you only need to trust him. Since he works with her, he may not want to go out on a limb to get her to stop -- it could ruin his work relationships.
Do ask him to talk to her. Her behavior is inappropriate. But let it go through him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Some people put the strangest things in text. I wouldnt speak to her, i will just show your insecurities and you dont want that. Keep an eye on the situation from a distance. I think he is geniune and he got a text from her saying 'sweet dreams' and didnt let you know because he knew you would be jealous. I would be frantic. Some women put kisses on texts and emails, but that is just their way and i think she probably put that message on because that is what she normally does. Dont make too much of it right now. Try and put it behind you and enjoy your marriage.
take care
xx
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