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writes:When my girlfriend is mad she likes to push my buttons, it seems as if on purpose. It could be something as silly as me wanting the bedroom door shut in order to catch some shut eye, and her refusing to leave it closed. It's like we have reverted to childhood, i close it she openes it, and so on. we stay at this for minutes until i realize how silly this is and leave it open. It's emasculating, and i think she gets a thrill out of it. I have never been abusive niether verbally nor physically in a relationship. My question is should I leave this girl? What about our two year old daughter, is she to grow up with out her Dad? I think she might prevent me from seeing her if we break up. What should I do?
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 October 2007):
 I think you need to look at these behaviors she's displaying. Do you see it as being normal or abnormal behavior? It sounds to me as if there is something going on in her head other than trying to start an argument. I think she needs to see a counselor. Just be careful how you approach that subject. There are some personality disorders that if you offer counseling, it's like you're attacking them and devaluing them as a person.
Such as my ex. Once I offered counseling. I said, let's go together to get this disorder figured out. She said "you are a disorder." That's when I knew don't push it.
good luck to you.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (9 October 2007):
 I agree with tommy7. She must have a reason for being so childish. Do you spend alot of time together? I used to do silly stuff like that just o get my boyfriends attention. but that's just me ,she might have a differnet reason. sit down and talk with her.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (9 October 2007):
I suggest you leave her for a day each time she pulls one of these tricks on you. Do it two dats the second time and keep adding a day each time she does it. Stop whe she wants to talk about the underlying issue. She's trying to control you for some reason.
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