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writes:I'm a senior in college and I met a girl toward the end of last year. She's really great and an amazing person, but I just can't help but feel like I'm too young to be getting so serious. I feel that I haven't quite experienced everything. It's this feeling and the fact that I will be graduating in 8 months and she still has 2 years left thats driving me toward wanting to end the whole thing now rather than later. Is this selfish? I have nothing but respect for this girl, but I know deep down that she isn't "the one" for me and after graduation I truthfully have no idea where I'll be or what I'll be doing. I would really appreciate any advice on other opinions on this! Reply to this Question
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reader, Jferrari87 +, writes (3 September 2008):
Jferrari87 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all very much for your objective views on this situation. You all really helped me a lot. I think I've known the truth for the last couple days, but I just wanted a few outside looks at it. I think my main concern is hurting her. Like I said, shes a great girl and I know she still thinks everything is going fine, so I'm sure it's going to come out of left field for her, but I have to be true to myself and how I'm feeling. I just hope she respects those feelings and views our time together as a good experience that didn't quite turn out how we'd hoped. Thank you all again, I really appreciate the insight. Josh
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (3 September 2008):
 you are doing the right thing.
i mean, forget everything else. why would you stay with someone who isn't "the one" for you?
facts are, you aren't digging it anymore. so be kind, but stay true to how you feel.
good luck!
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reader, scorpioqt86 +, writes (3 September 2008):
I think the best thing you can do for yourself as well as the young lady, is to explain this to her. She may be alright with this, but then again she may not. Honesty is the key to any healthy relationship. If you are opting for the option of not explaining all of this to her, I would say end it rather sooner than later because then not as many feelings, and wasted time will be put into it. Good Luck!!
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