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writes:Hello I need some help here.I have been with this guy for around 6 months, we get along really well, and he does everything to please me, he is a wonderfull guy. We are exclusive, and we have strong feelings for each other. When we started dating I was living in the suburbs like 2 hours away from each other, and we was only able to see each other one or 2 times a week, now like 2 weeks ago I move like 30 minutes from him, and we were both excited because we could see each other more often, the problem comes when now that I am here I am the only one planing all the dates and everything. I confront my boyfriend, and he told me that he is not good at planing and that everytime he is thinking to call me to go out, I already call him first. So this makes me feel like it is not enough important for him to see me, however, I know that we have both tight schedules, and now that I am here he hasn't seen his friends in a couple of weeks because he doesn't have enough time, but we have always see eachother. So I don't know if I should stay with this guy or not. I know that I am always in the defensive with guys, I have a father that is a womanizer and he doesn't treat well his couples, so sometimes I don't know if that I am judging my boyfriend for the experiences for my father. I don't know if i am being too hard with my boyfriend or not, i would like some perspective
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (29 August 2008):
 i don't think he is doing anything wrong, he is giving up friend time to be with you now that you live closer!
if you feel like breaking up with him, do it because of the time issue, not for any other reason.
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reader, Burns231 +, writes (29 August 2008):
I think that a possible reason he could be wanting you to plan everything is that he wants to make sure you have a good time and that you are having fun. As a guy I am the same way, my worst fear is that the girl I'm with isn't having a good time because I planned the evening (ex. I chose a restaurant to eat at or what movie to go see and she doesn’t like it and never had an interest in it to begin with).I can’t speak for him but at least my perspective on that is that I don't care what we are doing just A)as long as SHE is enjoying herself and having a good time and B)that I am with her while she is having fun. So he’s spending time with you and your having a good time while he is with you so therefore he is having a good time as well. As far as breaking up with him my only thought is why? He is giving up time with friends to be with you instead. Just because the experiences of you father were negative doesn't necessarily mean that you will encounter that as well. I think it would be foolish to end your relationship just because the experiences of your father…Just my thoughts on that and good luck with everything :)Let me know how it goes.
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