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... Send *uperbunny a private message | | | *uperbunny's profile:I am a strong believer in "treat people as you wish to be treated" - because at the end of the day everyone just wants their beliefs, thoughts and lives to be respected and treated with a bit of dignity. Plus, I'm sick of people trying to force their beliefs on other people - sexuality, religious... I wonder where this desire to interfere in other people's lives came from?!?
I also am a great believer in karma. My greatest belief in this comes from the amount of people who cheat in relationships who then find it hard to trust people - shot yourself in the foot there, sunshine!
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He forced me onto the bed and hurt me, but I still love him. How do I learn to trust him?
Q. A few nights ago i was with my boyfriend and we had a fight. I got fed up with him and started egnoring him. That pissed him off worse so he grabbed me and forced me to look and him and he grabbed my arms really tight and it hurt and i screamed at ...
A. 20 April 2008: Sweetie, you shouldn't want to trust him again after he's treated you that badly. You should get out while you still can! I know it's hard, but there's so many much nicer guys out there for you who will treat you with the respect + compassion that ... (read in full...)
He drugged me and raped me, and now he wants me back, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of a year invited me over to his apartment for a drink, trusting him I said yes. But when I arrived there were no drinks, he came up behind me and drugged me to his bed where he raped me, until someone started banging on the door ...
A. 20 April 2008: Tell him where to shove it, sweetie! How DARE he treat you like that!
As much as it may hurt to hear it, this man has no respect for you + you need to make him suffer for it. If you go back to him, it's like saying that his actions are forgivea... (read in full...)
Should I give up football or not so I can do things I want to do with friends?
Q. Ive got a slight problem. Im really into football, and am doing really well at it at the moment. But all my friends are into smoking drinking and things like that. I do it with them aswell but its effecting how well i play football. I don...
A. 7 April 2008: I have a friend who's 20 now. He was heavily into boxing, and his coach told him he couldn't drink or anything when he was 10 because it would affect his game - and he's never drank that much or anything and he has no regrets at all, has excelled at ... (read in full...)
My mum and dad are so protective, I don't know what to do to make them not like this?
Q. My mum and dad are so protective, i dont know what to do to make them not like this? They say were only protective because we love you, but i dont want to be controlled all the time.. what can i do?...
A. 7 April 2008: Sweetie, you've got to understand that you are the apple of your parent's eye and they clearly adore you. My mum always says to me "Would you rather I just didn't care?" and to be honest, I'm glad she does.
They're overprotective because they don... (read in full...)
Does sex hurt first time?!
Q. Most of my mates have had sex and they say it really hurts first time. I feel so left out when they talk about it because i havnt had it yet. Does sex hurt first time?!...
A. 7 April 2008: Personally, I didn't find sex painful the first time. I was in a long term relationship and my boyfriend was very gentle with me.
Although, I expect many of your friends are lying about their sexually experiences just so they don't appear left out... (read in full...)
How can I trust him again? What can I do?
Q. Hey guys, Ive got myself into s suituation and now i cant see any light at the end of the tunnel. Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 year and now im living with him. in the beginning of our relation i was happy until i read a message...
A. 7 April 2008: If you can't trust him, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. The suspicions will eat you from the inside out, whether they are true or not. If he is your boyfriend, he should be making you feel like a princess, so you don't feel like he'd ... (read in full...)
Thinking of going to a club tonight - alone. Should I?
Q. Hi, quik question. A club in town that I like to go to apparently does well (gets lots of people to come) on monday nights. I'm considering going, but none of my friends can make it. I guess I would be going out in the hope of finding a girl a...
A. 7 April 2008: I think I'd wait until you can go with some mates. It's not very safe to go on your own, plus, it won't be as fun without your friends! If you don't meet a girl then it'll be very depressing for you!
Best wishes. =] x... (read in full...)
Why does it feel as if my ex, is rubbing it in my face that she's happy now?
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 2 months ago, saying she felt like we'd grown apart and the relationship had run its course. We tried for two weeks before the final breakup to sort it out, having alot of fun but it only ever deep ...
A. 7 April 2008: To be honest, sweetie, I think she's doing the whole photo thing to try to make a point.. I know I did when I broke up from my long-term boyfriend. I don't think it's trying to get at you. It's trying to convince herself + put on a face that she is ... (read in full...)
I masturbate and imagine I'm making out with someone, Help!!
Q. Hey I'm around the age of 12-14. I don't have a computer of my own but I have looked at porn on my gma's computer. I am always scared that she will find out and that other people will find out. Also when I am home alone I masturbate and act like ...
A. 19 March 2008: There's nothing to worry about sweetie. Masturbation is a perfectly natural way of exploring your own body - most teenagers do it. As for the porn? There's usually a button or option to delete the history so no one can know where you've been. :] ... (read in full...)
Has the love gone or am I just tired of trying?
Q. How do I know if he really loves me? Dear Cupid, I am constantly doubting about my relationship with my bf. We have been in a long distance realationship for about 4 years now; but we or I had never felt security in our relationship. 1. he was...
A. 16 March 2008: Sweetie, you've gotta be strong + crack the whip I'm afraid! If he's not willing to make the effort for someone supportive + loving, he's not very clever, obviously!! Give him an ultimatum: Either he starts pulling his weight or you give him the ... (read in full...)
He's really sweet and kind and everything I look for in a guy...but also my best mate. What can I do??
Q. hi, i need some help... I have a guy best mate, but the thing is i like him as more than mate. What should I do ? I know he's single and so am I, he's really sweet and kind and everything i look for in a guy I don't know what to do please help me!!...
A. 16 March 2008: This is one thing I will always stand by: As much as you like him + if he likes you, if he is your friend + you decide to take it to the next level + have him as a boyfriend you need to understand that almost definately your relationship will never ... (read in full...)
I have trouble making new friends because I'm shy. Please help
Q. Hey! Im in a new school and im finding it very hard to open up. Everyone always tells me im so quiet or shy. Id rlly like to open up, but i cant. I try to build up my confidence, or picture myself talking with ease, but that never seems to work. ...
A. 12 March 2008: Honey, I think one thing to bare in mind is that *everyone* gets shy at some point.. The best piece of advice I can offer is just hold your head up high! I was quite shy at school + since I've left I'm much more confident + I wish I'd built up the ... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 7 March 2008: Personally, I see no problem at all of meeting someone through a website as long as you exercise caution if you do meet up with someone or whatever. However, I do think that as an 18 - 21 you should enjoy yourself a bit without putting pressure on ... (read in full...)
After the gym...everything is hurting and I am worried I have damaged something.
Q. I was in the gym yesterday and everything was okay...some weights, some treadmill etc etc- the norm. Today however my shoulder muscles are hurting terribly and i am worried i might have done damage or something. please help. thanks....
A. 7 March 2008: If I were you, give it a couple of days to see if it's just a little strain, but if it hurts after then you should probably see a doctor who can sort you out a little bit more. Best wishes. :] x... (read in full...)
He was my first love...but I just founf out he cheated on me with my best mate and I can't stop crying.
Q. Me and my ex were in a relationship for almost a year, we broke up in november but carried on he flirting and doing stuff until very recent, he suddenly decided he doesnt like me like that anymore, we where so in love it was magic! first love:) but ...
A. 7 March 2008: Why are you exes? Although it hurts, if he's not yours anymore then surely it's water under the bridge, honey? I know it's upsetting to be lied to, but just rise above it.. Make them feel guilty for it if it makes you feel better... ;] Best wishes. ... (read in full...)
How can I handle my girlfriend not showing me she loves me??
Q. I have been with my g/f for about 2 months but we really have been together for 7 just not officially. She does not show me any affection. I almost feel like she doesn't like me or anything. She tells me all the time that she does, but i have to ...
A. 7 March 2008: If I were you: I WOULD DITCH HER. Straight up, sweetie. She's treating you like crap + you deserve so much better than that. The only way you'll sort this out is by talking to her.. But it doesn't seem like she feels the same way, I'm sorry to say ... (read in full...)
My bf is a serial flirter...how do I make him stop this or prevent him crossing the line??
Q. My boyfriend is a serial flirter when it comes to other women.I have lived with him for the past 16 months and although he knows how it makes me feel he still continues to do it even going as far as getting a co workers number at work which I called ...
A. 7 March 2008: On a personal level, I think being flirty is part of someone's personality. Some people are just natural born flirters. To stop yourself worrying, I'd just remind yourself although he flirts with these girls + teases them, YOU'RE the one he's picked ... (read in full...)
I'm head over heels...but he has a girlfriend or does he??
Q. hi there, I've been married for 19yrs now and we have a daughter. I thought our marriage would go on forever but my husband has become very bitter he makes me cry all the time. Last year i ordererd some food things from an internet site and i becam...
A. 7 March 2008: If you're still married you husband, you mustn't do anything! An affair will break not only his heart, but your daughter's as well!
On the girlfriend/just friend side of things, you will have to trust what he says - especially if he lives far away... (read in full...)
Is it bad for me to be talking to my ex-boyfriend when I already have a boyfriend??
Q. Is it bad for me to be talking to my ex-boyfriend when i already have a boyfriend????????????...
A. 7 March 2008: No.. You can still be friends with old partners.. Although if you're speaking to him about possibly getting back together again then that is wrong.. It's not fair on your current boyfriend. Best Wishes. :] x... (read in full...)
I'm meeting up with him and I'm really worried about it... I'll be sober this time! Any advice to calm me down?
Q. Heeey, I normally prefer answering these to asking them.. But hey! I'm meeting up with a guy I like on Saturday, we've met a few times before + one night lead to quite a steamy session in the bedroom! I really like him as more than a friend but I'm ...
A. 4 March 2008: I'm meeting up on Saturday with him!! x... (read in full...)
I'm in a big fight with my friends, what do I do?
Q. I'm going through a rough spot with my friends right now, we keep arguing about stuff and one of my friends is in her period I'm in it too, what should I do????????...
A. 3 March 2008: Woah, what's the problem, sweetie?.. Everyone needs space every now + again.. It probably seems worse because your bodies are all changing so your hormones are all racing about! Just give each other a little space at times when you can feel tempers ... (read in full...)
Is Sex in a relationship important?
Q. I was wondering this because recently my girlfriend said she wanted to wait until marriage (which is fine by me I guess) I just didn't know if that included all types of sex or sexual contact....
A. 3 March 2008: Well, you'll have to discuss with your girlfriend if that means sex or oral sex or whatever.. Sex isn't really that important in a relationship.. It's just another way of showing someone how you feel about them. It just depends whether both parties ... (read in full...)
Everything under the sun!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 5 months and ever since we have been going out I have had nothing but grief from her. I started to be that she was texting her ex who cheated on her, then cheating on me with another guy over the ...
A. 3 March 2008: Sweetie, I think she needs help that's beyond your control. If her parents don't care about her then this may be the reason for her self harming.. She's obviously seeking attention off Bebo + all these texts + things.. I think she needs some serious ... (read in full...)
I'm meeting up with him and I'm really worried about it... I'll be sober this time! Any advice to calm me down?
Q. Heeey, I normally prefer answering these to asking them.. But hey! I'm meeting up with a guy I like on Saturday, we've met a few times before + one night lead to quite a steamy session in the bedroom! I really like him as more than a friend but I'm ...
A. 3 March 2008: thank you my lovelies! :] x... (read in full...)
I'm meeting up with him and I'm really worried about it... I'll be sober this time! Any advice to calm me down?
Q. Heeey, I normally prefer answering these to asking them.. But hey! I'm meeting up with a guy I like on Saturday, we've met a few times before + one night lead to quite a steamy session in the bedroom! I really like him as more than a friend but I'm ...
A. 2 March 2008: I'm just so self concious and worried that I won't enjoy myself if anything happens between us.. Sorry, I didn't explain myself very clearly!! x... (read in full...)
My hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks?
Q. Hello every one I have had 3 children and I feel very self conscious about my body. my hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks? my belly used to be nice and flat now its like jelly and I ha...
A. 2 March 2008: I know over here you can buy oils + stuff that are very good at "healing"/partially "healing" stretch marks.. I don't know if they'd be the same with you..
As for the belly, I think it'd be best to excersise a little bit. Say a good fifty stomach ... (read in full...)
When people talk about the size of their penis' are they talking about when it is fully erect or soft?
Q. When people talk about the size of their penis' are they talking about when it is fully erect or soft? My penis is 7" exact when erect but only like 2" when its soft. Is this normal?? I dont want a girl to be scared off because its small at fir...
A. 2 March 2008: I'd assume they're talking about it hard. Some guys exaggerate anyway.. :] x... (read in full...)
Still in love after 15 years but I need to move on for my new famlies sake..please help.
Q. I am still in love with this guy after 15 years, i have always loved him and we hooked up loads of times. He left the country for a few years because of trouble he was in so i got close to his brother and ended up sleeping with him. My crush ...
A. 2 March 2008: Surely a man you had a child with is going to win hands down over a guy you just hooked up with a few times. You have a new life now, don't let the old one affect it. I hope everything turns out okay. :] x... (read in full...)
I have found myself starting to like his friend...
Q. Hi im 18 and i am totally mixed up at the minute!! i fell out with my boyfriend of 3 years about 3 months ago Now i have found myself starting to like his friend and his friend feels the same way as we have met up a few times and he has been text...
A. 2 March 2008: Often, I think, when people fancy their boyfriend's best mates or whatever, it's the case of the "forbidden fruit". You find him attractive because deep down you feel you shouldn't because of your ex. I really wouldn't start lying to your friends ... (read in full...)
Any advice about body language?
Q. Hi, I would like some advice about body language and whether im looking too far into things with this guy... he's the local vicar, young, good looking and single, after a service I was saying goodbyes he came up to me and gave me a gift (a mug, ...
A. 2 March 2008: That all seems like very positive body language, if you ask me. He probably felt too intimidated by your friend being there when it seemed like he liked you.. There's no harm in suggesting going for a coffee or something. That way you can get ... (read in full...)
How can you desire someone, yet not be ready for desire?
Q. I know this may be a standard problem, but i have yet to find someone who can give a straight answer, so i came online. My girlfriend, who i've been dating for about 6 months, has recently decided (about three months ago) that she no longer wanted t...
A. 2 March 2008: I think as her boyfriend you should respect her wishes + just trust her when she says she wants you.. There's more to relationships than just sex.. I can understand your frustration, but if you dump her because she won't have sex that is going to ... (read in full...)
We can never get close because her friends are always around... Help!!!
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I have a girlfriend. We are both really shy. We can't get close because her friends are always around her! help!!!...
A. 1 March 2008: When you say close, honey, what do you mean? If I were you I'd get her cell number or something + arrange to meet outside of school, just the two of you? Message me privately if you wanna chat some more - I hope it all works out for you. :] x... (read in full...)
Back with my boyfriend but tempted by another guy.
Q. Ok so I kinda have a bit of a problem, I'm 16 by the way, my boyfriend is too. I have been with this guy 2 months we had a few arguements and went through a bit of a bad patch and broke up. In the time I was single I met an old friend from prim...
A. 1 March 2008: I think, sweetie, you're tempted by him because he's new + interesting; but if your boyfriend is so lovely, what's the point in risking it with someone you've only recently just caught up with?.. But you are only sixteen, so follow your heart, ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of how he'll react if I tell him how I feel...
Q. When I was younger, I fell for a boy but he doesn't know, not even now. I've done evrything to get his attenion and I wish I could tell him how I feel but I'm scared how he'd react, or other people react. I don't know what to do... Please help a.s...
A. 1 March 2008: What've you done to get his attention? I mean, I can't vouch for all guys as a whole, but most guys don't like try hards..So just act calm + relaxed! Try a little light flirting, perhaps? If you've never really had a crush on anyone else it's... (read in full...)
14, Is my height the reason why I can't get a Boyfriend?
Q. I am a freshman, 14 years old, tall (5'8''), brown hair, brown eyes, smart, funny and sorta pretty, people call me pretty sometimes. I have a good personality and i have never had a boyfriend. I don't have that much self-confidence and i am really ...
A. 11 October 2007: I'm sure that's not the reason at all, sweetie. It just so happens you haven't bumped into the right person yet, that's all! x... (read in full...)
I miss her in everyway, and feel like I'll never have anything with anyone like her again. Has anybody else felt this way, and been completely wrong?
Q. Forgive me for how some of this question might sound, but I'm a little concerned. I really miss my girlfriend, who left me not so long ago because our relationship became long distance. Now I feel like I'll never love anybody like her again. I miss ...
A. 11 October 2007: Sweetie, my heart goes out to you. I sort of experienced this a couple of months ago. I broke up with a boyfriend I had been seeing for a couple of years. I missed all our little in-jokes, the silly things that reminded me of him, the intimate ... (read in full...)
What do I talk about when I meet her?
Q. My girlfriend lives in New Mexico and we converse everyday and have done for the last 18months and we have met each other twice and she is about to move over here to the U.K. soon and we are going to get married. I am struggling to have a conversa...
A. 11 October 2007: I'm sure it'll be a lot lot easier when you're actually with her, doing things together etc. rather than thinking about what you're going to say, so try not to panic too much. :] try to talk about fairly open subjects if you're super nervous like ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games with me?
Q. i got one of my male friends to call my bf without him knowing he was my friend to ask for my number from him telling him he admires and aslo like me to be his.i was thinking he was going to tell him i was his and that he should stay clear but to my ...
A. 11 October 2007: some guys dislike confrontation; this guy obviously thought it was easier to fob your friend off with a fake number than get nasty about the fact you're his girl. this boy obviously wants you, honey. :] x... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Big milestone..... over 300,000 unique visitors over the past month :-)
Q. Cool... Over the past month, from Sept 8th to Oct 9th we had over 300,000 unique visitors to the site! According to google analytics we had 302,516 visitors. It doesn't seem that long ago I was posting when we had passed 250,000 visitors/month. ...
A. 11 October 2007: eeeee, congratulations. :] think of all those people everyone's helped! x... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 28 September 2007: Ooo, I initially thought of the whole "being able to search old answers" but I think that these make the answers a lot less personal to the individual and are therefore less helpful than individual advice. :] x... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 28 September 2007: A big notice saying "Please don't give our aunties crap ratings just because they don't say that you want to hear"! :] x... (read in full...)
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