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writes:Most of my mates have had sex and they say it really hurts first time. I feel so left out when they talk about it because i havnt had it yet.Does sex hurt first time?! Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I wouldn't have sex until I get married! Your probably not ready to do it yet when your young. I always wondered: Do I have to go through puberty? The ansewer is, YES! If your a female you have to go through puberty and yes you have to do the gross, and painfull stuff! My cousin asked me, "what are boobs for?" And I said, "Baby, boobs are for babys to drink out of. Not for looks and guys." See, she thought boobs were for, boys and such. And then she asked me, "How do babys get in your belly?" I also said, "Well, when a man and a women love each other, they show it in a bed. They have there clothes off and they do this thing that a boys private part goes into the girls private part by her pee pee!
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (17 May 2008):
 It didn't hurt at all for me! However tbh the hymen broke once in a hockey tackle! So that can happen doing any ordinary things and not just the sexual experience.There is more peer pressure about sex than anything else. So only do it if it feels right.I believe not before the age of 18. I could have when I was 14. tbh I didn't because I felt like a kid playing at an adult's game. When I was 18 the whole experience felt different, like the real thing.from Fiona
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): well i really cant tell u cause im still a virgin mii self and im 17.
but i have tried it before and it was about the tip in me.. and i had to stop it was a lil painful .. but the makin out was WONDERFUL and good luck!!!!
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reader, writes4me  +, writes (10 April 2008):
It hurts. Like you wouldn't believe. Don't believe me, then try this...get a carrot, put a condom on the fat rounded end of it and see what happens when you try to go up there just a few inches. Multiply that feeling by 3 and you've probably got the same kind of pain when you have sex.
You are probably also going to bleed after your first sexual experience. It's natural and the amount of blood you shed its different with everyone. The blood comes from getting your hymen ripped apart by a blunt object. Does that sound horrible? Well, in a way it is. If you do it the right person, it is the one of the most trusting things you'll ever experience with another person.
You DO NOT want this experience to be with the wrong person.
Don't do because of peer pressure. You'll end up regretting it. This is something you can't get back. Your virginity is sacred. Once it's gone and especially if it happens with the wrong person, you can't take it back and you can't recapture that special moment with someone later when you wish you'd held out a little longer for the right one.
You don't have to have sex. Sorry, but it's the truth. And don't believe guys who get angry and say, 'you could kill me making me wait.' No guy has ever exploded from not having sex with someone. That's why God gave them hands.
People are always bragging about sex but many times the reason they talk about it all the time is they are seeking approval from their friends. They aren't doing it for themselves. They are doing it to fit in. And that's one of the worst things.
Take a few steps back and take that cold shower. Heck, tell him to take a cold shower to. But you have such a long time to consider this move. You will NEVER, EVER, forget the first person you have sex with. Please trust me on this. Make it the RIGHT PERSON or you'll regret the memory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I didn't find it painful at all honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): It can hurt a little the first time ... but it is nothing to sore .. it also hurts a little afterwards.
You say you feel left out and its natural to do so when all your mates are talking about it and swapping stories, but you shouldnt ... when you find someone you realli care for and want to have sex with, it is much better than rushing in to it, just to say you have done it lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): when i had sex for the first time, it didn't hurt too bad during, but after it did. i was 17. my boyfriend at the time was very gentle and made sure he wasn't going in too rough or anything. i'd suggest that you listen to the comment above and wait, because even at 17, i now feel that it was way too soon. the way things ended up close to the end of our relationship is we would fight, i would end up crying, and then, after we talked, we would have sex. it was like our relationship was based all on sex then. i am now pregnant with him and he is being very ridiculous and immature about the situation. he moved away and i am left to take care of my pregnancy by myself. so yeah, not fun. don't let peer pressure force you to give yourself to someone who could be the wrong person too early. i did and look where i ended up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow. Thanks for your answer. Its really helped. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Annalisa rocks!!! Listen to her.
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (7 April 2008):
 First of all, be ware of friends who tell you they've had sex. If it was true, why would they tell you?
Most young girls and boys feel they are expected to have had sex at least once, so often lie. It is common notion that first time sex hurts and it usually does, because a woman's vagina is sealed by something called the hymen. When a boy/man penetrates the vagina, whether with a finger or his penis, the hymen tears and often bleeds a little or a lot. Some girls experience a little pain, some none at all. But the most important thing is that you make love with the boy you love, who loves and respects you back; if he is gentle and caring, he should spend enough time kissing and cuddling you until you are fully relaxed and ready to give yourself to him. Remember that sexual intercourse is only the final part of love-making which culminates in the possibility of making a baby.
Before you get there, if at all, you can enjoy making love for hours! But don't feel pressurised to do anything you are not ready to. Ultimately, men prefere to marry a girl who has only given herself to them or at most only to men she has truely loved.
You are still very young and you have your whole life ahead!
Make the most of this time to have fun. When you find a boy you really like, make the most of platonic love and romance. When a girl lets a boy in too soon, the boy tends to think sex is all you both need to be together, and that is so wrong!
Neither of you would be ready to deal with a possible pregnancy, anyway. Even though you could go on the pill and he could use a condom, things could still go wrong.
That is why sex at your age is illegal in most countries!
Message me if you want to talk farther.
Meanwhile, God bless you and good luck!
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reader, superbunny + ♥, writes (7 April 2008):
 Personally, I didn't find sex painful the first time. I was in a long term relationship and my boyfriend was very gentle with me.
Although, I expect many of your friends are lying about their sexually experiences just so they don't appear left out. Don't feel pressured to have sex because of them; you will not appreciate rushing into anything in years to come.
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