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... Send *uperbunny a private message | | | *uperbunny's profile:I am a strong believer in "treat people as you wish to be treated" - because at the end of the day everyone just wants their beliefs, thoughts and lives to be respected and treated with a bit of dignity. Plus, I'm sick of people trying to force their beliefs on other people - sexuality, religious... I wonder where this desire to interfere in other people's lives came from?!?
I also am a great believer in karma. My greatest belief in this comes from the amount of people who cheat in relationships who then find it hard to trust people - shot yourself in the foot there, sunshine!
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I can't go out with him as I can't do that to my parents.
Q. I am a muslim girl and 15 years old. This might sound stupid, but please read the whole story. 2 years ago I met this boy. I never liked anypne before, and wasn't very intrested in having a boyfriend but he was different. I started liking h...
A. 22 November 2008: Maybe you could talk to your parents about the issue? That's the only way to resolve it.
It's never a good idea to go behind your parents' backs when you still live at home with them - they will find out somehow & mums can read us like books!! ... (read in full...)
I have a terrible moral dilemma...
Q. I have a terrible moral dilemma. I will try to explain my situation, but I know, it's not easy. I live in a totally collapsed marriage, my children are all gown ups. Not independent, and causing lot's of headaches. I feel totally drained and exha...
A. 22 November 2008: First of all, suicide is never the best option over anything. As much as you dislike them right now, it will break your relatives hearts and no human being wants to do that. It seems like you just need space from everything. Do you feel claustr... (read in full...)
Losing extreme faith & trust in someone I thought I loved...what to do?
Q. Recently I've been having trouble with someone I met online who I was meant to meet up with soon to get closer/get to know better. Mind you this little relationship spark is long distance, and anyone who has negative responses towards "online ...
A. 22 November 2008: Your online relationship will be an exceptionally good reflection of how your real one will be. I met my boyfriend online and he was lovely on the internet and even better in real life!! xx... (read in full...)
Since we broke up, porn is doing nothing for me!
Q. OK, this is a bit of a strange question. Whenever I'm not in a relationship, I masturbate/watch porn with a normal frequency (say something slightly less than daily). When I'm in a relationship that drops significantly (maybe weekly or even more ...
A. 22 November 2008: Maybe you're a little upset about the break up and it's effecting your mood therefore it's not as easy to masturbate?
Personally, I masturbate so much more when I'm in a relationship because there's someone you know you can actually have sex with... (read in full...)
How can I help my pee shy girlfriend?
Q. What can I do to help my girlfriend who is very pee shy? This makes it very difficult to plan a day out going to the beach or to a concert or even to a long movie. When she gets home to her apartment, I have to wait outside so she can pee. Sometimes ...
A. 22 November 2008: I've heard about this, you can get some kind of help for it to solve the problem. It's quite common I believe. :)
Get her to chat to her doctor and just explain what's wrong. :)
xx... (read in full...)
Rushed into bed on the first date and now I think I've blown it...
Q. im a 18 year old guy and ive been on a first date with a 22 year old we got along fine but i rushed it too fast we ended up sharing a bed but we didnt have sex, alothe we dont mess around (foreplay). as you can imagine this killed the conversa...
A. 22 November 2008: A good way to find out would be just text him saying "Let me know when you're free for a drink" or whatever.. If you don't hear within like a week, then he's probably not because every decent person would text with a date or an apology for not being ... (read in full...)
Losing extreme faith & trust in someone I thought I loved...what to do?
Q. Recently I've been having trouble with someone I met online who I was meant to meet up with soon to get closer/get to know better. Mind you this little relationship spark is long distance, and anyone who has negative responses towards "online ...
A. 22 November 2008: Sweetie, I'd just let him go. If you allow him to mess you about in the early days, how can you expect it to change in the later ones?
If it's long distance you will need to trust him so so much, honey, and I think that's already been destroye... (read in full...)
Do you fess up to cheating and get dumped? or try and pretend it never happened?
Q. so i cheated on my boyfriend ,i had sex with my exboyfriend. it was just all in the moment, i know it was wrong and i shouldnt have done it. i love my boyfriend now, and i dont want to lose him. its only been 2months but i dont want to tell him, bc ...
A. 22 November 2008: Personally, in my experience, it'd be better to dump your current boyfriend now and not tell him. If you tell him you are just going to hurt and humiliate him and you shouldn't stay with him because the guilt will eat you up inside, my sweet, and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if it meant anything?
Q. I was at a party yesterday and met this guy. I known who he was but not know him to talk to but my friends use to be really good mates with him. We got talking and then I sat on his knee and then we went outside and started kissing. We went into ...
A. 22 November 2008: I think you should meet up with him without any alcohol involved for starters! :p
Well, if you think that you're replacing the guy you like with him, then maybe you are? It sounds here like you're trying to convince yourself that you liked th... (read in full...)
Is it okay to take two packs of the pill back to pack so it covers a particular week?
Q. Hiya! Just a quick question, I've heard than if on the contraceptive pill, you can take two packs (I'm on microgynon 30) back to back.. I was just wondering after this time, do you leave it a week or two weeks before starting the next pack? ...
A. 15 September 2008: Thanks very much for your help! :) xx... (read in full...)
Are there any suggestions that could help me get rid off my scars?
Q. I have a problem...not so much about a relationship but will be affected some day.... i used to self harm when i was a teenager and although i have completely recovered from them problems now i have a perminant reminder....i self harmed on my sto...
A. 5 September 2008: For the scars, you could try using Bio-Oil to make them heal faster. But no one now is going to hold what you did as a teenager against you. For the hair you could wax them off - admittedly a little painful but it should work. Or hair removal cre... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 5 September 2008: How can you possibly be having sex when you don't even know the answer to this question?!? If he came inside you, regardless if some came or anything, you could be pregnant. Get yourself down the drugstore, get a morning after pill and a pregn... (read in full...)
Is our age difference something to worry about?
Q. I just have a question. I am 18 and i believe i am falling for a 25 year old. I have known him a long time, we have been good friends. Is there something wrong with this? Is there too big of an age difference?...
A. 5 September 2008: I don't think there's anything wrong with this at all, as long as you're both comfortable with it. I don't think a seven year age gap when you're both over eighteen is really bad at all, honey. You're both legal, consenting adults - so enjoy yours... (read in full...)
He says he flirts with other girls because he wants them to feel happy. Am I being unreasonable for not believing this?
Q. heya last night i found out that my bf of a month likes to flirt wiv other gals i dont mind this but he likes to flirt alot he tells every gd luking gal he talks to ow gawjus they are he seys its just the way he is he seys he likes to make thm feel ...
A. 5 September 2008: Haha; no guy is that thoughtful!! Seriously though, he probably just enjoys the attention he's getting back from them - flirting works both ways! He's trying to play the "I'm considerate card" with you by making it look like it's to make them fee... (read in full...)
Do these signs mean that I'm pregnant?
Q. I think i mite be pregnant but im not sure. I was due to come on today. I took 2 pregnancy tests yesterday. A cheap brand I took at lunchtime showed a very, very faint positive line, i mean extremely faint. I went straight out and bought a mor...
A. 5 September 2008: If I were you, I'd buy a decent test, not the most expensive, not the cheapest - just a resonably priced one. Do one, then do the other one about a week later. xx... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a 15-year-old to have sex with a 26-year-old?
Q. Is it ok for a 15 year old male (me) to go out with a 26 year old women and have sex?? Any advice?...
A. 5 September 2008: No. It would legally be classed as sex with a minor as you are under sixteen, the legal age for consent.
The woman could get in a lot of trouble for this.
Our of curiosity, why do you want to sleep with her?
xx... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband over his constant complaining!
Q. My husband always puts down me and my three children (teenagers). I remarried 3 years ago and my teenage stepson moved in with us one year ago. My husband is always complaining that I hardly do anything around the house. If everything is caught up ...
A. 19 August 2008: I know it's not fair of me to comment as I do not have children of my own, but if I did I would seriously put anyone dragging them down or calling them names in their place! I'd have left him long ago if he won't accept your children as well as his ... (read in full...)
Can someone put me in the right direction when it comes to girls?
Q. Hi, i am 21, i have a real problem that i need help with. Im a virgin and i have real girl problems, when i was 16,17 and 18 i wasnt really that nervous or shy around girls but every girl i liked i had my heart set on them and they said they l...
A. 19 August 2008: Oh, you sound so lovely! Where do you live?
Seriously though, babe, your parents have no right to put pressure on you to get a girl. There's no age you should have one at.
It annoys me when people think they have to have sex when they're six... (read in full...)
Does it always have to be down to race?! Would we have still been together if we were of the same complexion?
Q. Dear Cupid, There's this guy I know and have liked for three years now. We started off as acquaintances and gradually became friends. We would chill together and be completely be ok in each other's company. We have so much in common. He'd eve...
A. 19 August 2008: If he had a girlfriend anyway, than there is a chance you may not have been a couple. I'm sure if he is your friend he is not judging you on your colour. xx... (read in full...)
He sometimes rubs my stomach, but I don't really like him lifting my shirt up.
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months however, i am very self-conscious of my body, mostly my stomach. im not exactly fat but i do have red stretch marks on my stomach. he sometimes rubs my stomach but i dnt really like him lifting...
A. 19 August 2008: Don't do anything until you're 100% comfortable with it.
I'm like 100%+ certain that he wouldn't comment at all on the marks on your stomach. He wants to be close to you because he loves you and cares about you, no one notices these little i... (read in full...)
I am 14, she is 12. Is it ok to date her?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 14 year old Male about to turn 15, the other day i met this beautifull girl, i adore her so much but the question is... as she is only 12 years of age is it wrong and would our relationship be wrong if we were to become...
A. 19 August 2008: There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. =] xx... (read in full...)
We do mutual masterbation. How can we spice it up?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been mutually masturbating for ten years now. We love it, but we don't know how to spice it up and our parents keep barging in. How can I tell them what we're doing without grossing them out??? ...
A. 19 August 2008: To be honest, I wouldn't tell your parents what you're up to! They don't need to know.. If she's your girlfriend they can probably guess. Just explain that as you're older now you'd like some more privacy.
If you are refering to sex, then perhaps ... (read in full...)
He seems to value his relationship with his ex more than he values his relationship with me
Q. this might be slightly trivial but it bugs the hell out of me and i dont know what to do about it. my boyfriend is really sweet, honestly, hes truly a nice person, wouldnt hurt a fly. anyways i met him in school last year and at the time he was ...
A. 18 August 2008: To be honest, you're still quite young and so is he, and sometimes guys just need to be told these things. =]
xx... (read in full...)
Why do guys add "hot" girls on Myspace?
Q. Why do guys add "hot" girls on Myspace? My bf has a band and he's the admin of their Myspace. He got a friend request from one of these stripper types, you know, those girls that have Myspace pages where they're almos naked, they're hot, etc...
A. 17 August 2008: Add some hot guy on MySpace, if he gets angry then tell him that's how you feel... If he doesn't, keep adding. ;]
Seriously though, he should respect your feelings more. Have a little chat... =]
xx... (read in full...)
Do I ride out the storm of this sexless relationship or do I finish it?
Q. ok, I have been in the same relationship for nearly 10 years and have been completely faithful throughout. My problem is, my partner and i have not had sex for nearly 6 months she is under a lot of pressure from work and with ill parents. I ...
A. 17 August 2008: I think you'll just have to support her for now, sweetie. You can't ditch her after ten years just because things are a little tough!
Just try to make her feel loved and special, even if there's no reciprocation, because in the long run, she'll t... (read in full...)
Are there men out there who are okay with girls who don't wax their pubes?
Q. just a question for men: Are there men out there who are ok with girls who don't wax their pubes? I waxed and it was so painful that I decided never again! Also, as alternative, I tried Veet, but that gives me rash, and makes me feel itchy. ...
A. 17 August 2008: I don't think if a lad's getting it on with you he's going to be too worried, sweetie. ;] ;]
Seriously speaking though, you do as you please and whatever you choose a partner should respect that.
I'm allergic to Veet, have you tried Nair at al... (read in full...)
He cheats and I don't trust him but should we get back together? Will I be hurt again?
Q. me and my ex have been texting and meeting for about a year and only recently we've got together, we were together a week then broke up, i finished it because we argue way to much and its complicated between us. i havent seen or thought of him since ...
A. 17 August 2008: Simply, no.
If you do not trust someone you should not be with them. You will drive both yourself and your partner crazy if you do not trust them.
Sorry if that seems harsh, but it's true. =[
xx... (read in full...)
My new guy babysits his ex's cat! Are they too close or what?
Q. I have started dating this guy and its been going great. He seems very interested in me, but the problem is he is still very close with his ex. He has told me its totally over but she is his first love. He is always on her facebook, shes on the top ...
A. 17 August 2008: It just sounds like they're friends really. If he says it's over then you're going to have to believe him.. If they are still close, I am afraid you are going to have to respect that (And trust me, I know how annoying that can be!!).. Everyone's ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I want to have a relationship and risk scaring him off? I want to know where I stand!
Q. I am casually seeing a man who I have developed strong feelings for. Because we began as friends, rather than officially dating, I'm confused as to where I stand with him. He has been over to my house a few times, and we've flirted, kissed and ...
A. 17 August 2008: If I were you, I'd just straight up ask him if you're fed up of not knowing where you stand. Sure, you run the risk of frightening him off but if it's wearing you down not knowing then surely even him running off would be an answer?
I hope thi... (read in full...)
What do you do when you dry hump?
Q. this may seem strange to ask but, wat is dry humping? i dont want wat it is, like wat do u actualy do wen u dry hump?...
A. 25 June 2008: When "dry-humping" you basically assume a sexual position + pleasure each other by rubbing against each other as if you were actually having intercourse.
It can be very pleasurable for both parties involved + can often lead to orgasm.
Hope th... (read in full...)
Are there any steps I can take to prevent me ending up with no life other than him?
Q. There has been a similar question on here today but my situation has some suitble differences. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years, through that period I had had strong friends, but through changing jobs, leaving school/ uni. I have generall...
A. 25 June 2008: You could go out with you friends at university but not drink! I have a few friends that go out + don't drink alcohol - you could still go along to have a laugh and dance + things.
I think it doesn't benefit you in the long run building your lif... (read in full...)
Should I proceed with making this fantasy real?
Q. i have the fantasy of seeing my wife getting fucked by another male, particular our neighbour, who is showing a sort of interest in her. She also likes him and she is ready to have sex with atleast Once. By this thought only, I get excited and perf...
A. 25 June 2008: I don't think you realise just how much of a strain this may put on your relationship. Some things like this are best left as a fantasy. Also, things seem to be better in your imagination than they do in real life!!
You must understand that bot... (read in full...)
She's starting to act interested and almost jealous now, after rejecting me! What to do?
Q. I've liked this girl for a LONG time and pursued and let her know many times, only to be rejected.. we are still friends but now.. when eventually I've just given up and started getting on with someone else really well she is starting to act ...
A. 25 June 2008: I'd say she is interested, girls don't get jealous over nothing! But do you really want someone who's going to mess you around? Maybe she's just making you chase but I don't think I'd personally try to impress anyone who'd previously turned me down. ... (read in full...)
I just don't know what my heart wants! And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. argh help! i dont know what i'm doing! i broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago after a 2 year long relationship, the breakup wasn't brilliantly handled on my part in the sense that i'd never broken up with someone before and I broke up with ...
A. 25 June 2008: If you're not 100% certain that you shouldn't be with her then you shouldn't be. You need to step up and act like a man, tell her you're still so fond of her, but step away or you will end up hurting her more.
I was in a similar situation with an ... (read in full...)
Why does she treat me like dirt?
Q. I have been seeing a woman for 6 months, there have been good times and bad times, but overall there has been progress...and that is what keeps me in this relationship. However, I am burnt out and my heart is dying, and on the two occassions I pla...
A. 27 May 2008: You will need to find the strength in friends and family, honey. This cannot go on. This woman is taking you for a ride + it's just not fair!
Was it you who messaged me? I meant to reply, we'll have to talk on here if you don't have MSN. =] x... (read in full...)
Why does she treat me like dirt?
Q. I have been seeing a woman for 6 months, there have been good times and bad times, but overall there has been progress...and that is what keeps me in this relationship. However, I am burnt out and my heart is dying, and on the two occassions I pla...
A. 27 May 2008: Okay, this lady seems dire, can you I ask you why are you still with her? She clearly has little to no respect for you, I think you're going to have to be strong + calls it quits. You seem to be gaining nothing from this relationship + neither does ... (read in full...)
Should I get a tummy tuck?
Q. I'm a plus size lady that has big tits and ass but the only thing is my stomach is also big. i've lost weight but my stomach didn't go anywhere. i don't have any problems with the guys but i want to get rid of it. should i get a tummy tuck?...
A. 27 May 2008: It's more complicated than a straight forward yes or no. Have you always been bigger? Or have you put it on in your twenties? If so you need to address the reason of why you have put on the weight. There may be more psychological reasons that need ... (read in full...)
We're expecting our first child and he's texting his ex to ask for naked picture "for fun" !
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years, we're expecting our first child! I have started to have some serious trust issues with him, it's driving me mad and it's all started with an ex of his i caught him texting her loads of ...
A. 23 April 2008: Tell him to sort it out! He shouldn't be messing you around like this when you're carrying his baby! Tell him to grow up. Ask him would he find it funny if an ex sent naked photos of themselves to you... I can guarantee he wouldn't. I'd sort this ... (read in full...)
My instincts are refusing me to go out with him! What's wrong with me?
Q. i dont understand my feelings, this boy likes me he asked me out online even though he goes the same school as me. I said yes. however he asked me to go to his house the next day i sd yes but on the mornin i canceled n told him didnt want to go...
A. 23 April 2008: Maybe you're subconciously telling yourself you don't like him that much at all and it's cruel to lead him along? It's natural to feel flattered when someone likes you and asks you out, and in the heat of the moment, you said yes. Then when it came ... (read in full...)
First day at high school soon. Where should I sit at lunch?
Q. Next year I'll be going to a new high school. I don't know anyone else who's going there. I'm kind of shy and I don't know where to sit at lunch on the first day. When I was in kindergarten, we only went for half of the day and didn't have lunch, ...
A. 20 April 2008: Try not to worry about it too much, sweetie. I'm sure there'll be plenty of other people in the same boat as you + you'll make friends in your classes before lunchtime so you'll have someone to talk to.. Then as the weeks go by you'll start to ... (read in full...)
He forced me onto the bed and hurt me, but I still love him. How do I learn to trust him?
Q. A few nights ago i was with my boyfriend and we had a fight. I got fed up with him and started egnoring him. That pissed him off worse so he grabbed me and forced me to look and him and he grabbed my arms really tight and it hurt and i screamed at ...
A. 20 April 2008: Sweetie, you shouldn't want to trust him again after he's treated you that badly. You should get out while you still can! I know it's hard, but there's so many much nicer guys out there for you who will treat you with the respect + compassion that ... (read in full...)
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