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... Send *uperbunny a private message | | | *uperbunny's profile:I am a strong believer in "treat people as you wish to be treated" - because at the end of the day everyone just wants their beliefs, thoughts and lives to be respected and treated with a bit of dignity. Plus, I'm sick of people trying to force their beliefs on other people - sexuality, religious... I wonder where this desire to interfere in other people's lives came from?!?
I also am a great believer in karma. My greatest belief in this comes from the amount of people who cheat in relationships who then find it hard to trust people - shot yourself in the foot there, sunshine!
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SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 28 September 2007: Ooo, I initially thought of the whole "being able to search old answers" but I think that these make the answers a lot less personal to the individual and are therefore less helpful than individual advice. :] x... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 28 September 2007: A big notice saying "Please don't give our aunties crap ratings just because they don't say that you want to hear"! :] x... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years have moved away to University. He's getting on better with the girls than the guys. I'm so worried!
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years has moved away 2 uni. we're each others first love and used to see each other everyday.we were unseperable. now he's moved away im finding it so difficult. everytime i speak to him (which isnt that often) ...
A. 26 September 2007: You're just used to feeling really close to him, honey! Now he's been torn away you're bound to be feeling all insecure and jealous of girls he's with. Well, I'd look at it this way: if he's out with the lads - they'll be out on the pull, if he's ... (read in full...)
Should we have a baby? I'm 19, he's 28
Q. I think I want a baby, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. we get on well some of the time and we have discussed it before. how do I know if its right or not? Im nearly 19 and he is 28. ...
A. 26 September 2007: In my opnion, no. You're still very young and as in love as you are, that may change a couple of years down the line and it'll be an exceptionally messy break-up if a child is involved, but that's just my opinion. x... (read in full...)
How can I seem a little more convincing this weekend when she said we'll talk again?
Q. my gf just broke up with me the other day and said she needed some time along for a while, she says im not convincing when i tell her i trust her, so how can i seem a little more convincing this weekend when she said we'll talk again?...
A. 26 September 2007: It's a bit hard to say without hearing more about the situation, honey. x... (read in full...)
I have issues with self-confidence, and I get jealous when my girlfriend and her friends talk about hot guys. What should I do?
Q. Hey - I'm a schoolkid and I think I have serious self confidence issues about the way I look etc. I have a girlfriend who I really love, its just... She talks to her friends and stuff about who in our year is fit/hot etc, and I kind of get the ...
A. 26 September 2007: Sugar, welcome to the mind of a teenage girl!
Firstly, there's an expression a friend of mine called "window shopping," you can appreciate who is hot and things without actually going for them - meaning you have nothing to worry about at all! I'm... (read in full...)
I don't want to throw our love away because of unsatisfied curiosity, SO would it be wrong to allow her to be with other men, if she tells me beforehand?
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been together for a year, we really love eachother. I am quiet sexually experienced, she on the other hand was a virgin before me. I ask her if she feels like she needs to find out what sex with other ppl is like, she say...
A. 26 September 2007: Seems like a very "generous" thing to do, if you ask me! :] Some guys don't like knowing their girls are doing that - but as long as you're happy with it and you tell her and she IS honest with you, then I guess there's nothing wrong with it. :] x... (read in full...)
His communication is getting less, it is killing me, what do I do?
Q. help me please!!!!!! i am with my boyfreind and everything was going fine (he works away) and all of a sudden he just stoped texting me and ringing me so ive tried texting him and no reply so i rang him the other day and he said he was busy and he w...
A. 26 September 2007: Don't be frightened of being on your own - if you need to get out of the relationship, get out. It's only going to hurt you more in the long run. Glad to have been of some help! :] x... (read in full...)
My mother treats me unfairly, and favorises my brother. Can't see what I have been doing wrong.
Q. I struggle with my mum's relationship with my brother. He's a year older than me. I'm very envious, which often makes me nasty towards both of them. My mum seems to think he is the most perfect person in the world, even though he dropped out of ...
A. 25 September 2007: thank you for the advice, my sweeties. :] x... (read in full...)
I can't understand why he won't give me a chance if he loves me!
Q. can anyone help? me and my bf broke up over a month ago we where fighting a lot and i was very insecure and didnt trust him i have begged him back but he said no that he loves me but cant be with me hes not the same coz of all the fightin. he has ...
A. 25 September 2007: Maybe he just saw a side to you which he wasn't prepared to see? It's not the biggest compliments to a guy if we're insecure or lack trust in them all the time - maybe by "get your act together," he means that he wants you to get some confidence and ... (read in full...)
I really like him... but am I wasting my time?
Q. Ok so Ive like this guy for about two and a half months now who I have slept with prolly six or seven times now. When we first started hanging out he was really sweet and wanted to hang out all the time but then after about a month he told me he ...
A. 25 September 2007: This may not be the answer you're looking for - but he is nearly 100% certainly using you for sex. He gets jealous of these guys dancing with you because you're his 'sex buddy'. If you wanted a relationship; you shouldn't have pounced into bed with ... (read in full...)
Am I in Love and do you think he Loves me? Not sure!
Q. Hi I recently started going out with my boyfriend and we have been together nearly a month now but he is my first real boyfriend and I dont know how to react around him. I find I always want to text him just for an excuse to talk to him, I cant ...
A. 25 September 2007: Aww, sounds like someone's in love! Congratulations! :] It's hard to tell if he loves you, as I don't know him personally, but if he makes you this happy then he's got to be a keeper! Enjoy! :] x... (read in full...)
His communication is getting less, it is killing me, what do I do?
Q. help me please!!!!!! i am with my boyfreind and everything was going fine (he works away) and all of a sudden he just stoped texting me and ringing me so ive tried texting him and no reply so i rang him the other day and he said he was busy and he w...
A. 25 September 2007: You don't deserve to be messed around, sweetie. Call him, ask him what the deal is and if he says he'll call you back don't take it, ask him what's up and sort it. That's the only way, babe. It doesn't take much to send a text. Hope this has helped ... (read in full...)
What are the first steps to an abortion, once you discover pregnancy?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone could help me, once you find out you are pregnant, what are the first steps to getting an abortion? Do you HAVE to go via a GP in the UK? Also, do you have to persuade the doctor to let you have the termination or do ...
A. 22 September 2007: thank you so much, guys! :] x... (read in full...)
My wife became depressed after having our first child. She has now met new male friends over the internet. Is there a cause for concern here?
Q. My wife and I have been married three years and we've had a great relationship. She was recently depressed after having our first child and turned to the internet to find happiness. She has new male friends, should I be concerned? She told me she ...
A. 21 September 2007: Well, I suppose if she's been honest with you, you've got nothing to fear. Don't worry about pretend relationships - you're the real deal, honey! I'd only be worried if you'd asked her to stop and she was still talking to them behind your back... (read in full...)
Sooo many problems that I need to sort out. I feel like a nobody. Please, please help me!
Q. can anybody help a looser?? i feel like a complete nobody at the minute. i am so depressed and yes i know its my fault but i dont know what to do about it. i am a 15, female and live in the uk. have a mum, no dad, no grandparents and no other fa...
A. 21 September 2007: Honey, Without sounding like a patronising old bat, have you thought about counselling at all? You've been through a fair lot and you're so young! Perhaps it would be good to talk it through with someone - maybe your mum? Running away won't sol... (read in full...)
My online interest... seems to be losing interest! Am I being unreasonable?
Q. i am so confused, i met a guy on a bbw internet dating site a few months ago. we have spoken threw the site and msn for a month or so now.we have exchanged phoned numbers and he has called me and now wishes us to meet, however....he doesnt seem to ...
A. 21 September 2007: Hi honey, I think it's hard to judge someone too much until you've met them. You'll probably be able to suss out if he's an ego booster/player/for real once you've met him - probably within the first five minutes. I think one thing we all tend to... (read in full...)
I just have something to say to my fellow agony aunts!...
Q. this is not a question as such. i would just like to say that i don't understand why people seek advice and then become completely arrogant when you say something they dislike. in their head they have the answer they want and therefore ask a ...
A. 21 September 2007: It amuses me when they give aunts/uncles "POOR" ratings on their columns because they didn't give the answer the questioner wanted to hear! :p x... (read in full...)
I want to apologize but I feel like he owes me one as well...
Q. i accidently insulted the guy i'm crushing on about his looks. i was only joking around and i didnt think it was really hurtful. but apparently he did. he now acts coldly toward me and even told a friend of mine that i joke around a lot but someti...
A. 21 September 2007: To be honest, it takes a lot to insult a guy so whatever you said must have hurt him a bit! You've obviously hit his pride a little bit, which to guys is a big thing. I think the thing here is to act maturely about this and just say you were sorry ... (read in full...)
Is he in it for sex, as his words when he was drunk made me believe/doubt?
Q. I am 19 years old and the guy I started seeing is 24. We come from completely different sides of the 'spectrum', so to speak. He is the sweetest most beautiful person I've met, inside and out. We connected like puzzle pieces and have the same ...
A. 21 September 2007: If someone had said that to me, I would just take it as a compliment that you're either good at sex or he thinks you'd be good at sex. I know it can be difficult at times, but try not too hard to read into what people say when they're drunk. ... (read in full...)
Do you wait until the person is completely over her ex or help her find a new meaning of love?
Q. I want to see what everyone thinks about [me] getting involved with someone who is making an attempt to get over their ex and trying to move on with their life. Do you wait till she has completely recovered? Or do you date to help them find a...
A. 21 September 2007: I think it's all a matter of opinion, really. If you're genuinely interested in this girl, then maybe just acting as a friend while she "recovers" from the break up before trying to move on to something a little more serious might help. :] Sorr... (read in full...)
More information about bj.
Q. How do you give a blowjob? People say "suck me off" but then it's called a "blow job". What excatly do you do!? Suck or blow? And do most people use a condom when giving one? Does this turn a guy off? Does it taste bad doing it without a con...
A. 21 September 2007: To start with - suck, not blow! The whole condom issue is a matter of personal preference. Some people dislike the taste of semen, or find it more hygenic to use a condom - this is perfectly fine. But it is just as fine to do it without a condom... (read in full...)
Do all guys go through stages like this?
Q. I went away on holiday for 11 days, and though we spoke to each other on MSN, he felt distant. He says he still loves me and we're still good together, he's just not interested in sex anymore/at the moment. Is there something wrong with me? S...
A. 21 September 2007: I think it's natural for everyone to be taking a break from sex every now + again.. A bit of breathing time. :] I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you at all - he's bound to feel distant if you're on holiday, he obviously missed you! Hope thi... (read in full...)
How do I figure out if I am being overly sensitive or if my feelings are legit
Q. Relationships are always stressful because I "over think" everything. I'm not sure my girlfriend is really right for me, so what do I ask myself to determine if I'm truly being overly sensitve or if what bothers me is legit?...
A. 21 September 2007: It's hard to tell if you overthink things from a small little paragraph - message me if you'd like to chat some more. :]
But, if you're wondering if someone's really right for you then chances are they aren't but don't forget it's perfectl... (read in full...)
I got my period while having sex
Q. I'm 15 and having the scare of my life.....I had sex a few weeks ago and got my period during it and he wasnt wearing a condom....than 3 days later it stopped and my period lasts 6 days....could this mean I'm pregnant? And if your not sure how long ...
A. 21 September 2007: It's ALWAYS best to take a test just in case, sweetie. Better safe than sorry. :] Use a condom next time so you don't have to go through all this again. x... (read in full...)
She laughed of my body as we were getting intimate. What should I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were "getting in the mood", but when I dropped my pants she laughed and said I was small. What should I do?...
A. 16 September 2007: If you ask me, it's pointless to be in a relationship with someone who can be that immature. She should respect you for you - ditch her! :] x... (read in full...)
Is there a chance of him liking me? I'm shy, so what should I do?
Q. Okay so i have a big crush on my friend that i have known since we were 3. He is a month younger than me so he got put into the year below me and he has just come to my secondary school. We dont hardly talk now but sometimes i feel him staring at ...
A. 14 September 2007: I'm sure you're gorgeous, sweetie, nobody is just average - who's to say what average is, anyway?! :] There's a chance he could like you, but there's also a chance he might not. Just because a guy has "popular girls" after him, doesn't mean he'll ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is demanding about sex and caused me serious pain last time. I love him, but I don't know what to do.
Q. i have this problem, my bf treats me like a sex toy, every time we see each other he demands a god 3 hour sex sesson. though i allow him to have sex with me, i feel that it is just to satisfy him and not for our relationship. we have been together ...
A. 13 September 2007: GET RID OF HIM NOW, SWEETHEART! x... (read in full...)
I only see my bf on weekends and now I think I'm starting to like someone else!
Q. Help! i've been with my boyfriend for over a year and i really do love him. the problem is that i only see him at the weekends, in between i think there is another guy i'm beginning to like. we work at the same place so i see him all the time. i'm ...
A. 12 September 2007: I was kind of in a similar position as you + I stuck it out with my long distance boy + it worked! You can make anything work if you want it too. :] It might just be the thrill of something new - but that's not a crime. Hope everything works out ... (read in full...)
I am crazy about my friend and I don't know how to deal with it right now. Please help!
Q. I can't stop thinking about one of my friends!!!! weve kissed and shared a bed with eachother a few times but i havnt slept with him because he doesn't want a relationship, but neither do i!! i just love being around him and when im not with him hes ...
A. 12 September 2007: Are you sure you're not confusing "love" + simply enjoying his company? It's possibly you're just very close + then you're bound to enjoy his company very much. You could tell him how you feel, although I'm not sure there's much to gain from it to ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 18. I'm nt making any moves on him, but I like him so much that it's killing me! Help!
Q. okay well my problem is iv recently fallen in love with this guy of 18 (im 15) iv known him all my life but iv recently developed strong feelings towards him, more than iv ever had for anyone before. i know there is a big age gap, so am not making a...
A. 12 September 2007: I'm eighteen at the moment, and to be quite blunt with you, I think I'd feel uncomfortable dating a fifteen year old, the other Aunts are right, wait until you're sixteen so he can't get into trouble if anything did happen - but I personally don't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't communicating with me right now. I could use some advice.
Q. I met my boyfriend about 2 years on an internet dating site. Due to some personal situations we only started seeing each other more seriously about 6 months ago. Since then our relationship has been quite good. We are both independently minded ...
A. 12 September 2007: With a bit more information, we may be able to help. Maybe he just needs a bit of space at the moment? If you want to message me to talk some more, feel free. Hope everything works out okay. :] x... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'll cause trouble b/c his ex doesn't like me and she is friends w/ his sister!
Q. this lad i know split up with his fiance about three months ago, i was out drinking and bumped in to him and we have been texting ever since and we met up for a drink, i am just worried that it will cause trouble if we get together because his ex ...
A. 12 September 2007: Exactly what Rockelle said, and another point: does it matter what his ex thinks? Exes hardly ever like current girlfriends, it's just one of those things. x... (read in full...)
My belly-button peircing is painful and red. Any advice?
Q. In June (2007) I got my belly-button pierced. It is now September and it's still red around the piercing and is still sore if I bump it accidentally (which I do all too often). It's not bleeding, or oozing, but every couple of days there's a little ...
A. 12 September 2007: I got my belly done the exact same month you did + yeah, mine still does that. The healing time varies on different people - you've just got to be paitent. :] Hope that's helped! x... (read in full...)
My friend's future husband has been diagnosed with cancer, I dearly want to be able to give them something special as wedding gift. Ideas, please?
Q. Hi, I am hoping to get some help and ideas. One of my best friends is getting married in 3 weeks. The thing is, it isnt your usual wedding as her fiance has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer, and has been given 2 good months, with 2 bad mo...
A. 11 September 2007: I'm sorry to hear about your friend's husband. Well, it depends how much you intend to spend, I mean if you've got a bit of cash, perhaps a nice weekend away together would be nice... You can't go wrong in a gift though; it is the thought after all. ... (read in full...)
I am afraid she will run away if I come on too strong and try to see her more.To girls: what is she up to?
Q. I have been seeing a girl for about a month, we have had about 6-7 dates. Most have been initiated by me. We haven't kissed properly yet, it just seems a bit awkward although we both do like each other. She doesn't call me just for a chat, but has ...
A. 11 September 2007: She could be taking things slowly, has she been burned in the past perhaps and wants to suss you out before rushing into anything? Give her time - she might just be worth the wait. Hope things work out for the best - message me if you want to talk. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me without giving a reason and now ignores me, and I have a hard time at the job. Help.
Q. my life is a complete mess right now and i dont know how to get out of it. i just started a new job in a care home about 4 weeks ago and its taking me a while to get the hang of it and everyone else is frustrated cause i make silly mistakes like ...
A. 11 September 2007: Oh dear, honey! As for the guy, he sounds like a right idiot and pathetic if all his mates are texting you saying rubbish like that, he's no man if he has to get his mates to express his feelings for him! Ignore it, delete him off your phone, it'l... (read in full...)
I have no interests anymore, and no motivation. Please help!
Q. Hello everyone, I need some help from anyone willing to give me advice. In the past I have made many bad decisions in life. My parents have never been a very good influence in my life at all, and still aren't, and I have not many friends, as I move ...
A. 11 September 2007: Aww, honey - seems you've lost your footing a bit. :]
Your job can play a big part in your life - people who work with nice people seem to be happier people themselves; forgive me if this sounds stupid but seeing as spend most of our time working ... (read in full...)
Is she nice because she likes me or is it simply kindness? We had a relationship in the past, what do I do?
Q. Hi, I first found the love of my life close to 4 years ago, I know most people say they find love as a teen and you may not believe me but that's beside the point. After meeting her at school we grew extremely close, closer than i've been with ...
A. 11 September 2007: I think the reason you've got such strong feelings for her is because you have spent so much time together and there's been little room for anyone else inbetween all these feelings and what-ifs. You need to branch off, meet other girls, at first ... (read in full...)
I'm married to a great man, but I think I'm in love with his brother, who makes me feel really special.
Q. I'm married to a great man he works hard for us but things havent been going well for a while i feel the love has gone out of our relationship. He's quite a bit older than me but his brother makes me feel really special he's made a few pass...
A. 11 September 2007: I think the attraction to your brother-in-law is the whole 'forbidden fruit' thing; you want it because it's not supposed to happen - which is why he's stuck in your head.
As for your husband, you need to talk to him. Don't pack in the towel an... (read in full...)
My guy wants to move in with me!! ...and bring his brother, too. What do I do?
Q. I am afraid that my boyfriend will never move away from his brother. We have talked about our futures before and he always brings up taking care of his brother. They are only a few years apart but I think that I'm going to have difficulity. He ...
A. 11 September 2007: Maybe he feels protective of his brother for whatever reason - perhaps an experience in the past that brought them close together or exposed his brother as vulnerable? Talk to him about it, that's the only way any of this is going to get sorted, ... (read in full...)
How do you get a guy to like you?
Q. Has anyone got any tips on how to get a guy to like you? e.g flirting tips. Anything would be great! xx...
A. 11 September 2007: Act confident, most lads adore a girl who is confident - but not one who is offering herself on a plate. Just act calm, confident and normal. Guys hate girls who try to act like they're something they're not. They can see straight through it. Good ... (read in full...)
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