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writes:Hi im 18 and i am totally mixed up at the minute!! i fell out with my boyfriend of 3 years about 3 months ago Now i have found myself starting to like his friend and his friend feels the same way as we have met up a few times and he has been texting me and telling me how he feels and that he is messed up about what to do because of his best friend (a.k.a. my ex) he has been there for me through out the whole break up and has been there whenever i have had problems!!we havnt told any 1 and i had to lie to my friend about where i was and she doesnt believe me and now has stopped speaking to me!!i dont know what to do!! it was so much easier when i was with my ex i wasnt hurting any 1 by being with him (except myself) and feel i miss him!! please help its making me ill!thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): i am scared of starting another relationship i mean i only fell out with my ex about 4 months ago but i do really like this guy!! i dont want to hurt any 1 or stop seeing him!! we have decided to talk about whether it is worth all the shit that is going to come with it!
i am scared of being hated but i cant help who i fall for
btw.(we fell out because he 'felt like something wasnt right' i had to end it as he was making excuses not to see or speak to me)
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Once these relationships come out in the open, they tend to unravel. The "secrecy" of them is what adds to the excitement. I'm not exactly sure why you'd lie to YOUR friend about it (she's not really involved) so that's a whole different deal. Then you say you now think you miss your ex? I'm sure he'll get over you pretty fast when he discovers you've been with his best friend. I would just stop lying and it will all become so much more clear or just stay away from them both. Why did you and the ex break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): ive been in your ex's position. i and recommend that you dont get with his friend. "if a girl gets with ur best friend shes a hoe"..
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reader, superbunny + ♥, writes (2 March 2008):
 Often, I think, when people fancy their boyfriend's best mates or whatever, it's the case of the "forbidden fruit". You find him attractive because deep down you feel you shouldn't because of your ex. I really wouldn't start lying to your friends about where you've been to be with a lad.. Don't burn bridges that you may need!I don't think it's fair to do something with the friend if you still think you have feelings for your ex or vice versa because it's unfair on them.If I were you I'd steer clear. If you mess up their friendship it will make you exceptionally unpopular in the long run.. But that's just my opinion.Message me if you'd like to chat more. I hope it all works out well. :] x
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