I want to tell his girlfriend he's a cheater!
Q. So i've known this guy for 2 years. We met through mutual friends. We used to triple date alot, and it was really fun. He and his gf were very cute together. They still are. I forget their history now, but i know they've been together a while. He ...
A. 4 January 2011: I agree with the write below. I would want to know who the person I am dating is. It might be painful, but it will help her make an informed decision. Sounds like he is a horrible ass.... (read in full...)
I have no idea who he really is!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 months. Everything has been great, we hit it off, have fun, laugh and we usually see one another 3-4 times a week and I will sleep over. Well suddenly after xmas he seems different. Telling me he has been ...
A. 4 January 2011: This is where you need to stop over thinking things and finding excuses. Time to dump him and move. Don't look back. Him not contacting you is horrible enough, but flirting via text with a pretend female?! Now you know exactly what type of guy he ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, but then tells me he loves me! Is it even possible to move past this?
Q. I need some advice on how to trust my boyfriend again, and how to move on and forgive him. We have been together for a year now, and moved in together six months ago. I've always been insecure for some reason, and am guilty of going through his ...
A. 3 January 2011: I'm really sorry this happened to you. It most feel absolutely horrible!
However, when I read your letter I could not help but see a woman who is extremely insecure. To the point where you allow yourself to be mistreated and abused. Cheating... (read in full...)
I took a girl's lost blackberry and everyone has found out and started abusing me on facebook!
Q. A few days after christmas my cousin had a house party and at this party i found a phone on the floor. I put it in my pocket, planning to keep it but when the party finished the girl who had lost the phone was in tears. But i didnt give it back. ...
A. 3 January 2011: Karma. Don't do something like it again!... (read in full...)
Is he done with this relationship but just not man enough to end it?
Q. I have been dating a man for 7 months. We are both in our mid thirties. Our interests and our faults complimented one another, and we got along great. The sexual chemistry is fantastic. We live an hour away from one another, and it was beneficial in ...
A. 12 December 2010: Sounds like he is on the break up track. Break up with him before he gets the chance to do it first.
My BF read your question, he said he did the same thing to an ex b/c she just wasn't the one.
Protect yourself and you emotions. The ma... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was robbed and says that if I love him I should go cash in my bonds and give it to him
Q. My boyfriend was robbed for several hundred dollars, right before Christmas. He has a 6 yr old we've been together for 3 1/2 yrs. The past year has been rocky because he cheated on me and I'm stiiill trying to regain all the trust. He says because ...
A. 12 December 2010: Sounds like you're a doormat, simply by you asking this question, you at least know that something is off. Listen to your gut.
You shouldn't be with him in the first place, he cheated on you IN ADDITION to being very manipulative and selfish.... (read in full...)
She's playing hard to get!!!
Q. I'm in the friend-zone with "Veronica", who lives with her sister, "Betty". "Veronica" sets me up on a blind date with "Betty". I call, I drive, I pay, I entertain, I think of things for us to talk about. "Betty" doesn't lift her precious pinky ...
A. 11 December 2010: NOPE! She's not THAT into you.... (read in full...)
I'm married but am friends with benefits with a co worker
Q. I am married for four years been together for nine years. And we have a six year old son together. My husband is a control freak had to know where, when, who and what!! And if I ask him to do anything especially when it comes to my family the answer ...
A. 9 December 2010: Okay both situations are unhealthy. Abusive controlling husband vs a guy that is using and neglecting you.
I say you're on the right track not staying with your husband, but you're not doing yourself a favor seeing this other guy who really i... (read in full...)
Planning to leave the nest but not sure how to handle things till then.
Q. I don't know how to deal with my mother anymore. I'm from quite a strict european background, but it's not my dad who's strict but my mom. I'm 27 and I still live at home as I've bought a house together with my parents to help them out and for...
A. 7 December 2010: Yes I do have some tips as I have a mother like this and had to finally break free! I'm 28!
I took counseling and realized that my mother has a mental disorder...she's a narcissistic where everything is projected back to her. She isn't comforta... (read in full...)
I can't get over that he had a rebound girl!
Q. Hey everyone, So, my boyfriend of a year and I broke up (it was one of those that ended with "FINE!" "OKAY FINE!") this past August, and we recently (about a month ago) reconciled somewhat and are trying again and things have been going prett...
A. 6 December 2010: Move on. He sounds like he has anger issues. You didn't do yourself a favor by getting back with him. REad, 'why men marry bitches' and "he's just not that into you'. When you're not 100% comfy you know its time to 1. seek counseling together or 2. ... (read in full...)
I'lll never be able to accept he's with other women!
Q. Right, this is the first time I've ever done this so bear with me. I was with my ex for over 2 and a half years. When it was good, it was amazing and when it was bad, it was absolutely awful. I have a lot of insecurities and trust issues (w...
A. 6 December 2010: Well he's obviously moved on.
In fact, I think he's done you a HUGE favor. Does not sound like he was THAT great of a guy with his anger issues and all.
How about taking the time now to focus on yourself and improving your life. A man wil... (read in full...)
Can we get past this, or is the situation hopeless?
Q. Help me! Me and my gf were together for a year and a half before we broke up and we have a baby together. We took a break for six months and jst got back together. Things were good at first but now its turning into our first relationship all over ...
A. 2 December 2010: Counselling
YOu two are so young, still immature, still very emotional and at time irrational. It would be good to get a third objective party involved. ... (read in full...)
I cheated and caused him so much pain!
Q. Cheating is not or will not ever be worth it! I cheated and have been suffering for it for the last two months. Its driving me crazy! He treated me bad for so long and never wanted to even have sex with me. I got turned down countless times when I ...
A. 1 December 2010: The bigger problem here is that he abuses you! You're actions, although wrong, were the reason of him 'putting his hands' on you and neglecting you. Why save this relationship my dear? WAlk away, its only going to get worse from here. Before, when ... (read in full...)
Engagement ring for Christmas..good or bad idea?
Q. So I am considering giving my lady an engagement ring for christmas, is this a good or a bad idea. I am sure she will say yes, but didn't know if this was an acceptable gift or not. If I do, I will wrap the ring box, and inside the box put a li...
A. 30 November 2010: That is perfect!! Sooo sweet!... (read in full...)
I tricked my boyfriend into meeting up by pretending to be someone else
Q. Found bf of 2 yrs on ashley madison which he then deleted Later found him onb aff and I set up fake I'd and messaged him He finally responded and we shared some detail emails basicallt About sex. After an invitation to meet and very detail of ...
A. 30 November 2010: Nothing to be confused about. This one is game over. If you stay, you'll be the dummy in all of his future jokes. You're clearly his insurance option, he's trolling for sex with others.... (read in full...)
I tricked my boyfriend into meeting up by pretending to be someone else
Q. Found bf of 2 yrs on ashley madison which he then deleted Later found him onb aff and I set up fake I'd and messaged him He finally responded and we shared some detail emails basicallt About sex. After an invitation to meet and very detail of ...
A. 30 November 2010: He's manipulating you right now so you question your instinct and the truth. What a dirtball. Please please, no matter how much it hurts, leave him. This is NOT forgiveable. Love yourself first before anyone else.... (read in full...)
I don't know what to make of someone that could cheat, propose, and marry me without ever telling me that he cheated on me.
Q. I've been married for less than a year. And I just discovered that my husband cheated on me 4 years into our relationship. I found out he proposed to me a few months after he cheated (sexual and emotional relationship with other woman). I am so ...
A. 30 November 2010: HUGE RED FLAG - LEAVE HIM HUN!!!!! The lieing and keeping information away from you (for whatever reason) is a big bad sign!!!... (read in full...)
I can't match his efforts when it comes to money!
Q. Hi, I'm a 23 yr old female and my partner and I have been friends 2 years, together 5 months and living together 6 weeks. It may seem fast but it feels right for both of us and we're buying a house together in a few months. Lately we keep ...
A. 28 November 2010: Well, he can't stop living his lifestyle just because you do not feel its fair and because you cannot keep up. He's paying for your vacations and willing to help you. All great signs.
What you do need to sit him down and talk about is how you feel... (read in full...)
Is this always the case, one partner loves the other more?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year, and I love him more than I ever thought was possible, he makes me extremely happy. However, for most of our relationship I've felt like I love him more than he loves me. I told him this and he said that I was ...
A. 28 November 2010: Don't you think being open and being easily able to communicate is important in a relationship heading down the marriage track?? You need to sit him down and have a chat about this - the style of communication and what he wants. Better to know ... (read in full...)
He picks his friends and fishing over time spent with me
Q. Right now, I get to see J. once or twice a week because of work. I'm leaving Tuesday for a wedding and won't be back for two weeks. Yesterday, he told me nothing. Calls me up out of nowhere to go fishing at 8pm and I find out he sees me because his ...
A. 28 November 2010: Yes, this is not normal. When a man is in love with you, he wants to spent loads of time with you. Race has nothing to do with it. Honestly, this a decision you can only make - what will you tolerate and what do you want? You are right, there will ... (read in full...)
We only got back together because he promised not to lie, but he is telling lies again already
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for about 5yrs, he was married for 19 yrs and I for 21 years. During the time we have been together he has cheated on me (he says only 1 time but I'm not sure) and have gotten busted lying to me ...
A. 28 November 2010: He's like dating a little child. You really need to get yourself together and move on. Find a wonderful mature man, not a man you have to treat like a child. No one likes an angry mummy, much less a grown child like him. Just do yourself a favor.
... (read in full...)
I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store.
Q. I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store. The first time I saw her I was so thunderstruck and giddy, as soon as I got home I blurted out to my wife about the beautiful the girl I just saw. I usually think before I speak. A little ...
A. 27 November 2010: Disagree with ivanichiaynus
You've never talked to her other than a few words, you don't know who she is sleeping with, you dont know her hobbies/interests, her aspirations and hopes....You know nothing about the girl. You've barely said a few w... (read in full...)
I feel so lost after losing this baby...
Q. Me and my husband have together for 5 years and have been married for 3... We got pregnant about 9 months ago but i lost the baby and didint tell him because he said he would leave me... I dont know what to do because he is going to tell everyone i ...
A. 27 November 2010: I think there is a bigger problem here. Why are you with a man who does not support you and treat you well? He would leave you?! He would tell everyone you faked it!!?? Consider this a blessing in disguise, you're not having a baby with a very ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost after losing this baby...
Q. Me and my husband have together for 5 years and have been married for 3... We got pregnant about 9 months ago but i lost the baby and didint tell him because he said he would leave me... I dont know what to do because he is going to tell everyone i ...
A. 27 November 2010: I think there is a bigger problem here. Why are you with a man who does not support you and treat you well? He would leave you?! He would tell everyone you faked it!!?? Consider this a blessing in disguise, you're not having a baby with a very ... (read in full...)
I feel like my life is over before it's even begun
Q. This isnt really a relationship question as such but the relationship aspect is part of a larger problem. this is probably going to be quite a long question im afraid. The problem is that ever since i left high school i feel like my life has been...
A. 27 November 2010: This is part of angst created through change.
First, throw that thought of killing yourself out! Very silly and I promise you 5/10 years down the line when things are much better you, you'll look back and life and just see it as nothing more tha... (read in full...)
Is the song "only girl in the world" actually possible?
Q. Im sure all of you are probably familiar with rihanna's new song "only girl" Well I have been in a few relationships and I want to know if it is actually possible to have your boyfriend treat you like the only girl in the world... Basically it means ...
A. 27 November 2010: I was just talking to my boyfriend about this song and this concept as I woke up!
he was trying to convince me that this is how he feels about me...I don't buy it. It's the little things, how he looks at me, whether he compliments me and goes gag... (read in full...)
He wanted an open relationship, should I tell him I've lost my virginity to someone else?
Q. Heyy. I've been with my boyfriend for a little under a year now and we're in a open relationship (per his request). I've always been fine with it, but prior to the situation I'm about to tell you about, I've only made out with a guy that wasn't my ...
A. 27 November 2010: Hun, why let yourself be in an open relationship. You're so young, you should be in a romeo & juliet type of relationship..lovey dovey, hand holding, kissing and always wanting to be with one another. Innocent!!! YOu're boyfriend is sick at a very ... (read in full...)
My husband tries to discipline me when I make a mistake!
Q. I've been married for about 4 months now and I'm having a strange problem with my husband: he wants to walk all over me. he's into spanking in the bedroom which I like but he also tries to "discipline" me when I make a mistake. I tried to play along ...
A. 25 November 2010: My dear, if you stay, 10 years from now you will be a very different person - an abuse victim with no confidence and no options. He's mentally (and physically) abusive. What is worse, is that he doesn't listen and change his behavior. He doesn't ... (read in full...)
I think we can make our marriage work but I could not survive another affair! What should I do?
Q. I found out about 10 days ago that my husband had an affair. After the initial hurt and a lot of talking with each other we have decided to give it ago. I took him back a couple of days ago desperate to make things work. I think he feels the same ...
A. 25 November 2010: I personally would never have taken him back. But, it is your decision and now you have to live with the hurt. YOU really need counseling by yourself and as a couple. There's no other way to get through it without this relationship healing ... (read in full...)
Opinions on ex's spending holidays together "for the kids"?
Q. What are some opinions ex's spending holidays together "for the kids". Does anyone else think it may send the wrong message to the kids that there is hope of a reconciliation between their parents? Especially when one of them has to leave their new ...
A. 25 November 2010: No, you are both wrong. HE SHOULD BE SPENDING ALL HIS HOLIDAYS WITH HIS KIDS!!! They are number one in his life over you and her. The right thing to do would be to take you over to her house to celebrate the holidays with the kids.
He shouldn'... (read in full...)
Can someone please explain why he keeps on being a jerk but he still keeps on contacting me?
Q. I've posted about this situation before but things keep happening and I am at a loss. So to recap, I met this guy on a dating site and we dated 2 months until he ended it with me. Things were really great at the beginning but about a month into it, ...
A. 17 November 2010: He thinks he can break you down to sleep with him. Guys think that if they chase enough, the girl will give in.
I'd forward his texts/emails to his new girl ;)... (read in full...)
Sex starved marriage
Q. I am lost, i have been married for 12 years and together with my wife for 14. I have 2 great kids 2 and 8 who i love to death. My issue is for about the last 4 years my marriage is missing the love and affection i need. My day to day is good go to ...
A. 16 November 2010: Tell her exactly how you feel - be raw and real. Tell her that not having that type of affection makes you want to leave or even cheat...
If she's a smart woman she will figure something out ...whether feeling good about herself to feel comfy in... (read in full...)
Does having a baby change whether he still wants to be with me?
Q. hi. I'm 32, was married for 12 years, no kids. my marriage was always troubled from the beginning and I did everything I could to make it work, went to marriage counseling, but my husband just didn't cooperate and so long ago I gave up and just res...
A. 13 November 2010: The child is an extension of his wife. He loves the wife as much as the child, DESPITE what he's been telling you.
He's fooled you my dear. He wanted to get married, he wanted to make a baby and he wants to stay in this marriage. You're the fool... (read in full...)
Ladies, would you give me a shot?
Q. Ok. I Have a question out there for all the Ladies. I am 26 and still have not had sex. Yes I am still a virgin. Is this normal. Do you ladies still find this attractive? I feel weird when all my friends talk about sex. They expect me to have had ...
A. 13 November 2010: MY BF didn't lose his till her was 27...he spent his late 20's and early 30's catching up....I would have prefered he had stayed a virgin or had way less sexual partners.... (read in full...)
I'm disturbed by the fact that my girlfriend had a lot of sexual partners before me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old male and I'm currently with my girlfriend of 4 months. She is 18 years old. We have been having regular sex since we were together, and I love her very much. In fact, I love her more than anyone I've ever been with. Unti...
A. 12 November 2010: I'd like to point out that I'm 26 and have had 2 partners. You are 22 and have had 6. Double my number. If you were my boyfriend, I'd feel exactly the same way about you. Now, would you be thinking about the six girls you had been with or living in ... (read in full...)
I agreed to an abortion but now I'm second guessing it!
Q. I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my 3 child which was unplanned. My partner who I've been with for 16 years wants me to terminate the pregnancy, I said I would, but am now not sure if I can go through with it. What should I do? ...
A. 11 November 2010: I guess your other two kids are with him too? I would think that this baby happened for a reason. he sounds rather selfish to want to abort his own flesh and blood....its a babbbbyyy for goodness sake. Cute, adorable wonderful little baby. How can ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't appreciate me
Q. I'm engaged to this guy I have been dating for 3 years. I love him very much, but a lot of things that he does, or doesn't do, makes me very unhappy. He is a firefighter. So he works 10 days a month. Because these are 24 hour shifts, he argues that ...
A. 11 November 2010: Well I can promise you that he is being 100% himself and this will NOT change when you get married.
I suggest counseling right now. If that doesn't work, you'll have to decide whether you can handle this or not for the rest of your life. If not, ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting to speak to my family ever again??
Q. This is a very complicated situation that has been around for many years. It is a long story but I will keep it as short as possible. Please, I really need advice so badly with this before it ruins my life even more. My father was an extremely vio...
A. 10 November 2010: I have a very abusive father and a very narsisitic mother who is very controlling and negative.
I heard nothing but criticism and abuse during my life. At 17 I ran away and did not talk to them for 3 years. They finally showed up at my door wan... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made me throw up from his comments
Q. After a comment my boyfriend made about my weight I started to throw up food after eating it I know I shouldn't I know it can cause a lot of health issues but if I don't do it ill sit their biting my nails feeling really anxious until I do it. I ...
A. 9 November 2010: How about rather than being so silly to throw up, you actually deal with your body the healthier (although harder) way and workout!!
Throwing up won't make you lean and tight. In fact, chances are your body will go into starvation mode and gain... (read in full...)
I'm tired of this double standard relationship. Is it time to let go?
Q. Here it goes. I've been with my bf for over two years. We have amazing chemistry unlike any I've known. He tells me daily he loves me, compliments me says the sweetest things at times to me. Also, speaks a lot of marriage. The problem is he's ...
A. 8 November 2010: My dear, you are in an abusive relationship.... (read in full...)
Time to put my big girl panties on!
Q. I've been with my husband since I was 19 and he was 35. Now I'm 24 and he is 40. He did not show his temper until after I got pregnant with our son. His anger problem is getting worst. Not just that, he is cold with me. I thought we were do...
A. 6 November 2010: surround yourself with good family and friends. You need more support now than ever. I think what he has done is beyond horrible - he's verbally abusive, distant, unaffectionate. Its all abusive. God, at 24 you have your whole life ahead of yo... (read in full...)
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