My life is out of control!!!
Q. Let me start with a brief backround. (I was diagnosed with OCD when i was a teen right now i am 25 years old and still suffer with ocd. I am currently going in grad school ; live with my parents, and have a curfew. Also my boyfriend just ended our 5 ...
A. 9 July 2010: I grew up in the same environment. My parents fought alot (horrible fights), I couldn't have friends, I had to be home right after school. All I could do was sit at home with them (listening to them fight and then take it out on us kids). We ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have a secret affair, as the sex situation is beyond repair?
Q. I am in a sexless Marriage (for over 3 years of no sex), and believe me I've tried to resolve it. But my wife remains uninterested in sex, and it just seems like we share a house as barely friends. I in the meantime have a very high sex drive, ...
A. 9 July 2010: Why not divorce? Isn't that the better option?... (read in full...)
Are all men like this?!
Q. Me and my bf are almost every time fighting over the same darn thing. SEX. If we didn't have sex in a while like for example in a week he starts telling me that this isn't normal, that we should have it more often, that no man can control it and ...
A. 4 July 2010: I disagree with the girls below - if you want to keep your man happy long term - give him sex at least 3/4 times per week! Men have 30 x the testosterone than women. Testosterone is one of the hormones that influences sex drive. This means 1 days ... (read in full...)
Can he overcome his retroactive jealousy?
Q. hi. I am a 24 year old... Ive been with my current boyfriend for over 2 years now..hes 3 years older than i am. and everything is great. he's sweet and caring. we get along so well. in fact, he's the only person that I've thoughts about getting ...
A. 3 July 2010: Do the same to him - start asking questions about his past, his flings, his gfs, the spacing between sexual partners. Make jugdments of him and be harsh - start freaking out. Give him a bit of his own medicine. Its what my bf did with me and it ... (read in full...)
I refuse to be a walking doormat!
Q. I been dating a guy for almost 2 years. We had a lot of problems because of him. Recently, a friend of his asked him to let a girl from another country stay with him for a few days. She came here looking for a career, and it turned out a scam. So, ...
A. 1 July 2010: I told my bf about this story. I agree fully with my BF
1. He kept a secret
2. a woman lived/lives with him
3. You're not allowed into his home
RED FLAG!!!!! HELLLOOO WAKE UP. At worst he's cheating and at best he is a liar who disrespects... (read in full...)
Is this sort of spree common in girls?
Q. My girlfriend has had sex with 6 people. I'm lucky number 7. While this number doesn't concern me too much, the fact that five of these people were within a 6 month period does give me pause. this occurred her last 6 months of college after ...
A. 28 June 2010: Of course it happens. Women are sexual beings just like men. Just like men, after a break up, women seek comfort too. Some people surround themselves with friends/hobbies, others have a rebound relationship where they take their anger/hurt out in ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I'm either going to go crazy or just die from a broken heart!
Q. I'm so lost I don't even know what to ask. I am about to go crazy because I've been so sad for so long. Loneliness, feelings of worthlessness, and sadness are destroying me and I don't have anyone to talk to. I don't want to burden my friends and ...
A. 21 June 2010: Garth Brooks song "Unanswered Prayers"... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xOXim5ZmSKc
Look - in order to give someone a healthy love, you have to be in a good spot in your life. Honestly, you sound like you are not, hun. You sound very very ne... (read in full...)
On the verge of breaking up as he's taking his exes side!
Q. "I was supposed to tell you last time, that I have something of a girlfriend. She likes to throw fits and, since she's a pretty jealous and paranoid creature, demanded that I make it clear to you that, yes, I am somewhat taken." "I guess she thinks ...
A. 16 June 2010: I know hun this will be difficult - you have feelings for him and do not want to be alone.
BUT, what he wrote says it all - he really isn't legitimizing this relationship. He's 'somewhat' taken just means he's still looking around, is not fully in... (read in full...)
I'd like tips on how to make up with him.
Q. I was hanging out with this guy off and on for 3 yrs. We never but a label on what we were. I mean it was like we were bf and gf. Anyhow he's mad at me and not talking 2 me now. We've been through this before him getting mad and not talking 2,but ...
A. 15 June 2010: Okay you should hear this: You did NOTHING wrong. When someone, a 'boyfriend' ignores you, you SHOULD call them out on it. Like you did. What you did was not significant compared to him ignoring you for the last month. He doesn't love you ... (read in full...)
Is something going on with my husband and the woman he works with?
Q. I have had suspicions that my husband has been having a relationship with a woman he works with. They were texting each other frequently and she confided in him about her sex life and personal issues--he was happy to 'help' her with relationship ...
A. 9 June 2010: No, there is something wrong here. I'm sorry but he's pushing the boundaries of marriage and professional behavior. Sounds like this might be an emotional affair. He's too friendly, too chatty with her, sending a suggestive title in an email is v... (read in full...)
Why does my ex treat me like dirt and should I move on?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. And I know it was a good decision, yet I still think about him a lot. He holds grudges and it's so apparent in the way he treated me. I want us to be together. He has his good and bad traits just like me. ...
A. 9 June 2010: Be a strong woman!
Why stay in a relationship with a man who is nasty to you, who makes you feel insecure and hurt and upset. Who takes out anger and resentment towards you?
Perhaps take some counseling? Improve your self-esteem and brea... (read in full...)
Dating "out of your league"?
Q. I'm wondering what people think of the idea of someone being out of your league and whether you think being in different leagues can cause problems in a relationship. You see, I normally end up dating hollywood-looking guys, not because I'm very ...
A. 9 June 2010: You're coming off a bit shallow. Perhaps keeping that in check will make him comfy? Example, don't talk about how good looking you are, don't mention the studly guys you dated in the past, don't read in too much into what his friends say, etc...... (read in full...)
Are the good days worth the bad ones?
Q. My boyfriend is becoming a jerk. Hes getting on facebook a lot changing his password and talking to some of his exes. Im not mad at all about it but hes lieing to me when i ask. I dont know if this is a sign but im scared to find out. I confronted ...
A. 9 June 2010: You have to be a strong girl and do the right thing for you. Whenever a person makes you uncomfortable, upset, anxious, distrustful, etc - it signifies that your internal boundaries are being pushed. Whenever that happens, listen to you 'gut' (those ... (read in full...)
Shocked he reacted this way! What happened?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for almost 6 months. We've gotten close enough to talk about moving in together. Last Friday, I was at his house, we were sitting outside talking. Having a few drinks. He starting asking questions about my past. ...
A. 8 June 2010: Sounds like he has a bad history of dating someone who was still in touch with an ex - an he's just not willing to put up with it at all. Kina like me going on a date with a guy who said he's going to a strip club for a stag party. AFter being with ... (read in full...)
Is my husband looking to cheat?
Q. My boyfriend says that I am the love of his life and I love him too but he has "in a relationship" on his facebook profile and also states that he is interested in women. Can somebody help me with this? Does this mean that he wants to cheat on me?...
A. 8 June 2010: No, guys post this to show that they are heterosexual.... (read in full...)
I feel like I've missed out on so much life and all the experiences in college I could've had!
Q. My husband and I met when we were two years old; became inseparable best friends after that. We started dating when we were 14. We got married under our parents' permissions at 17. We had our first child that same year and both doing college an...
A. 7 June 2010: Realize that there are women out there your age, who took a different path & who have not found happiness. Women in their 30s/40s who were not lucky enough to find 'the one' to settle down with and have kids with. They have regrets themselves, I'm ... (read in full...)
How do learn to trust him after he's cheated?
Q. I am considering getting back with my ex, and giving things another shot. We got along well, but earlier on there were some major trust issues due to his behaviour that made it difficult for me to trust him out alone, partying, using the internet, ...
A. 7 June 2010: You're not married, you have no children....why make your life difficult? Have some self-respect and walk away. Why stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, has been painful & where there are trust issues. NO THANK YOU!... (read in full...)
Wondering if I could get a second opinion?
Q. I was wondering if i could get a second opinion on a situation that has just happened to me. I told my boyfriend i was upset that he was staring at a girl and asked him to stop. He got very angry at me saying that he had not. I remained calm and...
A. 6 June 2010: Umm DO NOT listen to the person below 'Miamine'. Totally off and rather unsympathetic.
OK, I have a non abusive boyfriend who I have have caught looking at other women. I called him out on this. I got upset and angry. He got upset.
However,... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? I'm finding it hard to get over this break up.
Q. (moderators note: users own title) okay...so i'm still thinking about my breakup, and can't seem to get it out of my head, and i just neeed to know if i did the right thing... my boyfriend (now ex), started to not pay as much attention to me, in...
A. 4 June 2010: Its time you read "he's just not that into you". The book will save you alot of grief in the future. There is a way you should conduct yourself when dating men. Read it.
When it comes down to it, he was being a dick. He obviously had made up ... (read in full...)
Is it relatively normal to be doing this in a relationship?
Q. I have a girlfriend that I love a lot and would never heat on her. I've never even thought about it or anything like that. I feel guilty now if I watch porn, or masturbate thinking of someone else. Should I be feeling guilty or is it still ...
A. 2 June 2010: Why are the girls in porn you watch opposite of what she is???... (read in full...)
He cheated and lied, where do I go from here?
Q. I recently snooped through my fiancés phone and found an email from the end of April from a girl he used to date. It was clear they had been sleeping together and he asked her to email him some sexy pictures. I freaked and confronted him and he said ...
A. 1 June 2010: Your trust in him has already been broken. Don't make exuses for him. Monitoring thing to keep him on the right thrack isn't the right thing to do. You know exactly what you have to do, its difficult, but if you loved yourself & respected yourself ... (read in full...)
He is putting his friends before me and it's getting me down.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 yrs and living together for 2(high school sweethearts). We are both 23. Lately all he ever wants to do is be with his friends playing ball,music,fishing or hanging out at the tennis courts. He doesn't come ...
A. 29 May 2010: Yes this was my 8 year relationship. We started dating at 18 and broke up at 19. He started playing poker, going to clubs, playing squash and hanging out at the gym with his guy friends. There were periods he didn't have a job and wanted me to pay ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyriend to want to hang out with other women without me??
Q. So, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years. He doesn't believe in marriage, so, we're not married but we own a house together and have always been very close; the only thing a married couple has that we lack is a ring. After all ...
A. 23 May 2010: Why in the world, after 8 years are you not married?
He doesn't believe in marriage? Thats BS - he just doesn't see himself married to you. He enjoys the comfort of having you around, but without the long term commitment of marriage.
The pro... (read in full...)
What was a condom doing in my boyfriend's wallet?
Q. I was snooping through my boyfriend of 2 years wallet (yes I know that's wrong but I was looking gore a business card he has) and I saw a condom in there. this kind of bothers me because its the kind of ...
A. 20 May 2010: YUP! He has it in his wallet "JUST IN CASE" he gets himself in a situation where he may need it. I used condoms with my ex. He kept a condom in his wallet "just in case" we were out and about and needed it. Once we stopped using condoms he didn'... (read in full...)
Now that our son is born he has kicked her out and swears he will do whatever it takes to get his family back. Am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been married for almost 2 years and have a 2 month old son. My husband told me when I was 4 months pregnant that he "loved me but was not in love with me" and left. He said that "I deserved better" and many more cliched statements. I ...
A. 20 May 2010: I don't know about this one...
He left you while you were PREGNANT. What a dog! When he should have been protecting you, comforting you, caring for you and his unborn child he instead was dating a 19 year old.
1. He sounds like a man wi... (read in full...)
We've had five dates, there's serious chemistry, but he's still dating others
Q. Dating, met online dating and he still has an active profile.... hi, needs some unbiased opinions not from gf's but others. I'm no stranger to online dating just recently went back on again, after a short break. I've met great people, and horrible...
A. 20 May 2010: I agree with both ladies below! SLOW down. Focus on being 'friends' first. NO sex for a few months - get to know the real him before sharing all of yourself. You are a prize to be earned, not just won within a few weeks/dates. This will help you ... (read in full...)
I'm not used to playing games when dating and don't know how to react to all of this
Q. There is this man I work with and have been really attracted to for months now. I could tell he liked me too because he always wanted to be around me, watched me constantly and always looked over when making little jokes or talking to someo...
A. 20 May 2010: first, read the book "he's just not that into you". YOu're already doing the right thing by NOT asking him out.
He sounds like he likes you, but on some days plays it cool or distances himself to make himself cool down. Thats what I've done in ... (read in full...)
I cannot help but feel that I blew it somehow with a man?
Q. You cannot help how you feel. I guess I am looking for confirmation that I did the right thing. But I still feel lousy. I met a man online - we went to dinner for the 1st time in mid April. We had a good time and I really felt a connection. And ...
A. 19 May 2010: NOPE you did not!!
I'm a firm believer the 'he's just not that into you'. He would have texted you/called you ALOT while away. He didn't. He got in touch only when more convenient for him (him coming back into town). If he was truly interest... (read in full...)
Financially a mess, I do love him but this discovey has soured my opinion of him!
Q. I met a father with kids a year and a half ago. Initially he was staying with the kids and their mother to help keep family peace. After six months he moved in with me and my kids. Shortly after that he lost his job. I have been paying all of our ...
A. 19 May 2010: Okay:
I would be worried. Why is the picture attached to her phone number? Even if its from the past, why is the picture even there? He stayed a whole night away at hers? Ahem, too easy to have sex with the mother of your kids... I'd be very wor... (read in full...)
Confused about this reconciliation we're going through after I found him on a dating website!
Q. I dated this guy for 2 months and he suddenly stopped communicated and I quickly discovered he was on a dating website. Things between him and I had been amazing and I really felt like we had something special and he was "the one". (I'm in my late ...
A. 18 May 2010: Fine, he didn't sleep around. It still doesn't change anything - he isn't interested enough in you to be with you each and every single day. Not a good sign. You deserve a guy thats knocking down your door to hang out as often as possible. He's not ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex back but the tie is still emotionally intense
Q. My ex and I were together 2 years and living together for one year before I finally gave up on feeling that he was the right guy for me. He was openly seeking out sex partners throughout our relationship eventhough he knew that I could not deal with ...
A. 18 May 2010: Time to get a new number.
I had the same problem - I realized my loving, calm, dorky honey is so much more of a man than my abusive ex was. The ex made himself sound desperate/sad/alone & always came up with a reason to contact me. Now after 2 ... (read in full...)
Crazy with jealously over her ex being 2-3" bigger than me!
Q. I have had a dilemma with my current partner over my penis size for over 7 months now. Basically, I'm 41 and divorced, and met a gorgeous tall 39 y.o. blonde about 9 months ago who is rather inexperienced but loves sex. We are VERY compatible in ...
A. 18 May 2010: What about the women you've slept with? Some must have been shorter/tighter than her! Does this make a difference in how much you love her or the extent you enjoy sex with her? Do you compare their vaginal sizes to hers? What about the women with ... (read in full...)
Confused about this reconciliation we're going through after I found him on a dating website!
Q. I dated this guy for 2 months and he suddenly stopped communicated and I quickly discovered he was on a dating website. Things between him and I had been amazing and I really felt like we had something special and he was "the one". (I'm in my late ...
A. 14 May 2010: You need to read "He's just not that into you". A book that saved me a great deal of heartache.
Lets be honest here. He did much more then just go on a few dates. He slept around with a few women. He didn't email/call/see you because he wasn't t... (read in full...)
Pain and bleeding whilst urinating (female)
Q. i am experiencing pain and bleeding during urination. i have researched it to see what could be wrong, as i know that pain is a common symptom of chlamidia. however, i didn't find anything that mentioned bleeding aswell, and i cant think of any pos...
A. 11 May 2010: Bladder infection hon. You'll be fine, but need to go to a doctor right away!... (read in full...)
What was he trying to say in this text?
Q. hello, i recently went on a date (first time) with a man who i met online, on the date he treated me very well, we got along great and he checked that i got home ok and also text the next day to say that he had a great time and would like to go out ...
A. 8 May 2010: Okay
This is one of two things which are both a BIG RED FLAG:
1. He is VERY insecure - to the point that he comes of rude, needy and clingy. If this comes out into the open, imagine what it would be like in several months or years!
2. He'... (read in full...)
Does this mean he has had his fun and is now done with me?
Q. Basically i have known this guy for about 3 weeks now...we used to text eachother everyday up until we met last thursday for a drink... i went back to his house and left the next morning; amazing night and we both said we felt very relaxed around e...
A. 8 May 2010: 'He's just not into you' is a book I picked up and read at a bookstore as I waited 2 hours for a guy who was 'late' for our date. He ended up using me for sex and then dumping within two weeks.
You've been used my dear. I keep my pants up now for ... (read in full...)
Finding his porn last night made me think....he has a different 'ideal' and it is NOT me!
Q. I hope to receive some input here - this issue has given me a great deal of grief over the last two years I have been dating my current BF. My history - I dated a boy my age for 8 years. I was his 'ideal'. He liked pink skinned, blue eyed, tall,...
A. 8 May 2010: Well I am currently seeing a psychologist. So far I've taken one session so...
He's away on a two week vacation with his family, but I am not very excited about having to see him again. He just moved in too...I get angry and resentful. He is a ver... (read in full...)
Finding his porn last night made me think....he has a different 'ideal' and it is NOT me!
Q. I hope to receive some input here - this issue has given me a great deal of grief over the last two years I have been dating my current BF. My history - I dated a boy my age for 8 years. I was his 'ideal'. He liked pink skinned, blue eyed, tall,...
A. 7 April 2010: Hi Everyone,
I'm so happy about the responses...I've had the day off work today and thus have managed to get myself pretty down about this all.
I think Miamine has it right on...in terms of the situation and how I feel. My BF has changed what... (read in full...)
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