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writes:I'm in the friend-zone with "Veronica", who lives with her sister, "Betty". "Veronica" sets me up on a blind date with "Betty". I call, I drive, I pay, I entertain, I think of things for us to talk about. "Betty" doesn't lift her precious pinky finger. Two days after the date, I call "Betty" and leave a message asking her out again. "Betty" doesn't call back. Four days later, I run into "Veronica", who says "Betty'' had a great time, and I should ask her out again. WTF!? "Already tried that," I said, peevishly. "Won't do it again." "She's just being a woman and playing hard to get," "Veronica" retorts.Should i ask her out again? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Update:
"Betty" finally called me back and said she wanted to go out. It was too late to get tickets for the event I originally asked her out for, so I quickly thought of something else for us to do, and we went out that evening. Today, I called and left a message asking her out again, but "Betty" didn't call back.
I called "Veronica" and told her that if we were going to remain friends, she needed to fess up and explain. "Veronica" said that "Betty" has an on-again/off-again boyfriend who is a bad boy with a checkered past, and "Veronica" doesn't like the boyfriend. For the past few weeks, "Betty" and the boyfriend were broken up, and "Veronica" hoped I would be the rebound guy who would take "Betty's" mind off the boyfriend. The boyfriend called today, and "Betty" went back to him.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (12 December 2010):
 You're over 40 and the woman you're trying to date is still following the immature high school rules of "hard to get" that boil down to "act like a princess and expect to be served"? Dude, you can do better than that. You want a RELATIONSHIP, not a job. Either she answers her phone when called, or at least picks up a little slack on dates, or this girl will drain you and erode your will to live fast! Be grateful she let you know so soon that she's not worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): No. You will end up treating her like crap.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 sheeesh! no way give betty the big boop!.
and at your age you should know better.
or maybe you could "treat her mean and keep her keen", a taste of her own medicine, as it were.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Nope, and even if she is into you she sounds very high maintance and immature. You had a lucly escape!
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reader, Xglow  +, writes (11 December 2010):
hell no man!!
In my opinion she is dominating you. You shouldnt be kept on a leash like that. You are not a dog.
A date works both ways. If she keeps ACTING to have not such a good time on the date then shes fake. Be patient.
If she really did have a great time she will contact u.
If not, then she is one fucked up lady. No one plays THAT hard to get. thats just unnatural.
whoever persuits this type of communication is also not very normal in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): I wouldn't call her again. It sounds like she's playing games. If she wanted to go out with you she would have returned your call.
Is your goal to go out with a woman who makes you run after her? If you're after the head games that come with the "thrill of the chase," then by all means, chase her. Is your goal to date a pleasant, normal, friendly woman? Then go look for one of those. They're out there, they're available and they won't make you play those games. Be warned though, they are unlikely to be high maintenance, so you might not notice them right away. They're going to be the women with a book in their hand instead of a mascara wand.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (11 December 2010):
 NOPE! She's not THAT into you.
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