Fallen for my doctor - if I tell him how I feel, what would be the consequences?
Q. I’ve been this doctor’s patient for about 10 months now.i see him every 2 month. i’m in my early 20's. For all these months, I never showed my feelings to him. I never even asked him about his personal life other than medical-related questions(I ...
A. 11 April 2011: Ok first, you need to go and read the book "he's just not that into you". Its a great book and will show you clearly how a man treats you if he is interested in you.
What you have described is a crush YOU have on him. However, how does he treat yo... (read in full...)
Obsessed with beauty way too much...When will I be happy?
Q. I am a 19 year old girl and a girl who can never be happy. .. I was a girl who got bullied since I was K2.. all the way until I was 15 years old. I used to be a girl where no one will say hi to me because I look "anti-social".. I was tan,geeky an...
A. 11 April 2011: Honey, just so you know - its normal to have a round face when you're young. Its all that baby fat in your cheeks and face which makes you look youthful. As you get into your middle/late 20's you'll notice the fat disappear. However, not without its ... (read in full...)
My wife to be revealed her sexual past. I feel sick to my stomach
Q. I am 31, she is 29. She is drop dead gorgeous. We fell in love a year and a half ago when she was one of my day nurses when I had spent some time in the hospital recovering from a tumor in my knee (non cancerous) During our time dating, I would ...
A. 31 March 2011: Wow this is tough...but shows what a truly beautiful woman she is on the inside. To go through everything she went through at a very young and immature age to become an educated, smart, classy and beautiful woman! She should be proud of herself and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks at other women, and it makes me feel insecure and jealous.
Q. Can any ladies help me get over this problem. My boyfriend looks at other women, and it makes me feel insecure and jealous. I feel that he prefers them to me. I watched him looking at women for example we were sitting at red light traffic, a ...
A. 29 March 2011: Well my dear, the oogling is BAD, but the fact that he is on a dating website, went and saw another woman for dinner and might be potentially having sex with other women is sufficient justification to end it, no??? I think you've answered your ow... (read in full...)
He was having sex with another girl while I was pregnant, I know he has done me wrong but he has my heart.....what should I do?
Q. Need help please!.... I have known this guy since 2006 we dated for almost 3yrs.. We broke up for good 10 months ago.... We started to go back out in 09 of October im now pregnant by him I will have the baby in 5 days .... im so in love with him I ...
A. 24 March 2011: You are young and hormonal right now. So you're not thinking logically. The man betrayed you - he wasn't there during the pregnancy, he left you to party and have sex with other women. He's still a very immature boy. You now need to think about y... (read in full...)
He texted his ex a happy birthday. WHY?
Q. I have a question : If you are with a man for 7plus years and find out he text his x girlfriend(mother of his 4 children) who he has no contact only ever other weeked to drop of and pick up kids with a Happy Birthday(and what ever else was said) at ...
A. 22 March 2011: Its perfectly appropriate. She's his extended family as they have children together.
What you need to think about is why you receive just a birthday wish from him on your birthday?? Is this indicative of the whole relationship and the way you ... (read in full...)
He wants to still be friends! Will this pain stop?
Q. My ex broke off with me last year and even after the break, we still maintained contact. On my part of course I am partly to blame for allowing him to call. It was very difficult for me, as that break meant that my dream of spending the rest of our ...
A. 19 March 2011: You're only preventing yourself from emotionally moving on. You need to change your phone number hun. You need all contact severed in order to move on. Like you said you're 34, you don't have time to play around. Time to start dating lots and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out without me again and there is more...disrespectful!?!
Q. I have been dating a guy for about a year now. We spend about a 1/2 a day together each week due to his career. I try to be understanding but admit I often feel lonely and there is a lot of tension. The relationship feels one sided. We typically ...
A. 19 March 2011: You are allowing yourself to be a doormat. He not only doesn't care about you you feel, but he doesn't care about you. This isn't a relationship hun, this is you being a side thing for him. He obviously has other women he is pursuing and see... (read in full...)
He wants to get married, but I don't trust him enough yet.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years. We had alot of problems in the middle of our relationship and it caused major distrust. We have been working on rebuilding the relationship for about a year. Trouble is, I still cannot commit ...
A. 17 March 2011: Don't look at the relationship for what it 'could be' but for what it is. Make a decision accordingly. Don't waste your time, you're in your 30's.... (read in full...)
When choosing someone to marry, do you use your heart or your head?
Q. I really need help... I have been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years. We have gone through so much together. We really had our trials but in the end what got as through is the foundation of our relationship. He's really my best friend. My ...
A. 17 March 2011: Love is not how you feel, it is how each person treats the other.
YOu know, many people have to make tough decisions like this. Some people follow their hearts while for others its more of a calculated decision. There is no right or wrong. As lo... (read in full...)
Dating a European guy and confused.....is this normal in his country?
Q. OK, It is my first time to have dates with foreigner, and i am a little confused. 1,He said he never married and then i decide to have dates with him. But later he told me he has girl friend in his country and she lives his house with her two chil...
A. 16 March 2011: Handle this exactly how you would handle it if you were dating a 51 year old Chinese man with a girlfriend at home and two kids. Men are no different in Europe/America than in China and the social expectations they face to get married, not cheat and ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend hates my body
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for nearly a year now, with a great guy--except for one problem: I feel as though my boyfriend hates my body. I am 3 years older than him, and we met at school, and he says that it was "love at first si...
A. 16 March 2011: Well, as an outsider not aware of the whole situation and your relationship dynamic, it is difficult to tell you exactly why he is doing this.
Sometimes there are controlling men who act this way to lower a womans self-esteem and in effect, ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he's cheating?
Q. Hi, and thank you. My bf and I have been together about 3 years now. Started off amazing as most relationships do. He was so charming, complimented me and loving to me. It didn't take me long to fall head over heels for him. Once we got to know e...
A. 15 March 2011: Question is NOT whether he is 'possibly' cheating on you...
The question is WHY ARE YOU CHEATING YOURSELF of a healthy and happy relationship? You should not tolerate this type of behavior - it is controlling, abusive and manipulative. It only ser... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to get involved with an engaged man?
Q. Ok...heres the 411 Theres this guy...ofcourse...we get along great, we're in the same line of work, and when we're together all we do is laugh. I've been single for a while and I'm really picky. Its rare that I like someone. All this seems t...
A. 14 March 2011: Well, you have to realize that he see's something in his fiance that you might not. He wouldn't have proposed if he thought she was ugly. And, what you call chunky, he might think is perfection. You just never know. When it comes down to it, for him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes to see his son and ex wife every few weeks and stays with them in the house for few weeks and it is killing me.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. I love him to bits and I know he loves me too. he has been divorced for about 9 years and he has a son aged 10. His ex wife and son live abroad. he works month ON / Month off, when he is off, he ...
A. 10 March 2011: Its time to break this cycle...don't waste your young years when there are plenty of men who will have no doubts/questions/excuses about marrying you. You'll look back at these days and shake your head for staying that long. BELIEVE ME, I stayed 8 ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes to see his son and ex wife every few weeks and stays with them in the house for few weeks and it is killing me.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. I love him to bits and I know he loves me too. he has been divorced for about 9 years and he has a son aged 10. His ex wife and son live abroad. he works month ON / Month off, when he is off, he ...
A. 9 March 2011: Bigger question here than the ex wife...8 years and still no marriage. Why? Don't waste your young years!... (read in full...)
How can he love his wife if he was cheating with me?
Q. Hope you can help me I had been seeing a married man i to am married we worked together thats how it started. We were seeing each other for 5 mths he was telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and even said he would leave his ...
A. 7 March 2011: Because my dear, it is very very easy to lie. Its easy to say 'I love you', its easy to pretend just to get some sex. Sex drives men, if that means he has to lie, he will.
In the end, he loves his wife more than he potentially loved you. He has a... (read in full...)
Will the picture of my husband with other women ever go away?
Q. My husband and I met 20 years ago. I was15 he17. We have been together for better part of 18 years as a couple. we separated over a year ago. We have 10 yr old daughter and 6 yr old son. Legally married 6 years. He has stayed in family home ...
A. 5 March 2011: Oh this must hurt a lot! I can only imagine! YOu know, you need to go to counseling. Don't get back together, but go to counseling together. See if you can figure out the problems which lead to the separation and divorce proceedings in the first ... (read in full...)
Do I assume that he is cheating on me or what?
Q. I am so insecure when it comes to my boyfriend. I want to trust him, but I have been hurt in my past. Anyway, I figured out his password to his cell phone, and I check it often. Once I heard a girl leave her name and told him to call her back. I ...
A. 5 March 2011: Could these msgs/calls be from women at work, classmates, family friends, people from his hobby groups. There is nothing here indicating that he is cheating on you. Only that he has received a call from a woman had a broken phone and couldn't take ... (read in full...)
My dominating boyfriend who thinks he's "Gods Gift" is making my life miserable...
Q. hey, so im about to turn 17 and my boyfriend is about to be 21. we have been together for a couple months and things are getting very complicated. im becoming scared of him. he keeps pressuring me about falling in love... he always says "i dont thi...
A. 4 March 2011: You need to tell your parents the gist of this...not all the personal details, but that he's controlling and your worried/scared/unsure. Let your parents be your biggest support and protect you. They'll be happy that you were honest with them and ... (read in full...)
How do I make amends after I betrayed the love of my life?
Q. Below is a very short insight into the world I shared with Peyton. The tone of this insight is rather dark and negative. But as that is the feeling of this time we are going through, even if it’s not together, I thought I would express that even ...
A. 3 March 2011: You've sugar coated your lies, disloyalty and emotional cheating in a very nice story. In all honestly, it is better if you leave her alone. She deserves someone genuine and honest. You Repenting can do very little to build trust when you've been ... (read in full...)
He sort of cheats with dirty talk with girls fhrough emails, what should I do??
Q. Hi All, I've been with my boyfriend for about 9months now. In this time i have caught him chatting up girls via email (randoms and old friends). We got through this and all was fine and i thought he had changed but recently he left his email ac...
A. 22 February 2011: I'm sorry this is happening to you! It must hurt and its very difficult to see someone for who they really are.
The fact is, he is telling other women that he isn't getting any sex (implying he'd like some with them) and that 'its a long story' (... (read in full...)
My parents let my younger sister get away with things, and I end up in trouble! What should I do?
Q. I have a younger sibling who is constantly getting on my nerves. What really bothers me is her attitude. For example just recently our parents said if we get hungry we should eat the leftovers we had in the fridge and nothing else. So not 30 minutes ...
A. 21 February 2011: Well okay, from reading your example, I'm inclined to give you an objective opinion.
First, LIVE a little. Break some rules. So your parents said you had to eat something in the fridge. Why follow the rules so religiously? Your sisters figured ... (read in full...)
Controlling husband makes me feel I need permission to have a life!
Q. Hi there thanks for your help. I've been married 18 years. My husband has a very caring side. Helps out around the house does some cooking etc. However, he has a very childish and controlling side too. I haven't been able to really have...
A. 19 February 2011: I dated a man like this for 8 years. The constant manipulation and control became so frustrating. It was one huge headache and I just wanted to scream and cry out of anger. No matter what I said, somehow my ideas/wants/needs were not good enough. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his financial secrecy and his constant criticism?
Q. I've been dating a guy for close to 2 years. We have a 6 month old baby and I asked how much he was getting back in taxes and he flipped like I shouldn't know. Then he proceeded to say all I cared about was his money. And when I said, "our taxes," ...
A. 19 February 2011: Because he is abusive. End of story. Its not you. YOu are wonderful and lovable and so special. This guy just doesn't appreciate what he has and has abused you.
Go to counseling and become educated. You'll be surprised how wonderful some guys out... (read in full...)
Why won't this man commit? And did I make the right decision?
Q. My boyfriend of two and half years broke up with me the first week of December, and shortly after I started talking to new guy. For the first month, we just communicated via texts, but we really got to know each other and we were both starting to ...
A. 11 February 2011: To some extent I agree with Cerberus, but you know what, if its the right person for the guy he won't care if you just got out of a relationship yesterday. So thats a bit of an excuse if its about you 'potentially' being on a rebound.
I left an ... (read in full...)
Why won't this man commit? And did I make the right decision?
Q. My boyfriend of two and half years broke up with me the first week of December, and shortly after I started talking to new guy. For the first month, we just communicated via texts, but we really got to know each other and we were both starting to ...
A. 11 February 2011: Bravo! I think you are a very very smart girl! So many women would take his excuse and rationalize it as 'he's scared of commitment' or 'he really wants to work on our friendship first'. Hello, "build your friendship" till September, hmm..... (read in full...)
Since hearing of her with this guy, I've been with 2 girls myself, only becuase she did
Q. After 4 years, i broke up with my girlfriend. We'd been rocky the past 6 months. She slept with a guy far beneath her within 2 weeks. I knew she's a slut, we slept together the first night we met...but i thought after 4 years and the genuine love in ...
A. 11 February 2011: If she was a slut for sleeping with you on the first date, what are you? What are you for sleeping with two random girls? You know, I think its better to let her just be. The relationship took its course, it ended for a reason. I don't think a ma... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 11 years begs me for more threesomes!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years, we have awesome sex and have gotten kinky over the past 3 years! He discovered that I am into women and we have introduced a few into are bedroom with us. I normally perform with her and then he performs ...
A. 11 February 2011: Hi reaction to you proposing to bring another guy into the bedroom demonstrates just how significant sleeping with another person is. Its not just physical, its not just sex...its actually connecting with someone, there are very strong emotions ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 11 years begs me for more threesomes!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years, we have awesome sex and have gotten kinky over the past 3 years! He discovered that I am into women and we have introduced a few into are bedroom with us. I normally perform with her and then he performs ...
A. 11 February 2011: Hi reaction to you proposing to bring another guy into the bedroom demonstrates just how significant sleeping with another person is.
Its not just physical, its not just sex...its actually connecting with someone, there are very strong emotions... (read in full...)
He has given me 10 days and if its not working he is breaking up with me! Help!
Q. i have a big problem with my bf now, i am chinese, he is french, i have been lived with him for 9 months, few months ago, he began to get bored with our sexual life because he thinks my body is getting ugly, so i am in a diet program, and my body is ...
A. 11 February 2011: Well put blonde68.
Honestly hun, he is ruining your confidence. He is not a mentally healthy person and he is playing a sick emotional game with you. He's manipulating you and justifying his desires by putting you down.
He will do you a favor i... (read in full...)
How to deal with being abandoned by parents and family?
Q. Hi, I'm a depressed 23 year old male. My father abandoned my family when i was 3. My mother did the same when i was 15. The two of them are remarried and they have kids and lives of their own. My younger sister, who has a younger kid of her own, and ...
A. 11 February 2011: I think you are looking at this situation all wrong and allowing it to affect your mood. First, take a deep breath. Remind yourself that your negative thoughts are because you are depressed. Part of it is situational and part of it is chemical. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to move on and forgive?
Q. I met him during my divorce and his divorce.We both have 2 kids from our marriages.We got serious immeditately.He moved us in after 6 months.Sex was constant and phenominal.Our kids got along fabulously.Then he found FaceBook and old crushes and new ...
A. 11 February 2011: Also, let me point out to you that IF you had done this to him, he would have never wanted you back. Ask him what he would have done if the roles were reversed? My hunch is that he wouldn't have been very forgiving, yet somehow, as women, we take on ... (read in full...)
Should I try to move on and forgive?
Q. I met him during my divorce and his divorce.We both have 2 kids from our marriages.We got serious immeditately.He moved us in after 6 months.Sex was constant and phenominal.Our kids got along fabulously.Then he found FaceBook and old crushes and new ...
A. 11 February 2011: How, when your heart is broken?
I understand why he did it - men after a divorce are like teenage boys who have just discovered sex.
However, this must have hurt you beyond words. How can you overcome such betrayal. In the end you have to love... (read in full...)
What does take it slow mean?
Q. what does it mean, when he says,"Lets take it Slow" in a new relationship? ...
A. 11 February 2011: Okay hun,
"Taking it slow" after you've slept with a man means he doesn't want to speed into a committed relationship JUST because you guys slept together.
Its a stall tactic to keep his options open - meaning, being available and not in a com... (read in full...)
Sex Education...
Q. heres a question to all the agony aunts and uncles.... both sexes are welcome to give their opinion over this touchy mattter.... my bf and i fought today because basically i feel i dont want my daughter to be taught sex in a co-ed class, and he got ...
A. 10 February 2011: 1. Your boyfriend should have no influence in how you are raising your daughter. 2. you are dating a total douche! Hope you can see it. His argument is offensive. Who needs to hear that their bf has slept with hundreds of women. I'd be kicking h... (read in full...)
How do I find a guy that is not bothered by my body shape?
Q. Okay im 16 years old and im 190 pounds. im also only 5 foot 3 so its even worse. i dont even know why but i really want to have a boyfriend but of course no guy wants to go out with me. im not even ugly, my eyes are pretty big and hazel brown, i ...
A. 10 February 2011: Well first thing first - you need to make sure you are a healthy weight. At your height and weight you need to go down to reach a healthy medium. Although right now at your age your shape still looks ok, in a few years the cellulite/bulges will be ... (read in full...)
We're separated but he still contacts my family..does this mean he still cares about me?
Q. Hi, I am separated of my husband. He asked me for space-time and I accepted it. That has been for 2 months and we never talk each other since he left the house. But I don't understand why he talks with my family?? My family live overseas and he c...
A. 10 February 2011: He might potentially be doing this to keep upto date on your life? Honestly, you need to tell your family not to accept his calls any longer. Its not healthy for you and if he truly wanted space and time, he should not be in contact with your ... (read in full...)
What does take it slow mean?
Q. what does it mean, when he says,"Lets take it Slow" in a new relationship? ...
A. 10 February 2011: If you have slept with him, it could potentially mean that he doesn't want to get too involved emotionally too soon so that he can keep his options open. Its just a stall tactic.
If you haven't slept with him it means he's interested in you and ... (read in full...)
Tough Love...what to do? My boyfriends a bigger handfull then I ever imagined
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He goes to counseling once a week, is on antidepressants and anti anxiety medication. When we first met he was soo soo sweet (I really thought I got super lucky) but now we are living together in a ...
A. 10 February 2011: Sure be supportive, kind etc, but the question is...can you live with this for the rest of your life??
Because people with depression, anxiety, OCD (the cleanliness) don't just get over these things and become different people. We're talking ... (read in full...)
I hate being single for Valentine's day, what should I do?
Q. I hate being single for Valentine's day, what should I do? I just haven't found the one yet and I'm 31 years old. I get all jealous how couples get all the attention and I don't. I can be romantic to that special someone. It just makes me sick th...
A. 9 February 2011: Check out: www.meetup.com. Lots of people who enjoy different events/hobbies meet up with other people with similar interests. I know the singles group in my area is having an anti-valentines day party for singles only. Might be a great way to not ... (read in full...)
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