I hate being single for Valentine's day, what should I do?
Q. I hate being single for Valentine's day, what should I do? I just haven't found the one yet and I'm 31 years old. I get all jealous how couples get all the attention and I don't. I can be romantic to that special someone. It just makes me sick th...
A. 9 February 2011: Check out: www.meetup.com. Lots of people who enjoy different events/hobbies meet up with other people with similar interests. I know the singles group in my area is having an anti-valentines day party for singles only. Might be a great way to not ... (read in full...)
Why would he leave for a year if he loves me? And will he realize how much he misses me?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been on and off for the last 6 months, but we've been together a year and a half altogether! He's 20, I am 23, and I am his first girlfriend. We break up over the same argument every time... he wants to work away whi...
A. 8 February 2011: In 10 years when you reflect back on this situation you will see it very differently.
He's 20, your 23. Both very young. As a female and three years older than him, you are more mature, potentially you could be settling down at this point in your ... (read in full...)
Contacted by my love from college, and it's awakened the old feelings
Q. Well I guess I should start from the beginning. I am a male and of Arab decent (Lebanese) born in the United States. I come from a family that is very Anglo looking, with blue eyes and light brown hair. I have been married about 6 years with two ...
A. 6 February 2011: HOw would you feel if your wife had feelings for another man and said, " Not seeing him is the easy part. Not thinking about him is the hard part". This is totally unfair to your wife. This is how you should feel about your wife - in love, loyal, ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and I feel like I wasted my life!
Q. I know this is going to sound stupid, but I just turned 23 and I feel old. I remember being a pre-teen, looking up to all the twenty-somethings and wishing for time to speed up so I could move out, and do all the things adults are allowed to do. Now ...
A. 5 February 2011: Umm, I picked up and left at 25 to do my Masters in Scotland.
23 is so young! There is a whole world out there and more opportunities than if you were 18.
My friend who speaks four languages picked up her third at 23 and now at 25 is learning h... (read in full...)
Contacted by my love from college, and it's awakened the old feelings
Q. Well I guess I should start from the beginning. I am a male and of Arab decent (Lebanese) born in the United States. I come from a family that is very Anglo looking, with blue eyes and light brown hair. I have been married about 6 years with two ...
A. 5 February 2011: She came disguised as a wolf in sheeps clothing. Met your wife and your children, then privately tried to seduce you. She's single with children and doesn't care if she will hurt your family. Is she truly that beautiful of a person?? She broke your ... (read in full...)
Should I go back with my husband???
Q. i need help ! im really in a bad situation and every day im having second thoughts, i left my husband in october of last year, we got in to an argument and i ended with bruises on my arms and a busted lip . i pressed charges against my husba...
A. 3 February 2011: If it gets too difficult, how about go back to your family in another country? Just for a while until you figure things out? Is that possible?
The key now, so that you NEVER get into that situation again is to become educated. Educate yourself... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: I read your post about your situation post abortion. He is evil. Cant you see it? YOu should not be making a baby with him, he's going to be a terror to the child. It'll be just as abused as you. What a horrible man. He has no insight, no empathy no ... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: You are allowing yourself to be permanently damaged. You won't turn out to be that happy, healthy well rounded woman, but an abused and weak person. Do it for yourself, do it for your health, do it for your sanity, do it for your parents, do it for ... (read in full...)
He hit me across the face, causing me to spill a hot drink over myself and my laptop!!
Q. Dear cupids, am I in the wrong here? I have a big presentation tomorrow and I had asked my boyfriend to be my practice audience when I'd done. Well he knows Iv been feeling pretty crappy at the moment due to the fact Iv been paying off his loan ...
A. 3 February 2011: Oh 1000% hands down, no other response, you should be dumping him and walking away right NOW.
1. He physically abused you. First time? Second? This should be an unforgivable action. It doesn't matter whether you called him a name, insulted... (read in full...)
How can I finally accept myself?
Q. How can I finally accept myself? I look at myself and see a plain looking woman, and most of the time I feel fine, not pretty but also just normal, but then I'll see a prettier girl walking down the street, or on Facebook, or hell, even celeb ...
A. 2 February 2011: Oh how funny, here in the states in California where I live, it seems like Latina's are the it girls. Men drool over latin tanned girls with long dark hair. I've had my share of unhappy days as that is my boyfriends 'ideal' while I am a European ... (read in full...)
Confused about my boyfriend kissing another girl
Q. Hello everyone, my boyfriend of four years kissed another girl who was working at a restaurant about 1 year ago. He goes to this restaurant once in a blue moon because this older guy who helped him get a job treats him out to dinner when they...
A. 2 February 2011: Honestly, he does not sound like a loving man. He made out with another girl and how does he talk to you, "get over it". That is horrible. He doesn't sound like a sweet, loving and nurturing guy. I'd start looking around at other prospects and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't tried to reach me in 2 days! How long should I wait before contacting him?
Q. Hi my bf of 1.5 years is acting out weird lately. Always finding excuses not to call me or hang out with me. He is acting like real jerk, heavely fliting with other girls and stuff. I started to think he lost interest in me, so i stopped cal...
A. 2 February 2011: Look at his actions - he's obviously not that keen on spending time with you. You might love him, but do his actions show that he loves you? Perhaps you should stand up for yourself and call him on his behavior. See what happens - perhaps he's ... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend that I want to keep my baby?
Q. I am not really seeking advice, just wanted to get things off my chest. Any comments however will be taken into consideration and welcomed. I am very much in love with a man, well at this point I am not sure what it is anymore. I wish I could jus...
A. 2 February 2011: Well you found yourself a winner...
1. He is pressuring you to get this abortion. When a man loves a woman he does not stress her like this. He does not govern selfishly, but by what is best for her.
2. He has been with you for four years a... (read in full...)
My husband has delusional thoughts of me
Q. My husband has delusional thoughts of me. He asks certain questions and twists them into something totally different. He has always done this. He has always thought i am cheating on him, that i have or will. I cant stand defending myself against ...
A. 1 February 2011: He needs to see a psychologist. I do not mean this in a rude way, but talking his feelings and anxieties out with a third objective party will be emotionally soothing. He needs to explore his thought process and move past this. Its definitely not ... (read in full...)
I don't like the person my boyfriend has become!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 18 months now, im 27 and he is 33, we both divorced, we met at the beach and we had a lot of fun at the beginning, he use to take me on dates, dining out all around town and I would sleep at his house every single ...
A. 31 January 2011: Wow sounds like a pretty bad deal for you! Listen, even if you love him, he does not sound like a catch at all. If it's like this while dating, what will it be like in a marriage? You really need to rethink this whole wanting to marry him deal. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he tried to love me but just couldn't!
Q. OK. I will try to make this story as short as possible while including all the pertinent details. Me - I am 32 years old, divorced, and have a 5 year old daughter that I share custody of. I work and support myself and her. Him - 32 years ...
A. 30 January 2011: I'm so sorry about all your health issues. It sounds like you have been through quite alot! You're very brave and strong to have gone through all those medical issues, job loss and relationship break up. It really does sound like he never loved y... (read in full...)
Time of the month she turns into someone else.
Q. Hey everybody, Really need your help so here goes. Thanks in advance. I've been dating this girl for a couple of months now and everything was going well up until a week ago. It's the time of the month and I don't want to sound like just a ...
A. 29 January 2011: You could be my boyfriend writing this...
From a womans perspective - I tend to turn evil also, but truly I can't help it. My boyfriend says I become another person, I instigate fights, I make rude comments, I become indecisive and clumsy and o... (read in full...)
How do I explain to friends that I don't want to be touched because of my disfigurement?
Q. It's me again. I have people who are pressuring me to be in a relationship, but there's just one problem...I'm permanently disfigured. I used to have tits, and then I had surgery. It still doesn't look normal and the Doctors don't care. But the ...
A. 29 January 2011: I understand that you are upset regarding you 'disfigurement', however I think you are being much too superficial.
Give people some credit - people that love you will not judge you for it, even strangers will not. Do you know how many people o... (read in full...)
I was fine with my girlfriend being an escort ...but now her proximity to a certain client is really bothering me...
Q. I came across this blog and read a couple of them.I am a boyfriend of a escort, I have been her boyfriend for 6 years, she has been a escort for almost 3 years. I am fine with it, She did it for the bills of course.Now We just came into a situation ...
A. 28 January 2011: Poor girl, what a warped relationship she is in. She doesn't even see it. YOU need to put aside your wants and focus on her needs. She's being damaged engaging in prostitution just so you guys can buy things. It's sick. I really hope you can do ... (read in full...)
Does my husband have the right to be upset about a one night stand when we were separated?
Q. I'm so confused and need some advice. Let me start out by saying I am married, I love my husband and I have no intention on leaving him. Basically my question right now is does my husband have the right to be mad and upset at me for having a one ...
A. 27 January 2011: He doesn't love you. A husband that loves his wife would NEVER do what he did. There might have been problems, but a good and loving husband would have wanted to work on it and not walk away. You're thoughts are not straight my dear. Seek ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seen with another guy in the room, assumed the worst
Q. Please Help! My Boyfriend caught another guy in our room! Okay so this is what happened. I had a boyfriend who was living with me. Saturday morning he picked up his things and broke up with me because we argued about the father of my children...
A. 26 January 2011: Okay you need to take charge of your life! First, what is a mom aged 26-29 doing getting drunk with friends, friends putting her into a shower fully clothed (what is that???), 'friends' letting her recover with some guy at home. This whole situatio... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not calling?
Q. hi im 28 im with my partner 7 years we have 3 beautiful children together, im a stay at home mum dont really go out with friends that often and when i do i basically get ignored 4 a day or 2 afterwards, i was out recently with few friends 4 couple ...
A. 26 January 2011: If its only a few hours and everyone knows who is where, why call?
Sounds like you have another parent!... (read in full...)
He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!
Q. hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...
A. 18 January 2011: My dear, you're letting him manipulate you, hurt your feels and feel bad about yourself!
You're a grown woman with lots of life experience, look at this as it is and make the right decision for yourself.
1. He rarely has sex with you ( so yo... (read in full...)
To do a threesome or not, and how do I handle knowing I'm not satisfying a desire for him if I don't?
Q. My fiancee, has this fantasy. He had this kind of play with his "x" wife. (Hinze "X") she later had an affair which hurt him emotionally. My reaction to that was "Why, because she didn't involve you??" After 4 years and him knowing my thoughts about ...
A. 17 January 2011: First, good for you for standing your ground! You have good values and morals which are there to keep you from hurting yourself or others.
He has some very serious issues to push a threesome despite your reservations and concerns. He is selfish ... (read in full...)
Is she being spoiled in rejecting the single rose?
Q. I am thinking of a conversation I had with a very pretty female friend. We got into an argument and I was your opinion on it. This guy was interested in her and they sort of began dating. He came to her home with a single rose and a card saying, "...
A. 17 January 2011: I can see her point - one rose is cheap. She has very high expectations.... (read in full...)
He said he'd leave his wife but its been 2 months!
Q. i think i miss him so much.. he got my phone number through chat.we spent happy times talking on the phone evry night for almost 7 months.he cared for me like no other man can.his feelings developed until he said that he loves me..i also love him. ...
A. 16 January 2011: No hun, because he isn't waiting for you! He's working on his relationship with his wife. He hurt her very badly and loves her, despite what he might have told you. So now he is trying to make things work with her - probably in counseling working on ... (read in full...)
How do I climb out of the pit of dispair?
Q. I am a 22 year old virgin, worse I haven't had a girlfriend since the 7th grade and as far as I know only one girl has been interested since. I lost over 75lbs and today am almost at the point of having a 6 pack. I changed my clothes and hair ...
A. 16 January 2011: hun you're only in your 20's, men don't mature and build confidence till their late 20's and into their 30's. My studly bf didn't lose his V card till he was 27 and even then it took acouple more years for him to build his confidence up to have ... (read in full...)
Ladies, Would you date a 40 year old virgin?
Q. My friends tell me to lie about being a virgin because they say, if I start to become intimate with a woman and she learns that I am still a virgin, she will be scared away. My friends say by this time, women want experience so my best avenue is to ...
A. 16 January 2011: NOt true at all. Girl that is interested won't care and a girl who isn't interested but wants you for sex will have a thrill :)... (read in full...)
I'm the third person in this relationship.
Q. Hello, I'm in an awkward position. I'm the third person in a relationship, there's a long story behind it which I will spare you. I've come to the point where I can no longer handle it. (5 months) I love her too much to function properly w...
A. 16 January 2011: Okay well FIRST...you need to get some sleep! You can't think clearly or make any decisions in this state of mind.
Second, you need to sit her down and tell her how you feel and that she has to make up her mind.
Third, if she doesn't chose yo... (read in full...)
After hacking into my husband's facebook account, my gut tells me not to trust him anymore
Q. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and he is a deployed contractor. Everything was going fine from what I can tell, but then I read one of his emails from his phone that he left behind asking if he "hooked up w/ the chick" ...
A. 15 January 2011: You have a problem. At the very least he is flirting, checking out, talking to, wanting to have sex with other women.
However, it sounds like he's already had sex with a prostitute or two. No big deal to him as he doesn't have feelings for them... (read in full...)
Why can't I remember things from my past?
Q. My mom is a drug addict. Well, technically she's been clean for a while (though relapsed last week). Anyways, for about 6 years she was in and out of my life; she would come back and say that she was clean and a couple days later she would be gone. ...
A. 15 January 2011: It sounds like it was a very traumatic time for you hun - you probably blocked things out. Maybe thats for the good? At any rate, perhaps counseling would be good for you just to vent to someone. Hope everything will be ok for you!... (read in full...)
He cheated, she had baby...do we have rights?
Q. My fience of almost 8 yrs cheated w/ my now ex best friend. She had his daughter just over a week ago. I have decided to forgive him and make our realtionship work but it has deffinitly been the biggest challenge of my life. The worst part is she ...
A. 14 January 2011: You might love him unconditionally, but he most definitely does NOT!! Wake up hun. You have no kids with him, just 8 years, no marriage, nothing binding you forever. You have to be strong and walk away this time. This was the ultimate betrayal. He ... (read in full...)
He cheated, she had baby...do we have rights?
Q. My fience of almost 8 yrs cheated w/ my now ex best friend. She had his daughter just over a week ago. I have decided to forgive him and make our realtionship work but it has deffinitly been the biggest challenge of my life. The worst part is she ...
A. 13 January 2011: Whats worse is that you've stayed with him! What a mess! How can you ever trust him? You must have so much strength to deal with this :(... (read in full...)
I cut him out off my life because he wasn't worth it, but do you guys think he would ever think why I am not chasing him anymore?
Q. I just recently cut off ties I was very in to b/c it was time I moved on. He was great to be around but played with my emotions. The whole thing lost it's thrill for me. I realized I was chasing someone who made himself available to me only to take ...
A. 13 January 2011: I asked my BF who's in your age range and has a little bit of a history on him. He said NO. The guy just wanted easy accessible sex and really outside of this doesn't not wonder what is going on with you. He might notice next time he wants sex with ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in my marriage
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for advice. Im 28 and hes 46 been together for 6yrs... married 1yr. Not sure i wanted to get married. But he was pushing me. asking me everyday when we getting married. Then one day he says will you please just pick a day. So I ...
A. 13 January 2011: Hun, you're my age! You're young. Goodness, there is so much to do in life & to experience. You're life sounds mundane and controlled.
You know, you met him at a VERY young age, you've grown up and want different things in life than he does (He'... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband I was involved with a woman while we were separated?
Q. I have been separated from my husband of 3 years for 4 months now. There has been a history of emotional and verbal abuse throughout the 6 years we have been together. During our last separation (about 2 years ago, for 7 months), I met a girl who ...
A. 8 January 2011: Sounds like you'd only be making things worse for yourself. He hasn't earned your trust to feel comfortable telling him everything. So keep it this way. This should not be the issue, but rather why are you with him? If he is abusive, you deserve ... (read in full...)
Tainted goods?
Q. If a girl had sex for 1 or 2 minutes with another man and stopped and this was the only sexual encunter that she has ever had and knew what she did was wrong. Then was loyal to her husband after that for the rest of her lfe would that make her ...
A. 8 January 2011: Nope. The person that is tainted is the one that thinks this way!... (read in full...)
I will do whatever it takes to earn D's trust and hand in marriage.
Q. Hey before I get started please don't attack me because I know I was the asshole. Ok so I'll call say her names D. D worked with me for 16 months.she didn't work in my dept but we friendly.She was single but I was going out with two girls that ...
A. 8 January 2011: I hope she will not give you a second chance. If she is smart she wont!... (read in full...)
How long is long enough to expect commitment when you are sleeping with a guy??
Q. I began dating this guy about 2.5 months ago. I had just gotten out of a short term relationship, and before that had a baby and was in a long term before that. He had just gotten out of a divorce a year ago, and the night we first "hooked up...
A. 8 January 2011: Okay, youuuu need to read these two books "He's just not that into you" and "Why men marry bitches". Honestly, you lost his interest in a 'relationship' when you had sex with him so early. Suddenly in his mind you didn't have alot of value. I'm sure ... (read in full...)
Want a threesome... need advice!
Q. Me and my man have been together for 7 years. He's been wanting to have a threesome years ago and now me and him want a threesome. I've been very curious about being with a female and I also want to have some crazy, fun, exciting sex. I asked my man ...
A. 5 January 2011: Be careful what you wish for:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/threesome-gone-terribly-wrongmy-husband-is-in-love.html... (read in full...)
I want to tell his girlfriend he's a cheater!
Q. So i've known this guy for 2 years. We met through mutual friends. We used to triple date alot, and it was really fun. He and his gf were very cute together. They still are. I forget their history now, but i know they've been together a while. He ...
A. 4 January 2011: I agree with the write below. I would want to know who the person I am dating is. It might be painful, but it will help her make an informed decision. Sounds like he is a horrible ass.... (read in full...)
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