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Ex wants to try again but how can I after I seen what turns him on?

Q.   Hi everyone, could do with some strong advice before i cry. I split up with my boyfriend a few days ago as i caught him lying to me. He moved out and i stopped all contact. Then thismorning he sent me an email and when i went to reply i found an...

A.   30 November 2011: Hi you are better off without him you deserve so much better than that if you gave him another chance what is to say that he won't just carry on doing it behind your back one day you will meet someone who will treat you how you deserve to be treated ... (read in full...)

Mixed signals - some signs show he cares and others show he's not bothered?

Q.   Dear cupid. I'm 19 and I'm "getting to know" this guy, he's 23. Now, we're not officially seeing each other, we're just seeing how it goes - we're both allowed to date other people (but I'm not the type to do so, as I like to stick to one guy...

A.   19 November 2011: The only way you are going to know what he is playing at is to ask him just tell him how you are feeling and see what he says its the only way to know for sure... (read in full...)

I don't know how to take care of kids, I don't think they're cute, I don't like them or know what to do with them, and I don't want one, ever.

Q.   Today I was talking with my mom, and my sister, who joined in, and they said it was wierd that I have no maternal instinct. Every woman in my family, and even a lot of men LOVE babies and kids, whenever there's a baby around, everyone coos over it, ...

A.   15 November 2011: I'm a single mum to a 3 year old little boy my boyfriend left me when I was 6 weeks pregnant with him and I was exactly the same as you I was absolutaly terrified but when I gave birth to him I totally changed I loved him straight away now I ... (read in full...)

How do I handle my girlfriend? She is acting like a complete bitch!

Q.   I need help with my girlfriend She is acting like a bitch and I know she is not but she says I constantly annoy her and always tell her what to do when the only thing I tell her to do is to don't drink to much whenever she does And she gets a...

A.   7 November 2011: Hi sorry to say this but sounds like this relationship has run its course she obviously doesn't respect you as your supposed to in a relationship she cannot care about you enough to love you or she wouldn't say these horrible things to you the only ... (read in full...)

What's going on with this girl?

Q.   So had three amazing dates with this one girl I met online. Pretty much once a week for the past 3 weeks or so. Things were going smoothly up until this past week haha Third date last sunday ended pretty well, with a make out outside of her c...

A.   7 November 2011: Hi I would just leave it for now just give her time when she is over her ex or whatever is bothering her be there for her when she wants to hang out again just be casual about it ... (read in full...)

I'm worried my husband is embarrassed of me!

Q.   Okay, what do you think. My husband is pretty popular on social networking. A while back I posted my picture on my social sites that are linked to his (like twitter.) He quickly told me to take down all pictures of me because people would tak...

A.   21 October 2011: Yes this makes perfect sense you have got every right to be annoyed that joke was completely out of order he should not allow people to make jokes of you like that if I were you I would start checking out who he is talking to and what he is saying ... (read in full...)

I normally go for older guys but now I like a guy 17 months younger than me but can't see it going anywhere?

Q.   Hey :) well basically, I find guys who are older than me very attractive and they are the people i normally develop feelings for. For example, I am 16 and I have "liked" guys of ages, 18,21,24. But recently,about 2 months ago I got talking to a...

A.   21 October 2011: I would say go for it 17 months may seem a lot to you at the minute but that is nothing to be honest I would meet up with him not as a date or anything just hang out a few times and see how things develop between you ... (read in full...)

How do I let him know I'm up for a FWB relationship without sounding stupid?

Q.   hi everyone. I want to get into a FWB relationship with a guy i know. Im pretty sure he'd be up for it, but how do i suggest it/let him know thats what i want without sounding really stupid? Any advice please? Thanks!...

A.   21 October 2011: Hi I would not get yourself into a fwb relationship I have just got out of one that was wrong one of you will only end up getting hurt by this if you or he starts seeing someone else either the woman or the man (usually the woman) starts having s... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity to him, but I hold back at the last second!

Q.   I want to lose my virginity to my LDR boyfriend. I'm physically and emotionally prepared to go through with it; I find myself daydreaming way too much about having sex with him... I'm completely sure he's the one I want my first time to be with. And ...

A.   2 October 2011: Hi you say you are physically ready to do this but you obviously are not when you hold back this is your bodys way of telling you that you are not ready for this yet as for fantasising about having sex with him you are probably curious as to what it ... (read in full...)

I like to watch her masturbate, is this normal?

Q.   [note: please do not write questions in all caps] I like to watch my wife masturbate and she likes to watch me. I'm very small in size, maybe 6 inches hard. She tells me it doesn't matter. It bothers me and I just hope she's truthful. I perf...

A.   23 September 2011: If you are both completely comfortable with this then yes it is completely normal ... (read in full...)

Should I have a baby with this married man?

Q.   I have a serious question that I know will ruffle A LOT of feathers but I'm sorry, I really need advice, I've been seeing a married man for a while and were very close, best friends more than lovers. Recently I have been getting urges to have a ...

A.   18 September 2011: Hi no this is not an ideal situation at all what would happen if you got pregnant by this married man and his wife found out would he still want you and the baby if I were you I would wait until you meet someone then have a baby together when the ... (read in full...)

BF wants us to watch porn together but I'm worried that witnessing my partner getting turned on by someone much better looking than myself will damage my self esteem

Q.   Yesterday, my boyfriend of 2 and a half years brought up the subject of watching porn together and said it was something he would like to try. Personally, I have never watched porn before as I have always thought of it as being degrading. I have no ...

A.   18 September 2011: Hi personally I wouldn't watch it with him if it makes you feel insecure you do not have to do something in which you are not comfortable with tell your boyfriend this I'm sure he will understand ... (read in full...)

How should I respond when a guy I'm dating says, "I love you"?

Q.   what should I respond when a guy I am dating said "I love you" what should I say if a guy I am dating said "I love you"? if I want to find out his "I love you" is not just for a casual relationship but for a committed (to Marriage, I mean) relation...

A.   17 September 2011: I would take notice how he says things not by words is he very caring towards you does he asks how your day had been things like that that show you he cares are usually the way to find out if he genuinely loves you and another way is to not read to ... (read in full...)

Hubby having/had an affair???

Q.   Had or having an affair? hes 31 but 2 months ago he trashed his 24 year old friend by revealing her sexual antics on radio,the number of men she slept with and who's she sleeping with while hes talking and 3 weeks ago he said hes a fan of the same...

A.   17 September 2011: I don't think there is much you can do about this situation as you do not have any solid proof that he was or wasn't having an affair I would not say anything to him about this but watch his actions towards you if he starts to become moody or ... (read in full...)

How do I talk to my wife about her hygiene without offending her?

Q.   Hi, My wife's let herself go of late. By this I mean she could shower more and cuold shave more often. How do I bring this up? There have been times when getting intimate has been tough due to smell. I always ensure she orgasms and really en...

A.   29 August 2011: Hi I would suggest having a shower together before sex that way you won't have to bring it up to her and hurt her feelings just ask her to take a shower or a bath together before sex a bath will probably be better put plenty of bubble bath in and ... (read in full...)

Am I reading too much into my ex fiance's nephew's message on facebook?

Q.   Am I reading too much into something that happened today? My ex fiance's nephew posted a message on fb today saying that he missed me and called me Aunt Mary which is what he called me back when my ex and I were together. We have been split for ...

A.   26 August 2011: I would continue to ignore this unless you get any msgs from your ex personally them you will know for sure if he still likes you you cannot go through that hurt again to find out its just someone saying things good luck ... (read in full...)

Why does he pull away when he gets an erection?

Q.   hi :) I dont have a major problem but just need some general advice. So iv been going out with a guy for about 3 weeks and we havent had sex yet. we both would like to wait a little until we know each other better. But whenever we cuddle ...

A.   21 August 2011: Hi he may do this as he may think you will be embarassed or maybe he doesn't want to think he is doing it on purpose so you have sex with him I would just pretend you haven't noticed or if you do feel ready to have sex with him at any time when he ... (read in full...)

Thoughts on engagement rings?

Q.   A friend of mine recently got engaged, and then broke the engagement off last weekend. Her now ex-fiance stated "that was a total waste of $4500" (meaning the amount that he spent on the engagement ring.) I personally agree that $4500 is too much to ...

A.   20 August 2011: $500 is nothing if he could afford better than yes your boyfriend does sound a little cheap you can.t put a price on how much you love someone... (read in full...)

Can't get it up please help!!

Q.   ok before i ask my question let me tell you some information first... so i was in a 2 year relationship with my recently ex girlfriend. our sex drive towards each other was very strong...we had no problems with that pretty much as soon as i would ...

A.   20 August 2011: you have just got to give yourself time obviously you are not over your ex yet that takes time this is your bodys way of telling you you are not mentally or physically ready yet if your new girlfriend genuinely likes you she will wait till your ... (read in full...)

Our friendship is heating-up but can we ride this tiger?

Q.   A couple of years ago, I met this lovely woman from another country at a conference for a shared interest (in yet another country). We got on really well, and afterwards be-friended one another on Facebook, and stayed in touch irregularly, but with ...

A.   18 August 2011: yes i think you probably could still see each other as long as theres no sex or anything involved and if none of your partners found out then there is no problem there but if it becoming to much for you both as you both like each other it may be ... (read in full...)

Should I read into his answer?

Q.   My bf asked me the oh so popular question "Who would you save in a burning fire?" He told me to choose one of my three siblings. I had a very hard time and kept telling him I'd either save them all or die togpther with them because I wouldn't be ...

A.   18 August 2011: i wouldnt worry about it people can answer this but it probably wouldnt be true if it actually happened you wouldnt stand and think who shoild i save you would try save whoever you could all if possible i would just forget about it... (read in full...)

Do women really like the direct approach my friend says he takes?

Q.   I have recently discovered a very secret side to a good colleague and friend of mine. He’s a few years older than me at 35, not particularly good looking I would think, not really rich either. Just a regular guy (like me!). I knew for quite some ...

A.   18 August 2011: i wouldnt believe all of what he says maybe one woman has agreed to this and he is exaggerating to make himself sound good it all depends on the women hes approaching really some women like the direct approach and others don,t ... (read in full...)

If suspicion does come from guilt....does that mean shes up to something behind my back?

Q.   My girlfriend of 10 months is quite a strange character, in a good way mainly as I like individuality, but some things do bother me... She won't meet me near her work in case a colleague sees us as she says she doesn't want everyone knowing...

A.   18 August 2011: it may come from that or she may want to seem mysterious to keep you interested the only way you will know for sure is to talk to her and ask her why she is being the way she is with you ... (read in full...)

We've got so much work to do to get our marriage back on track but he is still talking to the girl he was seeing whilst we were separated!

Q.   My husband and I have been separated for the last 6 months, during which time we both started seeing other people. In the last few weeks though, we have decided that we still love each other and want to try again. The circumstances of our ...

A.   18 August 2011: you are not being paranoid you have every right to be feeling the way you are i would talk to him and see if he has actually broke up with her or if he is seeing you both especially as he makes plans with her and says maybe to you you have got to ... (read in full...)

I love my step-sister?

Q.   About 3 years ago, my Dad met someone online and started to date her. He took me to meet her family, and she had a daughter. Over the last year and a half, I've gotten really close to the daughter, and I think I'm in love with her. I really can't ...

A.   18 August 2011: i wouldnt act on this i mean if your dad and this woman get married you are all going top be related i woul;d try break off contact with her till your feelings for her go away ... (read in full...)

What is going on with her? I need to understand her actions!

Q.   I met this girl a month ago. We had sex on the first meeting. She told me afterwards that she just came out of a one year relationship that tore her up emotionally. The following two days we led a warm, caring relationship, she always stood by my ...

A.   18 August 2011: it sounds like she is just wanting a fwb with you if that is not what you are wanting i would tell her so if you carry on like this you will only end up getting hurt... (read in full...)

She wants me for sex because her husband cant give her a child! Help!

Q.   Hi,guys help im a bit confused. im male aged 24 hear me out, when i was 17 years old i was dating a girl who was 16 at that time. she pregnant for me and later both parents discovered that she's pregnant. her parents me for damage my parent paid and ...

A.   18 August 2011: i would stay away from her what if you got her pregnant and she stayed with her husband she may be trying to use you just for a baby she could say to her husband the babys his and you would have no chance of seeing it i would really think about what ... (read in full...)

I want a relationship with this guy and I want my mother to accept it!

Q.   Hi, I am 21 years old guy, just came out yesterday to my mother that I am bisexual and she didn`t over reacted but the thing is, she did not convinced that I am actually capable to love also guys and enjoy sexual intercourse. She thinks that thi...

A.   18 August 2011: your mum is probably feeling a bit shocked which is understandable but its not a big deal just give her time she will come round eventually until then i would try and explain it to her good luck... (read in full...)

How do I fix this?

Q.   My boyfriends family dont have that much money (well they didnt before but do now) and my family have been always been comfortable lets say. I am use to giving and receiving big gifts at birthdays. My boyfriend has a very good job and big savings so ...

A.   18 August 2011: just explain to him that your sorry but you just wanted to do something nice for him he can,t have a go at you for that and that you didnt realise he would freak out over it... (read in full...)

My wife thinks she's a failure and "broken" and "invalid" because she can't have children

Q.   My wife and I have been together since we were 20, married since we were 23 and trying for a baby since we were 24. We're now 29 and recently (two months ago) found out that she is infertile. When we got the news, we were both devastated but my wife ...

A.   17 August 2011: really sorry to hear that you could maybe try a surrogate using your sperm try talk to your wife and just see what she thinks just keep reasuring your wife that she,s not a failure and that you love her and will be there for her... (read in full...)

Is it ok to masturbate during pregnancy?

Q.   My question's very short. I'm 8 weeks pregnant and live miles away from my fiance (who's the father of my babe). I miss sex so much and always find myself masturbating. Is masturbating harmful to me and or my unborn baby?...

A.   16 August 2011: no its completely fine you are doing no harm to you or your unborn child... (read in full...)

I'm prepared to face the consequences of dating a married man, so how do I approach him?

Q.   It’s been two years now that I feel attracted to a man at my workplace. The problem is that he’s married. Yeah, I already know what you’ll tell me: Stay away from him. I’ve done so for the past two years but I still feel the same attraction. I know ...

A.   16 August 2011: i wouldnt approach him personally what will happen if his wife finds out and if he has children what will it do to them could you really be that selfish and split a family up just for the sake of a affair they always end up with both families ... (read in full...)

Pregnant and not sure how to tell my fiance.....we decided we didnt want kids yet!

Q.   I found out I was pregnant this morning and havent told anyone. My fiance and I decided we didnt want kids yet as we are way too busy with our jobs (hes a rugby player and i am a busy primary school teacher). Neither of us believe in abortion and i ...

A.   16 August 2011: dont panick is the first thing i would hold off on telling your boyfriend just yet figure out how you feel about this yourself first then just tell him you need to talk to him and just explain how you feel and ask him to do the same and both figure ... (read in full...)

How do you get over someone you truly loved?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are on and of we love each other, weve been dating for six months but hes said that hes going through alot and we need a break, well anyways im in eighth grade going to ninth im really hurt and my family and friends keep telling ...

A.   16 August 2011: give yourself time you will find that eventualy you will stop thinking about him less and less in the meantime i would keep yourself busy with your school work and with friends to stop you thinking of him all the time ... (read in full...)

My feelings have changed and sometimes I don't even want to be around him!

Q.   So...this is a tough one. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We have a great relationship, minus a few ups and downs that everyone is sure to go through. Recently my feelings towards him have changed. At times things are complete...

A.   16 August 2011: i have been in a similar situation and i had to break up with him as we were both unhappy because he knew i didnt feel the same way about him as much as i felt so guilty about hurting him it was better in the long run for both of us... (read in full...)

Why are my friends being so rude and reading my messages to my boyfriend?

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles, I recently got an iPhone and my friends have been playing with the games I downloaded. I have no qualms about lending my phone for my friends to play but 2 of them have conveniently went to my Whatsapp to read messages between ...

A.   16 August 2011: they are probably jealous of the relationship you and your boyfriend have these are not true friends true friends would not read your personal messages or behave the way they are i would ask yourself do you consider them friends after the way they ... (read in full...)

Filled with regret for the way things ended with BF.

Q.   I am filled with dread and regret after breaking up with my boyfriend of 9 months. I don't want it to end but it couldn't stay as it was. He was being cold, not returning my phone calls for days and then I found evidence that he was flirting wit...

A.   16 August 2011: this was not your fault i would of done exactly the same thing as you did you did the right thing he was obviously not as bothered about the relationship as you were if he was he wouldnt of denied the messages and he would of tried to talk to you to ... (read in full...)

My brother walked in on us having sex. Now its awkward. What should I do??

Q.   This is quite a long story but please stick with it. A few days ago, my boyfriend was away doing preseason training with his and my brothers team. They are both professional rugby players so are away a lot training and playing etc. Anyway, i h...

A.   16 August 2011: ive been in the same sitaution as yoursekf i just laughed it off and no more has been said about it it will in time be forgotten about... (read in full...)

Advice to be less controlling with my boyfriend?

Q.   Hi all! I have a problem, I am quite needy and I find that this affects my relationships as I can become quite controlling. Let me explain…I have just spent a chunk of time with my partner. he wants some space now to spend time with his friends. I ...

A.   16 August 2011: well why dont you try spend a bit more time with your friends yourself while he is with his friends relationships usually last longer when you both do things separetely as it gives you things to talk about when you do see each other ... (read in full...)

His partner died 9 years ago, is it still healthy that he's grieving over him?

Q.   Hi I am in a relationship with a guy for the last two years and we live together for the last 6 months, my partner had a partner who died 9 years ago and they were together for 18 years and were very happy My partner is very close with his partner...

A.   16 August 2011: i would just try be there for him as he sounds like he really needs you maybe you could suggest ti him that he talks to someone about this grief affects people in all diffrent ways some can get over it in a few months others it can take years like ... (read in full...)

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