Trust issues, lies and now my ex isn't speaking to me
Q. I'll try to keep this as short as I possibly can, because I need advice ASAP.. My boyfriend and I broke up about five days ago. Before that, we were on a three day break. And I'll save you the trouble.. It was all my fault, and I'm truly, truly so...
A. 11 August 2011: a relationship cannot work without trust you have made him lose that trust for you because of your lies and clinginess i know how much it hurts when you want someone back so now you have got to show him that you trust him and that he can trust you ... (read in full...)
Does this mean I don't trust him?
Q. If I worry about who my boyfriend texts, IMs, etc., does that mean I don't trust him?...
A. 11 August 2011: yes this does mean you dont trust him if you are worrying about who he texting then you obviously think he will cheat on you or something a relationship cannot work without trust... (read in full...)
Do I display behavior of a sex addict?
Q. I've had 17 partners. I had oral sex with most of them. I had sex with 2 of them. I love watching porn but have stopped. I masturbate like 3-4 times a week (but masturbate 2 times those days) I like the idea of fantasy. I like looking at ...
A. 11 August 2011: hi no you are not a sex addict because if you were you would be trying to meet diffrent men every weeek or even sooner to have sex with not every 6 month or so it sounds like your defences are coming up because you are scared of getting hurt it also ... (read in full...)
Might I have a chance with something amazing? Or could he become clingy later?
Q. Question first: Is he pathetic or will he grow clingy or might I genuinely have a chance at something spectacular? The situation: Been pretty good friends with a heavier-set guy for years now (I'm rather petite). At age 21, we had sex for the firs...
A. 11 August 2011: hi it is obvious you have said it yourself you don,t want to get hurt again which is perfectly normal i would arrange to meet up with him and talk to him tell him how you feel and try talking things slowly you don,t want to ignore him because he ... (read in full...)
I want to have someone to make out with, not have a serious relationship with! How do I tell him this?
Q. I have this friend who I hung out with a few times. I kind of knew he likes me because he hugs me, makes me compliments and stuff like that. Yesterday he asked me if I want to be with him and I told him I don't know, and I would like to take things ...
A. 11 August 2011: hi i have been in this situation before you dont want to be with them but you dont want to tell them in case you hurt them well truth is it is best to be honest just say to him i don,t want to be with you properly but you would still like to make ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hate everyone! I want to be happy again.
Q. I'm finally out from under the thumb of a controlling ex. Extremely happy about this, but... I'm about to start school next week. At the end of last year I alienated myself from my peers per controlling boyfriend's request. This kills me because ...
A. 11 August 2011: hi i would try talking to some of your old friends and explain to them why you treat them like you did explain to them that you are very sorry about it if they accept ypur apology and you become friends with them again then you know who your true ... (read in full...)
Should he protect us financially?
Q. Hi Advice needed My Partner and I had a rocky relationship in the past. At the start he was far from committed to me I had his baby but there were episodes of suspected cheating and he was dismissive of my children I lost my job and he refused t...
A. 11 August 2011: hi i would not buy a house together as he sound svery unreliable i would carry on as you are for now and see how you both are in a few months time ... (read in full...)
Thoughts only why I'm called a slut and 19 months along enough time to wait to loss virginity?
Q. okay well i lost my virginity to much boyfriend of 19 months at the time. he was a virgin also. i was just kinda wondering was that a good about of time to wait. i thought so but just wondering. also why do you thik people call me a slut when ive ...
A. 5 August 2011: you are way to young to be having sex at your age but since you have only had sx with 1 person you are not a slut but i would wait at least a couple more year before you have sx with him again
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Do I leave this marriage or stay out of guilt?
Q. I was married when I was 19 years old ( I am 24 now) and I am losing hope for my marriage. When I got into this relationship I truly did love my husband. However, we fight very often, and the fights have sometimes become physical on both sides ...
A. 21 July 2011: you have very valid reasons to leave what worries me is why your family expect you to stay with a man who treats you like this especially as you mentioned sexual abuse i would break up with him you cannot go through life being unhappy you have got ... (read in full...)
How to get to know him better?
Q. So there is this guy and I sort of have a crush on him. I want it to go further, I think he is interested in me because he looks at me and gives me glances, when I look back at him he would keep long eye contact. I’ve seen him around school and we ...
A. 20 July 2011: good luck hope things go well ... (read in full...)
I really like her but I'm worried I'm too eager
Q. I need some help. I'm a mature man. I have been out of a long-term relationship for about 18 months. I have been trying to sort my life out. Now I have met a woman a little younger than me, but not embarrassingly so and I really like her. I'm gett...
A. 17 July 2011: she is probably feeling exactly the same way. Just relax around her. put your arm around her. when your sit together, listen to what she says and just enjoy her company and being around her ... (read in full...)
Why was she so sore this time?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 11 months now. Today I returned from being away for two weeks and we spend most of it rather physically. I've never came before but today I did. The strange thing was that she couldn't. She ...
A. 17 July 2011: when you have been having sex a while you do become sore if a woman's clitoris gets over stimulated. It does become very uncomfortable next time, if she starts becoming uncomfortable again, give her loads of oral. It feels so good when you're sore... (read in full...)
Is there unfinished talking I need to do with her? Or should I just draw the line?
Q. I've been split from my ex for 7 months now and we haven't had much contact because I told her I needed to get over her. She texts me probably once or twice a month to see how I am. I've been on a few dates, but I just can't seem to get over her, ...
A. 17 July 2011: i would try talking to her. maybe she hasn't moved on, and is feeling the same way ... (read in full...)
Is there any way for this relationship to maybe return from sexual interest to our original real connection?
Q. I met a guy on the internet a few months ago, and he and I have been talking regularly ever since. Since day one, I really feel like the two of us have had a connection. Everything clicks. But recently things have taken a turn from genuine interest ...
A. 17 July 2011: sounds to me that this is all he wants: sex. you have got to be very carefull meeting people off the internet. i would take a friend with you for safety, if you do meet him personally. i wouldn't meet him. what will happen if you meet up and have... (read in full...)
He told his friend he wanted a break but didn't tell me!
Q. I have a boyfriend...we been together a year...just the other day i confronted him about one of him and his females friends n how he be talking to her...he called her "sweetums" and he never called meh that...at least i cant recall. i felt kinda bad ...
A. 17 July 2011: sounds like you both need some space from each other to really figure out what you both want from this relationship i wouldn't text tweet or email or call him i would leave all contact for him to initiate good luck... (read in full...)
I am so hurt, why do I let him do this to me?
Q. We've been seeing each other on and off for a few months. We've slept together but he still doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He keeps coming in and out of my life. It had been a month and out of the blue he contacted me again. I'm ...
A. 17 July 2011: hi im in exactly the same situation at the moment a guy i like has been the same with me since march so i know completely how you are feeling it is not nice at all when they are all you think about heres what i am going to do tommorrow i am going to ... (read in full...)
I feel like telling them all the truth about their partners!
Q. I used to never care and never get angry. Now everything irrtates me. I can't stand half of my friends. I used to be chill and let people act however they wanted, but now I just don't care. I'm actually revangful now. Kind of feel like getting back ...
A. 17 July 2011: i wouldnt get revenge on them personally i would leave them to it cheats always get found out eventually it never goes on for long without getting caught as for your friends irritating you sounds like you need some new friends ... (read in full...)
To give head or not to give head? That is the question!
Q. To give head or to not give head? That is the question. Okay, talk about an icebreaker! Here's my situation. I've been dating a guy officially for a month this coming Saturday. Before officially dating, we casually dated for another month. W...
A. 16 July 2011: you will not come off as slutty if you give your boyfriend head he will love it all men do i was with my boyfriend for 6 weeks lol when we gave each other oral... (read in full...)
After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 16 July 2011: well if its driving you crazy send her a simple text like "hi how are you x " see if she replies back if she does don,t tell her it was driving you crazy not hearing from her as that may sound like you are coming on strong ... (read in full...)
I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!
Q. My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS...
A. 16 July 2011: she obviously does care otherwise she wouldnt of reacted like this if she didnt she sounds like a good friend don,t let her concern for your safety ruin your friendship... (read in full...)
I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!
Q. My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS...
A. 16 July 2011: she is just being a good friend and looking out for you thats what friends do she is obviously against motorcycles and i don,t blame her to be honest... (read in full...)
Could he have felt my privates? And was this dry sex?
Q. I was at my boyfriend's house and we were making out. It ended up with him on top and he kept grabbing my butt. Thing was, he kept grabbing closer and closer to my private part till eventually he was almost fingering me. Could he tell the difference ...
A. 16 July 2011: yep you were its called dry humping if your not comfortable with it tell him don,t be pushed into something your not ready for... (read in full...)
After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 15 July 2011: i would give her plenty of time as she said shes been hurt before so take it slowly with her ... (read in full...)
I found my dad's been surfing porn and maybe using escort services, what should I do now?
Q. I was on my dads computer and I found sexual escort websites...I also found pornography on his cell phone. I am really worried that he is using these escorts and really don't know what to do. I would rather not confront him but its one of those ...
A. 15 July 2011: i would not tell your mum about this just try to forget about it pretend you havent saw it you could split your family up if you told... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me mixed signals and tells me he needs a few years to figure out if he wants to stay married to me!
Q. My husband and I split up because he couldn't handle a stressful situation that we had no control over..he just couldn't step up to the plate and give support when needed. Now the situation is over, it is two months since I moved out and the whole ...
A. 15 July 2011: i would tell him you want a divorce are you really going to wait around for him for 2-3 years while he decides if he wants you or not no way would i do that you could be getting on with your life and meet someone new who will treat you right in that ... (read in full...)
Me LD friend, chatted it up but when we starting sexting he wont talk about anything else.How do I get my friend back?
Q. 3 months ago i met a guy on facebook. I live in Canada, he is in Granada. We discussed religion, music, our cultures, etc., nice fun easy flowing chats. We progressed to once a week cellphone text, max characters. Emails, everyday...fell in love, or ...
A. 15 July 2011: sounds like he,s not interested as a friend with you anymore if you ever met up with him he will probably be just after sex... (read in full...)
Broke it off with BF but cant help but want to talk to him. Do I miss him?
Q. There's this guy, let's call him JD. Well, first off, we have been friends for months and we've dated and about 4 days ago I told him I thought it was time to let go and find new people. I've never gone through with leaving him; I've tried it ...
A. 15 July 2011: yes you do miss him but we need more information to answer properly... (read in full...)
Psycho boyfriend broke up with me, stiffed me for money, now sends email to brother worried about my mental health? huh?
Q. Why is my ex-boyfriend of three years contacting my brother asking about me? He dumped me nine months ago. To say it was an ugly break-up is an understatement. He left me in a callous manner(at a destination wedding for my best friend). I was so ...
A. 15 July 2011: this sounds like he,s not over the break up yet and he,s doing all he can to keep having contact with you i would block him off everything like facebook or whatever else you have and change your number ... (read in full...)
Dating for a year and never gone on a "date" yet!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We get along fine and time with just ourselves is great. We have never gone on a date yet. I've tried to plan 3 but always something came up with my bf and the date would be called off. Afte...
A. 15 July 2011: he is definetely hiding you i would talk to him and make him listen what do you exactly do for fun then? because this does not sound like a fun relationship if you.s have sex quite often i would consider the fact you are been used for sex... (read in full...)
I hate how bitter she's being about the break up. She was hurt more than I was but now that I want back together, shouldn't that fix it?
Q. So, I'm not one for dating advice columns or anything like that. That being said, bear with me a bit. Alright, so I've been through a lot of difficult relationships. I recognize the fact that the difficulty in some cases was my doing. I though...
A. 15 July 2011: you can,t expect her to give up facebook and her friends her friends are the ones who have been there for her when you hurt her by splitting up with her everyone needs there friends you say you have changed but it still sounds like you were ... (read in full...)
Do all these things mean he likes me?
Q. I have this guy friend who I didn't see very often, only every few days to a week we'd see each other. We started hanging around almost everyday though the last two weeks, and he's acting a lot different with me. He pays a lot of attention to me, ...
A. 15 July 2011: yeah it does sound like he likes you the teasing is usually always a give away when someone likes you and they,ll want to be around you more like he is doing good luck... (read in full...)
What is an estimate of a healthy amount of time between relationships?
Q. Hi there What is an estimate of a healthy amount of time between relationships? I was in a long term relationship for 3 years and its like I'm clueless about dating. I'm in my late 20s and only 2 serious relationships. Last time, it was 3 months b...
A. 15 July 2011: there is no healthy amount of time because everyone is diffrent so it will vary within diffrent people when you meet someone when you feel ready you will know... (read in full...)
B/f just vanishes on me and then has reasons, but I hate it!
Q. hey.. i don't know if its a really big problem but its all i think about all day, so here goes. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and 5 months now. and right now i'm only 19. i have been with the same guy since i started dating. i really ...
A. 14 July 2011: i would talk to him face to face when you see him and have a good talk to him do you think maybe he is cheating on you thats why he keeps going awol?... (read in full...)
Does an ultrasound carry the father's name?
Q. I want to know something about baby ultrasounds. When a copy of the ultrasound is printed, does it carry the name of the baby's father on it? ...
A. 14 July 2011: no they usually have the mum,s surname on it thats it ... (read in full...)
Everytime I'm with him my heart races and I have butterflys...what is it?
Q. Well i decided to go back out with my ex and we'd been going out for 3 months last year but ended it cause we both thouight we didnt see enought of each other. i had been out with a few other guys since that but every time id see his name pop up id ...
A. 14 July 2011: its one of 2 things you really fancy him or you love him ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend wasn't interested in sex this time. I don't know what to do!
Q. Im really confused about my boyfriend. We have been in a LDR FOR 6 months. I had not seen him since february until he came and stayed with me on tuesday. I was expecting it to be amazing but Im really disappointed. We had sex, and the first time was ...
A. 14 July 2011: i would maybe consider the fact that maybe he is getting it elsewhere sorry to upset you i would talk to him tell him you need to know what is going on this is the problem with ldr as you never know what there getting upto... (read in full...)
How can I come up with a nickname for my boyfriend?
Q. There isn't anything wrong with me and my boyfriend; the reason I am writing to you is because i want to come up with a nickname that my boyfriend will be ok with I don't know what is a good nickname for him we have been together for about 9 months...
A. 14 July 2011: i call my boyfriend babe baby or sexy depending what mood im in lol ... (read in full...)
Dating a guy with a child: Good or bad idea?
Q. I've recently met a guy and we hit it off, so have planned a few dates over the next few weeks. We have been texting daily and getting to know each other better, and today he told me that he has a son. Now I have never dated anyone with a ch...
A. 14 July 2011: hi i don,t think it really matters that much to be honest i mean why is it any different for a woman to be with a man when he has a child or a man to be with a woman when she has a child ... (read in full...)
Is weekly sex causing all of this itching and scratching?
Q. This may sound silly but is just the truth. I have being having sex with my guy every week. And recently my vagina{i.e private part} has be scratching me seriously,but yesterday i use mirror to look at it and i found out that there were tiny things ...
A. 14 July 2011: hi this sounds like genital herpes the only way to get rid of these is go see your doctor he or she will be able to give you medication to clear them up... (read in full...)
My online relationship has fallen to pieces, what now?
Q. I'm not sure where to start. I wrote on here a week or two ago asking if people thought they could fall online. I don't question my feelings, but I have had to end things with my 'online love' because his true colours have started to show. Well the...
A. 14 July 2011: i think you did the right thing personally blocking him you don,t want someone possesive and controlling they can be very dangerous people ... (read in full...)
If I don't message her we don't talk at all! What should I do?
Q. Hi just a basic question. I was in the romantic love stage with a girl and the tension was unreal between us she was even glowing so i knew i was in romantic love but i also knew that it was temporary and so I thought i'd speak to her over facebook ...
A. 14 July 2011: the only thing you can really do here is ask her if she likes you and ask how she would feel about you,s being in a relationship see what she says or you could always just not msg her see if she msgs you at all... (read in full...)
How to get to know him better?
Q. So there is this guy and I sort of have a crush on him. I want it to go further, I think he is interested in me because he looks at me and gives me glances, when I look back at him he would keep long eye contact. I’ve seen him around school and we ...
A. 8 July 2011: hi i would ask him something about school or something that you both do ... (read in full...)
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