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writes:Dear cupid.I'm 19 and I'm "getting to know" this guy, he's 23.Now, we're not officially seeing each other, we're just seeing how it goes - we're both allowed to date other people (but I'm not the type to do so, as I like to stick to one guy at a time, however he isn't the same as me)I've been seeing him since mid september but I've known him since January.. He was my friend, we've always spoken but we never used to meet up regularly but we always sort of liked each other but nothing ever happened.But I went to see him before I started university and he ended up kissing me, telling me he liked me and we mutually agreed to try and meet up every weekend as I come home from my uni halls.I saw him three more times after that.. But now I haven't seen him in about 5 weeks.. Everything was fine, but things have changed. I'm getting mixed signals now and I don't understand it. The 3 times I went to see him he initiated the meet up but ever since the last time I saw him he hasn't asked to meet again. But when I ask he agrees.It's been 5 weekends where I haven't seen him. He kept saying he was busy but he'd tell me he didn't do much throughout the day.Yesterday I asked him if he was free today (Friday) and he said "yes" so when I asked him if I could see him he replied with "yeahhhhh ofcourse you can :)" so he seemed like he was happy to be seeing me.So we said we might be able to meet at 7pm. I texted him at 2pm asking him if I'm still seeing him, he said "yeah maybe at 7" so it wasn't certain anymore.At 6 he said that he's going to eat and go to sleep at 9 so he doesn't have enough time, even though we only really meet up for an hour, and I was 20mins away from his house and my friends place...But then he asked me how I was getting home, I told him I was going by bus and he said "Be careful, don't walk alone at night" and "Make sure you get home safe babe" - which made me feel like he still cares? Cause he wouldn't have said it if he didn't want to.And he said the same thing when I was out late last weekend...He said sorry for not being able to see me today, and I replied "that's okay, you can make time for me over the weekend :)" and he said "I'll see :)". So I'm basically getting two different signals from him, he talks to me normally and asks to know if I'm safe but yet he's not too bothered to meet up? Please help. I really do like him but I'm totally inexperienced with guys. I haven't had a boyfriend before and I'm pretty slow with guys lol.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Tell him that you like him and you want to spend more time with him, explain to him that you feel like he has changed his mind and doesn't want to meet up with you any more, ask him if he is still interested or should you just let it go.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (19 November 2011):
The only way you are going to know what he is playing at is to ask him just tell him how you are feeling and see what he says its the only way to know for sure
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