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anonymous
writes:I want to lose my virginity to my LDR boyfriend. I'm physically and emotionally prepared to go through with it; I find myself daydreaming way too much about having sex with him... I'm completely sure he's the one I want my first time to be with. And yet, every time the opportunity arises, I hold back. I can't understand it at all. My boyfriend's well aware of this reaction and is ever so understanding, saying he'll wait until I give him the go-ahead, although it must be even more frustrating for him than it is for me to get so close and have to stop at the last minute. Both of us know I do want this (he can feel it!) but I just can't seem to let go, and I honestly don't know what to do.Would you simply push through whatever's holding you back and do it regardless? Or carry on being intimate in other forms and wait until your head gives you the green light to go all the way? Thanks so much in advance for any advice x Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I would not push through. I would listen to my mind and body. YOU are NOT ready.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 October 2011):
I would not push through. I would listen to my mind and body. YOU are NOT ready.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 I know that you think you are ready but this is your bodies way of telling you that now is not the time. I think the best thing for you to do is to keep on being intimate in other ways until your body relaxes more. Yes you are going to be nervous and this is going to probably keep holding you back. Nerves are normal for the first time but you just need to relax or else it will never work. These things can't be rushed so for now just keep doing whatever makes you feel comfortable and soon it will happen.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (2 October 2011):
Hi you say you are physically ready to do this but you obviously are not when you hold back this is your bodys way of telling you that you are not ready for this yet as for fantasising about having sex with him you are probably curious as to what it is like you will know when you are ready your virginity is special don't lose it until you are completely ready good luck hope this helps
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