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writes:I need help with my girlfriend She is acting like a bitch and I know she is not but she says I constantly annoy her and always tell her what to do when the only thing I tell her to do is to don't drink to much whenever she doesAnd she gets all mad and bitchy towards me saying she can do whatever she even saying that she can kiss/make out with and have sex with whoever she wants She says she is tired of me controlling her when I don't and she knows I don't like it when she drinks but she still does and tells me and laughs at me telling me I'm not her dad and saying she can do whatever she wants And I still do whatever she tells me to out of love for her and she hardly returns the favor which I don't really mind but it would be nice for her to show affection. How do I handle her what can I do? Talking about it will just spark a fight I've already tried it many times she says she loves me but she wants freedom but I don't think freedom means cheating on me and drinking til your blacked out and possible in danger of your life Please help!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 November 2011):
 I think that it's time to cut your losses and move on..
she's drinking
she's disrespecting your desires
she's already told you she will sleep around on you if she feels like it (and unless you are ok with this and it goes both ways it's not acceptable)
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (7 November 2011):
Hi sorry to say this but sounds like this relationship has run its course she obviously doesn't respect you as your supposed to in a relationship she cannot care about you enough to love you or she wouldn't say these horrible things to you the only thing you can really do is tell her to sit down and listen when the two of you are alone and tell her how you are feeling and how she hurts you when she says things like to that to you only you can decide if you stay with her or not
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reader, Joyfulguy90 +, writes (7 November 2011):
Your situation sounds exactly like my best friend's. He had a girlfriend(Whom he been dating for 3 years) that went off to college and during her second year she began to start drinking... HARD. Her personality changed and she started to make out with girls and such. She was always mad and they would always fight. Despite their love for one another they went their separate ways and things got better for him at least. Im sorry to say man but she wont change. You just have to let go and let her do her own thing because its a phase, Female And Males go through. Which may take years to grow out of depending on the person.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 November 2011):
 I think maybe you need to let this one go, she doesn't seem to really want a relationship, just to be able to say that she has a BF.
And she does sounds like a total Bi...
Why are you putting up with this?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 November 2011):
 Why are you saying she is acting like a bitch (which she is) but that you know thats not who she truly is?
Wake up and smell the roses, she is acting exactly like who she is, no one is forcing her to be rude and a bitch to you. She's doing this all by herself. And saying things like she can have sex with whomever she wants and kiss whomever she wants? Well then leave her, so that when she does "whatever she wants with whomever she wants" at least you wont have to be dragged down with the drama. I think she's made it pretty clear!
She's treating you like a servant, you do everything she asks you to and she doesn't respect you. Why waste your time and love on someone who doesn't appreciate it? Give her the freedom she wants. Leave her. When you are in a relationship you commit, and are NOT free to do whatever you want. If she doesn't respect that, or understand that, then a relationship is not for her. She just wants her cake and eat it too.
Find yourself a nice faithful and committed girlfriend instead, someone who actually cares about your happiness and not just herself.
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reader, Sephiran +, writes (7 November 2011):
I was in the exact same situation as you are now. My ex ended up cheating on me. Break up with her at once. She's a horrible girlfriend and a selfish person.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 November 2011):
To be honest, you sound like a nice guy who's gone and got himself a really dreadful girl. Don't worry, we've all been there. It happened to me too, and sure enough the girl cheated.
The best thing you can do is dump her. You can't change her, and all she's interested in is having her own way. Just get rid of her. You don't need someone like this in your life, and you might as well get rid of her now before she does cheat (which she will, as she's already said).
She's no good. Not for anything.
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