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writes:Me and my boyfriend are on and of we love each other, weve been dating for six months but hes said that hes going through alot and we need a break, well anyways im in eighth grade going to ninth im really hurt and my family and friends keep telling to get over him but that only makes matters worse i really dont know what to do my heart just keeps losing pieces....my question is how are you suppose to completely get over someone you truthfully loved?
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reader, wolfred bane  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 actually, i don't thibk you ever really do... you just have to move on and time will numb the pain eventually. good luck! and i wish you well!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 I don't think you ever get over the your first love. What I have found is that as you get on with your life your definition of love changes and you realize that what you and your ex had was special at the time but wasn't what it takes to hve a more adult relationship.
Time and growing as a person will heal your relationship woes. It's hard to see now but when I look back on my past relationships from high school I really see that they would have never worked as an adult and I'm sure you'll get over him that way.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes  +, writes (16 August 2011):
i can tell you now, its not true love. i know you will get angry at that and i know exactly what youre going through ive been there and in the next few years you will mature so much and realise this boy wasnt worth all this upset and eventually you'll meet a guy who will make all your dreams come true. it may seem hard now but time is a great healer go out wtih your friends keep yourself busy and one day soon you will realise youre over him :) and if its meant to be you will get back together but dont pine over him. nobody likes somebody desperate
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (16 August 2011):
give yourself time you will find that eventualy you will stop thinking about him less and less in the meantime i would keep yourself busy with your school work and with friends to stop you thinking of him all the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): Sorry for your pain but I have been there and I will share with you what I usually do
1. Accept that you loved him and you had a great time. Wish him well in your thoughts coz that is love. Never create an attitude of hate/ resentment against them as they take away more internal energy from you. Sometimes you may drift into 2 below, it's fine.
2. Allow yourself to express your emotions (for me I usually need time alone to cry commonly in my bedroom). Don't hold back the tears as they relieve your pain.
3.Find enjoyment in your hobbies( I go out shopping, I become active in my workplace, go to Church/enjoy gospel music). Don't do any drugs
4. By this time the emotions are wearing off. Release him slowly from your system. Remember to always think well of him. It takes less energy. You will not only let go but you will remain stronger and even see things clearly just incase the reason of the break up was genuine.
I wish you all the best and I know you will do it!
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