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writes: My girlfriend and me made a sex tape (we mainly just make out in it with our clothes off) for my birthday. Well my friends came over randomly when I was watching. They (I didn't let them watch it with me cause I promise her it would between us) ask for a copy I say no. When they left. I couldn't find it. I haven't told my girlfriend (she's a bit self-conscious about her body) yet because she would kill me. I don't know it I should ask my friends they took it. I'm kind of freaking out. Help Reply to this Question |
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reader, icelordess  + ♥, writes (1 November 2008):
 Glad you found the tape..now burn it so you don't have to go through this again. Let your girl help you. But for God's sakes get rid of it unless you have a safe to lock it in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiongood news I found the tape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): This is absolutely unacceptable behaviour on your friends' parts. If you've told them that this is a private tape and they're not to watch it then they're not worth bothering with. Make it clear to them that if they've taken it you want it back, or let them face the repurcussions (the loss of your friendship.) You don't seem particularly angry, but make your disappointment clear. I'm afraid it's possible, as the other aunts said, that you will have to come clean with your girlfriend. Just make sure her and your friends don't cross paths for a long while afterwards. Let her know you weren't bragging to your mates, and you're as embarrassed as she is about it.
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Im a bit confused. You say that you made a sex tape with your gf, that I get, but what I dont get is how did your friends know you made one? (you said you didnt let them see coz you promised your gf) so im stumped figuring that one out.
Obviously, someone has told them and they are curious, so yes my money would be on they have taken it.
I think the best thing to do is ask for it back, approach the friend(s) that were there that day and ask they return it.
Of course your gf is going to be upset, you have betrayed her wishes, even though you didnt know they took it till after, still, you are the one that aroused their curiosity in the first place, and your gf will know that too.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (1 November 2008):
No wonder alot of people don't do this! Wow...what a mess...well, I don't think you need to be a detective to figure out that its very likely that your friends took the tape...You need to get it back PRONTO! Tell them its an invasion of your privacy, stealing, and hopefully they'll be decent enough to give it back. I'm sure they watched it, and you're going to have a hard time living this down, but what's done is done. As for your girlfriend, you'd better tell her, because if you don't, and she finds out from someone else..you're really going to have a problem! She's going to be extremely upset, you can count on it..but just be honest, sincere, apologize, explain that it wasn't your doing, and then hope that she can forgive you. I hope it works out ok...and in the future, hide EVERYTHING from your friends! Obviously some of them don't know what "privacy" is.
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 I would say they have taken it. Speak to them and tell them it's private and you want the tape back.
I think if you value your relationship your going to have to tell her that they took it, because you run the risk of one of your mates telling her and she would be more upset if she found out that way.
Explain to her what happened, she might be embarrassed for a while, and you'll probably be in the dog house, but hopefully she'll forgive you, it's not like you gave the tape to them to watch.
Good Luck
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