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writes:I was dating this guy for a little while not that long then he broke up with me saying i became too clingy and that he doesn't want to be with anyone for a while but it has been two days i called him and he had someone over and he hung up in my favce and that was a week ago my queston is if he doesn't want anyone why is she getting al the time he says he just sleeping with her but hes not paying me any attention why question is why did he move on so fast if he claimed he wanted to be single
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat you all very much really helped
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Thats one of the oldest tricks...
HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!
Which in this case is probably a good thing as it increases your chances of finding that guy who will truly rock your world
So depending on where you were at in your relationship with him,and the kind of feelings you had developed for him,id suggest you take time to alone,give yourself a chance to get over him
Then start meeting new people
Dont give his ego a boost or give him power over you by begging to make things good between the two of you,he broke up with you n knows where to find you if he wants you back
Youre a much more valuable person than he has chosen to treat you as
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Yeah, there's a difference between "wanting to be single" and "wanting to be alone". When a guy talks about wanting to "be single", it usually translates to "I want to have casual relationship-free sex and have it not be cheating".
Shrug off his "clingy" remark unless you were calling him 20x per day and demanding to see him every single day and being insanely jealous if so much as another girl walks into the room.
He is not worth it. I wouldn't ever contact him again and find a guy who will care about you and IS ready to not be single.
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reader, Odds +, writes (29 July 2011):
 He lied because he thought it would make things easier if you thought he wanted to be single, rather than thinking he just wanted to be dating someone else. Whether he thought it would be easier for both of you, or just for him, depends on the quality of his character.
It's hard to deal with, and your best bet is not to focus on it right now. It'll hurt for a while, and don't shy away from that, but soon enough the best thing for you will be to forget this guy and move on. Good luck.
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reader, tiffanylovepandas +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Jerks these days huh? He just used that as an excuse so he can find a easier way to dump you instead of telling you straight up, the truth. Just forget about him and find someone else. In his head, he's basically telling you to go away so might as well. Find someone better than that jerk. Just know he lost someone as special as you that actually cared for him (:
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reader, Pretty2K12Lady +, writes (29 July 2011):
 he is sleeping with her and hanging up the phone when she comes over??? yes he just wants to be (add in any word that suits this??)....he aint trying to be faithful.real talk: a faithful guy would never want to do that to his lady...he is doing it because he hasn't been and isn't ready to be tied down..Some guys around here that dont mind because they know they'll never met a great girl like the one they have...but some guys just don't care until they get bored of the fast life and just want to settle down...Just move on and call it a day...he definitely isn't thinking about you so...dont think about him...get over him and start enjoying your single life...
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (29 July 2011):
 It is a way to avoid talking about why he wanted to break up.
It SUCKS but it shows that you are better off without the guy.
Best Wishes.
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reader, justoverit +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Maybe the situation between the two of you was too much for him. Maybe he said you were clingy because things were moving faster than he wanted them to.
If he tells you he is just sleeping with her, its probably the truth he has no reason to lie if you are not together anymore. Give him some time if he has feelings for you he WILL miss you and he WILL come around. Give it some time
Good Luck
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 He told you he wanted to be single as it was the first thing he thought of, or he didnt want deep and meaningful discussions about why he wanted to break up. He told you he was just sleeping with her because he didnt want to hurt your feelings.
However, the fact is, he is sleeping with somebody, he hung up on you, and you haven't heard from him for a week. For him the relationship is over.
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reader, goalstopper +, writes (29 July 2011):
she is probably his rebound. She will probably go once you pay either one no attention.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Hello. Well if he dumped you and that was a week or so ago and now he is with another women it sounds like he just used "i want to be single" as an excuss to break up with you.I have seen a lot of boys and girls in fact use that as an excuss just so they can dump them and start looking for someone else. Its is defointly better to just tell the truth why you don't want to be in a relotionship anymore.Is he just sleeping with this new girl or is he acutally in a relationship with her ? If he is just sleeping with her it could mean he doesnt want any commitment just yet, but he is still okay with having no strings attached sex.If he is in a relationship with her then i do think he may of used "i want to be single" as an excuss unfortunely.You mentioned he hung up on you on the phone, to be honest if he done that i really wouldnt bother anymore as he doesnt sound that nice, the best option would just to be to look for someone else and find someone who is worth your time xHope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2011): When he said he didn't want to date, he meant he didn't want to date you. He told you you were clingy and from what little I read here I'm inclined to agree with him.
The real question is why are you still calling a man who broke up with you? Especially one you hadn't even been datng very long?
Leave him alone. He does not want to see or speak to you again.
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reader, Celest  +, writes (28 July 2011):
 My sweet dear... unfortunately he wasn't honest enough.. I dont know if you were clingy or he just claimed so, and I dont know if he just got tired or he is just interested in somebody else. To be honest it is sad but doesn't really make any difference. Despite of what he said, the fact is that you have to forget him. I know that is not funny at all, and it might hurt a lot but I suggest you also to move on. Though you should take some time to think the errors in that relationship. Turn to advantage this unfortunate occurrence so you will grow wise and eventually the right person will stand besides you and you will be happy. Keep up the good faith!! All my best!!!
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