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writes: im aware how unoriginal this question is but it would b nice 2 reassure im not the only 1 out there and 2 hear any similar situations or opposite sex opinions (advice)as long as their not the usual "past is the past let it go" answer... i SO regretfully got my 23 yr old girl friend 2 give it 2 me straight about her past (25 guys before me), it wasn't easy, i had 2 pry it out and i have no idea y i did this...STUPID... from my experience to any1 out there, dont ask its not worth it in ANY way "if its bad" our love (the best ive ever felt) could have kept growing without this knowledge. does any 1,can any 1 help me or have advice to get the vivid pictures OUT of my head its tearing me up inside and needless to say taking our relationship downhill quickly, im deperate because she is everything to me. but now i feel completely inadequit (sp) (insufficient) in bed because with her having that many pieces of ass, i could never come close 2 being her best lay, selfish? oh well i just wanted everything perfect as possible and it was b4 my needless nosyness,wanting 2 know everything about her because i thought bestfriends told eachother everything
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 In a free society, against orthodox society, where serious relationship like marriage relationship, is choose and considered by 'individual', then- under the circumstance, most important is 'choice', and not how much sexual activity were recorded in past by particular Individual.
If you feel that 'relationship' is full of vitality and creativity, then it is good choice from both side. I am giving you formula about modern philosophy, which say that LIFE IS NOT CHANCE, BUT CHOICE.
The reality of sexual experience is that 'IT IS ONLY MOMENTARILY PLEASURE'...But, good relationship has power to give 'ETERNITY' to sexual experiences. You both must have choose each other, on basis of this truth, as you say,'because she is everything to me."...your such feeling is not a faking feeling.
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reader, AaroNR +, writes (7 March 2010):
AaroNR is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou HAVE to get over this! One of your answers were "GREAT" a girl wrote that the past 25 guys were not good enough and that she picked "YOU" Dude!! You should feel very special and lucky not bad? You were the one she stopped on, "YOU" You were the one that was just what she had been searching for all along. You should feel really good about that and not negative about it, right?? That feeling the love the two of you have, let it GROW there is soooo much more to "Love" experiences, feelings that will blow you away if you let it happen!!! How can it even begin to grow if you are stepping on it all the time??? Why don't you try this: experience something different for a while or a change and go with the flow. You just might like the feeling you get and hopefully can let that dreaded ghost of a past "GO"!! You have a lot to lose "YOU" most of all!! You can't lose yourself or how will you be able to let anyone even learn to love you? Have fun, laugh and try to let go and realize your girl was just searching all that time and finally found it all in you. Always love it's the strongest feeling in the entire world!!! "TRY"
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): The OP didn't ask whether or not he should decide to be troubled by this.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (6 March 2010):
I agree, would you rather have a chick that had never experienced a dick (and sucked as a lover) or one that had. Your girl is unlikely to seek others at this point, and she's CHOSEN you... don't screw this up.
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Well, you asked and got answers. It's a normal thing now for people to have had multiple partners in the past and for them to have sex. It's a natural for two people to have sex, even your parents did it (sorry to add more unpleasant imagery). Don't you think you should focus on the fact that she's with you now? Apparently the other ones weren't good enough that now she's with YOU.
My man had other relationships in the past (I asked too), and I felt the same way: "why did I have to know?!" I felt jealous over girls he knew before, thinking what if I'm not good enough. But then I realized, he's with me now and all those other women are history.
Really, don't let it bother you anymore. She did those things in the past! It's no more!
You found out what you wanted to know (then) and now you regret it. Maybe that should serve both of us a lesson to not ask about our partner's past history =}
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