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writes:Hi there. I can't decide whether to train an a midwife or a secondary school teacher, and this indecision is making my current relationship unbearable! My partner has supported me financially for the last 2 years (as I will for him if he chooses to undertake further study), however I am now 1 year away from qualifying as a teacher, and 2 years away from qualifying as a midwife - yet I have no idea as to which career I am better suited. I am currently enrolled in both courses and need to make a final decision. Has anyone out there worked in either field who can offer advice? My partner has been very patient so far, but I am so scared of making the wrong choice that I feel paralysed and unable to choose. I already have a 3 year unrelated degree which I feel was a waste of time, thus I need to get this right! Any ideas? Not really a relationship problem, but could well be the start of one... Any advice would be very much appreciated... Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Decision making is a skill of it's own. What is paralyzing you is the fear of making the wrong one, but who says that you have to leave one behind? Finish your 1st degree and WORK in that field while you finish the second degree over time. The experience of your teaching job will let you know if it is what you want to continue with!
These days, no career path is ever in a straight line! Still yourself down and make a list of what it is you like about both professions. You might even figure out that Teaching Midwifing is the best of both worlds.
I do think that your fiance's frustration isn't in your finishing what you have started, but that you aren't applying what you have learned and becoming financially independent from him. A teaching job would accomplish that, and they may even have benefits that allow you to further your education on their tab (generally, an 80% average is what employers ask for in order to pay for a course...).
Both of your chosen career paths are very rewarding and I'm sure that you will eventually find your way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): See a career counsellor. Take those aptitude tests. I am sure they exist in your college as well. At your age, you could decide which one pays better and allows you a life... so those are some considerations.Being a midwife is almost like being a doctor. You have to like messy things. Being a teacher is neat and mentally demanding. They are so different. You sound like you want to do both and are being greedy. Once you stop, you will know
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (27 February 2010):
follow your passion- you'll be happier and excel (which means more $$$)- if you chose based on another metric (such as "this one pays more" odds are very high you'll not like it, and either get stuck, be miserable, hate it, do poorly and NOT make the money you thought- or change careers later in life and be a Jr. at 35.I know folks who went to law school and graduated, thinking it was a road to wealth. They're smart, but HATE the profession, and all the BS that goes with it. the result, they're stuck, huge debt, shit job for a shit boss- they'll never do well and live is not at all good...Pick your passion! If you don't know what it is, you need to get out in the world and get a part time job DOING both jobs...
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