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My question is-- where is the G spot?

Q.   My question is- where is the G spot? Is it easily accesible? Tips?...

A.   4 June 2008: Hi try the area at the top of your vagina around your clit. try and stilulate this area. it took years for me find my wifes. message if you need more help. good luck but its well worth finding it... (read in full...)

What do men feel when their penis enters a vagina?

Q.   what do men feel when their penis enters a vagina? and what do they feel as a woman has orgasms? can they feel the spasms of the vagina? and a friend of mine had 5 kids, shes worried her vagina is not that tight any more as she cant feel all the ...

A.   15 May 2008: Hi first is your friend you by any chance. i have been ver lucky my wife vagin is in great shape as she never had kids that way. however some time you would think she had plenty when she is relay turned on and other times is very tight and stra... (read in full...)

I am having trouble meeting my husband's sexual needs. Any suggestions to make him want me?

Q.   I can not seem to satisfy my husbands sexual needs, I am tired with work and kids etc. Trying to take care of myself to feel better about myself-which is starting to work. But I have no imagination for new ideas and am uncomfortable to initiate ...

A.   8 May 2008: Hi sounds like you are willing but just worn out. First why are you tired are you sleeping of is everyone demanding your time or is it your diet. Try and work that out. Second do you have time for each other, intamate time or is sex only at n... (read in full...)

It's the same old routine every time. I need more foreplay.

Q.   Whenever i have sex with my bf its always the same routine. i toss him off he fingers me i give him head FOR ages! then he jumps on me and we have sex. And ive tried everything i can but i just cant come straight out with it, i just cant ...

A.   1 May 2008: Hi have you tried to what a porn together that show that then you could bring the subject up. or introduce toys intrested in your thoughts on this... (read in full...)

My wife watches porn while I'm at work. Why?

Q.   i recently discovered that my wife is watching porn when i'm at work. is this normal? is she doing it for personal pleasure because she is'nt satisfied by me?...

A.   1 May 2008: Hi ask her, how did you find out. ... (read in full...)

Went to a foreign country and slept with 3 male prostitutes. Should I tell my husband?

Q.   I had sex with 3 male prostitutes last week while visiting a foreign country with my female friend. I feel so guilty now, and I want to tell my husband. I know he will most likely leave me though and we have two children, one is just 6 weeks old and ...

A.   30 April 2008: Hi what goes on tour stays on tour. put it in the back of your mind and get on with life. it wpould drive him mad if he found out so best keep it quite. the think now is, is it a one off or do you think you will try again. i have had some experanc... (read in full...)

Is it me, or does he have a secret? He only wants anal sex!

Q.   My husband only wants anal sex. We'll start out making love vaginally, but then it seems he can't come unless he's inside my anus, or masturbating on my anus. He also prefers to be behind me, So i'm kinda starting to wonder if it's me, or if he's ...

A.   28 April 2008: Hi try talking dirty to him when is doing what you like that may help. keep us updated... (read in full...)

Is it me, or does he have a secret? He only wants anal sex!

Q.   My husband only wants anal sex. We'll start out making love vaginally, but then it seems he can't come unless he's inside my anus, or masturbating on my anus. He also prefers to be behind me, So i'm kinda starting to wonder if it's me, or if he's ...

A.   24 April 2008: Hi its not you, first do you enjoy anal sex, if you do that ok if you don't you need to tell him being a guy its a great turn on doing it that way and lots of women like it from behine as we can get deeper. have you spoke to him about it an... (read in full...)

My new wife was not completely honest about her sexual past...how can I look at her the same way?

Q.   I am married and recently me and my wife had another conversation about previous partners and experiences. I say "another" conversation because the answer this time around is much different than the first time we talked about it when we were dating. ...

A.   24 April 2008: Hi whats does it matter, if you had done that you would have been see by your mates as a champion. if she is with you and was happy to marry you look forward not back. it will become a turn on for you in years to come. so get on with life and... (read in full...)

What's a husband supposed to do?!! My wife is dressing very sexy- can I get her to practice more discretion?

Q.   My 38-year-old wife is beautiful woman, and is a devoted wife and mother. We've been very happily married for nine months, and our love life is great. This is our second marriages. My wife's first marriage was sexually unfulfilling and her ex was ...

A.   23 April 2008: Hi she seem to have a high sex drive and you my need to respond to her in that way. message if you want my thoughts... (read in full...)

Threesome gone wrong!!! He's always told me he could never be with another women, yet when given the chance he chooses her over me!

Q.   Hello, I have a major problem with sleeping all of a sudden due to something that my husband and I did in the past, about a year ago. My husband has always wanted a threesome with another girl, and being sexually open, I thought , what the heck...

A.   23 April 2008: Hi like the others have said threesomes are dangerous and must be thought out in great detail if you do them. what you said was the same as what happened to us many years ago. the same happend i spent most of the night with the other women an... (read in full...)

What Lubricant should I use with my girlfriend?

Q.   I am planning to get into anal play with my girlfriend. I know she wants to since she mentioned it to me. I purchased a very expensive lube made in germany, it is $26 for 80 ml plus shipping from overseas. It is called Bioglide Anal: 100% Biol...

A.   22 April 2008: hi we ahve just used ky and its works fine for us. message if i can help answer any more questions... (read in full...)

Any home treatment for Breast Enlargement (maybe a massage oil)?

Q.   Any home treatment for Breast Enlargement or any oil available for breast massage reagarding the same ...

A.   22 April 2008: hi i used to tell my girl friends cum would make them grow. we had a lot of fun but i don't think it realy worked.... (read in full...)

I feel guilty about watching a sex video of an ex boyfriend, is that considered cheating and should I tell my current partner?

Q.   I have been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but I got into it right after I broke up with my ex of 8 months. My ex and I made a sex video that I had on my computer, and during the first few months of my new ...

A.   16 April 2008: Hi everyone has a past, and that were these are. i expect he has a past and not told you. put in the back of your memory... (read in full...)

Why do men have such problems with my past sex life?

Q.   Why do men i date find my one night stands in the past distasteful?...

A.   16 April 2008: Hi men can only accept things like that when they get older. when i was younger i would think about my wife ex partners and it would get to me. know we talk about it openly and use it as a turn on ... (read in full...)

My husband keeps asking me why my body doesn't look like the women in porn!

Q.   My husband keeps asking me why my body doesnt look like the women in porn...I tried explaining to him that after a few kids things change...Im not at all overweight but womens bodies do change in ways that cant be helped after babies like stretch ...

A.   16 April 2008: Hi i think hes made an older women body looks great and he should be very proud of you... (read in full...)

Shaving problems please help

Q.   Im 19 and have been shaving for about 3-4 years about 2 years ago i was really paranoid about my bum hair and thighs so i started shaving that aswell, the only prob is in the last year i have been having bad red lumps and spots coming up... i have ...

A.   16 April 2008: hi have you tried to pluck then i have done that for my wife for many years may be worth a try ... (read in full...)

I'm thinking of having anal sex with a man so I can experience what my GF feels with me...

Q.   I'm thinking of having anal sex with a guy so i can experience what my gf does with me .will i get the same sensation?...

A.   15 April 2008: Hi as the others have said i think you may be thinking about being guy. a friend of our would alway have anal with his wife when she was drunk. so when he got drunk she used a strap on on him. he didn't like it... (read in full...)

My wife 'claims' to be interested in sex - but her actions do not at all reflect that claim...help : )

Q.   I have been with my wife for 8 years (married for four of them) and until recently she was almost never interested in sex. In fact, it was a source of great tension and naturally moved into the shadows due to her apparent lack of interest. Now she ...

A.   14 April 2008: Hi it sound like you have forgot what do do to charm and seduce her. several years ago my wife and i watched some sex education dvds. there is about 6 in the set, they showed you things and discuss these kind of topics. they were not porn ta... (read in full...)

Does a preferred position say something about a man's personality? (controlling for example)

Q.   Just curious...if a man says his favourite position to make love is the doggy style, does it say something about his personality i.e. selfish? From a woman's point of view, I think it is, as the position only enable the man to have full control from ...

A.   14 April 2008: Hi doggy is my wife preferred way i always ask and she like the feeling. i love looking at her that way too. so it works for us both... (read in full...)

My wife likes endless fondling and foreplay with no sex. Any advice?

Q.   My wife likes to fondle. She loves to play with my penis (teasingly, really) every chance she gets. On my days off, she would want me to sit with her for hours sometimes just to talk and fondle. I accommodate her a lot. Playing with my penis, she ...

A.   14 April 2008: Hi have you taken her out and wined and dine her. that may help relaze her a bit.... (read in full...)

I cant seem to make him cum when I give him a blow job

Q.   Hi there I have a serious issue here. i've just started seeing someone new and i cant seem to make him cum when i give him a blow job. I've never had this problem before... (Infact past partners have usually cum quite quickly). Its reached a po...

A.   13 April 2008: hi from a guy point it easyer to hold back during a blow job than any other way. so tray playing with in and then do that. if you sqeeze his balls you may cause pain so that may slow the process down. good luck... (read in full...)

Does it feel better for a girl to masturbate on her stomach?

Q.   My question is: Why does it feel better for a girl to masturbate on her stomach? My girlfriend was telling me about it once and she said that it felt waaay better to do it on her stomach rather than on her back or in the shower. Why is this?...

A.   13 April 2008: Hi my wife like me to play with her that way and has done for years so i think yes they like it that way. unsure why... (read in full...)

Any tips on how I can be sexy for my husband?

Q.   hi all..........just wanna know that how to look sexy. what are the tricks to attract my husband we married 2 yrs back. i want my husband to fall in love wit hme again well still he loves me but due to work we are a bit busy and now i want back my ...

A.   13 April 2008: Hi with what you have said its hard to comment, you may need to expand on what your relationship is like. I agree with the other person. get some nice cloths and go out for a meal and flert with him a little. you may like to start on him in ... (read in full...)

Sex is amazing for his age-but it doesn't last long

Q.   I've met this man 18 years my senior. Im 45. We gets on well and I love being round him. Our sex life is great. He can do it twice times a day. It's amazing for his age. I really enjoy making love to him. But it doesnt last long. A year on he ...

A.   11 April 2008: Hi you may need to explain how long he last and what you expect. Also do you use forplay before to make you orgasm that way first. good luck and enjoy ... (read in full...)

My wife is losing interest in sex and I have to beg her for foreplay! Any suggestions?

Q.   My wife of 17 years is slowly losing interest in sex. Foreplay now consists of a week or two of begging. When we have sex its great and she seems to enjoy it. It is just so darn infrequent. Please help! Cold Shower Man...

A.   7 April 2008: Hi from the age you show i expect that she is starting the change of life. the same happend top me a few years back. some women go in denial and others seek help. it took my wife a few years to go to the doctor who confirmed what she knew. ... (read in full...)

What's a husband supposed to do?!! My wife is dressing very sexy- can I get her to practice more discretion?

Q.   My 38-year-old wife is beautiful woman, and is a devoted wife and mother. We've been very happily married for nine months, and our love life is great. This is our second marriages. My wife's first marriage was sexually unfulfilling and her ex was ...

A.   7 April 2008: Hi you said you trust your new wife well do that. i expect she is happy in her new live and if she looks good wants to show it. Have you talked about it with her. there is smart and classy or slutty, whick is it. i expect the role play is bet... (read in full...)

Your opinion of this scene at a party?

Q.   At a party a drunk married woman cuddled up with another man on a sofa, unbuttoned his shirt and rubbed his bare chest with her hand for quite some time. Her husband saw this and said and did nothing. What is your opinion of the wife? The husband? ...

A.   1 April 2008: Hi was that you and your wife or just someone you saw... (read in full...)

Vibrators how often is too much?

Q.   Hi Guys, just a question about vibrators? Is it bad for you to use them a lot??? I use mine almost everyday I cant help it!!!! help!!!...

A.   30 March 2008: hi i have never heard of anyone dieing from over use. my wife has used one for more that 20 years. my only coment is keep it clean so you don't get infections and keep some spare batteries hand. theres nothing worst than that... (read in full...)

How can I convince my wife to be a "slave" to another man?

Q.   I am a married man and have always wanted my wife to have fum with other men. She see's it as cheating and is not sure. I have told her I would love her to tell me the things seh gets up to with other men whilst we have sex. I also like the id...

A.   28 March 2008: Hi without getting the other writer off side what your are looking at doing is somthing you both have to agree to and could distroy what you have had. many men have the same thoughts and a few go throught with it. in our case it came about ov... (read in full...)

I ejaculate too quickly. I want my GF to be able to cum first, can you suggest something?

Q.   Hi, I would really need some real help, and I appreciate some feed backs from people. basically, I have this problem of reaching the orgasim real fast, I don't know how to stop cuming, before she comes first. I have come a cross some ideas like ...

A.   26 March 2008: hi have you tried playing with her before and bring her to the edge then stopping. then when you finaly have sex she will love it. or cum before hand and i expect you will last longer the second time. good luck message if i you want mo... (read in full...)

Ladies, any idea why my girlfriend doesn't orgasm any more from oral sex?

Q.   My girlfriend has stopped having orgasms from cunnilingus. This is unusual because the first time I went down on her, she had an orgasm and was going on and on about how good I was at oral sex. In fact, she had several orgasms one right after the ...

A.   26 March 2008: Hi my wife said try playing with her her clit first then use your tong. does she cum by other methods message and she will give you more of her thoughts... (read in full...)

Should I say yes to a threesome with boyfriend and his mate?

Q.   I have beening dating my current boyfriend for the past 4 years. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. We are both college students and we attend different universities. We are seperated by amost 13 states. A few months ago he told me ...

A.   25 March 2008: hi this is a very hard question to answer. the chose is yours, if you both realy love each other i would say stay away at this time. and leave it for later in life. you will love the second guy and it will be a great turn on at the time but its... (read in full...)

Why does my wife prefer masturbation to making love with me?

Q.   I've been married since 2005 and I love my wife we both work away in the mining industry our sex life is 0. She tells me that she is tied all the time witch I can understand so am I. The problem is I try and do what I can to get her intrested and ...

A.   24 March 2008: Hi i have found as women get older they like to do what they want for sex. do you play with your wife or is is just sex. my wife went through a simular stage a few years back where she would do the same. when i spoke to her about it she sai... (read in full...)

I need an opinion from straight women who watch porn.

Q.   I need an opinion from straight women who watch porn. What type of porn do you watch - intercourse, lesbian, blowjobs etc. I also need an opinion from gay women who watch porn. What type of porn do you watch - intercourse, lesbian, blowjobs etc...

A.   11 March 2008: hi my wife and i watch porn. she like forpay and sex 2 guy one women. she gets bored with blowjobs lesbians but will watch. why do you want to know message if you want to talk with her ... (read in full...)

Is he with me only for sex, if he has an erection every time he sees or touches me?

Q.   My boyfriend gets an erection each time he sees or touches me, is that a good sign? or does it mean he is with me just for sex. i need much response from the male sex....

A.   11 March 2008: Hi all men are differant and yes some of us do that, when i was younger i could get hard any time and somtimes now things happend when i get hard. even at the gym the other day. if i saw my wife undress i would be hard in seconds. you should lo... (read in full...)

My friend kisses me in front of her husband, I'm a confused puppy!!

Q.   I'm good friends with a couple, Paul and Rachel. We've been pretty close for about 3 years. I'm 28, Paul is 28 and Rachel is 27. The 2 of us seem to spend a lot of time together, and most of it is instigated by Paul (he usually invites me to go ...

A.   11 March 2008: Hi the same happend to me a few years back with a very good friend. so i know how you feel. as doublem said, it could be an open marrage or something like that. would you be interested in finding out. thats what it was in my case and it took... (read in full...)

The telephone box

Q.   On my first job, many years ago when i was 17 i worked in an office. Part of the duties were to learn the switchboard. A huge horrible thing with pull cords (sorry, it shows my age!, bloody ancient!), and it was a nightmare to learn. The numbers ...

A.   9 March 2008: Hi very good will use that one... (read in full...)

What do men think about the different "shapes and sizes" of a woman's genitals?

Q.   So this is probably a dumb question, but how do guys feel about the different "shapes and sizes" of a woman down there? I was curious because I stumbled on a message board where some guys were saying they preferred a woman to have "big lips down ...

A.   9 March 2008: Hi speaking from a guy point of view, they are all nice. i myself like the outer best (my wife)as it looks more womenly, than an inner. as some of the others have sex during sex they change. i expect whoever gets to see it will love it as its p... (read in full...)

My bf is a serial flirter...how do I make him stop this or prevent him crossing the line??

Q.   My boyfriend is a serial flirter when it comes to other women.I have lived with him for the past 16 months and although he knows how it makes me feel he still continues to do it even going as far as getting a co workers number at work which I called ...

A.   7 March 2008: hi he may not be a flirt, my wife says that about me, but i love her dearly and would do nothing she would not approve of. when we go out with other couples i always want to site boy girl. not the tipical australian way i know. but i like to ta... (read in full...)

He wants to bring another man into bed to please me (strictly for me), but I'm not so sure...

Q.   My boyfriend thoroughly enjoys pleasing me beyond my wildest expectations and has a fantasy of bringing another man in to have sex with me while he is having sex with me. He says it is strictly for my pleasure and he gets off on that and simiulated ...

A.   7 March 2008: Hi lots of guy want to see thier wife/gf with another guy. it upto you. when i was younger i could think of anything worse. but as my wife and i both got older we wanted to try new thing and that was one of them . over the year we have done it ... (read in full...)

He wants to bring another man into bed to please me (strictly for me), but I'm not so sure...

Q.   My boyfriend thoroughly enjoys pleasing me beyond my wildest expectations and has a fantasy of bringing another man in to have sex with me while he is having sex with me. He says it is strictly for my pleasure and he gets off on that and simiulated ...

A.   7 March 2008: Hi lots of guy want to see thier wife/gf with another guy. it upto you. when i was younger i could think of anything worse. but as my wife and i both got older we wanted to try new thing and that was one of them . over the year we have done it ... (read in full...)

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