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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend thoroughly enjoys pleasing me beyond my wildest expectations and has a fantasy of bringing another man in to have sex with me while he is having sex with me. He says it is strictly for my pleasure and he gets off on that and simiulated the act recently while I was blindfolded and tied down. Of course there was not a real 3rd in the room, but he spent alot of time planning on fooling me and pleasing me at the same time. I have mixed emotions about a "real" third partner, a man, but neither of us want a woman. He wants no involvement with the man. I'm not sure what to think, we've been dating for 2 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, happy as ne +, writes (15 November 2008):
this comes up alot. no man wants his women to let another man see or touch her in dirty ways. he sees u dress as if u want to be lusted after and treated like a sex object. he offers u the option to be shared and tells u it would turn him on and u think about it. why would he want u to be with another? u wouldnt want him to take the same offer, u would want him to choose to only be with u. he sells it so hard to get the truth.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): A lot of people are a lot more romantic they is 'cool' in today's society. Come on, who here, if they heard of couple who met as virgins, fell in love and shared their lives together does NOT find that a bit "nice" then hearing about a swinger couple who divorced after then years?
True love does NOT involve swinging, Wesley did NOT invite Andre the Giant to the honeymoon suite!
You got to ask yourselve two questions, do you feel that having sex with another man while you are in a relationship is okay? Don't let society pressure you, either way. What do YOU think.
Please note that there is a HUGE difference between pretend play when you know full well that it is your partner and actually having sex with someone else.
There is NO experimenting, if you do it and don't like it, the act is done. You can't go back. If you think it is cheating, then you are right. BECAUSE you think it is cheating, not because what someone else might say about.
The second question is, what is he going to think about it.
Because what will happen when that other guy is in the bedroom, and he proves to be a lot better, will he feel the same way when you have a multiple screaming orgasm with this guy? What if the other guy is larger?
If you read porn fantasies, you often read that the male still feels HE is the better of his wifes partners. The 3rd guy is the opening act, he is the main show. Will your boyfriend be willing to accept that the other guy may well be the main show?
If you have sex with this 3rd guy, will there be a 4th? Will he be willing to believe their isn't a 4th, after all he has seen that you slept with another guy.
I was in the reverse situation once, and as typical a male fantasy as it might sound I refused, because I had one simple question, my gf's gf was willing to do this because my gf asked. Would my gf be willing to do this for her gf if she asked (and thereby cheating one me)? Trust is vital in a relationship, and fucking someone else is a breach of the trust even if you both agree on it. Remember Indecent Proposal? It was allright until the guy figured that the girl might have enjoyed it a bit too much.
You however practically answer your own question I think. The idea turns you on, the roleplay part of it. Stick with that, but be very very carefull making roleplay real.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Each to their own! If you are not happy with it then tell him and just dont do it. Once done, you cannot go back and undo what you have done, that is for sure. We all have fantasies and he has to know that if you are not up for it then it has to remain his fantasy that stays just in his head.
take care
xx
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reader, love-him  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 HEY!!
Hon its fully up to you, if you arent happy with the idea of a 3rd then dont!!
Dont hesitate to mail me about anything x x x
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reader, pyan  +, writes (7 March 2008):
Hi
lots of guy want to see thier wife/gf with another guy. it upto you. when i was younger i could think of anything worse. but as my wife and i both got older we wanted to try new thing and that was one of them . over the year we have done it several time and i think i have got as much out of it as may wife. very much a urn on
message if you want to discuss further, but its upto you if you don't like the idea forget it. if you do set rule nd try
take care and lets us know how you go
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A
male
reader, pyan +, writes (7 March 2008):
Hi
lots of guy want to see thier wife/gf with another guy. it upto you. when i was younger i could think of anything worse. but as my wife and i both got older we wanted to try new thing and that was one of them . over the year we have done it several time and i think i have got as much out of it as may wife. very much a urn on
message if you want to discuss further, but its upto you if you don't like the idea forget it. if you do set rule nd try
take care and lets us know how you go
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