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My husband keeps asking me why my body doesn't look like the women in porn!

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Question - (16 April 2008) 13 Answers - (Newest, 16 April 2008)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My husband keeps asking me why my body doesnt look like the women in porn...I tried explaining to him that after a few kids things change...Im not at all overweight but womens bodies do change in ways that cant be helped after babies like stretch marks and saggy breasts...should I leave and take the kids...Im tired of being compared as if some young woman who hasnt even carried a baby has a better body...

I feel this is wrong and that my husband should find me MORE attractive simply for the fact I have brought his children into the world..these young girls are all the same and show no signs of having done the most amazing act of giving life...

He says that its hard to find my body sexy when all these women turn him on so much I have NEVER seen one woman in his porn that looked anything like a real woman after kids...I really think there is litte choice bt to leave and find happiness alone with my kids..or at least contentment

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (16 April 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntHow old is your husband? If it is a genuine question, if he REALLY wonders why a woman with kids closing in on 40 doesn't look like a 20 year old porn actres, then he must be dim-witted.

Or he is being very nasty, does HE look like a pornstar? Six-pack, muscles all over the place 7inch cock, staying power measured in ice ages etc etc?

He either needs to grow up or is a real asshole.

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A female reader, daniellexxxx United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

daniellexxxx agony auntYou have had kids what does he exspect you to look like supper women he's a nasty man and i suggest you leave him and find someone who will respect you as a person. Dont feel down though as you have had to kids and you probably have a normal body for your age i mean most porn stars are young with no kids no stretch marks celulite.

Tell him where to go.

Good luck sweetie xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

dr t + has got it right.......... tell him to grow up also

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A male reader, Dr T Ireland +, writes (16 April 2008):

Option 1) rent a porn movie along the lines of 'massive dicks at play' and ask him why his knob doesnt compare to the knobs in the movie? THEN go to the sex shop and buy the BIGGEST dildo you can find and leave it on your bed..

LOL... but dont leave it at that... explain to him that porn is fantasy, and can be healthy.. however unless he wants to have sex with a DVD player he better change his tune. Maybe ye can act out one of his fantasies?

Option 2) Introduce massive dildo into husbands face at 137 KMH if he says that to you again

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

hlskitten agony auntWhat a bozo your man is!

lol @ Smiffy.

Um tell your guy you prefer guys that like 'real' women that dont starve themselves, but he doesn't hear you going on about it! And tell him you dont have an airbrush to hand. And where those porn women have 'perfect' bodies, they lack in the brain dept. Sorry to any glamour models here, but theres not many people that sell their soul down the river for blokes satisfaction. There has to be a brain cell or two short surely. Does he really find that attractive?

I couldn't be with someone like your guy, thats some truly awful things he's saying. Even the most confident of women would find that hurtful.

There are some lovely guys out there that prefer real 'dove' women. My sisters hubby always said he would take Fern Britton over Jordan all day long! If i was you, i would quit this guy, and hold out for one of those. If he can say things like that, he cant be a nice person in lots of ways.

C xxxxx

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (16 April 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntYeah I know I'd like 5 minutes alone with this moron. To the poster, stretch marks and sags here and there are the battle scars of a true warrior and should be revered for what they stand for. Tell your stupid husband to shut up or he can find the door. Don't you dare leave, you won that battleground fair and square.

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A male reader, Smiffy Spain +, writes (16 April 2008):

Smiffy agony auntOh forgot to add...most porn stars have pussies that you could drive a greyhound bus through...load up with a three point turn and drive out again...

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A male reader, Smiffy Spain +, writes (16 April 2008):

Smiffy agony auntWell...I can only guess you have a normal sexy body of a woman who has had kids....

So your husband prefers plastic tits...asses...lips...

For me and MOST normal men you have a body we crave...

Leave the ass hole if he wont change

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (16 April 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntI truly agree with you.

Let him dream of those fantasy porn girls for all he wants.

Find some one who loves you for what you are.

Even if you live alone, you will find much happiness.

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A male reader, 09876 Australia +, writes (16 April 2008):

09876 agony auntI don't know what on earth he is thinking to be honest. He sounds like he needs to wake up to himself. Your absolutely right, you have brought his children into the world, which is arguably the most beautiful thing and amazing thing.

He shouldn't even be looking at porn!! That in itself is a low act and he deserves a good whack around the ears. comparing them to you however, is totally unacceptable. I would say absolutely blast him about it! Which does he want: to live a life with his beautiful wife and children? Or live alone fantasizing over his stupid porn. At the end of the day, love is blind, and he should love you for who you are, not what you are.

Best of luck

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A female reader, sarah_s United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

sarah_s agony auntYou've answered your own question. Yes, leave him he isn't worth the energy. There's no need to be stuck with a person with a overgrown ego. He is disgraceful.

Best wishes. Sarah.

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (16 April 2008):


i think hes made an older women body looks great and he should be very proud of you

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

TELLULAH agony auntWhat planet has your husband been living on. He is either thick or he has no tact with you what-so-ever. IF he really has said this to you, I find it hard to believe that you are still with him. I personally!! would have knocked my partner out if he said that to me. That is the worst insult I think a man could say.

You have my deepest sympathy honey!! You are married to a moron.

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