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writes:i think love and romance is for good looking and cute people,ugly people like me get rejected ,and cute guys would never wnat to be seen with me as i was rejected by a guy 3 years who did that me and i am still suffering the effects of rejection now he found himself new girlfriend a girl he won't reject and who he wants to be seen with but he didn't want to be seen in nightclub with me and i asked him to dance he said no and just me there and went kissing another girl he never met before he went drunk of course he didn't care and how he hurt my feelings.i don't think i'll ever trust and like ever again its too painful to get rejected yet again.he doesn't care about my feelings and i haven't talked to him in 3 years, it's all well forgotton in his mind but not not in mine, he said hello to me and i ingore him but he only cares about himself and his new playmate who he wants be seen with, boost about . its just so unfair,don't i deserve to have a boyfreind but all i get is rejection. i even go out with a guy i don't fancy .i want a boyfreind right now not some day why do i have miss out and he doesn't that's not fair i know what you're going to say but no guy fancies me what ever is wrong
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): orginal post:
its just isn,t fair.i can,t help how i look ,its so unfair,i mad at that girls like him even fancy him all becuase hes cute looking and forward,full of himself and i get nothing only broken heart yet again.how will when i want a boyfriend i get rejected .but when he wants a girlfreind he doesn,t get rejcted is mean and unfair i am always paying the price always.what will make a guy fancy me really what.why am i so unlucky why .why,
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): Sorry babes, I missed your latest update. If you could work out how to use the update it would be much easier, sometimes I don't see when you post..
Your voice sounds different today, your having a bad day...
NEGATIVITY COUNT..
NO POINT: Written twice
DOESN'T/Don't: Written five times
LOSER: Written Once
I'M A JOKE: Written Twice
REJECTION: Written Three times
"NEVER: Written three times (in various ways)
"DON'T DESERVE": Once
NEGATIVITY, NEGATIVITY, NEGATIVITY, NEGATIVITY, NEGATIVITY
Today is a bad day Ireland. So sorry, we all have those. Let me look for some positive things..
POSITIVE COUNTER:
"may be that how it is for me"
"i just have to cope"
Very little positivity seen from Ireland today...
Irish, I'm starting to get a little worried about you. I know your upset, and this is a place you feel comfortable to just let your feelings out. I don't even think your asking for help anymore, but you just need somewhere to shout and scream about your pain and rejection, but still I'm worried. You sound like your sadness and pain are causing you real problems in life. Ireland, I think that you may have a touch of depression and you may need to see a doctor to take you away from this dark place in which you are living... Nobody should be so negative and hate themselves this much, babes, maybe you need more support than Dear Cupid can give...
Ireland wants a man, he falls in love with somebody else, and even though she's only thirty, she doesn't think anyone will ever love her, she doesn't think she deserves love. For one man, Ireland is planning to spend the next 50years of her life, bitter, unhappy and hating herself...
Ireland there are nearly 6 billion people in the world, over 50 million in Britain. You will die when you are 80, don't you think that love is out there waiting for you as soon as you get over your bitterness and pain.
What makes this guy so special, why do you love him so much that you are willing to spend your life alone? A guy so special that he would ruin a woman forever, is a guy that I'd like to meet.
Ireland, I am hoping you feel more positive and hopeful tomorrow, otherwise, I seriously think you should see a doctor to cope with your pain.. You may be sliding into a serious case of depression
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): well i hope the new girl well gutted like the fish he is slppery and untrutworthy.he thinks every girl fancy him .hes populary .hes lucky too every thing goes right for him but never for me.i rather he get rejcted like i did so he,ll kow how its feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): orginal post:IRELANDi feel there is no point in me trying to change.i am too depressed to hurt to bothar.i feel there is no ponting me like any guy because any guy in all my years has rejected.torn my heart out it has been done to many times i don,t think i can another year of the same treatment.i don,t feel losing weight because i feel it make any differnce.i am nearly 30 yaers i have been kissed for god sake.it going to happen again if i try again,i don,t want to try any more.when a guy doesn,t fancy me he doesn,t no matter how i try to convince him .i am just wasting time.on rubbish project.whe it comes to me guys just rather some eles may be thats the way it suppose to be. may be that how it is for me.strange pheonon for me ad i just have to cope the fact i am loser and rejected for what left of 20s that which was joke .i am joke every guy laughting at me adn thanking there lucky stars that they didn,t ask out a yolk like and don,t want to be seen with me. may be i don,t derseve to be loved and they do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): orginal post :
thanks for you help i think i,ll give the wnat of boyfreind a miss.its not for me any way .thanks anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): New year, new attitude, new wardrobe, new hair... that's what I intend to do, remember at the moment I am single too....Let's try and do this together.... As long as you go first... Lets leave the past in the past, it's soon Christmas and opportunities for dating are waiting..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): I like your new voice, it's getting stronger, even if you are shouting and causing my ears to hurt. Yes babes, you are stronger, your changing slowly, and hopefully there is a little less pain... Rejection hurts, but think of the men. I've seen a guy get rejected by 6 girls in one night...lol
Anyway, what kind of guy do you go for, what makes them special for you? Do you always go for the extremely handsome guys, do you know these guys well, or do you meet them in clubs and bars... Maybe your looking for love in the wrong place.. What do your girlfriends say, what do they suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): orginal post
NO REJECTED BY 6 GUYS IN 11 YAERS,SORRY WROTE IT WRONG
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Your writing is a little hard to read and understand.. But I'm assuming that you meant you dated 6 guys, not that you've been rejected 6 times..
If you've been rejected by 6 guys in 11years, again your doing good. Last year I got that in only one year, now that was funny and a total eye opener. Rejection hurts, but it's because I was looking at the wrong guys and I was looking for the wrong thing...
I stopped asking for babies and a wedding ring after I told them my name, and things worked a little bit better for me... :^)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Here when you get time, why don't you go and speak to this guy. He seems to suffer from the same problem as you. He's so angry and hateful at the world, that he's given up on women. Maybe you can help him and he can help you? A problem shared is a problem halved, that's what we say here on Dear Cupid...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/anger---thats-whats-killing-me-.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Six guys in 11years..... right we can definitely say your not ugly, you've done better than me... Six guys, nope, I ain't had that many, and I'm slightly older than you.
Tell us about this guy, what did he do to upset you so. You've had guys before, so you can have guys again. Why are you so stuck on this guy. How long did you date, why did you break up, why can't you just move on and put it down to experience? Tell us the story, cause this guy has destroyed you.
PS: After 18years, my guy left me. He's had two girlfriends since, and he has been living with someone for the last 2years. That's how things go. It doesn't make me ugly, it's just that some men find it easy to move on, whilst us girls take time to get our confidence, need to heal our hearts before we can fall in love again and move on. Your not the only one that's hurt, but it's what you do with your pain that concerns me. Bitterness only destroys you. I'm not bitter, I don't want revenge, there's no point. Bitterness makes you ugly, when you get over this, you'll start dating again, cause it's probably more easy for you than it is for me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): orginal post send by me :
the guy has a girlfreind but i don,t know what kind better then me obvouisly i have being by 6 guys before him in 11 yaers period .may be guys don,t find me attractive,sexy beasuitful well i lost again its just so un fair i didn,r hurt no one feelings and i get nothing and he did and hes a girlfreind thats unfair at all,i read in another guy with with exact same problem as me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): OK, so alright Joanne Woodwood is quiet pretty, but Paul Newman was prettier, so she definitely needs to be included I'm sure...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Oh alright - you've talked me into it at long last. Just let me know your address and I'll come over the water and sort you out. But only if you stop asking the same questions. You still haven't told me which film star you most resemble though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Hi Babes,
I think I remember you from before. Glad to see you've stop thinking about revenge. Did you look at those links I sent, they will really help you, once you get over this guy.
The thing is, you aren't ready for love yet, cause you've still got your mind on this stupid man. Even if somebody fell in love with you, your too negative to see it, all you can do is keep crying about the one time you got rejected.
Guys like confident girls, who have great personalities and lots of hobbies and interests. They don't like girls who sit their feeling sorry for themselves and looks have nothing to do with it. Look at Prince Charles, he dumped pretty Princess Diana, cause he fell in love with the older woman, even though she was already married and dosen't have much looks.
Rosanne Barr, Grace Jones, Ertha Kit, Nina Simone, Diana Ross, Joanne Woodwood, the list goes on... these women aint the prettiest, but they make the best of themselves and managed to find men, sometimes much, much more prettier than themselves.
You are so caught up in looks, that's got to change, you need to do something with yourself, cause people like positive people, not people who are upset, bitter, feeling rejected and crying about spilt milk. Take the advice on offer, try to improve your looks and your attitude and then the guys will be all over you. I'm not that great looking myself, and that works for me, and for my friends that are kind of on the large or ugly side. Nobody notices cause they got great personalities and get tons of guys....
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 You know I'll bet we'll be getting a posting from some guy real soon. He'll be whining about the fact that girls only like strong, muscular, good looking guys and he never can compete with that and will never find a girlfriend. You should continue to date, and watch for the personality not the physical. Love wears many guises and is found when and where you lease expect.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 Don't dwell on this awful man who has made you feel like this. I know some men are fickle anyway and like to date models. You could look at yourself and think of ways to enhance your looks. Have a new hair cut, wear makeup and treat yourself to some nice clothes that suit you. You need to be getting out and about to places where there are single guys. People also pick up on personalities, you need to be able to pick yourself up and take up interests that make you happy. If you dont dwell too much on getting a man and just think of yourself for a while, the rest should follow. The main thing is to get out and about, you won't find a man at home staring at four walls, unless you find one online, like thousands of women do. good luck. hope this helps.
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