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male
age
36-40,
*lackjack99
writes:When I was younger I was had an unshakable self belief in myself almost to a point where that confidence was cockiness I could do anything I set my mind to. I was fit and strong, I never had a problem getting really good looking women and in fact went through alot of them. I pushed myself hard to achieve things and almost always achieved them. I was never uncomfortable standing out etcThe problem is I have lost that confidence completely, I went through a few bad years personally where things turned sour and everything fell apart from career to family and eventually depression which I struggled with for a long time but overcame, I went through a few bad relationships and one abusive one. I even got a little chubby in the process.In the last year though I have gotten things back on track training, career etc but Im finding it hard to push myself like i once did and finding myself almost crippled at the thought that i wont be able to do something. I find it hard to get women even though im in best shape iv been in in years (but nothing like i was), this is mainly because i just dont have the confidence to try or take it anywhere when i do meet women.Basically what im asking is does anyone know how i can recapture the strength and confidence i once had and build up my confidence again.I just feel like my spirit has been broken and dont have the drive and guts i once had.Dont get me wrong I dont want to be who I was a little bit of humility and hardship has done me good but i want that confident energy back.ANY advice would be appreciated tanx
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 Age comes to us all. You will never be at your peak as you were when you were younger, it is just for the 'young'. But you are now older and wiser and have so much to offer the right woman now because of your experiences. You have found yourself. You must now come across to people on a new level. You sound as if you think people are expecting more of you. Just try to be yourself and when you do meet people, women, just act normal. Believe it or not, women can see through men who are cocky and put an act on, and who love themselves too much. It is so much more sexy, and appealing for a woman to meet a man who just acts himself. Trust me it will happen for you. hope this helps.
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