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*lwoodbluelou
writes:i have a real problem here.. and its hurting me, and everyone around me.well anyways, my mom is getting married, and for some reason in my family, when the girls get engaged, or dating, they start to treat their kids like dirt..for an example, my cousin (we're real close) came to school today and her face was all cut up and she was all bruised, and she said her dad threw her out of the truck and smashed her head on the ground.. (yes i told her to turn him in for child abuse. i feel so bad for the poor girl. shes tiny)thats just an example, and makes my problem seem whiney.. but so my mom is engaged, and all of a sudden, she randomly starts either screaming at me for no reason, or crying, saying that im a little b*tch and she HAS to love me but she doesnt like me. and that she doesnt want me in her life anymore.ive never seen her like this, and i dont think im doing anything wrong!! i try so hard to please her! but yet nothing is ever good enough!!she says shes going to give me one more chance and if i screw up then "we're done"what does she mean by that?how can i stop doing something when i dont know what im doing wrong?ive confronted her about it but she just says ive gotten an attitude, but no one else thinks i have.help please. i want my mom to love me again. i dont want to see her cry anymore.
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reader, elwoodbluelou +, writes (13 December 2008):
elwoodbluelou is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you so much :)
ive actually tried talking to her and she tells me that its my fault that shes always mad. i hope someone else can get it out of her.
anyways, thank you again =]
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reader, petina1  +, writes (13 December 2008):
 I thought so, and it's a difficult time in its self going through puberty, trust me, All us 'oldies' hated that time. Hope you can be strong enough to look after yourself and get through it all. Don't be on your own though, like I say,let someone who you know and trust well enough to help you, maybe they can speak to your mom on your behalf in a way that your mum will understand what you are going through because it sounds as though she doesnt realise what she is doing to you. take care.
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reader, elwoodbluelou +, writes (12 December 2008):
elwoodbluelou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh my gosh =O i didnt notice what my age said. i didnt write that in, but im actually 14.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (12 December 2008):
I was looking at the 'age group' of your letter but I'm gathering reading between the lines you are a bit younger than 26. Any new relationship has teething problems. Usually people can get engaged young, have lots of rows while they are sorting their relationship out. Later on if people are getting together in new relationships, these normal 'teething troubles', and rows seem worse because children are involved. When adults are unhappy they can put this across on their kids, the kids are in the firing line. So what can be quite normal where these adults are having their 'spats' is heightened by the fact that they have responsibilities with kids and all that this brings. Children still need their day to day routine and care and they seem to be forgotten when troubles come along and their needs arent met fully. A lot of kids find it difficult to let their parents know how they are feeling. If you feel you are been neglected or hurt by your parent you need to try and talk to that parent. If you can't then you must seek outside help because all this stuff could damage you and affect your future.. So I guess what I'm saying here is seek some help from a responsible adult who you trust. hope this helps.
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