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male
age
30-35,
*rusie
writes:So my girlfriend and I broke up 2 months ago after being together for a year. As of late I haven't had any motivation or passion for anything and am feeling like I'm losing my grip on my life.An example of this is a vacation I went on recently. It was a week long and by the time it ended I felt as though I had just coasted through and hadn't actually stopped to realize where I was or what I was doing. While there (and before I left) I slept with this girl (others before leaving) and in hindsight just used her (them) and feel completely empty about it.I feel as though ever since my breakup, my life hasn't meant anything to me anymore. I just coast through things without being 100% present. The thing is that it's not like she (my ex) is always on my mind. I hardly think about her, and when I do they're relatively mild thoughts and memories. So my questions are: Does it seem like subconsciously my feelings for her are affecting my life? Why have I suddenly lost interest in everything and essentially shut down? Is it a product of losing her? any help / advice / opinions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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reader, petina1  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 For the last year youve got yourself all settled in to a routine with your girlfriend and now you are at a loss. You just need time to adjust. You would have been on the rebound when you were with the other girls. It sounds like you are in some kind of shock and maybe you will wake up when reality hits you and you realize your girlfriend is not around. It could have been a habit you were in with her. At least when you get out of this lethargic state you can analyze the situation and move on. Hope this helps.
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