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I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 11 August 2012: I'm so sorry for what you are about to go through, and I suggest getting therapy immediately afterward. See if there are any suggestions at the clinic.
If you think this abortion is the best decision for you and your life then go through with it. ... (read in full...)
I asked her out in 2010. She refused. Since then she will not speak to me. Is it now time to confront her on her Ostracism of me?
Q. My friend stopped talking to me after she rejected me, I'm not sure what to do My friend said no when I asked her out. It makes sense that she stopped talking to me too. I guess I expected it when it happened, but that was December 2010. I mean I d...
A. 11 August 2012: Personally I think that is a long time and you shouldn't let anything about her get to you anymore. If she wants to be immature and run from her problems, let her. If I were you I wouldn't want to be friends with someone so immature and really, ... (read in full...)
Should I write this letter to my ex? My friend says no. But I think he deserves it.
Q. I have so much to say to my ex... nothing bad. He was a gentleman til the very end and I wanted to thank him and tell him how sorry I am for not putting my all into the relationship. It will be a kind letter and let him know that maybe our pa...
A. 11 August 2012: Do whatever feels right. In my experience leaving loose ends only allows your mind to become clouded and your emotions to get the best of you. Your friends do have a point, but from what I can tell zi see no harm in it. Just make it polite, short, ... (read in full...)
I feel like something is missing, should I not be dating my b/f?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. We do get on great, he's my best friend and we just have an amazing connection yet I always feel like I'm missing out on something. I'm fairly young (19) and he's a few years older. He experienced various ...
A. 8 August 2012: Who says you can't have your cake and eat it to? By that I mean sometimes going out with your friends isn't a bad thing. You don't have to be single to go out and your boyfriend should be invited as well! Discuss it with him, because he should ... (read in full...)
In love with Pisces but attracted to Aries
Q. I am currently between my sophmore and junior year in highschool. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend, we can call her Pisces, since the 8th grade, and have had feelings for her since 7th grade, making it 3 years in a relationship this ...
A. 8 August 2012: This entire issue seems to be a little murky to me. How can you say you truly love Pisces when you find yourself always coming back to Aries?
You're in high school. You're a kid, and your decision making process has not fully matured in your brai... (read in full...)
My best friend's relationship just broke up. What can I say to her?
Q. My bestfriend has just broke up with her boyfriend who she was with for almost 12 months (it would of been 1 year next week) it's her first relationship that has lasted. I don't know what to say to her when i see her, what not to say, how to comfort ...
A. 8 August 2012: All you can do really is let her know if she needs to vent her feelings you are there and that this is not the end of the world. In situations like this it is far more important just to be there than the actual words coming out of your mouth. If she... (read in full...)
Is there any way to be more attractive to men?
Q. Hello, lately ive been having problems with my looks. I feel like all my friends are becoming prettir than me. They all have become super pretty and get alot of guys and i dont. even my own best friend, people tell me im prettier than her but i dont ...
A. 8 August 2012: Legitimately the top thing that I am told is attractive whenever I ask my male friends is confidence. You are counting yourself out before you even meet a guy because you keep telling yoursef your friends are prettier than you. This is not just ... (read in full...)
Is checking partners phone wrong
Q. So there has been a lot of talk in magazines etc about Jools wanting to check Jamie Oliver's texts....and I have to say whilst it's wrong I can kind of understand it... My boyfriend has always been very private about his phone, to the point that h...
A. 8 August 2012: I think what is on his phone is his own personal business and you shouldn't be so concerned about it. You shouldn't let your insecurities dictate your relationship.
Furthermore, if you feel so strongly about this then say all of these things t... (read in full...)
I want to become a stripper!
Q. I know people will read this and may think this sounds like a sleazy kinda job, but I really want to become a lap dancer (stripper) or my biggest dream is to be a burlesque dancer. it has always been my passion, I am an intelligent girl and left ...
A. 8 August 2012: You're looking for confidence in all the wrong places.
You should be confident on your own and not need a bunch of guys drooling over your tits to make you feel good about yourself. You're a yung and intelligent woman with so much potentia... (read in full...)
Long distance stringing along?
Q. Met a guy 6 months ago, he knew I was moving West in a few months he fell in lone with me and I fell for him too. We spent 4 months together every night then I left for Nevada. We are 1700 miles apart he calls or web cam daily, says he misses me ...
A. 8 August 2012: Maybe there's a reason he has so many exes...
All seems a little fishy to me.... (read in full...)
I had sex with his friend and now he keeps bringing it up
Q. dear cupid, back in december of 2010, i met this guy at college (we'll call him clinton). we "talked" for about a week and went on two dates before life got in the way and we were not able to even try to be anything really serious. looking...
A. 8 August 2012: You slept with someone else, and at that his friend, and are asking us why he is angry?
He obviously does care for you or else he would have dropped you like nothing when he found out about this.
I think you're outrageously out of synch with how... (read in full...)
It's been 3 years since we spoke, Should I call him or not?
Q. Hey when I was 18 I met this guy via facebook,he is an actor anywys I was excited he were working for us,and we really talked a lot like hours n hours everyday and then he decided to come visit me,we spoke and we made out(he was my first kiss)so a ...
A. 7 August 2012: You seem to have come to terms with the fact that he is nowhere near as attached to you as you are to him. The problem is using that to your advantage.
Don't watch his show, don't call him or text him, just let it all go. The past is the past and... (read in full...)
It's been 3 years since we spoke, Should I call him or not?
Q. Hey when I was 18 I met this guy via facebook,he is an actor anywys I was excited he were working for us,and we really talked a lot like hours n hours everyday and then he decided to come visit me,we spoke and we made out(he was my first kiss)so a ...
A. 7 August 2012: You say he is conceited and always about himself, but still consider talking to him?
In my opinion the best thing to do would be to just let him go. Remember him as your first kiss and that's it- maybe making sure to pick better guys for kissing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend received a lap dance before we were exclusive but it still bothers me
Q. Hi there, Before being 'exclusive' with my boyfriend, we were simply texting for a good few months. We'd share kisses and snuggle up with each other etc. We admitted that we really liked each other, but still nothing happened. Roughly two mont...
A. 7 August 2012: In general I think women should realize that lap dances and strip clubs in general should not be taken seriously as a threat to them.
Men do not go to strip clubs to find a girlfriend, they go there for a laugh and a drink with their friends.... (read in full...)
I think about my crush and he appears. Does it mean anything?
Q. I have had a crush on a really cute Asian boy for about 10 months now. I'm always dreaming about him and it feels so real. Sometimes when I'm randomly talking about him, he suddenly appears. At times I think about him and end up bumping into him. ...
A. 6 August 2012: It only means something to you if you believe in the idea of fate. It could ne random concidence, but in any case you should be more flirtatious to mayge let him know you have a crush on him.... (read in full...)
What's the deal with this girl? She is really confusing me!
Q. So I met this girl at a rave and we had a good time, we spent the whole night together. Then afterwards we started talking and decided to hang out. So we did and then she told me straight up that she liked me and was getting serious very quickly, I ...
A. 4 August 2012: She sounds like she isn't really stable. She's very flaky and you met at a rave, so it isn't like she has a very boring lifestyle. I'd say speak to her sparingly if at all from here and tread carefully.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My folks like him and I like him but I already have a boyfriend!
Q. So I'm pretty much stuck right now. So I met this guy at a restaurant 3 weeks ago(waiter) while I was with my family. He was being friendly(of course) but he was also flirting with me. Long story short he had the guts to ask for my # in front of my ...
A. 4 August 2012: Well, I wouldn't say that hanging out with someone you're attracted to is cheating- are you just supposed to hang out with unattractive people only when you're dating someone? No!
However, you shouldn't hang out with someone who you are attr... (read in full...)
My folks like him and I like him but I already have a boyfriend!
Q. So I'm pretty much stuck right now. So I met this guy at a restaurant 3 weeks ago(waiter) while I was with my family. He was being friendly(of course) but he was also flirting with me. Long story short he had the guts to ask for my # in front of my ...
A. 4 August 2012: It's obvious that you don't REALLY want to be with your current boyfriend.. so don't. You've only been together a few days which is not a big deal, so just say you'd prefer to go back to being friends.
As for the other guy, do NOT pursue him unti... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I masturbate watching painful anal sex!
Q. Hi! I'm a 32-year-old female, married. I love my sex life with my husband, yet sometimes I feel the urge to masturbate watching porn, especially porn where girls have painful anal sex (which is something I'd never dream of doing) but that turns me ...
A. 2 August 2012: Pornography is obviously very different that real life. It is a short film designed to turn people (namely, you) on. The fact that you are turned on by the thought of something that wouldn't be exciting in real life is very normal.
It's like peop... (read in full...)
Is it normal to ejaculate very fast for the first time?
Q. I ejaculated very fast the other day when I was getting a handjob done by my girlfriend.(within 30 secs). I was extremely disappointed and kinda embarrased. It was the first time a girl touched my penis, but is that normal? What can i do hold it in ...
A. 1 August 2012: It is completely normal, you are still very sensitive and very excited about what you are experiencing.
No reason to be embarassed, just enjoy the ride and as you get less sensitive and less overwhelmed, things will work themselves out :)... (read in full...)
Why do girls flirt with other guys and ignore the one they have the crush on?
Q. Well i have noticed this recently, it's not only happened to me but to others. Well i noticed that when a girl likes a guy she does everything to ignore him and get away from him, even when the guy just passes her and says hello, the girl doesnt ...
A. 31 July 2012: The only girls I know who do this are the most immature ones. You seem to be picking the immature girls who don't know how to actually talk to a guy they like.
The logic these girls use when they do this is that they want to make you jealous ... (read in full...)
How do I get my Boyfriend's trust back?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend lost trust in me because he told me something that I didn't know that he wanted me to keep it to myself, and yesterday was our two month anniversary. I told his sister something I thought that was cute and she told him and made ...
A. 27 July 2012: There are some serious red flags here. You say one thing off-putting to his sister and he threatens to leave? Yea, some control issues there. He seems insecure and easy to anger.
You have only been together for two months. Why are you so desp... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me, calling me in the middle of the night and has even threatened to kill himself. What am I supposed to do?
Q. Hi I recently posted a question regarding my ex threatening to die if I did not patch up with him. When I met up with him the other day to talk things over things got so bad I told him if he meant what he said I was going to report him to the ...
A. 27 July 2012: Call the police. Immediately. This behavior is not at all okay. You know you need to turn him in and I'll be the first to say that gut feeling is right. He is not stable and needs professional help.
Get out. Now.... (read in full...)
Do other people have weird turn ons like mine?
Q. So yesterday, I decided to try something new and see what it would be like to whip myself and try masturbating afterwards and/or while doing so and see how it does for me.. turns out I kinda liked it. It's like it gave me a sort of rush that made it ...
A. 27 July 2012: Everyone has different things that turn them on. You could ease the idea in with your boyfriend with some spanking/hair pulling, some things that are less 'freaky' but still may provide the same rush. As your boyfriend, he should want to make you ... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is, should I terminate or give it up for adoption?
Q. Heya, i just found out I'm pregant but I dont know who the father is, I went to butlins about four weeks ago and I sleet with 3 boys, ( I didn't know them or talk any numbers or anything) a week later I slept with two more boys, ( I know these b...
A. 27 July 2012: Do whatever feels right for you. If you feel like you aren't physically, mentally, and emotionally ready for a child then you do not have to have one. It is your choice. It is considerate to think of those who cannot have children but it is your bod... (read in full...)
Now I'm in this predicament. But does he still love this other girl? Or is he just a player?
Q. My boyfriend (21) has told me he has had 3 past girlfriends (N, G, M) and that he's had sex with only 2 of them and he doesnt even remember who he fucked G or M. Those supposedly are the only girls he has had sex with and also the first girl he lost ...
A. 27 July 2012: In your position I would first and most importantly: break things off with him. He obviously cannot be trusted and has lied to you about that girl, their relationship and who has slept with.
Now, I will not condemn you for unprotected sex. It... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a bitch but I want to break up with him
Q. Its been three years with this guy. Im over it i'm done.i'm a senior in high school now I need to get my life together and I can't when i'm being held back because of him.I recently went to Paris and its changed my perspective on life and ...
A. 26 July 2012: It is more bitchy to stay with him when you are not happy.
Be sweet, say that you have just grown apart, and let him go gently. This is common, you are about to enter a new chapter in life and you don't see a place there for him.
The longer you w... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasize about your partner being with someone else well your masturbating?
Q. I was wondering is it normal to fantasize about your partner being with someone else well your masturbating? I dont understand it because when im not doing any thing sexual the thought of him being with someone else kills me but during the heat of ...
A. 26 July 2012: That is a very common fantasy. Not a very common practice, but many people put their partner in place when they're masturbating because you're obviously attracted to your partner, but you don't want to put yourself there too (because isn't ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? He cheated, and he asked me to tell him when I do forgive him?
Q. I found out today that my boyfriend of two years has been skyping another girl, calling her 'sexy', 'love', 'cutie', all things that he calls me, telling her she's 20 times hotter than me, that he'll think of her when he's in bed with me, etc. ...
A. 25 July 2012: If I were in your shoes I would have had him out the door before he could say "lonely".
More likely than not this will only prolong the inevitable outcome of either you leaving him for being a cheater or him deciding he wants the girl who is '20 t... (read in full...)
To cut or not to cut? (Hair)
Q. This may be a stupid question to ask but should i cut my hair or no? I have been going through some changes as far as my confidence level and decided that I need to start doing more for myself as far as what makes me feel good. I dyed my hair thi...
A. 20 July 2012: As far as cutting hair goes, I have had my experiences with regretting haircuts.
That being said, hair grows back! If you have the face shape to pull it off, then do it. You'll feel bright, new, and totally confident afterward. ... (read in full...)
He had sex with his ex. Do I forgive and forget?
Q. Ok My ex-boyfriend tryed to breakup with me, he said maybe we should be friends. But then I was saying sorry, so he said forget about everything. So he came over and I started crying, then he said he wouldn't leave me ect. Then we had sex, so then ...
A. 17 July 2012: There is way too much drama in this relationship, dear. The only logical thing I can see is to break it off, lose contact for a while and if he really, truly tries hard to get you back then go see what happens.
When I say he needs to try, I don'... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my best friend, but I'm afraid to tell him. Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've known one of my best guy friends since I can remember, we've always done things together, we live somewhat close, and we are in the same grade. I've never felt this way until this summer. I've realized that I like him more than a f...
A. 15 July 2012: I think you should start off by being more flirtatious right now. Just very subtley. When you hug him, make it last longer, when he looks cute, compliment him, but don't be obviois about it. See how he responds. If it seems like he may like you too, ... (read in full...)
I didn't let him touch me and now he's ignoring me. Did I handle the situation wrong?
Q. I met this guy at the weekend who I know through mutual friends and we went on a first date in the week. The drinks were flowing and we were having a smashing time, it was like the night should never have ended. I felt so comfortable. Anyway he ...
A. 14 July 2012: The only way to really know would be to ask him
As far as I can tell it seems like he just wanted sex and is irritated that it didn't happen.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex say hello in person and then block me on facebook?
Q. My ex and I broke up a few days ago. I ran into him at the mall today. He came up to me to say hello and how are you, then we said bye. Then tonight I logged onto Facebook and saw that he deleted me. What is this conflicting behavior? ...
A. 14 July 2012: Maybe your ex knows he should be polite in public but doesn't want contact with you in any other way for now. Or possibly talking to you could have in some way made him think it might be best if you two aren't connected through facebook.
Any w... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
Q. Is it possible to love two persons at the same time? actually i am in a relationship, and we love each other a lot. i never want to loose him. but few months before i met a guy. he is my classmate. we also both love each other. but we have not ...
A. 13 July 2012: I always go with the saying "If you fall in love with two people, you never really loved the first one"
That isn't always necessarily true, but in most cases it seems so.
For your situation I hate to say it sweetie, but you absolutely have ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend want to have sex with me because he got turned on by the other girl?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years. He is really good about not staring at women, or at least when I am with him. But the other night when he came in from work he was flirting around with me and he said something about picking out some sexy ...
A. 13 July 2012: I feel like you're overanalyzing here. Yes, he may have gotten turned on by another woman. Have you never noticed another man while you were in a relationship? Of course you nitce, it's silly not to. He is just looking at something nice l... (read in full...)
My abusive ex owes me stuff worth up to $3000 which he refused to return and now he wants me to give him another chance
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old , from France and i go to school in US i met a guy from Ohio , we had been together for 2 years. After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)i moved and transferred co...
A. 13 July 2012: Do not under any circumstances go back to this man, OP. He already threatened to hit you, are you going to wait around for him to actually do it? Of course not! My adivce, bring the law into this. If the furniture is entirely your, you brough... (read in full...)
Why is it that I always like guys who don't like me and ignore those who really like me?
Q. Dear Aunts. I got a problem here with myself. Why is it that i always like guys who dont like me and ignore those who really like me? Then at the end i always get heartbroken and i dont know how to deal with this matter. I know i might be young for ...
A. 12 July 2012: Not to sound cheesy but y'know, "the forbidden fruit doth taste so sweet'? You want what you can't have, it's really just a matter of you looking in the wrong places I think. Next time you meet a guy who isn't really your 'type' figure out why you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my gay friend I like him as more than a friend without ruining our friendship?
Q. i have a gay friend who is a boy how do i tell him i like more than a friend without destroying the friendship we have at the moment?...
A. 11 July 2012: If I had a nickel for every time I saw a girl who had feelings for a gay man...
All right, I'm going to be blunt here but please don't just tune me out.
He identifies as gay. He likes men. Why make him feel guilty for not reciprocating his feelings... (read in full...)
I'm having strange fantasies about my female friend....what does this mean?
Q. Im gonna try to be as short as possible. To be honest i never thought i wud ever fall in love with a girl. Since my childhood ive always loved boys and never a girl. I just realised yesterday when this friend of mine (girl) came to my house party, ...
A. 11 July 2012: Sexuality is a very grey area. You may be attracted to her, but you may not be attracted to all women. Or you may find that you are attracted to some other women. Don't fret over these labels of 'straight' or 'lesbian' or 'bisexual'. Just go with ... (read in full...)
The guy I broke up with is threatening to harm himself if I don't give him a second chance. What can I do?
Q. I broke up with a guy who didn't treat me right. But when I refused I give him a second chance, he threatened to commit suicide. This is worrying me. I told him we could be friends but he did not want to. And he just went from blaming himself and ...
A. 11 July 2012: That is abuse. He is trying to guilt you back into a relationship with him, which is unhealthy and he needs help immediately.
Next time he threatens harming himself or suicide, tell him you're going to call either a.) The police or b.) Medical assi... (read in full...)
If the scar on my thigh going to turn guys off when I start having sex?
Q. When I was little I was bitten by a donkey, and I have this massive scar on my thigh. I worry that when I finally have sex, men will be repulsed by the scar. Should I try and hide it with make-up or something??? ...
A. 11 July 2012: Alright, women seem to have this misconception that men are allergic to flaws.
They aren't. Scars, dimples, strange little thing that make you unique- guys really don't mind when it comes down to it. Personal experience, I have scars running up my t... (read in full...)
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