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anonymous
writes:When I was little I was bitten by a donkey, and I have this massive scar on my thigh.I worry that when I finally have sex, men will be repulsed by the scar.Should I try and hide it with make-up or something??? Reply to this Question
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reader, doublejack  +, writes (11 July 2012):
Definitely do not worry about it. When you are old enough for sex, and I stress that you should not rush into it and instead wait for the right time, the lucky guy you choose will be so happy he's seeing you naked AND you're willing to have sex with him, that something like a scar won't matter.
I have a major crush on a woman that was in a bad auto accident. She has a scar on her left arm running from almost the shoulder all the way down to her elbow. When I look at her, though, I don't even notice it... and if I do I don't feel repulsed in any way. It just endears her to me more.
Best of luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 July 2012):
 NO sweetie.. not at all.
get a copy of the movie Working girl... there's a scene in it where Melanie Griffin is in bed with Harrison Ford and she is asking him about how he got that famous scar on his chin (he got it before he became an actor)...
trading stories in bed about how you got scars and such after the first time you make love with a man who cares about you is part of the charm
FWIW I have scars on my breasts and my belly from surgeries and terrible other things... doesn't put anyone off from me..
and to be honest the only thing a boy (please wait as long as you can do this btw) of 17/18 etc... will be thinking one thing "BOOBIES"... and after that "please don't let me cum too fast"
he won't even notice the scar till after the fact.
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reader, damn him  +, writes (11 July 2012):
this is just to convince you...you are pefect just the way you are.
me....complete stomach covered in scars from babies,tail bone large scar from abcess
best friend...scar running the entire length of stomach
sister..4 hip operations multipule scars on both hips
older sister....car accident scar over eye and eye brow and hip operation.
mother...stretch marks
nan....hip operation and knee operation
other friends....stretch marks.
other friends..tattoo removal
dont suffer for the scars on your skin...but worry more the scars that form on your heart and in your mind about how people will see you for it. my dear,there are a million scar stories and yours is just another one...(i would rather be bit by a donkey that a shark)i would rather live to tell the story.and this may be a different way to think of it.
and lastly you are perfect and your scar is a story
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reader, feather20 +, writes (11 July 2012):
It's those kind of little things that make you unique and more loveable. Don't think of it as a scar, think of it as a tattoo from one of the stories in your life.
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reader, Cole Turner  +, writes (11 July 2012):
 Not at all ... It is unique part of you and part of your past that you should share with any future partners.
It sounds like an interesting story ... How did you get bitten by a donkey?? Hmm ... Anyway don't make an issue out of them and most guys won't even notice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2012): men are not put off by things like that! iv got a couple of scars on my face and nobody has ever said anything to me. my friend had a biking accident a couple of years ago and took a large amount of skin off her thigh. it was that bad that she had to have skin grafts, the scar is from hip to knee! she says (i asked her for you) that guys actually find it interesting! so what im trying to say is dont worry about it, a scar is not something to be ashamed of or worried about. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2012): I used to self-injure, and I now have hundreds of scars. Some men stare, but my boyfriend - and my exes who've loved me - don't judge them and like them as much as any other part of my body. Don't hide yourself.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (11 July 2012):
 Alright, women seem to have this misconception that men are allergic to flaws.
They aren't. Scars, dimples, strange little thing that make you unique- guys really don't mind when it comes down to it. Personal experience, I have scars running up my thighs from self inflicted injuries. What did my boyfriend do when he first saw them? Nothing. He didn't even notice them. Chances are when you decide to have sex for the first time they either won't notice it or won't care. And don't take them asking about it, if they do, as a bad thing. They may just be genuinely curious.
Men aren't perfect and they don't expect women to be- well, unless they're a real a-hole. But you probably don't want to sleep with someone like that anyway :)
Hope this helped!
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (11 July 2012):
No, hon, don't worry about it.
My wife has birthmarks. To be honest, the fact that I was actually seeing her naked, there was too little blood near my brain to be worried about marks.
Don't rush. When it's right, when a guy is seriously into you, a scar won't likey even be noticed. You'll be just fine.
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