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If the scar on my thigh going to turn guys off when I start having sex?
Q. When I was little I was bitten by a donkey, and I have this massive scar on my thigh. I worry that when I finally have sex, men will be repulsed by the scar. Should I try and hide it with make-up or something??? ...
A. 11 July 2012: Alright, women seem to have this misconception that men are allergic to flaws.
They aren't. Scars, dimples, strange little thing that make you unique- guys really don't mind when it comes down to it. Personal experience, I have scars running up my t... (read in full...)
What was he trying to tell me?
Q. Hi, So my boyfriend and I were laying on the couch watching a movie and he got a boner. Before I said anything he put my hand on his shorts to "tell me" he had one. Why did he do that? Just curious as of why, what was he trying to tell me? How B...
A. 11 July 2012: He was probably just trying to initiate some fooling around. Simple as that, really.... (read in full...)
Should all men last an hour in bed?
Q. My friends all think a guy should last an hour in bed, but my bf and i dont. We were both virgins and lost it to one another, and we are still getting use to it so therefore he cums quickly. Do you have any proof that this is a normal thing, and my ...
A. 10 July 2012: Oh good god, an hour? Sweetie, your friends are delusional. I've been with three men and not one lasted at hour. Usally between 10mins to a half hour for actual sex, but that was after they got used to sex. Of course it's going to be quicker at ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my boyfriend that I got drunk and kissed another guy?
Q. Me and my best friend (girl) went away camping for the weekend. On saturday we met some guys who took our numbers and invited us over to their camp site for the evening, so we got there and just hung out. They offered us beers and I took one, then ...
A. 10 July 2012: Good for you OP , I hope you can build trust again with him :)... (read in full...)
Pregnant by an abusive drug addict! Help!!!
Q. OK1 Here is goes! I am pregnant with a guy who is verbally abusive. He accuses me of sleeping with my neighbor who is gay. He looks at pictures I have sent him and see'sguys arms and condoms on my counter. He calls me every namein thebook you can ...
A. 10 July 2012: You need to get away from him. If he knows where you live, change that. Block his phone number, email, facebook, everything. He does not sound stable whatsoever amd not the place you want a child. If he doesn't know about the child right now keep it ... (read in full...)
Besides condoms are there any other precautions we can take to avoid pregnancy?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I would really like to take my relationship to the next level and have sex with him. I am not on any form of birth control, we have a condom. but is that enough? I'm scared something...
A. 9 July 2012: A condom is enough but if you're really worried ypu could wait just a little while and go get fitted for a diaphragm or even get yourself on the pill, the patch, the shot, the implant. Nowadays there are countless ways to prevent pregnancy and if y... (read in full...)
Did showing and explaining sex safety precautions really reassure her or just add more pressure?
Q. So I was just wondering if y'all though I did the right thing. Me and my gal have been getting closer and closer every time we are together. We do not have sex but we do fool around a bit, she lets me go farther with her than she lets herself go ...
A. 9 July 2012: What you did, in my opinion was very sweet and thoughtful. You should be happy with it. It was a very good idea! :)... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my boyfriend that I got drunk and kissed another guy?
Q. Me and my best friend (girl) went away camping for the weekend. On saturday we met some guys who took our numbers and invited us over to their camp site for the evening, so we got there and just hung out. They offered us beers and I took one, then ...
A. 9 July 2012: You have to tell him if not only for his benefit, then for yours. The guilt will eat away at you. A friend of mine made a similar mistake and ended up coming clean to her boyfriend. It took a very, very long time to rebuild the trust but the longer ... (read in full...)
"Just stop looking blah blah" somebody please tell me how that works!
Q. I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...
A. 8 July 2012: On a biological level, there are theories that when a person is desperate for a relationship they give off a sort of pheremone 'stink of lonliness'. Most people don't want to date the desperate. I advise you become more comfortable in your own skin ... (read in full...)
All the other girls talk about their crushes or boyfriends, but I have nothing to say ...
Q. I am fifteen and I have never been in love or even had a crush. I am attracted to boys, but I usually keep my distance from them to a point of not even talking to them. When people ask me why I never talk to boys at all socially, I usually answer ...
A. 8 July 2012: Alright, first, no there isn't anything wrong with you. If you don't want to babble about boy trouble more power to you! It is not necessarily needed. Just because your friends love talking about boys doesn't mean you have to.
Now, to continue, you ... (read in full...)
I'm receiving mixed signals, need advice!
Q. There's this guy I've been talking to for about a week. We had kinda been interested in each other for awhile, but I started talking to him one day. He seemed extremely happy I talked to him, he said I was gorgeous and he was shy to talk to me ...
A. 8 July 2012: Calm down! Only talking for a week so don't let yourself get wrapped up. If he isn't replying, so be it. Distract yourself doing something fun so when he does reply (or even if he doesn't you can say "Oh, it's been three hours? Who knew?"
He has ... (read in full...)
Is it too late or can I salvage our relationship?
Q. My bf and i have had alot of problems over the years due to him making profiles on sex/dating sites as well as social networking sites and craigslist. He also has spoken sexually with women on the net. He is finally shaping up, but im starting to ...
A. 6 July 2012: If he does it again you should leave him. And if you have lost all feelings for him, you shouldn't stay with him just for your children. I know kids have a hard time grasping these sorts of things, but when they get older they'll be happier seeing a ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same?
Q. Agony Aunts!... I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same... ??? :S Recently he has told me he loves me, he wants to be with me, and has said that we're getting closer and he's glad it's happening. But this was after a ...
A. 6 July 2012: Calm yourself. The transition from friends to more is a tricky one and just as you're adjusting, so is he. Let him take things slowly, and talk to him when he's sober! Ask him what he thinks about you two, if he wants it to go anywhere but don't be ... (read in full...)
Should I Reconcile With My Emotionally Abusive EX?
Q. I really need advice as I've backed myself into a corner. I recently broke up with my boyfriend after I realized he'd been emotionally abusing me, lying to me, cheated (via email and asking for a girls number at a bar) and one time pushing me ...
A. 4 July 2012: You get the money you need from him and don't talk to him any more. Your friends are right to be angry because knowing abusive relationships, you probably left them all behind when you were with him. You're here hoping someone on this website wil... (read in full...)
How can you tell when someone you are in a relationship with, is being honest about changing their ways?
Q. How can you tell when someone you are in a relationship is being honest about changing their ways? My boyfriend used to make profiles on sex sites and would talk sexually with women. This is his last chance to shape up or ship out. We have kids ...
A. 4 July 2012: There is no magic way to know if someone is being honest. You can try to see if they're behaving strangely or check up on them ever once in a while, but that's it. Either you trust them to change or you live with paranoia. I may sound pessimistic ... (read in full...)
Will I pee or have an orgasm?
Q. I was being fingered by my bf and i felt like i had to pee the whole time will i end up peeing of will my body just have an orgasm?...
A. 3 July 2012: I think what you were feeling was that you were about to 'squirt', which is another term for female ejaculation. It isn't peeing, and many women like the sensation it creates. However, many do not. To just let it happen, you have to just relax. And ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become so controlling it's a problem but I can't break up with him because I love him!
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been in a serious committed relationship for almost a year. At first I wasn't very expressive and romantic towards him cuz I was just getting to know him and I am a very shy person.. He was very patient and kind ...
A. 29 June 2012: I was in a situation eerily similar to this. He does not love you, but the power he has over you. I know how you're feeling; as if the second you leave him you will be alone because you love the man he made you think he was. You obviously know you ... (read in full...)
My sex drive has finished after a breakup, is that normal?
Q. hey me and my girlfriend split up about 4 months ago now I'm pretty good with it not 100 percent but I'm pretty happy,rediscovered my self identity etc.anyway my labido/sex drive has pretty much vanished,i literally don't have one anymore...is that ...
A. 28 June 2012: It's pretty normal. You're mentally adjusting to being without someone still, you body knows sex isn't what you need.... (read in full...)
I want to marry Bobby someday, but I don't want to rush into anything. What should I do?
Q. Hi there everyone. I haven't posted on here for quite a long time, so I apologise if I'm a bit rusty. To make a long story short, I'll just say my family is unstable to the point where they can hardly take care of me in the basic sense. I have bee...
A. 27 June 2012: I've talked to him about it some more and I think he is agreeing with me more now. Thanks to all of you for your reassurance and advice. I truly do appreciate it!... (read in full...)
Is this boy into me?
Q. I'm not sure if this boy, lets call him Will, is into me? He is the ex of one of my friends (she dumped him). Me and Will have always got on well, he's always complimented me a lot and told me people that I was going places in life. We are both ...
A. 26 June 2012: From this, it certainly seems like he is interest- though I can't possibly know for a fact- but you should wait until drama from his ex has died down. You don't want to jump into something that already has baggage.... (read in full...)
Lesbian friend going too far!!
Q. Hey everyone, I am a 16 year old female, I have a boyfriend and I love him to death but my best friend is really starting to get in the way! She admited to me two weeks ago that she is a lesbian and she hasn't stopped harassing me since. She keeps ...
A. 4 September 2011: End this friendship. She's being vindictive and inconsiderate. She is sexually harassing you and this is not okay.
Refer her to a counselor, but from that point on distance yourself. She has done irrecoverable things to your friendship. If you ... (read in full...)
I hear my parents arguing about sex and it's grossing me out!
Q. Hello all. This is not really a question regarding myself beyond the fact beyond that the situation is seriously traumatizing me and really, starting to piss me off. My mom went through menopause 5 years ago and apparently, no longer posses...
A. 14 August 2011: Sex is an important part of any relationship... but I'm not going to get into that being this is your question about them, not them asking for help (which they so clearly need). Like others have mentioned, you've just got to tell them you HEAR it... (read in full...)
Is my inexperience going to put guys off?
Q. I've never really had a proper relationship and am really inexperienced with guys I haven't even had my first kiss. I've been on quite a few dates with different guys but it's never gone further. The worrying thing is they have all said they weren't ...
A. 14 August 2011: Sweetie, you're fifteen at the oldest. Don't feel rushed.
Guys your age aren't looking for anything serious and you turning them down because it doesn't feel right is completely fine.
Really, as someone not much older than you at all I'd rather b... (read in full...)
Do I display behavior of a sex addict?
Q. I've had 17 partners. I had oral sex with most of them. I had sex with 2 of them. I love watching porn but have stopped. I masturbate like 3-4 times a week (but masturbate 2 times those days) I like the idea of fantasy. I like looking at ...
A. 11 August 2011: I think you're just rebelling against the image, you said yourself of the 'innocent and angelic' girl.
There is nothing wrong with innocence, in fact I know several guys who find innocence itself sexy. To be sexy doesn't mean you have sex (ora... (read in full...)
Fell for him at a spiritual retreat, he's married, how can we pursue this?
Q. Hi all, I met this guy last year during a spiritual trip, and I fell for him completly. I thought he was my soulmate but then found out he was married. He seems to be in a loveless relationship. I am so willing to pursue him, and also I think th...
A. 8 August 2011: I would say don't get involved in this. You may have fallen for him, but he is legally bound to someone else and you don't know for a fact if their marriage is loveless or if he just enjoys stepping out on his wife with other women (namely, ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and wants sex with me, but he already has a girlfriend and wont chose between me and her! What should I do?
Q. Ok so when me and my boyfriend were together he told me not to talk to his bestfriend because he said he just uses girls...i started talking to him and after me and my boyfriend broke up me and my now ex boyfriend decided to hang out...so i went ...
A. 4 August 2011: He's cheating with you. Do you really want to start a relationship like that?
He sounds a lot like a guy I knew. He's a seventeen year old guy who is being led by his d**k and not his heart.
If he can cheat on you he can cheat with you. ... (read in full...)
Questions about breaking up.....
Q. Girls, some questions, please... 1. Why/How when a relationship ends do you have the capacity to go on and flourish when I'm left in turmoil? 2. I am heartbroken - do girls like being chased by their ex lover (nothing bad happened) or would ...
A. 4 August 2011: 1. It depends on the relationship. Some relationships end and it's debilitating... other times it's like begin freed from a cage- insensitive, maybe, but that's how it feels.
2. Again, this depends. In my experience sticking around will onl... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 5 times, constantly lies and disrespects me but he has my heart and I want him back....
Q. Dear Cupid How can i get over a guy whom i've been with for over 2 years now who has cheated on me 5 times, who constantly lies to me, who disrespects me, who doesn't show any affection or that he cares, who ignores me, doesn't communicate whenever...
A. 30 July 2011: You've already wasted two years on him. Don't go a SECOND longer.
He has disrespected you. Cheated. Lied. Learn how to say NO.
Don't talk to him. Don't look at him. Block him in every way possible.
If you stay with this mess you will end up ... (read in full...)
How do you tell someone that you like them?
Q. We're friends for sure, good friends. But I sense that maybe she may like me, we've only known each other well for maybe 6 months, before that she had a boyfriend and we hardly ever talked at work. Then when she broke up I turned it on and now we're ...
A. 30 July 2011: Just test the waters. Don't rush into it, but initiate more physical contact. Ex.: Riding in the car together, her hand and yours both really close. Edge yours a bit closer and see how she reacts.
Longer hugs, but not awkwardly long. Maybe a fr... (read in full...)
Love triangle with my two best friends.....
Q. I have two best friends. One's a girl, let's call her Mary, and ones a boy, let's call him Jack. Well Jack is dating Mary and what she doesn't know is is that I love him.. And That he loves me too. A couple weeks ago I told him I loved him and to my ...
A. 30 July 2011: You and Mary both need to get as far away from him as you can. He's toxic, obviously a charmer, and will do anything to keep you in his sights.
Jack and Jill went up the hill... and Mary caught them, shoved Jack down the hill, and the two girl... (read in full...)
Guys, would you be put off by a 21 year old virgin?
Q. hi there! im 21 years old. i'm a university student. basically i am still a virgin and never had a boyfriend. its not that i don't get asked out. im a normal girl, love going out and having a good time. but i guess i just haven't met a guy i...
A. 30 July 2011: I know many many guys who wish they would have met their girlfriend as a virgin. It helps them be more secure in the fact that they are the only one their girlfriend wants.
Don't be ashamed of the fact that you've never had a boyfriend. Don't rush... (read in full...)
Any "happy ending" love stories?
Q. There are too many "my horrible love life is slowly killing me" posts. Anybody have any happy ending, true love, stories? Thanks! :)...
A. 29 July 2011: I consider my parents a happy ending love story. Sure, they have their past and their moments of trouble; nobody's perfect. They love each other. They took care of my two sisters and myself through everything and still love each other so much.
T... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I bleed a little?
Q. Hi, i have a little question. Im a virgin but have been finered about twice by my boyfriend. After he fingered me today, i went to the toilet and noticed blood on my knickers. Is that normal? I am due my period in a few days however i dont think its ...
A. 29 July 2011: It was possibly your hymen breaking. Some girls can bleed simply from fingering, it's a person to person thing and very much depends on your body, how he's going about it, etc.
You're fine. Totally normal.... (read in full...)
I'm horny all the time. Is this normal?
Q. hey, to jump straight into it im horny all the time and dont know what to do. iv always have a very high sex drive, but lately its much worse. latley im finding myself mastubating at any chance i have, but once i do this about half hour l...
A. 27 July 2011: Yes you are normal. Being horny is completely normal. It's nothing to fret over.... (read in full...)
I don't like sex, people think thats a bad thing
Q. Hello, I am an 18 year old female and I dont like the thought of sex, at all. I think its repulsive and gross. I am still a virgin and perfectly okay with it. I dont see how its can be enjoyable or pleasurable for anyone. I have not been ...
A. 26 July 2011: My best friend was like this... Then she met her boyfriend, tried sex just because she loved him so much, and now she loves having sex and is very open sexually. She used to find the penis unsightly and sex awkward- when she was a virgin.
D... (read in full...)
Do women look too ?
Q. A question that will ignite a debate, we men although may have the most beautiful wife/girlfriend but we keep on looking at other women, we don't get enough! although we may be having the best woman...Are women like us in nature, do they look at men ...
A. 26 July 2011: Of course we look! Pretending not to is the problem. My ex used to hate if I admitted a guy other than him was attractive.
Noticing is just fine. It's when we catch you drooling over that girl in the tight dress walking by that we get a litt... (read in full...)
Is now the right time and am I the right age to have sex?
Q. Hi, I am 19 and i have a bf. He's also 19 and I am stil a virgin. We have been dating for 6months nd we love each other very much. Whenever i go 2 his house we only kiss nd hold each other.Recently,he told me he would like too have sex with me. My ...
A. 24 July 2011: Only you know when it is the right time to have sex. If you think you are ready to have sex then go for it, but judging by your hesitance I'd say maybe wait a little bit longer.
When you do decide to have sex though be sure to use the proper cont... (read in full...)
I'm a gay Latino man. Should I come out to my aunts, uncles, cousins and parents?
Q. I'm a latino gay man but not out to my aunts, uncles or cousins yet. To tell you the truth I don't think that's their problem. My parents and brothers live in my south american country although I'm out to my brothers but not my parents. They're in ...
A. 24 July 2011: If she's already telling people about it, I say if they ask be honest. You've got nothing to be ashamed of, but it's not necessarily their business unless you want it to be. So, again, if your cousins, aunts, uncles, whoever ask you about it just ... (read in full...)
I feel I am really a lesbian...and I wonder if this makes me a bad person...
Q. I am single..I have been raised as a good daughter and a model of being a good and responsible person. I dress well and my talk and even my gestures are very firm and proper but suddenly, I my have learned that I am attracted to a female like me and ...
A. 23 July 2011: There is absolutely, positively nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Being a good daughter and being straight don't necessarily go hand in hand. Just because you're a lesbian doesn't make you a bad person.
Be with who you want to be with. Don'... (read in full...)
Does saying "I love you" lose it's meaning if you say it a lot?
Q. Hey, does saying "i love you" lose it's meaning if you say it too much? I'm asking 'cos i've been with my bf for 10 months. He told me he loved me after about 6 weeks. For me, it felt too soon, but by 3 months, I felt I really did love him and told ...
A. 22 July 2011: It really depends on the relationship. I know I've had relationships where it lost its meaning because I said it too much, but on the reverse of that my sister and her fiance say it to each other when one of them leaves the room and they don't ... (read in full...)
How can I feel sexy again? The guy I was seeing doesn't seem interested anymore.
Q. Hi... Lately I've felt tired all the time, and I feel really sensitive about my body. I feel fat. I feel as though the man I was seeing has lost interest in me because I'm not sexy anymore. He rarely texts me unless he wants a favour. And when...
A. 22 July 2011: You don't need someone who is unappreciative of you and doesn't make you feel better when you're down. Though, in contrast, he may have something going on in his life that is making him more reserved. Maybe look into that, but if he's just being ... (read in full...)
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