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How can I feel sexy again? The guy I was seeing doesn't seem interested anymore.
Q. Hi... Lately I've felt tired all the time, and I feel really sensitive about my body. I feel fat. I feel as though the man I was seeing has lost interest in me because I'm not sexy anymore. He rarely texts me unless he wants a favour. And when...
A. 22 July 2011: You don't need someone who is unappreciative of you and doesn't make you feel better when you're down. Though, in contrast, he may have something going on in his life that is making him more reserved. Maybe look into that, but if he's just being ... (read in full...)
I'm 27, she's 20 and a friend's sister's friend, is this a problem?
Q. I met a girl at a party the other day and we got on well although we were both quite drunk and I didn't think anything of it (Just assumed we were casually talking - i've never been good with signs!). After however friends of mine were saying t...
A. 21 July 2011: You're both legally consenting adults, age is simply a number. Whether or not she is in the same place you are in wanting a relationship however is a completely different story and something you have to find out on your own.
As for being out of y... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my cousin, she hasn't given me an answer but she hasn't said no either....where do I take it from here?
Q. I have been attracted to my cousin for years now and have actually talked to her about it. She says i am a good looking guy and would date me in a heartbeat but since we are cousins we cant. She said she would think about sex but has never given me ...
A. 21 July 2011: Depending on where you live in the US it may be illegal. You also have to consider the risk of pregnancy if you two decide to sleep together. Yes, contraceptives are great but can fail, which can lead to birth complications and health ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and still a virgin
Q. Am 18 high school senior and still a virgin. My friends aren't virgins though, it really bothers me that am a virgin not because my friends aren't but because I wanna experience what sex is like. I dont know if its oyt of curiosity or blueballs. Coz ...
A. 21 July 2011: Nothing wrong with being a virgin. Absolutely nothing wrong. Of course, you want to be having sex, which is completely normal. I would say just wait until you find the right girl who can accept that you are a virgin even if she isn't one, one who ... (read in full...)
What is the average amount of sex to have per week?
Q. Hi Guys, What is an average amount of sex to have per week? My boyfriend and I have lived together for a year and have sex once every 1-1.5 weeks. I feel like this isn't enough but maybe I'm the one with high hopes and will always be disapp...
A. 21 July 2011: Well, there is no such thing as 'enough sex' in the realm of a universal number. It's different for every couple.
No one is 'in the wrong' here really, your boyfriend may just have a low sex drive caused by stress, exhaustion, or maybe just a natu... (read in full...)
What's the best way to pleasure my girlfriend and give her an orgasm?
Q. what is the easiest way to give my girlfriend a orgasm?... the first time me and my girlfriend had sexit was amazing. But now everytime we see each other thats all she wants to do. Sometimes even 3 times in one day. Is this good or bad? Does thi...
A. 21 July 2011: She's into it- this is a good thing. Any advice you get here can be great, but keep in mind you have to ask her what feels good. I know this is a bit played out but communication, communication, communication! If you trust each other enough to be ... (read in full...)
If a woman already likes you, does it really matter what you say to them?
Q. Hope its ok to ask quite a short and simple question: Ive been told by a friend that in regards to a woman, when talking to them it doesnt really matter what you say, if they already like you, thats half the battle won. Us men can say some ...
A. 20 July 2011: Depends. If she already likes you and you say something really insulting, belittling, etc. chances are... she isn't going to be as into you. Words do in fact matter. Though, keep in mind, as men can say some stupid things at times, so can women. ... (read in full...)
My GF is a massive cheater and now she wants to keep me out of my daughters life! What kind of person is she??
Q. I met my girlfriend in May 5th, 2006 the day her husband went to vacation in the carribean. We had sex the same day, she has told me they were heading to splitville. When her husband came back from Haiti, I was at the airport and I saw them kis...
A. 18 July 2011: Get a lawyer. Get your daughter. Get away from her.
People who act like this are poisonous.
For your own sake, get out as fast as you can.... (read in full...)
Does being bisexual exist in some people?
Q. Where can I start. Growing up I kinda found guys more attractive and going through puberty I liked looking at gay porn. I never looked a sexually things with women involved. There were times when i liked girls also. But I never been just fully ...
A. 17 July 2011: Yes, I know bisexuality does exist because I identify myself as such. Some people like to argue that it doesn't really exist but sexuality in itself is a grey area. When it comes down to it, humans are animals; animals hump, hunt, and sleep. ... (read in full...)
Should I try and get him back or not? He said he wasnt in love with me....
Q. so Me and this guy were just supposed to be a hook-up but then it turned into much more, i fell head over heels and he said he did too. but now he dumped me and im completely lost. He sent me a text that said " im sorry i do love you but im not in ...
A. 14 July 2011: I'm so sorry you went through this. The best thing to do is limit contact with him and just try to get over him. With time, you will heal from the hurt.
Good luck getting over him :)... (read in full...)
Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating?
Q. Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating. This is past dirty messages and includes videos of them selves being passed back and forth. I have seen for myself. He says I'm overacting since he's not physically cheating. i ...
A. 14 July 2011: That is cheating. No question about it. He's sharing that type of affection and his physical self with another person, regardless of whether or not it's in person it's cheating.
Go for you on leaving him. No one needs someone so awful in thei... (read in full...)
Do all girlfriends steal from their boyfriends?
Q. My favorite soft drink is Mountain Dew and I have a Mountain Dew T-shirt. After my girlfriend came up in my room and when I wasn't in my room with her, I think she took my T-shirt. I'm not 100% sure she took it, but my T-shirt has been missing for a ...
A. 8 July 2011: "Hey, is that my mountain dew shirt?" "Well, yea, it reminds me of you/ is comfortable/ I like mountain dew." "Oh, well, okay." She's probably doing it because she wants something to remind her of you. With my past boyfriends I've borrowed... (read in full...)
How do I come out without it seeming like I'm just experimenting?
Q. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I recently met this girl and we're together now but i still like guys. My cousin is also a girl and she came out before I had a chance to tell my parents that I have feelings for this girl. For the last three months ...
A. 6 July 2011: As far as I can see, all you can do is be honest. You don't want this girl feeling like this big secret you're ashamed of. You basically have to say "Fuck it" and tell your family that this is who you are, they can either accept it or keep their ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is 6 years younger than me.....his mum is only 10 years older than me......is this morally wrong?
Q. Ive fallen head over heels for a guy who is 6 years younger than me. Ive just turned 28 and he is 21 almost 22. We are both crazy about each other. I am worried that this is morrally wrong. His mum is only 10 years older than me. And she wants to ...
A. 5 July 2011: Relax, age is just a number! The important thing is you make each other happy. You're crazy about each other.
Go with it, be happy with him!... (read in full...)
My husband walked out on me and the kids, what do I do?
Q. My husband and i took the kids out to dinner on a saturday night. We had a great family dinner and then headed home. On our way home he stops at a local grocery store. The kids and I stay in the car. The kids decide that they would like to give ...
A. 5 July 2011: First off, good for you in changing the locks and packing his things. This obviously is not a healthy relationship. He hit you. You said it so casually, does this happen often? This is not okay. He left you brokenhearted and alone to take car... (read in full...)
Why would my ex say all those things if he's over me?
Q. Your Open Question: Why would he say all of that? am so hurt:(? My ex boyfriend asked to be friends 6weeks ago cos he's moved on. But I said I couldn't cos I still love him. Last night. We spoke again and told me to move on and find ...
A. 3 July 2011: He is being brutally honest, which is both good and bad. Good because he isn't leading you on at all, bad because... well..."I can't stop crying:( why do I love him so much:(" Yea. I would say to cut off contact with him until you're over it compl... (read in full...)
He caught me fliriting online, and now I've caught him flirting online
Q. So ok last week my boyfriend caught me flirting online sexually suggestive like, no i didn't send pictures, my number,or ever met up with these two people. From that day i cutoff contact with both guys, gave my boyfriend all my passwords and even ...
A. 3 July 2011: It seems like he is trying to fight fire with fire, pay you back for what you have done. What happens when you fight fire with fire? More fire! His seeking revenge is justified but sort of immature. He may be trying to get a rise out of you, but ... (read in full...)
Devastated after going though his phone ....
Q. was with my man for 2 years until he left me in may 2010 as he had met someone else although we kept in touch.2 months later we started meetin up as friendsm him sayin she was out his life,and he had only done it to push me away.We were gettin on ...
A. 3 July 2011: Don't be used. He is playing with you. Don't look at his words, look at his actions. You find him with her, his name in her phone, he has previously left you for her... Leave them be. Subtract yourself from the situation. It's the only way to e... (read in full...)
Having sex with the ex after breaking up?
Q. My bf and I just ended our relationship after a yr and 1/2. We love eachother and want to stay close. Last night we were talking about sex. And if we could still do that. I am not sure I can handle that. Anyone who has experience getti...
A. 3 July 2011: I can say from personal experience you do NOT want to take this road. It's obvious there are reasons you want to be apart otherwise you wouldn't have broken up in the first place! From my experience, we continued to have sex, and he graduall... (read in full...)
I fell for a teacher, he kissed me, sent me roses daily, I got sick, he moved on, what do I do now??
Q. My name is Alex (I'm a girl). I'm a freshman at highschool. When I started school I saw a very cute guy (he must be about 26) who was a teacher at the school (he isn't really my teacher, he doesn't teach at my classroom). We kinda liked each other, ...
A. 3 July 2011: Relationships between students and teachers is not okay. You're a kid. I don't say that in a demeaning way, but you're a freshman in high school. He is an adult. There is something seriously whacked out in his brain if he thinks dating his ... (read in full...)
Why is Divorce Ok? I am put off if I find a person is divorced.
Q. Im asking the question: Why isnt it shameful to be divorced? Why would anyone admit it? to me it makes the person look selfish and non commital really.. I have to admit it puts me off a person quite a lot. What does everyone else think? ...
A. 3 July 2011: There are a lot of reasons a marriage can end in divorce. You seem to have this one-track view of what happens that leads to a divorce.
Maybe that person is divorced because they were being cheated on. They wanted commitment, but were hurt.
Maybe... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend crossing the line with her guy friends?
Q. I realize many people have this similar problem with a girlfriend having several guy friends, and I believe each answer is based on circumstance so that is why I'm asking about my personal situation. For the record, I've dated people in the pa...
A. 2 July 2011: Her friends may be crossing a line. Your girlfriend, however, seems to be handling this situation very well. From what you've described she is being very open and honest with you. If she has made it perfectly clear to you that you're the only guy ... (read in full...)
I am confused by his behavior. Can someone help me figure out what is going on?
Q. hi please can someone give me some advice? i met this guy in march. we split up after 2 months. i would text him he wouldnt reply. then he said he has been hurt in the past and so have i so could we just have sex and nothing more. so i told him no i ...
A. 26 June 2011: "could we just have sex and nothing more"
There's your answer. He has made it clear in the past that he wants you for sex. If a sex buddy isn't what you want then don't be that. Don't get caught up in him in the hopes of having a rela... (read in full...)
Women only, I need your advice.
Q. Hello ALL!! I need some help, this is aimed at women only!! A little advice would not go a miss. It's about the dreaded pubic hair...im a teenage girl and i choose to shave my pubic hair. However, i have never once been able to shave without ...
A. 26 June 2011: Try and find a spray or lotion that is designed for reducing irritation in that area. I use Noxzema bikini spray and it seems to work pretty well considering I used to have the same problem you described and now I don't, though admittedly my skin ... (read in full...)
I like a guy but my best friend loves him too!
Q. I like a guy but my best friend loves him too, he liked my best friend before but now he says he love me again. But he don't know that I love him because I do not want my best friend learn that and the guy once told me on facebook ' I'm gonna try ...
A. 26 June 2011: From personal experience I've learned that picking a guy over a friend never turns out how you want it to. I've been on both sides of this. If you pick him and date him your friend will either silently and resent you or cause trouble with you. ... (read in full...)
I really want to get pregnant -- should I?
Q. I want to get pregnant but I know I'm young... I'll be 17 in two months and I've been in this relationship for almost three years. My boyfriend is in the Navy and I love him very very much. We've had a miscariage and it hurt both of us very badly...
A. 24 June 2011: You've made a strong argument here for yourself, but I'm going to go with no, you shouldn't have a baby. You're young. You've got so much ahead of you. I know that sounds cliche, but it's true. Do you really want to give up the chance of a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be his temptation anymore!
Q. Hey guys, im 14 and im having a bit of a problem. theres this guy i like alot, hes all i think about. hes really sweet and stuff. he likes me too. and hes said that he is temped to kiss me, but he refrais because he has a girl friend. he dosent like ...
A. 24 June 2011: Don't make a move on him. He has a girlfriend, that's the end of it. Whether or not he's happy with her is unimportant if he doesn't have the guts to end it. He likes you, that's all well and good, but dump her and spare her the heartbreak of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend does not care for me anymore!
Q. I am in complete loss of thought now due the recent behaviours of my girlfriend. she has refuse to call or even send me a text message,now she doesn't cares about me anymore, she wasn't like this the first time i saw her. at times if i give her a ...
A. 24 June 2011: When someone decides they don't want to be with another person anymore not much can be done to salvage the relationship. The first thing you need to do is stop calling her. I know it hurts, and having to fight the urge to talk to her hurts even ... (read in full...)
Have any women on here gained breast size whilst on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I am posting in curiosity of the contraceptive pill and breast increase.. I have never taken any contraceptive pill before. I am 22, and I hate my breasts. They are very small, my boyfriend is not attracted to them, and I've become very ...
A. 19 June 2011: Not myself, but a friend of mine starting taking the pill and her breasts went from big b's to small d's. Don't know what pill she was on, but it all really depends on how the chemicals and hormones react to your body. I wish I knew which pill it ... (read in full...)
My married lover ended things but is jealous of me dating!
Q. I had an affair for 18 months with a married man who has two small kids. Last month he ended it telling me that the lying to everyone was making him stressed. We both work together and he wanted to stay friends. I am the 3rd person (i know of) he ...
A. 18 June 2011: How can you stay friends without being attracted? What value would his friendship be? He didn't want to see if you were even okay. His reasons for saying he cares about you are completely selfish. Considering what you've said here, I wouldn't... (read in full...)
How can my gf get bigger breasts without surgery?
Q. I just got a girlfriend and i love her. We were talking one day and she told me she wanted bigger boobs. I was shocked to hear this. She wears like a 40C and she is kinda cramped in it. I stayed over her house that weekend and tried to convince her ...
A. 18 June 2011: I think there's a much bigger issue here than boob size. I'm thinking your girlfriend may have low self-esteem or poor body image issues. Having that big of breasts and wanting them bigger, well, that's a bit of a red flag to me. And boobs ar... (read in full...)
My married lover ended things but is jealous of me dating!
Q. I had an affair for 18 months with a married man who has two small kids. Last month he ended it telling me that the lying to everyone was making him stressed. We both work together and he wanted to stay friends. I am the 3rd person (i know of) he ...
A. 18 June 2011: 'will he ever come back to me?' I sure hope not. He is cheating on his wife with you. He may be unhappy in his marriage, he may not find her attractive anymore but in any case that is not, was not, and never will be your problem. It's his and ... (read in full...)
Any advice on where to get started on fixing our relationship?
Q. Me and my bf of 2 years, well he broke up with me a few days ago so i should say ex bf. Anyways he regrets breaking up with me and wants to get back together, i do too but with all the problems we have and all the fighting the past few months I...
A. 18 June 2011: How often do you let him know that you care?
Usually when people cling it's because they're afraid of losing whatever it is they're clinging to. Maybe he didn't think you were showing him any affection. Were you?
I'm not trying to pin this who... (read in full...)
I'm tired of feeling unappreciated and frustrated. Any advice is welcome.
Q. I ended up getting involved with a close friend of 3 years (he's in my close circle of friends) 2 months ago. His father recently passed away and now it seems like he's spiraling out of control. He's always out partying and drinking something he ...
A. 18 June 2011: He's obviously taking his grief and aggravation out on you, which is not right in any way. Definitely get out because it is making you unhappy. Tell him everything you just told us. Aside from everyone thinking he's gay maybe, that might hit him ... (read in full...)
First time, split condom, could I be pregnant?
Q. i'm freaking out, i had sex for the first time this weekend and the condom split. how much chance is there that i'm pregnant? i'm on the pill, he hadn't ejaulated yet, and there was no pre-cum because he had ejaculated before we had sex. do i...
A. 16 June 2011: You're on the pill, he didn't ejaculate, and there was no pre-cum. Chances are you aren't pregnant, which is good because it seems you were being very responsible in using two different forms of protection. I'm not saying you definitely aren't, ... (read in full...)
Lots of history, but I know she's the one
Q. I fell in love with this girl in 6th grade....we're seniors in high school now. i broke her heart in 6th grade and she broke mine last year when we dated for a year.... it took a while to hit me but everytime we talk i miss her more and more, she ...
A. 16 June 2011: Honestly, if you've made it clear to her already that you want to be with her it's no longer in your hands. It's up to her. It hurts to feel unrequited love and I'm sorry for that. I advice not to just wait around for her forever. Ever heard of ... (read in full...)
Will he still talke to me after I scared him? Did I lose a good friend?
Q. Ok well I have a friend and I just became friends with him since last week and so I told him something I should of not told him. I texted him just to talk since i'm bored. It first started when I told him I went to my first counseling appointment ...
A. 16 June 2011: He may just be freaked out and come back later. But think about it this way, do you want to keep company who can't accept you for who you are, personal problems and all? I tend to keep my circle of friends close and tight so I know they accept me. ... (read in full...)
I'm open to love, but I'm cynical about highschool relationships.
Q. Hey guys and gals, haven't needed advice for a while. I'm fifteen. A guy in my gym class is a junior, eighteen, but shoudl've been a senior this year. There is a mentally challenged kid that isn't so bad that he is separate from other kids. He gets ...
A. 15 June 2011: It doesn't seem like you're very 'into' him, which is fine and something you can't help.
Being cynical about high school relationships can be beneficial, but it can also hurt you. You could give up the chance at having nice memories with some, but ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about yourself? How does this opinion affect your relationships?
Q. Sort of a big question here, I just want opinions. How do you feel about yourself? How does this opinion affect your relationships? The reason I ask is because I have very low self-esteem, which I am working on but it always comes back to bite me ...
A. 15 June 2011: Thanks for all the feedback. My situation is a little different Lovemeright11, in that I feel so much affection towards people I date, but my issue is I deny that anyone could have those affectionate feelings reciprocated for me, which has been ... (read in full...)
I did not get pregnant after my partner ejaculated within me. Does this mean I won't be able to have kids?
Q. Helpppppppp!!!!!... I had unprotected sex with my partner and he ejaculated inside of me in June 5th, i got my period i believe on june 11th. may i not be able to have kids?...
A. 15 June 2011: If you don't understand that sometimes you can get pregnant, sometimes you can't get pregnant while still not being infertile, let alone not being smart enough to use protection, you should not be having sex.
It does not mean you won't be able to h... (read in full...)
My friends say leave him, but I can't! Please help!
Q. I am 14 nearly 15 i have been with my bf for 1year and 5mounths when we first meet at school we became great freinds and we started to become more we kissed and flirted and then he asked me out. He moved away 2mounths back now and its really f...
A. 14 June 2011: Wow, being how young you are it's amazing how long you have been together. Kudos on that, but maybe that's the exact reason why your relationship is falling apart. He's your age I'm assuming? He's probably just growing distant because he's you... (read in full...)
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