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writes:So yesterday, I decided to try something new and see what it would be like to whip myself and try masturbating afterwards and/or while doing so and see how it does for me.. turns out I kinda liked it. It's like it gave me a sort of rush that made it much easier to please myself. Since my current anti-depressant causes a somewhat lower libido, I felt that maybe it would help speed up the process a little bit more. However when I told my boyfriend today about my experience he acted like I was a freak. lol maybe I am.. I don't know. I might just never do it again because I know it may seem kinda weird.. but in all honesty it did kinda help me. But I don't know, what are your opinions? Is what I did just too strange? Or is it normal for people to have weird turn-ons such as mine??
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 July 2012):
 My best friend gets turned on by having her toes sucked. The thought of it makes me ill.. So DIFFERENT FOLKS... different strokes.
If you like a spanking, it really doesn't make you a freak.
If your BF doesn't like the idea, maybe let it rest til he is comfortable with it. But don't let him make you think that it's not normal. For you it might just be.
For some pain = greater pleasure.
Educate yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2012): Well if you're weird then I must be weird because i have a weird one too, but won't go into it on here lol.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Exhibit A.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2164886/Fifty-Shades-Of-Grey-best-selling-Kindle-online-book-time-Amazon-sales-topping-1m.html
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (27 July 2012):
No doubt you've heard of that book series called "50 shades of grey by now"... Can't say I've read it myself, but maybe you should given that its now the best selling book of the year and from what my girlfriend says of it- (who's worked in a bookshop for 5 years now and sold hundreds of copies), its got all sorts of unusual turn on moments in it... but if its good enough to outsell twilight, its safe for you to assume that everybody has turn on's which used to be taboo- but are nowadays considered more-or-less mainstream.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 It's not a weird turn on. Why do you think they sell whips at sex shops? Or haven't you ever seen a man slap a womans ass? I slap asses all the time, and I love it. It's great fun. It might not turn me on like it turns you on, but none the less. It's a fairly common thing to do. If your boyfriend thinks it is weird then that says more about him than you. It tells me he isn't comfortable with his sexuality, that he is scared of trying new things. He probably doesn't know what he likes, and is much too embarrassed to try and figure it out.
Nah, carry on as you were. You're normal. Perfectly normal. And people get turned on by far weirder things. You're still in the "beginners" class in terms of turn ons. My last boyfriend wore fake vampire teeth to bed with me and bit my neck.. now, that's still not weird if you ask me.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (27 July 2012):
 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_spanking
In BDSM circles, being spanked, caned, flogged or otherwise struck in order to cause pain is a VERY common kink.
You are what we call a "Masochist".
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masochist
I am a submissive masochist, which means I also feel pleasure from being struck in some fashion. I prefer bare-handed spanking and flogging. You are in NO WAY a "freak" and your boyfriend was extremely cruel to negatively label you without any reservation.
I strongly suggest you read some of the BDSM articles on Wiki, especially the ones I have linked for you, and look into masochism on your own. Don't let your boyfriend's negativity bring you down. Many people are afraid of anything but straight "vanilla" sex and are openly hateful to anyone who is "different".
Educate yourself, and don't be afraid to be "freaky". I am in no way an expert on BDSM but I don't see many other people on this site who are openly into BDSM so I try to answer as many questions like this as I can. If I can share my experience and better just one person's life, help them be more confident and educated and happy...well, it's all worth it.
So in short, no, you're not strange. Your turn-ons aren't weird. As long as you use the resources available to you to educate yourself about your kinks, you'll be fine. ^_^
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Everyone has different things that turn them on. You could ease the idea in with your boyfriend with some spanking/hair pulling, some things that are less 'freaky' but still may provide the same rush. As your boyfriend, he should want to make you happy, amd though that doesn't mean leaving his comfort zone entirely he could use a little more open-mindedness. There is no 'normal' turn on. Something turns you on that may or may not turn other people on. Barring th illegal side of things, whatever turns you on is your business and your partner's business if you choose to share that with them. If your partner thinks it's freakish well.. that's his issue. Some people like whips amd chains and being tied up. Some like things basic. Maybe you two are not as compatible in this aspect and could lear from each other.Hope this helped
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