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Sex and STD's
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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2 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
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Contraception Question - I want to put my periods on hold
Q. I've been on the Cilest pill for over a year now. So far it has been effective, has made my periods lighter and more comfortable and has improved my complexion. However, I'm going to uni to study dance in september. I'll be moving about a lot, and...
A. 19 August 2010: There are some pills that can stop your period completely. I was on one called Cerazette for 4 months but didn't like it. My periods didn't completely stop but were very irregular. You should talk to your doctor about it and explain your situation. ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. Hi Everyone!I really need all your opinion about my problem now,i missed my period this month got my last period last july 8 then after one week me and my bf had unprotected sex im really worried now because i feel sick and tired and hve ...
A. 19 August 2010: Sounds like you are, yes. But the only way to know for sure is if you take a pregnancy test. ... (read in full...)
Help with anal
Q. Hey, I am wanting to do anal with my boyfriend! We have tried before but it was so painfull I could not take it. Any tips of how to make it hurt less or even enjoyable?...
A. 19 August 2010: Use lube. Lots and Lots of lube. The first few times you try it will probably be very uncomfortable and painful but for some it can be pleasurable once they get used to it.
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I've taken 7 pregnancy tests and all were positive, but did I take them too early?
Q. i had sex like 3 to 5 weeks ago with no protection and im realy scared because 4 days ago i took only one pregnancy test and it came out positive so the next day like at 9 or 10 in the morning i took 6 more and they all came out positive but someone ...
A. 19 August 2010: Pregnancy test shouldn't say you are pregnant if you are not. It does happen but it's fairly rare. Usually the rule is that a Pregnancy test can show a false negative but not a false positive. The reason for this is that the tests look for a certain ... (read in full...)
Will my parents know I'm on the pill?
Q. I'm 17,and yes sexually active. Not too long ago I entered a program at a hospital that my friend mentioned to me that would help. It's basically for teens and you get regualar check ups for those who are sexually active. Since then I've been using ...
A. 19 August 2010: If she finds out it would be if she finds a pack of pills. The hospital is not allowed to tell your parents about it unless they think you are in danger.
Even if she does find it you can tell her that you are taking it to help ease period pain... (read in full...)
Birth control is ruining my relationship once a month!
Q. My girlfriend and I are very careful about sex so we use both condoms and birth control. She has been taking them around 9 months and I'm not sure what pills they are but we are both starting to see some negative effects. Before both control she had ...
A. 19 August 2010: She should ask her doctor to try a different brand. I went through 3 different brands and my doctor decided that my body didn't react very well to the pill so put me on the contraceptive patch which i've been on since February now and I've not had ... (read in full...)
Could birth control be affecting my libido?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs and is like our sexuality has gone down for me mostly, before the sex with me and him was on fire and now i hardly get turned on by him anymore, i mean i still love him deeply but the sex is worrying me ,i ...
A. 18 August 2010: Yeah, it's very much a possibility. There is a chance of someone sex drive increasing or decreasing after starting taking birth control and it's the same for coming off it. It's caused by the change of hormones. Your sex drive may have been fairly ... (read in full...)
Sex during my period?
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now and we have a very active sex life. Since it is so active he has a hard time whenever it comes to the week of my period. He has begged me every week of my period for sex ...
A. 18 August 2010: Unless you don't feel comfortable with it, there is no reason why you can't have sex during your period. Just put a towel down and you'll be fine. ... (read in full...)
No sex means no periods?
Q. Hi, i was readin some of the questions here and wanted some advice...sometimes when i havent had sex for a while i miss periods, its realy strange. Its been over a year since i last had sex, but a couple months after i split with my ex i missed a ...
A. 18 August 2010: I'm not sure if it's normal or not because I have never heard of this happening before.
Periods can be late or skipped all together for a lot of reasons. If you are using hormonal birth control such as the pill it could be caused by that. Anot... (read in full...)
I hate my generation!!!
Q. I hate my generation! No one wants to date anymore! I always thought (with my catholic upbringing) the man I married would be the only man I'd ever be intimate with and we'd live happily ever after blah blah blah! Well four years of college ...
A. 18 August 2010: I know it can seem pretty hopeless, but somewhere out there, there is someone who wants the same things as you.
It's true that not many people date anymore and a lot of people are probably more interested in sex than a relationship but there are ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop this burning?
Q. I have used nair hair cream on ma vaginal area I did know you shouldn't put cream on that area now have used there and now when I urine or put hot or cold water der itz burns. Would that effect my vaginal area in future and what should I do now ...
A. 11 August 2010: put a cold flannel on it whenever you can. it's probably gonna be hurting for a couple of days, it just needs time to heal up.
i use it around there too sometimes, you just have to be careful not to get it directly onto that part... the same thin... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex a week after my period and its been about 10 days and im worried i might be pregnant. i also had unprotected sex twice 8 days after the 1st time. i feel so stupid and im worried im pregnant. im 16 and im scared people will make ...
A. 9 August 2010: If you don't even know the answer to a simple question like this, then you shouldn't even be having sex!!! Of course there is a chance your pregnant. It doesn't matter when you have sex, if it's unprotected there is always a chance of getting ... (read in full...)
What can I do to kick start my life?
Q. Ok so I dont know how to really put this but im male, 17, rather intelligent and not the worst looking but not the best :S basically my childhood sucked. i used to live with my great grandmother and my brother. my great grandma died and me and ...
A. 18 July 2010: Do you have a connexions centre near you? They should be able to help you find a new job and maybe your own place to live. You'll definitely be able to talk someone there about how you feel and they'll be able to tell you what options may be best ... (read in full...)
He proposed!! Do I share the excitment??
Q. My now fiance just proposed, he is in basic training so he did it over the phone, he told me to pick out three rings and he wants to choose one and ask again when he get back. Is it wrong to say we are engaged? He said that that was him proposin...
A. 18 July 2010: It's a matter of opinion. Some people will say you are enganged, others will say you're not.
I can understand your excitement but I'd say wait till he has proposed with a ring. That way you can show it off when you tell people :P
If you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's family says they'll go behind our backs to have our baby circumcized!
Q. Hey there I am 18 and my gf is pregnant. we love each other and are both going to college with the help of our parents. first let me say that our son is due soon. I have always had very strong feelings about circumcision and have been confident ...
A. 16 July 2010: They have no right to make decisions about this. This is your child, not theirs. And if you and your girlfriend have decided not to have it done then they have to except that. However, being circumsized does have it's benefits. It's easier to k... (read in full...)
How do you cope with being apart?
Q. My boyfriend and I have it really easy. We see each other every day. Sometimes it's all day, sometimes it's all night, sometimes it's just for half an hour. But still every day. I've gotten really used to this. And now tomorrow, we have to spend a ...
A. 16 July 2010: I've been in an LRD for one and a half years now (not for much longer though). The easiest way to get through it is to keep yourself busy, so it's good you're having someone come around. It's only 1 day though, it will probably pass quicker ... (read in full...)
I feel so.. not normal because I'm pretty sure most girls my age don't masturbate..
Q. This is kind of embarrassing, but I want to feel better about it. So i'm 16 years old and I masturbate about 3-4 times a week. I'm still a virgin, i've never gone further with a guy than a guy putting his hand down there (over my clothes) and maki...
A. 13 July 2010: I think she meant as long as you don't feel like you have to do it all the time and it doesn't control your life.
Some people become so obsessed with it they'll even stop meeting their friends just so they can stay at home and do it and won't be a... (read in full...)
19 and My life is destroyed
Q. Dear agony aunts i'm a 19 years old guy and i'm confused weather am i hiv+ or not,i've lost a lot of weight recently and my skin colour is getting dark.I did hiv testing 5 times since october 2009 and my last test was on the 23rd of june 2010 and ...
A. 13 July 2010: Well if you've had 5 tests and all came back negative then the chances of you having HIV are extremely slim.
If you're really worried about it see a different doctor if possible and explain your concerns and symptoms. ... (read in full...)
I have sexual urges but am afraid to act them out does it mean I'm not ready?
Q. i am 14 and i get these urges to do sexual things with guys. i feel like i d8 a lot of guys. but i think im just looking for the right person 2 do it with. i will get 2 the point where i feel ready 2 do sexual stuff but then i kinda chicken out ...
A. 13 July 2010: I think it shows that 1. you're not ready and 2. you know that the guy is not the right person to lose it to.
It's completely normal to have sexual urges at your age but 14 is really young to have sex, not to mention that it's illegal.
There... (read in full...)
He said if I cried during sex because of the pain it is all on me because he is not stopping!
Q. This is a conversation between me and my ex. hes 19 and im 16. we were talking about visiting each other, we live in different states now, and he is coming here at the end of the month. please read! him: "how many guys have you had sex with since me...
A. 13 July 2010: Stay away from him! Sounds like he only views you as a sex object, not a person.
Any guy that cares about the girl they're sleeping with will stop if she says it hurts.... (read in full...)
Is sex between siblings bad?
Q. i would like to know if sex between siblings, is bad or actually a taboo? and why? is it just because of society norms? is it because we have been born and educated with the thought that it is bad, even though we have experimented when we were kids? ...
A. 13 July 2010: It's illegal! Sleeping with any family member is called incest!
One of the reasons this is illegal is because if the girl was to get pregnant, even you were careful, the baby is more likely to a have some sort of physical birth defect and/or disa... (read in full...)
My stretch marks!
Q. im 14 years old and i have stretchmarks. im so embarised by them that i were shorts with my bikkini i like evry part of my body exept my upper legs. does anyone know a cheep way i cood get rid of them bye next summer?...
A. 13 July 2010: There are some creams that can help them fade a little but you can't ever get rid of stretch marks completely. Once they're there they'll always be there but they'll fade over time and won't be as visible.
I know they can be embarrassing but hone... (read in full...)
I feel so.. not normal because I'm pretty sure most girls my age don't masturbate..
Q. This is kind of embarrassing, but I want to feel better about it. So i'm 16 years old and I masturbate about 3-4 times a week. I'm still a virgin, i've never gone further with a guy than a guy putting his hand down there (over my clothes) and maki...
A. 13 July 2010: Believe me, most girls your age will masturbate, even if they have a boyfriend they have sex with. Girls just don't tend to talk as openly about it as guys.
And no, it's not a bad thing. Wait for that special someone to have your first time with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really controlling but I cant dump him because I have been with him for too long!
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for more than two years now and at first he was good but now he is controlling me. its that bad i cant go on the computer, msn, have facebook or even look and listen to boys on tv! i cant have boy mates or ...
A. 12 July 2010: Of course you can dump him. It doesn't matter how long you have been together. People split up after 5, 10 maybe even 20 years of being together.
You're not happy in this relationship and you deserve someone who is going to treat you right, so get ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to hurt so much after this?
Q. i am 17 years old and last night my bf fingered me for the first time. Ive only ever read about what an amazing experience it is but it really hurt. I can barely even touch down there this morning because bits of it is still painful. Im guessing ...
A. 12 July 2010: Sounds to me like he was a little too rough. It will most probably take a couple of days to stop hurting. Tell him to be more gentle next time. Even if he does not go inside you with his fingers it might be a good idea for you to use lube, that way ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to get pregnant! What can I do?
Q. I been trying to get pregnant for a while now! My boyfriend smokes weed too! I want a baby but its hard to get one! Is there any way I can get pregnant? Please help!!...
A. 12 July 2010: When trying to get pregnant it's normal for it to take up to a year, if you're still not pregnant after this time it's adviced to see a doctor. You not being able to get pregnant might be linked to your boyfriend smoking weed because it can l... (read in full...)
He hates my children!
Q. my new partner hates my children!!! I have been with my partner for 3 years we have 2 little girls together. i was previously married and have 2 children with my ex wife i see them once a fortnight friday to sunday. when they come to stay all we do ...
A. 11 July 2010: Ok, I'm going to try and put this nicely... To me she sounds like a selfish bitch.
They are your children! She knew what she was letting herself in for when she got together with you. I'm sorry, but if she can't except that they are a part of your... (read in full...)
I am only 24 and have 5 young children, should I abort the child I am currently pregnant with?
Q. i am pregnant but i already have 5 young children and im only young. I thought about an abortion but dont think i can do it, what should i do my man isnt much help ...
A. 9 July 2010: If you don't think you could go through with an abortion then don't have one, you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
Do you think you can afford to keep it?
I know it would be tough, but maybe you should give adoption a though... (read in full...)
Could a prior abortion affect my fertility?
Q. When i was 15 i had an abortion, at the time i thought i was doing the right thing and now 4 years later i think about the baby i could of had everyday! i regret what i have done but i can't change the past. I have been with my bf for 5 years now ...
A. 9 July 2010: Some women will not be able to have kids after having an abortion, but if that was the case with you, they would or at least should have told you when you had it done. (My mum had an abortion but then had me).
Usually it shouldn't take more tha... (read in full...)
Is it possible to lose 10 lbs in 3 weeks?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but im just curious. Is it possible to lose 10 pounds in 3 week..?...
A. 9 July 2010: Yeah it's possible. A healthy rate to lose weight is 2-3 pounds a week. ... (read in full...)
Why didnt I bleed when I lost my virginity?
Q. Is it normal if a girl loses her virginity and doesn't bleed and if she hasn't used tampons got fingered rode horses or played any sports of any kind?...
A. 9 July 2010: Yep, completely normal. Not everyone feels pain or bleeds their first time... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to throw your child out of the house in the UK when she's just 17?
Q. Is it illegal to throw your child out of the house in the UK when she's just 17? ...
A. 8 July 2010: As far as I'm aware, in the UK parents can kick their children out as soon as they hit 16... (read in full...)
Is 12 too young to use tampons?
Q. My younger sister wants to try tanpons she is only 12 do you think I should let her because she is very young but she keeps asking me should I let her ? ...
A. 8 July 2010: Oh, well in that case I understand. It's good that she trusts you about it then. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says we're over the "lovey-dovey" stage!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year and it was fine at first all the lovey dovey holding hands and kissing. now he says we are over that stage. i don't understand why it stopped. i still want to do all that what should i do?...
A. 8 July 2010: Initiate the holding hands and kissing and see if he responds to it.
In most relationships things cool down a bit after a while, I guess it's mostly because people just get used to each other. It doesn't mean that the feelings aren't as strong a... (read in full...)
How much does size matter to women?
Q. I have an ordinary size dick and I spoke to a Doctor about it once. He said that there wasn't really anything that can be done about it. His exact words were... "you are what you are and there's nothing we can do to change that." I want an hone...
A. 7 July 2010: First off, it's penis...
My current boyfriend is the only person I've ever slept with so I don't know what it would feel like to be with someone bigger or smaller but I'm one of those people who think that it doesn't matter how big you are, it'... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big of a difference?
Q. Hello, all I want to know is if anyone thinks that 8 years is a big difference? I honestly don't think it is. But I'm 18 and I like a 26 year old who likes me back. I just wanna know if you think 8 years is too much....
A. 7 July 2010: I don't think the age gap is a problem although there will always be some people who think it's too much. There is only a 3 and a half year gap between me and my boyfriend and some people think that's too much, I'm 18 too.
Plus you're 18, you'... (read in full...)
Tips on cooking? I'm trying to help out my family.
Q. hi, im 14 and my mom usuelly is very nice to me, she lets me stay in town overnight if i call her, she does things like braid my hair, and lets me sleep in very late if i don't have school, but when i ask her to make me dinner or lunch ect.. she ...
A. 7 July 2010: Spaghetti Bolognese. It's really not as hard as it seems. All you need is some pasta, doesn't neccessarily have to be spaghetti, some fresh or frozen mince meat and some ready made pasta sauce, you can get some made especially for bolognese.
... (read in full...)
Is 12 too young to use tampons?
Q. My younger sister wants to try tanpons she is only 12 do you think I should let her because she is very young but she keeps asking me should I let her ? ...
A. 7 July 2010: I understand why she would come to you for advice, but I don't see why she would need your permission to use tampons?
If she has started her period then there is nothing wrong with her using them.
However, if she wants to try it and hasn't s... (read in full...)
I refuse to be a walking doormat!
Q. I been dating a guy for almost 2 years. We had a lot of problems because of him. Recently, a friend of his asked him to let a girl from another country stay with him for a few days. She came here looking for a career, and it turned out a scam. So, ...
A. 30 June 2010: I think you should move on to be completely honest. He isn't being honest with you, and personally, I can only think of one reason why he wouldn't let you into his house while she was there.
You deserve someone who respects you and is honest with... (read in full...)
16 with a 7 month old baby, but my mum says I cant be with a guy who is 21! Is this true?
Q. ok im 16 and i have a child thats 7 months old and i really like this guy but hes 21 and my mom said i couldnt be with him is that true? i didnt know because im emancipated....
A. 30 June 2010: Depends on the laws in your state. In some states the legal age is 18, if your state is one of them then yes your mum is right. Although usually as long as you don't have sex it shouldn't be a problem, but again you'll have to find out the exact ... (read in full...)
Missed my last nuristerate injection. could I be pregnant??
Q. I am on the nuristerate injection. I missed my last injection and had unprotected sex with my fiance. Thing is, I havent gotten my period yet, am I even ovulating? I have no pregnancy symptoms. What are the chances of being pregnant? ?Negative hpt ...
A. 29 June 2010: If the tests are negative then you are most likely not pregnant. It could just be that your body was used to having the injection and is trying to get used to not having it.
I'd advice you to make an appointment to have it done as soon as poss... (read in full...)
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