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Sex and STD's
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2 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
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Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 23 November 2009: I went to see my doctor this morning and she said it's probably the pill that is causing this because the one I am on can cause periods to stop all together, which she didn't tell me when she first put me on it. She didn't even thing a test is ... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 16 November 2009: I took that second test today, still negative, and still no period. I'm now 13 days late...
I've got an appointment with my doctor next monday so I'll see how things go till then...
I'll keep you guys updated with how things are going, and than... (read in full...)
Can anyone recommend a good contraceptive pill?
Q. I need some female advice, I am 27 (virgin) and currently not on the pill, I have been seeing this guy and we want to take things further, I have never really wanted to go on the pill because I think it messes with the female body, but I also don't ...
A. 16 November 2009: When you go the doctors they'll ask you some questions and decide from that what pill would probably suit you best, but you can't know which one is best until you try it! I've been on the pill since April this year. The first pill i took was Micr... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 13 November 2009: Thanks guys... I haven't been stressed at all lately, and I only figured out about 2 days ago that I should have had my period last week... I've been on the pill since April, and even when i first started i was always on time! But my doctor h... (read in full...)
What should I get my bf for christmas?
Q. Well we all know xmas is nearly here. me and my bf have been going out for 2years now i really dont know what to buy him for xmas im 15 his 16 ive brought him a silver chain for his bday last yr ive brought him a canvas of us, teddys n that but can ...
A. 10 November 2009: Well I guess as you're 15 you won't have a huge budget for xmas presents?
What kind of things does he like? Is he into games at all (ps3, xbox...)? If so, why not try finding him a game he likes?
At the moment, in most supermarkets they have gif... (read in full...)
People make fun of me because I have only had 1 boyfriend!
Q. dear cupid i am a female and i am 13 years old, people make fun of me because i have only had one boyfriend, we went out for 4 weeks and all we did was talk that was it! i don't know how to get myself out there and to gain the confidance to just ...
A. 12 October 2009: OMG, you're 13, boys should be one of the last things on your mind! Ok, maybe not the last thing, I was around your age when i started really wanted a boyfriend...
Well, I'm 17 now, and I'm with my first boyfriend, who I've been with for 9 mont... (read in full...)
Is she thinking about someone else during sex?
Q. On three occasions while having sex with my wife, I've noticed that she turned her face sideways, not looking at me ( our position was that she was under me,while I was on top of her ). She closed her eyes and turned her head side ways. Does this ...
A. 7 October 2009: It doesn't have to mean anything bad, i do it too sometimes, but simply because i'm enjoyin it :)
It'll best for you to talk to her about it though to find out what her reason is... (read in full...)
Why didn't the nurse ask me more questions?
Q. I've just come home after having my flu jab done... What i was wondering: ever time I've had it done so far I have always been asked if im on the pill, if I'm pregnant/ if there is a chance of being pregnant, if I'm allergic to eggs or if I've been ...
A. 6 October 2009: Yeah i might do that, i have never been with her before so i don't know her name but maybe they'll be able to tell me who i was with.
When i was seeing her I didnt feel like she was being very proffesional and tbh i felt very uncomfortable with... (read in full...)
What are some ways that I can spice up our sex life? Getting bored!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past couple of months. We were both each others firsts and so far our sex has been mind blowing. BUT I'm starting to get bored of having ssex in the same positoin each time. We always have sex ...
A. 6 October 2009: Using different positions isn't always about needing something to spice up the sex life... For some people, missionary will feel best for them, whereas other people may only enjoy it in doggy, or the girl on top...
You need to sit him down and tell... (read in full...)
Ex doesn't believe the baby is his and treats me very badly
Q. My ex was supposed to pay half a deposit for a pregnancy antenatal visit. He had agreed (prior to breaking up) to pay half then 1 hr before the appointment today he decided to go back on his words and not pay...meaning I am now trying to get any ...
A. 6 October 2009: This guy does not deserve to be a father!! I can understand it will be tough on you financially, but the best thing is to cut all ties with him! Both you and the baby will be better off without him. And i know it's always tough to tell your child ... (read in full...)
Do guys wait for their girlfriends if they are virgins?
Q. I told to my bf whom I dated for one month that Iam virgin..He respected me and said he wait me until Iam ready.. and he wanted to be with me forever. Do the guys wait their gf or change their behaviors toward gf when the girl told to bf she is v...
A. 6 October 2009: Sadly, this all depends on the type of guy...
If the guy really loves his girlfriend, then yes he will wait for as long as it takes!
Unfortunately, some guys can't think about anything but sex and get what they want somewhere else..
The guy m... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a period and then start spotting once back on the pill?
Q. Hi there, I've been on the pill for years, and came off the pill for a week to allow my period to turn up. However a week later of being back on it again im having another period- it was spotting to start with and now its heavy? is thi...
A. 6 October 2009: What pill are you on? I mean, do you take the 21 day pill with a weeks break, or the 28 day??? if you're on the 28 day pill and have taken a break from it, then it may very well be normal... I'm not too sure myself. I'd say see your GP, he/she will ... (read in full...)
Do guys want experienced girls?
Q. I was just wondering...do guys prefer girls that are sexually inexperienced or do they like girls with experience. i personally have no experience and my friends say that they do prefer girls like that but im not so sure. do any of you guys out ...
A. 6 October 2009: It completely depends on the guy... Some will prefer experienced girls as they'll know what they're doing. Others will prefer unexperienced girls because they can 'teach' the girl what to do, and how they like it! ... (read in full...)
Neighbours husband caught me on video with his wife. Now he wants a threesome!
Q. I have been married 6 years and have 2 kids, one is almost 2 and the other is 4 years old. My wife has been too tired to have sex for more than 8 months now and I finally gave into my urges. It was a hot Sunday afternoon two weeks ago and I ...
A. 6 October 2009: Firstly, I have to say I feel sick, and not for the reason you do, but because of what you have done to your wife! And tbh, I'm not even completely sure if I even think this post is real...
Having said that, yeah your best bet is to tell your wif... (read in full...)
Do nice guys even still exist?
Q. I am 19 and I have never been kissed. Or even been on a date. Now that I am in college I want to date but all the guys I meet are more interested in partying and meaningless sex. I do not go to parties and I obviously don't have sex so I don't know ...
A. 6 October 2009: Yes, they sure do still exist... I should know, I have one of them :P A party isn't always the best place to find someone though! Like it was already suggested, joining a club is a very good idea, as is keeping in eye open in your classes! I met ... (read in full...)
Negative pregnancy test so why no period?
Q. i know your probably going to think 'oh another typical teenage pregnancy' but i really need to speak to someone for a bit of advice. me and my boyfriend have been together now for 11 and a half months, im seventeen although he is 25, my mum doesn...
A. 2 October 2009: Yes, antibiotics stop the pill from working properly! And although pregnancy tests are very reliable, they are not always 100% accurate. I would take another test, just to make sure.. If you're still unsure talk to your doctor.
And by the way, stre... (read in full...)
Do I start next months pack as I've lost this month's birth control pills?
Q. Hey everyone, i just need some quick advise. I'm on the 28 day pill, i forgot to take it last night, and i was just about to take today's pill but noticed that i must have lost the pack when i was on my way home on monday after staying at my ...
A. 30 September 2009: My doctor is useless! lol. I read the instructions but it didn't say anything about that...
Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship, so the no unprotected sex thing is no problem :P
I'll go the chemists as soon as i can... thanks :... (read in full...)
We flirt when she's not around, and he likes me too!
Q. hi. i like my bffs boyfriend. WE always flirt when shes not around. i really like him and he says he likes me to...what should i do!!!!!...
A. 14 September 2009: Do the right thing and tell her what he's really like!
I'm sure you wouldn't like it if it was the other way around! She's your best friend, if you get with him all you'll be doing is stabbing her in the back, do you really wanna be that kind of f... (read in full...)
How do people say goodbye forever?
Q. Summer is almost over, and the time has come for me and my girlfriend to part ways. We've only been together for a few months, and we always knew that the day would come where I would have to go back to Uni, and eventually, she would be starting her ...
A. 12 September 2009: Wow, yeah that is quite a long way, specially under the circumstances! No, I don't think it's wrong, if anything it's completely understandable. You just really have think about if you want to lose her because of this or if you're prepared to put y... (read in full...)
Sex painful and uncomfortable for me
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I had sex for the second time he had an orgasm but I didn't He says it was amazing for him but I didn't enjoy it It was still painful and uncomfortable for me Is it just still to soon or is there something wrong with me????...
A. 12 September 2009: When you say it was the second time with your boyfriend, i take it he's your first? In that case it's completely normal for it to still hurt and feel a lil uncomfortable. It took me and my boyfriend several days and quite a few attempts before we ... (read in full...)
How do people say goodbye forever?
Q. Summer is almost over, and the time has come for me and my girlfriend to part ways. We've only been together for a few months, and we always knew that the day would come where I would have to go back to Uni, and eventually, she would be starting her ...
A. 12 September 2009: I can understand why you don't want to go into a LRD again, I'm currently in one myself, and yeah its hard but for me it's well worth it. How far away will you be from each other? I would say have a go at it, and depending on how long the distance... (read in full...)
Is it legal for my boyfriend to take me on holiday?
Q. After my GCSE my boyfriend said he would take me on holiday to his villa. My parents are fine with it as he is legally an adult and can take care of me. I'm just worried is it ileagal for him to take me away at 16? Sorry its a weird questio...
A. 6 May 2009: Well it depends what company you fly with, but really your old enough to even fly by yourself, so it should not be a problem for him to take you.
I flew over to germany by myself when i was 14.
Hope this helps
Pixie xx... (read in full...)
Is this a case of practice makes perfect or not?
Q. Hello! I am female and 18 years old. So last night, me and my boyfriend lost our virginity to each other. Yes I am on the contraceptive pill and he used a condom, which as far as we are aware, did not break. Anyway, even though we both orgasm-ed, ...
A. 5 May 2009: If he didn't manage to get further inside you then my guess would be maybe he wasn't able to completely break your hymen? If this is the case then don't worry, it took me and my boyfriend about 4 days and several attempts before he managed to get ... (read in full...)
Best sex positions?
Q. Hi this question is mainly for women but any male posts would be great well im just wondrin which sex position is best for both partners wanna give my gf a night to remember thanks ...
A. 5 May 2009: Well I personally love the good old missionary position. But me on top and doggy are one of mine and my bf's favourites, 69 is quite fun as well ;) and oral is great too!
But your best bet is to just experiment with your gf and try different thin... (read in full...)
Sex and STD's
Q. So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
A. 3 May 2009: Anyone who reads this, ignore this article, i accidently posted it too early!
I have now posted the complete one so it should be on the site soon. ... (read in full...)
Sex and STD's
Q. So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
A. 3 May 2009: Anyone who reads this, ignore this article, i accidently posted it too early!
I have now posted the complete one so it should be on the site soon. ... (read in full...)
STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
Q. STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
A. 30 April 2009: Great article :)
I was planning on writing an article on this as I only recently had an STD scare myself... and I was wondering if it's alright if i use this as a link, as i think it will really be helpful to those who haven't had any sex educatio... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if its an STD
Q. Right, so... where to start. Well, i lost my virginty to my boyfriend at the beginning of this month. We've had both protected and unprotected sex (stupid, yes i know). I started my period 2 days, 1 day early. Normally when I'm on, the blood i...
A. 30 April 2009: I've finally been able to go back to see my doctor today after having to wait 2 weeks for an appointment :(
Good news though, it was only thrush and she described me some capsules for it, i took it this morning so it should clear up in the next... (read in full...)
Eye glass fetish anyone?
Q. I need to know more about my partners fetish for women wearing eye glasses(not sun glasses).Do any other women have partners with this fetish,or are there any men who have this fetish?What is it about the glasses that do it for him!Also i don't need ...
A. 23 April 2009: Your husband is not the only one... My boyfriend loves glasses on girls, luckily i have to wear them anyway so its not a problem. I don't really know what it is that makes them like it so much... Although they're normally one of the things that tur... (read in full...)
What do I do after swallowing?
Q. im going to be giving my bf a head for the first time. i know what to do and everything but im not to sure about afterwards people tell me itsa bit of a put off running sraight to the loo after swallowing to clean your teeth. do guys mind it if you ...
A. 16 April 2009: Everyone's different.
Some girls don't like swallowing and there's nothing wrong with that. If you want to do it but are worried about running to the loo, keep some tissues near the bed.
And yeah, some guys won't like being kissed afterwar... (read in full...)
Help...sex problem: it hurts when he goes in
Q. i've been with my partner for 2 years now but i have a problem during sex , it hurts so much when he tries to go inside and only part of his penis would go inside . when he tries to finger me with one finger .. it hurts, and i know for sure i'm not ...
A. 13 April 2009: if you've already been to the doctors and say everything's fine then all i can suggest is lots and lots of foreplay and lube. if that doesn't help go back to your doctors, if they can't help you maybe ask to see someone else.
hope this helps xxx... (read in full...)
Help...sex problem: it hurts when he goes in
Q. i've been with my partner for 2 years now but i have a problem during sex , it hurts so much when he tries to go inside and only part of his penis would go inside . when he tries to finger me with one finger .. it hurts, and i know for sure i'm not ...
A. 13 April 2009: Hmm, maybe your not aroused enough?
Make sure you have a lot of foreplay, maybe try some lube.
If that doesn't help I'd suggest going to the doctors to get it checked out.
Good luck xx... (read in full...)
No foreplay and no condoms!
Q. No foreplay and no condoms! I have just started to sleep with my guy - but he seems reluctant to give me any foreplay! Also he says that when we do have sex he doesn't like using condoms!! - I am confused with what to do - as I love him but am unsur...
A. 13 April 2009: A little selfish? He sounds very selfish to me!! Tell him, no foreplay and no condoms = no sex! It's not right for him not to give you any foreplay, without it you may most likely not get aroused enough and it will hurt when he enters you. No... (read in full...)
Pulled out during orgasm and ruined it for me. Was I wrong for getting mad?
Q. I'm not sure I was totally in the wrong in this situation, so please just let me know what you think. Yesterday my boyfriend and I were having sex in the morning and right when I was orgasming, he pulled out and ruined it all for me. It felt like...
A. 13 April 2009: Where you using condoms? If not maybe both of these times he was about to ejaculate and pulled out so that he doesn't cum in you. It's normal for a guy to cum over the girls body, but tbh I'm not liking the fact that he did this over your face and... (read in full...)
Can 2 people truly be happy with eachother forever?
Q. this is a simple question and there is prbly no right answer. can two people truly be happy with each other forever?...
A. 10 April 2009: it sure is possible. my friends parents have been together for about 20 years and my boyfriends grandparents have been together ever since they were teenagers :)
but this doesn't happen a lot anymore these days... (read in full...)
My boyfriend died 8 months ago and I can't move on...
Q. Hey dear cupid, I was dating this wonderful guy for 2 years, everything was perfect we never fought, never argued, it was a perfect relationship. He was my prince charming.. he asked me out on prom and since then we have been inseperable... but he ...
A. 9 April 2009: I'm really sorry to hear about this.
I have to say, you're a lot stronger than you may think, I couldn't imagine a life without my boyfriend.
It's going to take a while to get over this and you'll have to take things slow before your life can slow... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if its an STD
Q. Right, so... where to start. Well, i lost my virginty to my boyfriend at the beginning of this month. We've had both protected and unprotected sex (stupid, yes i know). I started my period 2 days, 1 day early. Normally when I'm on, the blood i...
A. 9 April 2009: He'll be getting checked soon too, we just wanted to wait for my results first.... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if its an STD
Q. Right, so... where to start. Well, i lost my virginty to my boyfriend at the beginning of this month. We've had both protected and unprotected sex (stupid, yes i know). I started my period 2 days, 1 day early. Normally when I'm on, the blood i...
A. 9 April 2009: I went to the doctors again today to have the tests done, she told me to call in on tuesday to ask for the results...
I also asked for the pill which she prescribed me straight away and i'll start taking them when i next have my period.
I'll ... (read in full...)
How can do more for my boyfriend in bed?
Q. ommg i need help. i'm 17 and been with my b/f for about 2 yrs, it's a very good relationship and we both lost our virginity to each other but here's the problem he seems to be doing everything. i feel really guilty but everytime i try something i ...
A. 9 April 2009: Maybe you can try different positions? Not much that can go wrong there. If you want to give him a handjob maybe you could get him to do it himself while you have your hand over his? Or have his over yours so he can guide you until you get used to ... (read in full...)
Can I lose my virginity through masturbation?
Q. i am frmo a very closed mined cluture and i am geeting married in a couple of months i used to masturbate when i was young and sometimes till now too...we are not allowed to have sexual intercourse i ned to know if masturnation can cause me to ...
A. 8 April 2009: Simply put - NO.
You can break your hymen through masterbation and other activities such as dance, horse back riding, etc.
Remember, it doesn't hurt for everyone the first time and not everyone bleeds and some women are even born without a hymen so... (read in full...)
I was drunk...got the number! She's not that hot...
Q. hi. please dont think im shallow or anything, im really not! would like some advice. i met a girl on sunday night. i was drunk, thought she was really good looking. i pulled her and got her number. we've been texting all day yesterday and today. i...
A. 8 April 2009: I have to say I agree with Steve... but looking at things from your side...
Your right, it might just have been a bad picture, some people never look good in pictures at all but look great in real life.
I'd give her a chance if I was you. Do you l... (read in full...)
Periods... or lack of them!!!
Q. I am 14 years old and I will be 15 in August. I haven't had my period since June 2008. I don't know what's going on... it's almost been a year since I havent had my period. What's wrong?!?...
A. 6 April 2009: When did you first start your period?
When i first started mine it took almost a year before i had my next one, so maybe your still settling into them. However if you've had them for a while and your really worried about it go to your doctor, they... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if its an STD
Q. Right, so... where to start. Well, i lost my virginty to my boyfriend at the beginning of this month. We've had both protected and unprotected sex (stupid, yes i know). I started my period 2 days, 1 day early. Normally when I'm on, the blood i...
A. 6 April 2009: Just to let you know, I went to the doctors this morning and I have to go back next week to get some tests done. I'll let you know when i have the results and what they are.... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if its an STD
Q. Right, so... where to start. Well, i lost my virginty to my boyfriend at the beginning of this month. We've had both protected and unprotected sex (stupid, yes i know). I started my period 2 days, 1 day early. Normally when I'm on, the blood i...
A. 29 March 2009: Thanks guys :)
I'll make an appointment asap and I'll let you know how it goes. ... (read in full...)
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