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3 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
Sex and STD's
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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2 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
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I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...
A. 3 October 2010: Oops, sorry, in the second paragraph it's supposed to say "If his answer is anything other than the last reason I stated".
Oh and it's meant to be "If his answer is the last option then things get a lot more complicated."... (read in full...)
Should I ignore him..or will that tear us apart?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months, but since we got back to school from the summer holidays things have gone rocky and now, we're both wanting space. Even though I love him I still want space because I'm sick and tired of being ...
A. 3 October 2010: Well it's good that you're giving him some space because if you didn't it would most likely push him away even more.
I don't think it's a good idea to not talk to him at all because that might make him think that you're ignoring him or mad at him.... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...
A. 3 October 2010: Ask him why he doesn't want a baby. It could be that he just doesn't want one yet because it's quite early on in the relationship. Depending what kind of jobs you 2 have he might also be thinking of financial issues. Or maybe he's worried that ... (read in full...)
I have questions about condoms, masturbation and diseases--mature answers, please!
Q. loads of people in my school are NOT virgins, some of them are but i wouldnt say many people are, they all have big boobs and have nice legs, and know all about sex and masturbation, can someone answer these questions: Do condoms really protect y...
A. 3 October 2010: I don't think anyone here is going to call you stupid. We only call those stupid who ask these questions once it is too late. Anyway, Sex-ed is terrible these days. Personally I can only remember ever having one lesson on it while in secondary ... (read in full...)
Four missed periods?
Q. I am 19 years old, and on loestrine 24 birth control, I have been taking this for almost a year with no problems at all. Up until recently. I have missed four periods now, and taken about 8 at home tests, all negative. I have no signs of pregnancy, ...
A. 3 October 2010: First off, try to relax as stress is going to delay your period even more.
Now, seeing as you've already taken so many tests it's unlikely that you are pregnant. However, there is still a small chance. HPT's work by testing for a certain hormone ... (read in full...)
My friend wants to move away to be with his girlfriend
Q. Well my problem is that my best friend wants to move 1200 miles away to Texas to be with his ldr girlfriend. I don't agree with it at all but haven't said anything because he seems so happy. Personally I feel there that no boyfriend or girlfriend is ...
A. 3 October 2010: I had to move to england from germany with my mum so that she could be with her boyfriend.
I moved 3 hours away from my old home about a month ago to be with my ldr boyfriend.
My best friends boyfriend moved in with her a couple of days a... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed, and it didn't hurt my first time.
Q. Well im 16 years old nd had sex for the very first time, all my friends were already sexually active and they said there first time was very painfull nd horrible but my first time wasent painfull at all nd i taught u were suppost to bleed but i ...
A. 28 September 2010: It's completely normal. Even if it had been painful, not everyone bleeds.
The hymen can be broken in many ways other than through sex such as athletics or other sports such as swimming, riding a bike, horse riding and also through using tamp... (read in full...)
Are you still a virgin if you've been fingered?
Q. Are you still a virgin if you got fingered?...
A. 25 September 2010: Yes. Generally being a virgin means not having had sexual intercourse before.... (read in full...)
Can't afford a boob job, how else to get bigger boobs?
Q. hello. i am 18 years old and very unhappy with the way i look. i am a bigger girl, a size 14-16, but my breasts are a small B cup size. i look odd; although i know that B isnt completely flat, it just looks strange with my bigger belly. im sure you ...
A. 22 September 2010: Well push up bra's are quite popular with girls who have smaller boobs, so you could get some of them if you want. You can also get extra implant thingies to put into the bra's (I can never remember what they're called lol).
I'm not sure if any pill... (read in full...)
How far should the shaved area go?
Q. Hello, Ive recently decided to start shaving my penis, balls, and that general area. My question to the ladies is how far should the shaved area go? Do I shave my thighs too? I know it's up to me but I'm seeking ideas. Thanks to you!...
A. 20 September 2010: I think it's fine like that. My boyfriend doesn't do his thighs and it doesn't bother me one bit... (read in full...)
I have small breasts--should I get surgery?
Q. I have small breasts, and I feel very insecure. Should I get surgery? Men have teased me about it, even an ex said big breasts were better. Even hear on DC I've read guys post that guys do tend to prefer big breasts (even though they don't hate ...
A. 20 September 2010: Surgery is something that you would have to think very hard about. It costs a lot of money and the operations don't always go as planned (i.e. you may feel a lot worse about your breasts than you already do).
Get some push up bras if you think that... (read in full...)
Can you still have your period even if you are pregnant?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for four months and one month i didn't have my period but the beginning of the next month i had it but i still have the feeling that im pregnant. can you have your period even being pregnant?...
A. 20 September 2010: Yes and no. A lot of women do still get bleeding each month while pregnant just as if they were having a normal period.
I have heard of a few occasions where the women didn't even know they were pregnant until they went into labour because ever... (read in full...)
What does it mean when women press their boobs into you?
Q. What does it mean when girls push their breasts against you, or brush their breasts against you, when in conversation or whatever? Over the years I have met many women who do this. It is not the majority, but certainly not a small minority e...
A. 17 September 2010: For some women, yes it might be a way for them to flirt with people but I think for most women this won't mean anything. Most of them probably don't even notice it. I think it might also depend how big they are. Mine are quite big for instance and ... (read in full...)
Can you be in love even though you have not met?
Q. hi am 18 years old and i met a man for several months we do chatting and we fell in-love with each other I do not know but i am in-love or not? i break up with my bf and told my suitors i have found him, i did not meet him yet in person i feel ...
A. 17 September 2010: We can't tell you if you're in love or not, you have to find that out for yourself, but yes it's possible. I met my boyfriend online, we've been to together for a little over 1 1/2 years and I've recently moved in with him and things are going ... (read in full...)
How do I help raise her daughter knowing she isn't my child?
Q. So, my girlfriend and I broke up when she moved away to go to college. While she was there, Her then boyfriend got her pregnant and turned out to be a deadbeat. She came back, and we're together again and engaged. Recently, she decided she didn't ...
A. 17 September 2010: You may not be her biological father, but that doesn't mean that you can't be a dad to her.
Do whatever you would if she was yours. Get up during the night to feed her, change her nappies, play with her, take her out to the park. Just the norm... (read in full...)
I can't find the strength to tell the truth!
Q. I need some help in this. i can't find the strenght to tell the truth about something. how can i do it? please help!...
A. 17 September 2010: Well it depends what it's about and who is effected by it... But usually the best thing you can do is to sit that person down and tell them that you need to get something off your chest. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to come out with it ... (read in full...)
How old were you when you started dating?
Q. ok. im 14. i have never had a proper boyfriend before and i have never been on a date. some of my friends are starting to date and get bfs and im not. when did you start dating?? what can i do to get guys to ask me out?? please help!...
A. 17 September 2010: Well, I sort of had a boyfriend at 14. I'm saying sort of because we never really did anything. All we ever did was hold hands (and my friends had to pretty much force us to). That only lasted for 3 months.
I started going out with my current boyf... (read in full...)
I love him but hate hearing about his past lovers!
Q. I am sure that this is a popular question, however I just can't seem to find posts about it. I am dating a guy that is devoted to me, but has a huge history of dating and ex's. He has told me that he is committed to me and that I am th...
A. 17 September 2010: You have to talk to him about it and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him talking about his past.
There isn't much that you can do about the way you feel. I know what it's like as I feel the same about my boyfriend except that he'... (read in full...)
I'm a male that loves to wear women's clothes but my girlfriend doesn't like it what should I do?
Q. hi i am male when i was a child my mother use to dress me as a girl this went on for about nine years now i am a lot older i have a female partner and i love dressing as a woman it feels so right to me but my partner dosent like it or understand am ...
A. 15 September 2010: Have a search through dear cupid and just type "cross dressing" in the search bar. Quite a few questions will pop up, mostly from women who found out about their boyfriends/ husbands cross dressing, but it'll show you that it's not as abnormal as ... (read in full...)
I'm a male that loves to wear women's clothes but my girlfriend doesn't like it what should I do?
Q. hi i am male when i was a child my mother use to dress me as a girl this went on for about nine years now i am a lot older i have a female partner and i love dressing as a woman it feels so right to me but my partner dosent like it or understand am ...
A. 15 September 2010: No you're not a weirdo. There are a lot of guys out there like you. It's called cross-dressing.
I can understand if at first it was hard for her to get along with the idea that you like to wear women's clothes but she should be more unde... (read in full...)
Gift ideas for my 15 year old boyfriend?
Q. hai! i am really confused about what i should gift for my boy friend who is turning 15 now. i don't know what he want's or like's. i am really helpless please help me pls.........
A. 15 September 2010: Wow, he's your boyfriend and you don't even know what he's into? Sorry, not trying to sound harsh, I know it can be hard finding the right present, I struggle to find something for my boyfriend too but you must know at least some of his ... (read in full...)
Butterflies in my stomach or pregnancy?
Q. Ok so heres the thing, I'm 13 turning 14 soon, and I just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend and we kinda didnt use a condom... YES I KNOW MAJOR STUPIDITY!! but we werent planning on it happening, but it did, and he says he didnt cum inside ...
A. 15 September 2010: Well there could be a chance you're pregnant. He may not have ejaculated inside but pre-cum contains sperm as well which is more than enough to get you pregnant.
All you can do is wait for your period to come, try not to stress yourself out with... (read in full...)
When I picture my future I don't see anything
Q. Argh. I'm gonna try and make it as short as I can. I'm 24 sitting in my parent's house who I don't really like cause they're selfabsorbed damaged controlling narcissists and the family is pretty much broken and they don't take any blame for it. They ...
A. 8 September 2010: I would really like to know what part from Germany you're from because I'm German and no one I know from over there is in the least bit racist. Maybe you were just extremely unlucky to move to an area where they are...
Although I haven't moved as m... (read in full...)
I want to lose 10 pounds in 2 weeks
Q. oky i wanna loose at less 10 pounds in 2 weeks...(: i weigh around 140 and am 5'1". i dont look that fat. but im not confortable with my self . i go out for a hour jog 3 times a week and eat normal ... when i do go out for the jog i make my stoum...
A. 4 September 2010: The key to losing weight and keeping at that weight is to make small changes to your lifestyle, changes that you are going to stick to and not give up on once you've hit your target weight.
Instead of having chocolate or a bag of crisps you shou... (read in full...)
Because of my complications with the pill is there a greater chance I could be pregnant?
Q. so i just got loestrin 24 on aug 10th and started it the first day of my period. i missed my 4th pill and took 2 on day 5 but taking two pills in one day made me so sick and i vomited the pills. i called my doctor and she said to change the time i ...
A. 1 September 2010: There is a small chance yes. First of all, if you completely skip 1 pill, you should never take 2 at the same time. Secondly, vomitting can stop the pill from working. Once either of these things happen it will take around 1-2 weeks for the pill to ... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: Fruits... Pineapple is supposed to be really good. ... (read in full...)
Never had sex, hymen broken am I still a virgin?
Q. I am a girl of 20 i have not had sex since i was given birth to but the last time i visited a gynacologist he told me that my hymen has been broken and each time am trying to go into a sex free relatioship with a guy they always aske if i am stil a ...
A. 27 August 2010: You can break your hymen through many different activities such as riding a bike, swimming, gymnastics, horse riding, even using tampons.
A broken hymen does not mean that you are not a virgin. So next time someone asks you if you are still a virg... (read in full...)
Why does my period never come on time?
Q. I have notice that my period never comes on time. It always comes 1 to 3 weeks late and i do get worried about it, for example last month i got it on the 14th july and the months before i got it on the 9th june and for this month i didnt get it ...
A. 26 August 2010: Go and see a doctor. Some people do just have irregular periods and usually it isn't anything to worry about but 1. it's best to make sure that there are aren't any underlying problems and 2. He/she will be able to give you some advise on what you ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant,how do I tell my mom
Q. Im 14 I went to a party had some drinks Hung out with a guy friend and he offered to walk me home. I remember walking out on the his lawn, Then Waking up in my house ....... I Am Pregnant I havent told anyone The guy lives out of the country ...
A. 26 August 2010: You'll just have to sit her down and tell her that you have something really important to tell her and that you don't want her to get mad or upset. You are going to have to tell her soon as it won't be long until you start to show...
Plan what you ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and want a baby
Q. I can't wait to have a baby that I think sometimes I should just stop taking my birth control pills and not tell my boyfriend. I know it's horrible and I won't but I just want a baby so bad it makes me cry. Please give me NICE advice. I know I can't ...
A. 26 August 2010: Feeling this way is completely normal, a lot of teenage girls feel this way. I've been wanting a baby since I was 13! Good thing is that you realise it wouldn't be a good idea to have a baby now.
Do you know anyone that you could babysit for now ... (read in full...)
Does the 600 calorie diet work?
Q. hey, was just wnddering whether i would lose weight if i went on a 600 cal diet? I mean eat 1000, burn 400? then once a week eat 2000 for a break? how much weight would i lose and how fast? i want to lose around 3 and a half stone overall, tyxx...
A. 26 August 2010: It will work for a while but it is extremely bad for you! Plus once you start eating normal again you'll pile it all back on in no time.
Your better off making small changes to your current diet and exercising regularly. Swap unhealthy snacks like... (read in full...)
LDR: what's the point?
Q. I would like to know something, as it's always seemed highly absurd to me, and nonsense, what is the point of being in a Long distance relationship??? I mean, you cant touch the person, right? which means you cant hold them, kiss them, fuck them, ...
A. 25 August 2010: I know you said not anyone that is in a LDR but I am...
I just wanted to say that I am with my boyfriend because I love him and he makes me happy, it was just unfortunate that he lives almost 3 hours away (wouldn't usually be that bad but it d... (read in full...)
Is this period schedule normal?
Q. [Moderator's Note: OP's own title] I'm 13 years old and I have had my period for about 3 years. I got it very young. I'm a little worried because it a still very off schedule. Some months it will be the 13th or the 29th or the 5th. And the even wei...
A. 24 August 2010: It could take another couple of years before you get your period more regularly. I would write down the dates when you get your period and see if there is a pattern. Although a normal cycle is around 28 days, for some people it can range from around ... (read in full...)
I need help with this stuff
Q. Original Title ok guys so im 18 and have a bfwe have tried to have sex, it didnt work he couldnt get it in we both dont know wat to do we are both ready for this i have alot of stress in my life but being with him is amazing i want to be with h...
A. 23 August 2010: Well, both of you should know where it goes, if not, you shouldn't try to have sex...
Anyway.. He should be fully erect before you try to have sex, otherwise it's going to be almost impossible for him to get in. Secondly, you have to be wet for ... (read in full...)
13 and may have missed a period......I'm so scared of being pregnant!
Q. Ok so im 13 and me and my boyfriend had sex,we used the take out method and now theres only 1 week of august left and i still havent had my period.I dont want to tell my mom that me and my boyfriend did anything but i did tell her i think i missed a ...
A. 23 August 2010: How long ago did you first start your period? And when was your last period due?
I'm guessing that you haven't had your period for too long, about 2-3 years max? There is a possiblity that your body is still getting used to getting a period ever... (read in full...)
Opinions on what true love is?
Q. what is true love?...
A. 21 August 2010: I think everyone will have their own opinion on this.
I think it's when you love someone so much you would do anything for them. Someone that you can see yourself with for the rest of your life. Someone that stands by you through thick and thin... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 21 August 2010: I haven't read all of the posts on here yet, but I will when I have more time.
I posted a question on this subject before because I was finding it difficult to deal with my boyfriends sexual past. I knew his history before we got together and at t... (read in full...)
Do I deserve her? How do I come to terms with myself?
Q. [OP original title] i have been dating this girl for 10 months. i liked her for along time and i went for it,i still think its a miracle that im with her. for he first nine months of our relationship i was really happy when i was with her, she so b...
A. 20 August 2010: I know how you feel, I have terrible eczema too and my asthma isn't much better at times. I have about a million food and pet allergies... I get extremely selfconscious about my skin - my legs are the worst - and even used to get bullied at school ... (read in full...)
G/f has gained weight, complains about it, but doesn't do anything about it?
Q. Before I begin I want to say that I absolutely love my girlfriend. I also know that she is the girl I am going to one day marry, and she knows this too. Deep down she is a great person and apparently I am the greatest boyfriend ever; I treat her ...
A. 19 August 2010: I would see how things go once her situation gets better. She probably so much on her mind that she just can't find the motivation to keep on exercising. She obviously realises that she has gained weight and isn't happy with it but until this issue ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend she has smelly armpits?
Q. My friend has smelly umpits and I don't know how to confront her..please tell me the best way and what she can use for her to be allright..cause I've seen her using all kinds of spray but no help..please help me help her...
A. 19 August 2010: There never is an easy way to tell someone something like this. What I would suggest is that you sit down with her and tell her that you need to talk to her about something, that you don't want her to get mad, upset or hurt.
One important thing is t... (read in full...)
Contraception Question - I want to put my periods on hold
Q. I've been on the Cilest pill for over a year now. So far it has been effective, has made my periods lighter and more comfortable and has improved my complexion. However, I'm going to uni to study dance in september. I'll be moving about a lot, and...
A. 19 August 2010: There are some pills that can stop your period completely. I was on one called Cerazette for 4 months but didn't like it. My periods didn't completely stop but were very irregular. You should talk to your doctor about it and explain your situation. ... (read in full...)
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