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Sex and STD's
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2 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
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Missed my last nuristerate injection. could I be pregnant??
Q. I am on the nuristerate injection. I missed my last injection and had unprotected sex with my fiance. Thing is, I havent gotten my period yet, am I even ovulating? I have no pregnancy symptoms. What are the chances of being pregnant? ?Negative hpt ...
A. 29 June 2010: If the tests are negative then you are most likely not pregnant. It could just be that your body was used to having the injection and is trying to get used to not having it.
I'd advice you to make an appointment to have it done as soon as poss... (read in full...)
Should I be worrying over this?
Q. Hi I have a question my bf and i had sex last night and i began ovulation yesterday is there a good chance im pregnant?...
A. 29 June 2010: If you didn't use any protection then yes... (read in full...)
How can I love my small breasts?
Q. I've only had one boyfriend and he told me he liked big breasts better, that most guys do because of fertility and I don't what crap. I can't get over this, not even after having broken up (other reasons). I notice how most men drool over large ...
A. 29 June 2010: Everyone has their own preferences. Some prefer bigger breats, some prefer small, some don't care. Believe me, you should be happy that you have small breasts. Big ones are a pain in the back side, literally! I'm a 34F (UK size) and it's s... (read in full...)
Are all guys superficial?
Q. I'm 17 this year; I'm fat but not disgustingly obese, don't have a pretty face and very self-conscious deep down. The thing is, I'm very confident and most people look at me as the hyper and bubbly one who brightens up everyone's day but inside, I ...
A. 27 June 2010: The trick is to make the best of what you have and be confident. As the saying goes "If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?"
I agree with Sincerely Yours, you can't complain about not having a boyfriend or guys ... (read in full...)
Is 12 years too much?
Q. Hey, I'm 22 and worrying about the age gap between my boyfriend and I. He's twelve years older than me and we've been friends since I was nineteen - I met him at 'work' if you can call it that (I play pro sport) - and we've been together for a year ...
A. 27 June 2010: Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with your age gap.
It might take your mum some time to get used to the age gap, depending what she thinks about them. But I'm sure that she'll be fine with it if you give her some time.
There... (read in full...)
Does masturbation affect virginity?
Q. when i do the secret happit, does that may affect my virginity cause iam getting maried after few months and i must be virgin ? and how can i knew or be sure...
A. 26 June 2010: I understand that for some religions it's important to still be a virgin when married... But just because someone doesn't feel pain or bleed during their first time, it doesn't mean that they're not a virgin.
The hymen can be broken by all sort... (read in full...)
Did I shave myself incorrectly?
Q. Please please help me! It's stupid but everyone said they shave their vagina, so I decided I had to try it. I look under other questions on this web and used the answers eg use a razor and the lips the hardest part .. So I've done it now, and I ...
A. 23 June 2010: Don't worry. Sounds like a shaving rash to me. The blood are just bits where you will have cut yourself with the razor, again, don't worry. Thats all completely normal, especially as it's the first time you've done it.
Wait till everything has heal... (read in full...)
How do I stop period cramps?
Q. Wot can one do to stop period cramps....
A. 23 June 2010: A hot water bottle is the only thing that has ever helped me. I was on the pill which has never done anything to improve my period pains. I'm now on the patch and that's not helping either. But for some people it works.
Exercise is meant to help... (read in full...)
My sister is jealous of my pregnancy!
Q. I Have a bit of a problem. im 18 years old and i have an older sister who is 20 years old, i have been with my partner for 2 years and we are expecting our first child which we are very excited about, however my sister is becoming really jelouse ...
A. 23 June 2010: It's understandable that your sister is jealous, but her reactions are kind of out of order.
Taking drugs is not going to help her get pregnant. And the cheating is probably stressing her out a little, even if she's doing it herself and stress can ... (read in full...)
I want to be at my best for a wedding, but this birth control pill is making me nauseous!
Q. Hi :) I recently started taking the pill, and by recently I mean i've taken it twice! And right now i'm feeling very nauseous. I knew this was a side effect, and I knew i'd be likely to get it as I usually get nauseous from antibiotics and strong p...
A. 23 June 2010: 2 days is early to stop taking the pill but if you think you can't put up with feeling a lil sick then you can stop taking it, but usually it is better to talk to your doctor before doing so.
You might want to consider the coil. It's something I pe... (read in full...)
What do you think of this gift idea for my boyfriend's birthday?
Q. My boyfriend's birthday is coming up and I didn't really know what to get him and just had an idea and just wanted to know what you guys think of it. So, like most guys my boyfriend love playing games. At first I thought of buying him a gam...
A. 22 June 2010: Thanks :) the album is a great idea, but it's something i was planning for our 2nd anniversary :D
He said before that he'd like his own pool table or football table... So I was thinking of buying him a mini one as a joke :P ... (read in full...)
Weird grinding noises when I sit up!
Q. recently had a baby, got terrible back pains throughout the end of my pregnancy and now that i am trying to exercise again (baby is over 2 months now) i hear a weird clicking noise come from my back and it makes me wonder if there is something wrong ...
A. 21 June 2010: I don't think you have anything to worry about but see a doctor if you are worried.
My back constantly clicks when I do certain movements, and sometimes even have to get it to click myself if it starts hurting and I also get it in various other pl... (read in full...)
Problem bonding with my newborn son...
Q. Well I had my 2nd baby nearly 4 months ago now. My oldest is nearly two. the problem is i'm worried I havn't bonded properly with my newborn. I think part of it was to do with the fact that all through my pregnancy I was told i ws havng a girl - and ...
A. 21 June 2010: I can't offer much advice on this other than telling you that this is normal and a lot of mothers go through this.
I do suggest though that you go and speak to your doctor about this as it is most likely postnatal depression.
Here is a link fro... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy giving oral sex, is this normal?
Q. I don't enjoy giving my boyfriend a blow job. Is that normal? Last night i kept trying and then gagging within a few seconds. He knows i don't enjoy it and can't understand why. Last night he told me that i should enjoy it really which made me feel ...
A. 21 June 2010: There is nothing wrong with you. Lots of women don't like giving blowjobs. I know some people who even think it's degrading!
What is it that is making you gag? The taste or how far you're taking him into your mouth? If it's the taste then I sugg... (read in full...)
My period was late by a week, could I still be pregnant?
Q. my period was late bout a week then it came...i thought i was pregnant, could i still can be? cause i haven't been using protection ...
A. 21 June 2010: If you had your period then the chances of you being pregnant are very slim. However, some women do still get their "period" while pregnant. i.e. they still get bleedings every month but it is not seen as a real period. So, if you are worried about ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to skip the condom while on the pill?
Q. I'm taking birth control, I've been on it for about 3 months now, never missed a day. I haven't been active, but I'm curious that if I have sex, is my boyfriend able to finish in me, without the chance of getting pregnant. We don't want to use a ...
A. 20 June 2010: No form of birth control is 100% safe. The pill is somewhere around 99% safe.
And, although it's rare, it is possible to get pregnant while on the pill and using a condom. Technically the only thing that is 100% safe is not to have sex.
As lo... (read in full...)
What are these embarrassing sounds during sex..?
Q. Why does my vagina make farting sounds during sex? It usually happens after penetration and he withdraws his penis, when I resume standing position I hear these embarrassing sounds.How can I lessen it or stop it completely from happening?...
A. 18 June 2010: Don't worry it's completely normal. It's just air that gets trapped inside you when he pushes in. it usually happens if he comes out too far or even all the way out and then pushes back in. ... (read in full...)
I just found out I'm pregnant and my parents are ignoring me!
Q. hi everyone heres the thing ive been with my partner for 2 and half years we just found out im pregnant and my mum has kicked me out im 28 and hes 26 im now living with my partners parents and on the council list . i wanna talk to my parents...
A. 17 June 2010: Have you done anything else to upset your parents? Do they have certain views as to when you should have children?
At 28, I doubt that your parents are ignoring you just because you are pregnant. You have to find out the reason why they are not ... (read in full...)
Would a man want to be with a girl who has stretch marks?
Q. im currently 18 years old, and have stretch marks on my buttock and upper thigh. I am super self-consciene about it, I cant wear cute bikinis. I am currently dating this guy and we talk about getting married in the future. He tells me he loves me ...
A. 15 June 2010: Let me tell you one thing.. If guys didn't want girls with stretch marks there would only be very few couples in the world. Most women have them. I do as well and my boyfriend couldn't care less about them. ... (read in full...)
Lost my sex drive. Why and what can I do about it?
Q. I no longer have a sex drive. It's horrible. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and at first we'd have sex at least 3 times a night on a weekend (We only see each other on weekends really cos' of College and University.) but ...
A. 11 June 2010: Well, have you started taking a hormonal form of contraception, such as the pill? They can sometimes cause us girls to either have a lower or higher sex drive than usual. Stress can be a reason too. Sometimes trying to spice things up, trying ... (read in full...)
I seem to be unable to climax through vaginal intercourse. Help!
Q. I seem to be unable to climax through vaginal intercourse. When my boyfriend goes down on me or when he plays with my clit I'm fine but when we have sex I cant seem to come. I've been with a few men and I've had the same problem with all of them, I'...
A. 11 June 2010: One of the key factors is to relax and not focus on it too much. Just enjoy the feeling of it.
A lot of women can't orgasm during intercourse, even with clitoral stimulation. It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you, or that your boyf... (read in full...)
Could back pain pose a problem for my pregnancy?
Q. Hi all- quick question, I am suffering from back pain and I'm wondering if this could be any any problem for my pregnancy?...
A. 29 May 2010: Back pain is often caused by pregnancy because you're carrying more weight. This is usually perfectly normal and unless you have a weak back it shouldn't cause any problems. If you are worried about it though you can always see your doctor about it. ... (read in full...)
I hate my breasts!
Q. Okay so I don't have the "model boobs" that you see in Playboy mags, Porn, Movies/Tv and everyday life! I don't have big boobs, I don't have those cute small nipples, and I don't have perfect round ones. I have 34b boobs with big nipples and that ...
A. 29 May 2010: There is nothing wrong with your boobs and they're nothing to be embarassed about. Loads of women will have the same shape that you have. And at 15, they might still change.
This website might help you to feel a little more confident about them... (read in full...)
What will my husband be like in 10 years if he doesn't want sex now?
Q. Men over 45!!!!!!!!!I really want to know ,what is going on. Do guys over 45 decline in sexual desire and erections,or is this just my husband? He used to be so horny,I couldn't keep up.,and now he is off sex,and his erections are week or lost. ...
A. 28 May 2010: Everyone is different. For some people this will certainly be true, for others it won't.
Have you tslked to your husband about this? If he sees this as a problem too then he might consider using viagra.
What did your sex life used to be like? I ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't it feel good?
Q. Why doesnt it feel good when he rubs my clitoritis? its like he'll be fingering me and try it and people say it feels like amazing and with me it just sorta tickels like it make my legs twitch and I cant take it because it sorta hurts. I dont get ...
A. 23 May 2010: Try masturbating. Find the spots that feel good and the ones that you don't like being touched.
I've got one spot that feels amazing, but if my bf moves just a little to the side i get the same that you have.
Also, it might be that he is putting ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the distance in my relationship?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 10 months now. I live in the UK and she lives on an island south of the UK. I went over there last summer and we met at a party. Since then we have seen each other on a number of occasions ...
A. 23 May 2010: I've been in a long distance relationship for almost one and a half years. And like peanutbutter i met my boyfriend online. We have around 3 hours between us and I'll be moving to his in a few months to.
Best way to get through it is to have as m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is coming home in 10 days and I don't think my thrush has fully cleared up!
Q. my boyfriend is home in 10 days and i had thrush a couple of weeks ago and a used thrush cream and it went away but now a think its comming back and my period is due tomorrow and then its only 3 days till he comes! by the time my periods away what ...
A. 19 May 2010: If you haven't already done so, you should think about going to the doctors. They should be able to give you some medication that is slightly stronger than what you can get over the counter.
Don't worry too much about it being back when he is ho... (read in full...)
How soon will I know I am pregnant?
Q. me and my partner have just started trying for a baby after 5years of beeing together. how soon should i do a pregnancy test after we have done the deed?...
A. 18 May 2010: Wait for your period. If it's late, take one after 1 week. I think for some it's best to wait 2 weeks. You'll have to read the instructions really because every test is slightly different... (read in full...)
I'm 65 and want a gay relationship
Q. I am a 65 year old divorced man and think I want a gay relationship. I dream of getting anal sex and really think I want it. I also want to give oral sex. Any advice on where to find a relationship on this....
A. 15 May 2010: I don't usually like to advice on online dating, but i think that may be the best way for you to start to just get to know people that feel the same way you do.
Or you could go on google and see if there are any gay clubs around your area.... (read in full...)
A good b-job, any advice?
Q. A general question for all males. How can a female give a good oral sex to a male?...
A. 15 May 2010: I'm not a guy but anyway...
The one thing you must never do is to use your teeth!
It's hard to explain how to give a guy good oral because everyone is different.
You could ask him to guide you and tell you what feels good. If you wanna surpri... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and seeing a 15 year old girl, is this wrong?
Q. I'm so confused right now, I've been hanging out with this girl for the last few weeks and we got on really well, then we admitted we have feelings for eachother and so I asked her to be my girlfriend yesterday, she said yes which I was overjoyed ...
A. 12 May 2010: Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. And as long as both your parents are happy with your relationship then there shouldn't be a problem. Everyone has their own opinion, so yeah there will be people saying it's wrong. If you're ... (read in full...)
Itchy skin problems! My doc thinks it's allergies...but I'm not sure. Any input?
Q. I am having a problem. It started when I just got to America in January. Frequently, I experience itchy skin in the cold and sometimes when I am on my own and not in the cold. I also have a lot of pimples on my forehead until i started using a good ...
A. 11 May 2010: It could be eczema. Seeing as you moved I guess you've been eating different foods. Alone where they come from or how they were produced can make a difference.
I have it so I know the pain of it. For me it breaks out when I eat certain foods, when... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of these razor bumps?
Q. dear cupid, i keep getting razor bumps in my pubic area and they will not go away. i got this big bump that im not use to on my lip os down there and i picked it and cler stuff came out is that normal??, i was thinking it was herpes but if it...
A. 11 May 2010: Those bumps are normal after shaving, i get them too. I've found that they have improved though since i started using a different razor and shaving gel. ... (read in full...)
Any way to make my very noticeable assets less visible?
Q. I am only 14 years old and i have 34 DD boobs, they are the biggest in my year, i used to like them but now in the summer when i want to wear vest tops they look huge and they are really pert and they just sit their..my friends are jelous but i am ...
A. 11 May 2010: I feel your pain, when i was your age i had around the same size as you, maybe even a little bigger. I'm 18 now, they've gone up and down in size since then and are an F atm. I used to get bullied for the size of my boobs and tried to hide them as ... (read in full...)
Going on date with b/f--how to do it?
Q. I really want to go on a date with my boyfriend just me and him alone somewhere but I dont know what we could do or where we could go, also i dont know how Id ask him......
A. 8 May 2010: Just ask him if he wants to do something together, just you and him. You could go to the cinema, the zoo or maybe a meal. Doesn't have to be a fancy/posh restaurant... Or you could go for a walk and have a picnic when it gets a bit warmer.
T... (read in full...)
Medicines to stop pregnancy?
Q. can any medicines stop pregnancy after a week? ...
A. 8 May 2010: No. The only thing that would get rid of a baby after that time is an abortion. It's a big decision so you'd have to think about it carefully before going ahead with it. ... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, will he get into trouble?
Q. Hi there. I am 16 years and my boyfriend is 25.We have been dating for almost 2 years. If he makes me pregnant and i then go stay with him and his family, will he get into any kind of trouble?? ...
A. 5 May 2010: What's the age you're legally allowed to have sex in your country? If you're not legally allowed to have sex yet, then yes, he can get in trouble. If you're of legal age then no. Not with the law anyway. What do your/ his family and friends think of ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I think my boyfriend is dying!
Q. Ok. Well im seventeen and like most teenagers, i have a myspace. Well i met this boy and we began talking a whole lot. We got closer and closer each and every day. I really began to like him. He like acorss the country from me though but we were ...
A. 4 May 2010: At 17 you're not too young for love! I'm only a year older than you. I was 16 when I first got together with my boyfriend. We've been together for over a year now and I could not imagine my life without him. If anyone says anything about you being ... (read in full...)
I have an unusual eating disorder
Q. Hi im 17 years old and for as long as i can remember ive had a problem with eating. Its not a common disorder so many people critisize me. Since a yound age i have only been able to eat the same food (basics such as potatoes.. noodles.. chicken) no ...
A. 4 May 2010: I would definitely try to find a good psychiatrist where you live now to see if they can help you. I've seen something before with kids who only eat certain things and they got them to touch and play with different foods so they could get used to ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I think my boyfriend is dying!
Q. Ok. Well im seventeen and like most teenagers, i have a myspace. Well i met this boy and we began talking a whole lot. We got closer and closer each and every day. I really began to like him. He like acorss the country from me though but we were ...
A. 3 May 2010: Just be there for him and let him know that you're there to support him.
No matter how unlikely his chances may seem, don't give up hope. My boyfriends friend had a really bad bike accident last year. First the doctors said that he probably won'... (read in full...)
I am 13 and a lot of other girls tell me I should have sex, but I don't want to!
Q. im 13 years old and a lot of other girls are saying that i should have sex but i havent gone through puberty yet and i heard that dry sex reeeeeely hurts and i want to lose my virgenity when im married to the man of my dreams what sould i do?!...
A. 3 May 2010: I was in the same situation when I was your age. Best thing to do is to just ignore them. If you don't want to have sex then that's your choice, not theirs! Stick to whatever you believe, trust me, you'll be glad that you did later on in life. I... (read in full...)
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