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Sex and STD's
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2 May 2009: So, I've been hearing more and more about (young) teens beeing worried about pregnancy and STD's, not just on DearCupid but also at college and from friends. I'm not going to talk about pregnancy but STD's.... Everyone knows that Sex educat...
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My best friend and I are fighting over a boy
Q. My best friend is saying stuff about me and I want to punch her in the face..Should I? This all started over a boy....
A. 24 January 2010: I can understand how you feel... but no! It's not going to solve anything. You 2 need to have a serious chat. Because it's not worth falling out with your friend over a boy! ... (read in full...)
I want a holiday, I don't want to pay, b/f has no money, how to convince him to come?
Q. really want a holiday this summer but boyfriend has no money and i don't think i should be expected to pay. how can i convince him to go away with me?...
A. 18 January 2010: YOU are the one wanting to go on holiday! You can't expect someone else to pay for it! And if you're boyfriend doesn't have they money then.. he simply doesn't have the money. Nothing you can do about it. ... (read in full...)
All the other kids are teasing me about my crush on teacher
Q. i like my gym teacher. i know i'm not in love with him but all the kids bug me. they send me messages on facebook myspace and everything to tease me.we arnt dating and i told the kids this but i don't know whatelse to say.help me....
A. 18 January 2010: Best thing you can do is to just ignore them!
Don't show them any sort of reaction about this subject, as this is what they want! If you ignore them, they'll soon get bored of it.
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Advice sought... Why is my period late???
Q. 20 years old, my bf and I have just starting having sex together for the first time recently. We used a condom and he didnt cum inside of me. My period is late, by about 3 days. So I am scared that I could be pregnant. For the past 3 days I ha...
A. 7 January 2010: That's good then. Just to warn you, in case you don't know, the pill can hugely mess with your period. So if you're late anytime during the next few months, don't worry too much. ... (read in full...)
Advice sought... Why is my period late???
Q. 20 years old, my bf and I have just starting having sex together for the first time recently. We used a condom and he didnt cum inside of me. My period is late, by about 3 days. So I am scared that I could be pregnant. For the past 3 days I ha...
A. 7 January 2010: Try to relax. Periods are often late because of stress. And right now your stressing about being late, which is just going to make your period later. Wait around a week. If you still don't have your period get another test, or go and see your ... (read in full...)
How can I get my 7 year old to stay in bed and sleep???
Q. Hi i know this is a site about relationships, and this problem is about my relationship with my 7 year old daughter in a round about way. I'm at the end of my tether with her at bed time, for the first few years she went to bed with no trouble, but ...
A. 7 January 2010: You've got some great advice there, but as i was the same at that age, i thought id let you know what helped me.
I always had my bedroom door open a little to let some light in as i was scared of the dark at the time. I always had a lot of tedd... (read in full...)
Are there certain times of the month where she might not get pregnant?
Q. Ok I really need to know. My girlfriend told me she was on the pill so we decided not to use condoms because she doesnt like the fell of them or something. Wel anyway a few days after we did it my girlfriend confessed to me that she had forgot to ...
A. 7 January 2010: A woman can get pregnant any time. Even if she was on the pill, you used a condom and she was a period there would still be a chance. Very very unlikely, but not impossible.
She's least likely to get pregnant while on her period, or close to it. ... (read in full...)
When I'm on top, do I sit up or lie down?
Q. Im going to my boyfriends tomorrow and sex is on the brain lol i was just wondering if anyone had any tips for me on how to be dominant of him i dont know how to have sex on top of him.. how do i move? do i sit up or lie on him? he likes it when i ...
A. 6 January 2010: Neither of them are wrong. Try out both to see what feels best for both of you. Personally, I usually lean forward a little as it hurts for me to sit up. ... (read in full...)
Can anyone advise me on ovulation?
Q. My husband and I are trying for a baby. I am really un educated when it comes to ovulation etc. My period came on christmas day and lasted for only a few days we had sex on the 28th 29th and 30th is this aroubd my ovulation period and therfore more ...
A. 6 January 2010: No not at all.
The menstrual cycle is usually around 28 days. And your highest ovulating time is about half way through, so around 14 days.
I would say your's is roughly around now and the 13th. (I'm just guessing though)
I would also recommend go... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm lying about my bra size. Should I be pissed?
Q. My boyfriend doesnt believe I wear a size d or double-d bra, I know he was just saying that because he wants to see my boobs, but for some reason I got really pissed about it. Is it normal for me to get mad at him?...
A. 5 January 2010: I'm with the other aunts (and uncle) on this. But I was just thinking, maybe they just don't look like they could be D/DD cup? I'm a DD/E and my boobs don't look it at all! ... (read in full...)
I became compulsive liar and he broke up with me. I want him back but don't tell me to tell him the truth!
Q. Hi. ok i've known dis guy for 4 yrs n we've gone out for 3 n half of them. i had started lying a lot to him regardin Oy health n stuff jus to get more attention from him. he always loved me n believed me. however i started turnin into a compulsive ...
A. 18 December 2009: You're not going to like hearing this, but he is a lot better off without you! He does not deserve to be with someone who can't tell him the truth! A relationship is all about telling your partner the truth, and trust, and no one can trust a liar. I ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregant, I want an abortion without being judged!
Q. hi i am really worried that i am pregnant. I have a feeling that i am and i think im starting to look as though i am. i am scared to go to the doctors because I am afraid of being judged and i know it sounds stupid but if i am i want to abo...
A. 17 December 2009: IF you're pregnant, a doctor is not going to judge you for your decision.
Although it shouldn't matter to you what other people think about your choice, people are going to judge you for it, there's nothing you can do about it. Everyone has a diff... (read in full...)
Can diarrhea cancel out the pill?
Q. Can diarrhea (excessive bowl movement) canel out your pill. No I no the pill can b affected if you get sick and I was wondering does diarrhea affect it in the same way. My boyfriend and I have regular sex and i am on the pill but we never use ...
A. 16 December 2009: Yes!! I don't know what pill your on, but for most, it will actually tell you in the instructions! ... (read in full...)
I don't think online dating ever works..
Q. Well I'll start. I don't Believe in Online Dating but I met a REALLY AWESOME girl and we talk, we webcam. and for a while we were just really good friends! and then she became distant, and when she came back she flat out told me she LIKES me. I...
A. 15 December 2009: I know its not really any our our business... But what is it that 'ruined him'? I met my boyfriend online, and we've been together for almost a year now, and we're planning for me to move in with him next summer. Do whatever you feel is right! W... (read in full...)
I have only one ball!
Q. Hi, im a 17 year old guy still in school im a virgin and my dick was 6" last time i checked maybe 5 months ago but thats not my problem my problem is i only have one ball in my sack nd i can feel the other one to the left right above my dick nd this ...
A. 15 December 2009: Like Cerberus said, see if you can get it back into place by applying gentle pressure on it. Stop if you feel any sort of pain though. This sometimes happens to my bf during sex, and all he has to do it is push it a little. If it has always been ... (read in full...)
Why are some guys only interested in sex, I am losing faith in love
Q. why do some guys.. make you think HE REALLY LIKES YOU..but he just wants sex... when you DO GIVE in he never calls you again.. and if u DON'T GIVE in he doesn't call and changes his number?? why are all they looking for one night stands?? ...
A. 12 December 2009: Don't give up, you may not have found anyone yet, but someone decent will come along. Just don't go looking for it, and it will happen when you least expect it.... (read in full...)
Unwanted by my father, abused by family member
Q. i'm crying as i write this and feel so silly for doing it. i feel like my brain isn't functioning properly sometimes like theres something missing, i feel like i don't think like other people. it's only in the last couple of months that I've kind of ...
A. 12 December 2009: This is not stupid!
I know how it feels for your dad not to be around, as i grew up without him too (its been 3 years since I last saw him). I know it can be hard not to have a dad around, but you're honestly better off without him. There have been... (read in full...)
Is he right, are people at it like rabbits?
Q. I would really like to know how other people percieve sex. I was having a "discussion" about attitudes to sex with a male friend of mine, and well, lets say it got quite heated - he totally disagreed with what I think, and basically told m...
A. 12 December 2009: You're not a freak, there is plenty of people who would never sleep with someone just for the sake of it.
I would never be able to sleep with someone if I'm not in a relationship with them either!
This is exactly why there are so many diseases... (read in full...)
How do I break the bad news to my Mom?
Q. this is not really sex or love or anything, but i need advice on how to break some bad news to my mum. see, i through being foolish got my laptop infected by a virus, and i sent it off the factory for other repairs hoping it would be fixed, which...
A. 11 December 2009: You didn't say what it was they did?? That would help a little.
We had ours sent off for repairs.. What did they do? they put a new hard drive in without telling us we would need a recovery disk to use the laptop, which cost us £30...
The f... (read in full...)
My ice cream craving!!!
Q. Why do I have a craving of ice-cream so much? I have a bowl to the rim every day and that's not enough for me? Is this normal?...
A. 10 December 2009: I don't think it's anything to worry about, other than it not being very healthy, but i think we all have our cravings... I'm the same with chocolate and coke! (i mean the drink :P)... (read in full...)
I know I don't love him but should I sacrifice my happiness?
Q. Hey everyone, I hope that someone out there might have some helpful advice... I have been married for about 4 yrs and have a 5 yr old son from a previous relationship that went sour...My husband has been my sons father since he was 8 months old they ...
A. 9 December 2009: I don't know how much more information you want? You asked us if you should sacrifice your happiness, we told you what we think!
You also have to provide us with the whole story if you want to us to be of more help, in your original question you ... (read in full...)
I know I don't love him but should I sacrifice my happiness?
Q. Hey everyone, I hope that someone out there might have some helpful advice... I have been married for about 4 yrs and have a 5 yr old son from a previous relationship that went sour...My husband has been my sons father since he was 8 months old they ...
A. 8 December 2009: Leave him if you feel that is right for you. But give your son and your husband the chance to see each other.
Breaking up is never easy, but there are ways to make them easier.... (read in full...)
My sex drive has died, could it be the pill?
Q. Hi, i lost my virginty to my boyfriend this year, it was both our first time. I went on birth control Microgn 30 two months later to help improve my periods. On these i got quite ill and moody, but i did have a good sex life with him. After 3 months ...
A. 8 December 2009: It certainly can be your pill, if you read the instructions, it should say that your sex drive can end up being higher or lower than normal. What really interests me about this is that I too was on this and was switched onto yasmin after 2 months (... (read in full...)
What do you do when your partner doesn't want sex as often as you do and isn't willing to change?
Q. What do you do when your partner doesn't want sex as often as you do and isn't willing to change? I am in a long term gay relationship. After a few years of being frustrated and rejected I broke it off as I couldn't take it any more. My sex dri...
A. 7 December 2009: To be honest, I think you're being a little selfish here! It doesn't matter if someone is in gay/lesbian or straight relationship, if you're partner doesn't have as high of a sex drive as you, you have to respect that. You can't force him into it, ... (read in full...)
Could missing that pill possibly cause me to get pregnant?
Q. i know how crazy this sounds,but im gunna be 19 in february. I got pregnant around this tyme last year but had an abortion because i wasnt sure if having a baby was what i wanted and i was also starting college in the fall. Now i want a baby more ...
A. 7 December 2009: Of course it could! Even when you take it at the same time everyday you could still get pregnant, even though chances are a lot slimmer. I'm not sure about the bleeding as you didn't say if you are meant to have your period now or not, but if you'r... (read in full...)
Does every marriage go bad?
Q. What are the chances for a marriage going bad? Does every marriage goes bad, except the religious, like Christian marriages? It's not the same, that staying together for any cost, or love each other for real.. Is it very rare,when people truly are...
A. 5 December 2009: Not every marriage falls apart. My boyfriend's grandparents have been together ever since they were around 15 (i'm not sure how old they are now, but they're his grandparents, so i'd say fairly old lol...)
One key thing in a relationship is comm... (read in full...)
What are these small lumps and pimples?
Q. hello,im embarrass already but since recently these little lumps keep showing up on my vagina(vulva)and trust me they are very painful.yes sexually active but i have always practiced safe sex so i dnt think its a std moreover,when ever i shave these ...
A. 28 November 2009: Shaving rash!! I'd try a different shaving gel. Depending what razor you are using, it may be that causing it. I find that when i use cheap single-use razors, it gets very bad for me!
I also tend to use hair removal cream a few days before shav... (read in full...)
Why aren't you girls sexually protecting yourselves?
Q. This isn't directed to any asker in particular, but I am becoming increasingly concerned, and unfortantely, though I try to withold judgment, I do experience anger, in both my personal life and with askers on the site, who are both aware of ...
A. 25 November 2009: Well I'm 17, and I know I'm not a saint when it comes to protection... but I guess at the very least I can say that I'm on the pill, and me and my boyfriend have both been tested for STI's and are both clear...
I admit that we don't use cond... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 23 November 2009: I went to see my doctor this morning and she said it's probably the pill that is causing this because the one I am on can cause periods to stop all together, which she didn't tell me when she first put me on it. She didn't even thing a test is ... (read in full...)
Now I feel like my body is ugly, how do I deal with his comments about my body?
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I were watching TV. There was this movie where a guy was watching porn, and they showed the porn star a lot, with her huge boobs all over the place. I kind of got upset, but said nothing, yet my boyfriend picked up on it ...
A. 22 November 2009: I'm with emily on this one, get rid of him! No one deserves to be treated like that. Not all guys are into porn or prefer girls with bodies like porn star - my boyfriend for example can't stand porn!
You deserve some one who tells you that you'... (read in full...)
Irregular periods, please help?
Q. hi, I'm new to this, but I'm really worried. I've had my period twice in one month and i don't know what that means :[ I'm not very old I'm only 13 and it freaks me out. It hurts really bad and nothing makes the pain go away other then layin...
A. 22 November 2009: You're body is still getting used to being on the period, and it takes a while for them to start being regular.
I started mine when I was 10, and they didn't start being regular until i was around 14. Sometimes I'd get them twice in one month like... (read in full...)
Calming advice needed about pregnancy scare
Q. help! i was stupid enough to have unprotected sex and im worried about my gf. it was our first time, and we mainly just tried getting in comfortably etc no full on fucking. hence i didnt come close to cumming, and i wasnt in her for more than 10 ...
A. 22 November 2009: Only thing you can do is wait till her period is due and hope she is on time, if not take a pregnancy test.
You don't have to ejaculate inside her to get her pregnant, pre-cum can do just as good a job.
I think chances are very slim, but as said,... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 21 November 2009: Give him a chance to prove himself. Tell him he can see him once or twice a month, with you there, but his new girlfriend isn't allowed anywhere near him, Arrange a place and time to meet (if you don't want it to be at yours). If he sticks to the ... (read in full...)
How can I ask him to make sex more meaningful for me?
Q. I'm 25 years old and my husband is 33. We have been married for 2 years now and have a beautiful 18 month old daughter. We got married after dating for only 2 months, because I got pregnant. Sex is now becoming more of a chore than it should b...
A. 20 November 2009: It's important that you sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel, don't just casually tell him, make sure that he really listens to you. Ask him what he thinks and if there is anything he wants to try. Maybe next time you have sex, ra... (read in full...)
Is she really a friend, please advise?
Q. My best friend and I are proper close. I love her to pieces, I really do. I would do anything for her. But sometimes I've noticed that certain things that I do for her (like give up spare time to help her, spend money on her, give her things, etc) ...
A. 19 November 2009: She is either attention seeking or two faced... or maybe both! I would try talking to her, properly, don't let her interrupt you, and tell her exactly how you feel. I have had friends similar to this, and they're really not worth it, bec... (read in full...)
I need your help on this one! I don't want to go out with her if I feel ashamed of her size. What should I do?
Q. Ok my problem is this, I started talking to a friend of a friend a while ago and me and her get on great, laugh about the same things and just connect never a problem making conversation etc anyway she`s a bit big though which I know shouldnt be a ...
A. 19 November 2009: Too right this is making you sound like a dick! If you cared about her and really wanted to be with her you wouldn't care what anyone else thinks!... (read in full...)
Please help me... he hits me on a regular basis...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, i love him very much even though he hits me on a regular basis, I'm 17 he is 23 so when he does this to me i cant stand up for myself because hes too strong, i cant leave him because i have no one else to ...
A. 19 November 2009: First off, none of this is your fault! He is a bully, what he is doing to you is called domestic violence. The guy will make the girl believe that she is nothing without him and she won't have anyonee if she leaves. I will say go to the police, ... (read in full...)
I have had unprotected sex for 5 months and not fallen pg, does this mean I cant have kids or something?
Q. im 17 years old i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, hes 23 years old, ever since we got together we havent used protection once, i dont have to worry about STD's because we have been tested and we are both okay. the thing is i dont want ...
A. 18 November 2009: You're very lucky to not have fallen pregnant!! None of us can tell you if you can have kids or not, you'll have to speak to your GP about that. It doesn't mean that you can't get pregnant, it might also be him who isn't very fertile. Celtic ... (read in full...)
I have a huge dilemma! Five girls to choose from...what should I do?
Q. ok. i have a dilemma (and no it isn't my spellings) right. i'm a bit of an accidental player...in that i'm a flirt. i'm totally in love with this girl (not naming names so we'll call her 1) i love (1). and yet i have 4 other girls try...
A. 18 November 2009: Well, if you love girl number 1, I don't really see where the problem is. I understand you don't want to hurt any of the other girls, but there is no way of avoiding it! As for girl (2) just tell her that you do like her and don't want to hurt her... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 16 November 2009: I took that second test today, still negative, and still no period. I'm now 13 days late...
I've got an appointment with my doctor next monday so I'll see how things go till then...
I'll keep you guys updated with how things are going, and than... (read in full...)
Can anyone recommend a good contraceptive pill?
Q. I need some female advice, I am 27 (virgin) and currently not on the pill, I have been seeing this guy and we want to take things further, I have never really wanted to go on the pill because I think it messes with the female body, but I also don't ...
A. 16 November 2009: When you go the doctors they'll ask you some questions and decide from that what pill would probably suit you best, but you can't know which one is best until you try it! I've been on the pill since April this year. The first pill i took was Micr... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 13 November 2009: Thanks guys... I haven't been stressed at all lately, and I only figured out about 2 days ago that I should have had my period last week... I've been on the pill since April, and even when i first started i was always on time! But my doctor h... (read in full...)
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