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I can relate to many of the problems identified and have always been able to come out of them with my head held high. I would like to help others do that to and see that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
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I'm not that experienced but my boyfriend is, I need help..
Q. Okay so my boyfriend has been pretty sexually active before and I haven't. I want to know how to practice giving a blowjob before I do it on him?...
A. 27 February 2011: As long as you are old enough, he sound guide you. No DVD will teach you. It is quite an intimate act so ensure that you are ready.
Dont feel forced into doing something that you are not ready to do.... (read in full...)
I'm straight...is this normal?
Q. I am 23 female and straight. But i'm only turned on by lesbian porn, is this normal???...
A. 27 February 2011: I think all women are turned on my beautiful women and fantasize about what they see. It is normal. Maybe its something you may want to try. You only live once.... (read in full...)
Agressive partner or scared child??
Q. I've had a relationship with a man for 9 years. Although over 9 years ago we split up for a while, but, then we got back together. He can be aggresive and spiteful, but he never physically hurts me. But it's affecting my 13 year old girl, as they ...
A. 27 February 2011: Why do you want to be in a relationship with a man who is spiteful to you? It sounds like you have not much respect for yourself. I know its hard but I feel you are only in the relationship for the little companionship you get which does not sound ... (read in full...)
Too wet during sex?
Q. I'm having a problem with my sex life - I'm a pretty tight girl but i get extremely wet during sex to the point where my boyfriend complains that it doesn't feel as good! Does anyone know what I can do?...
A. 26 February 2011: Maybe the foreplay is too long and turning you on too much. Try having sex sooner.... (read in full...)
I find it tough to find attractive women who fancy me! Should I lower my standards??
Q. Hi guys can you help? I'm 32 (embarrassed that a guy my age is even on here) and feel I'm getting on now and need to find a decent girlfriend. I’ve been single for 2/3 years now but to be honest girlfriends have always been hard to find. (before ...
A. 2 November 2010: I feel the best way to meet people is to find an interest where You will be around people on a regular basis e.g. sports club, evening classes, voluntary work. You need to make friends first. The best relationships are from those that develop from ... (read in full...)
There's something about me that attracts bullies!
Q. I have been the victim of bullying so often in my life, especially in my working life, that I've lost count. There's something about me that attracts bullies like flies to shit! I am an extremely honest and hard working person. I'm not a ...
A. 16 October 2010: Can you link with me privately as I would like to share some similiar experiences with you with some suggestions.... (read in full...)
In love or just in a crush?
Q. OK. I like a certain Mr. X. I asked him once to check out my thesis and was unhappy he didn't get back to me. But when I asked him he said I had checked it out that day itself and it was good! He is extremely friendly and nice whenever we have...
A. 3 October 2010: Sorry I had a typo in my response. I meant to say - dont chase him. I am glad you are not. As I said before. The guy has an interest in you. Take it slowly. The relationships develop from friendsships first. Thats how you will get to know ... (read in full...)
In love or just in a crush?
Q. OK. I like a certain Mr. X. I asked him once to check out my thesis and was unhappy he didn't get back to me. But when I asked him he said I had checked it out that day itself and it was good! He is extremely friendly and nice whenever we have...
A. 28 September 2010: When I was reading this, it sounded so much like something I have been going through. Yes - I do think he likes you. He has given you a lot of attention and his numbers and sounded attraction body language.
Does chase him. Let him continue... (read in full...)
Not that into me or just busy?
Q. confused; Is he really busy or he's just not really that into me? I met this guy from where i'm currently working. It was his first time to be here in this country. He came here for business trip. So, basically it's just a quick trip ( 1 week). ...
A. 7 August 2010: Continue to get to know this guy. It sounds like he really wants to get to know you. He has been honest. Like the other aunt writes - why does he want to be near you. I was not certain what country your flag represented. Tske care and use your ... (read in full...)
Did I Rush It?
Q. Hey guys. So the first day I hung out with a guy we had sex. We've been hooking up every so often for a little over a month and I'm starting to like him. We discussed dating and he said "He'd like to stay single for the summer cause he never does ...
A. 7 August 2010: You spoilt it by sleeping with him to quickly. You date first then sleep with a guy. Do not allow him to use you any more unless that is what you want.
I can not see this relationsip developing because you have spoilt it. Move on and learn fr... (read in full...)
At 6 months, shouldn't he know if he loves my by now? Or am I rushing things?
Q. Ok i need help! A bit of history is that my childrens father was a serial cheat throughout our 10 year long relationship, this ended 2 years ago. I t took me a while but i am now over it and feel really ready to move on. I dated a couple of guys ...
A. 27 July 2010: I know how frustrating it can be when men do not communicate their feelings. Men find it hard to say how they feel. they tend to show it more. FRom what you have said it sounds like he has feelings for you. Do not keep asking him and enjoy what ... (read in full...)
Terminate pregnancy by unknown father?
Q. hope i can get some advice here as hav no1 to talk to and am a bit embaressed...i am a singal mother ov 2 kids who are 9 and 6 we have a great life go away all the time and very settled i work as an escort to pay 4 our gud life as there dad left us ...
A. 9 June 2010: If you are feeling materal, have the child as you will only regret it later. It will be sad for the child though as it will grown up angry as did not know its father.
Your children are getting older and I feel you need to consider a differen... (read in full...)
Wooing the boss?
Q. I have a crush on my boss. At times it subsides some and then comes back again. I have remained professional. I never flirt or show signs I like him. I have had a crush on him for nearly eleven months and recently I decided that I should find ...
A. 6 June 2010: I'm in a similiar situation. Bosses often feel very isolated from their colleagues. They know that people find it hard to approach them. When you leave ask him out but not too obviously e.g. wd you like to go out for a coffee sometimes. Can we ... (read in full...)
I can't understand why I am still single!
Q. I just cant understand how im still single, I really cant! Im a nice looking girl.slim ive got blonde hair. Ive got a really nice nature, Ive got a 5 yr old daughter, I dont smoke, do drugs. Go out getting smashed having one night stands. Ive never ...
A. 5 June 2010: I know how you feel as I have a similiar problem...in a relationship but do not feel like one. May as well say I am single. Ditch the dating websides as the people tend to fabricate themselves. Better to met people through your own circle of ... (read in full...)
Am I obsessed with my boss, or just crushed because I can't have him?
Q. I have had a "crush" on my boss for the past year. (please no lectures on dating the boss- its not happening but can't help what I feel) I can't stop thinking about him even though I know he does not feel the same way. His mood when I see him ...
A. 3 June 2010: What makes you think you cant have him? Is he married? Does he give off any interested body language to you? Many people meet their perpective partners at work... who knows. Do things to change the way you look to make him notice you. Change your ... (read in full...)
How do I make the next move...?
Q. Please, I need some help here! I like my boss, I like her a lot. I'm 32 and she is 36 both single, you might think that I'm crazy but I don't know, how did this happen to me. The thing is, I can't stop thinking about her. She works 24 hours a day ...
A. 30 May 2010: Try to control your feelings. She may take advantage of you and then leave you feeling embarassing and then you may have to leave your job. Let her do the running now. when you see her smile. Study her body language. Leae it for a few weeks. ... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he said "take care" in his text?
Q. Im kinda dating this guy and we got in a little fight and he said "I'm going to sleep k night sweet dreams take care muahh" what does take care mean in the text message ...
A. 30 May 2010: I take it as meaning - look after yourself. I feel you think it means good bye ....NO!... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with him but will he stick by me if I get pregnant?
Q. Is it wrong to want a baby with your boyfriend? I'm fifteen and he's turning fifteen May 31, 2010...We were on the phone last night and he was saying he wouldn't break up with me and he would stay and raise the baby...do you think I should believe ...
A. 5 April 2010: Don't be stupid. You are both kids. You should not be sleeping together anyway. he may not want to break up with you but his parents will drag him away. Have some self respect. You are too young. babies are not as easy as they look. Enjoy ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you have a musical talent?
Q. I'm feeling conflicted and sad because I love music more than almost anything on earth. I have played the guitar for most of my life and I would like to do more than just play it as a hobby; I would like to do it on a professional level. My q...
A. 21 March 2010: I used to sing and have numerous friends in the industry. Its a tough one and too survive you need to be hard skinned. People will always criticise you and some will praise you. That teacher who knocked you was one of the overly critical ones. ... (read in full...)
Friend won't see a doctor over discharge
Q. Please i really need your help on what to tell my friend....she said something watery is coming out of her left boobs...i askd her to go see a doctor and talk about it but she wouldnt listen to me,,,she said thats the last thing she wants to do...i ...
A. 7 March 2010: If she was pregnant it would not be waterery. It would be milky colour. I have never heard of this before. You are a great friend - try and get her to a doctor. I have never expeirenced anything discharging from my breast until I was pregnant.... (read in full...)
Attracted to older men...
Q. Hi, I don't know if any other girls 16-18 share my unfortuante, ya could say, liking for older men. By older I mean like 50. Well i've always wondered how older guys see it? I mean like do they think that these younger girls must be immature? Mus...
A. 3 March 2010: I bet you have not got or did not have a positive relationship with your father. Most girls who are attracted to older men want a father really. They want someone to look after them and tell them its ok and be there for them.
I understa... (read in full...)
I think my teacher knows I fancy him! Help!
Q. Hey. I don't know if my teacher know I like him. I've liked my reacher for just over a year now and he wasn't at my parent teacher meetings so my mum and dad made an appointment to go and see him and I was there. Well he jokes with me and...
A. 28 February 2010: There is nothing wrong with liking someone. You just need to make sure you dont come on to him or encourgage him to come on to you. You are a hot blooded young girl and he is a man.
Dont encourgage him to flirt with you. You need to maintain... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with me?
Q. Sex has always been an issue in our marriage. I've always wanted it more than my wife and it'll often only happen if I initiate it. But I find I'm quite sulky about it at times. If she says no I'll become moody and if she says yes, I'll someti...
A. 28 February 2010: Sounds like you both need to communicate more with each other. There is clearly a problem. Consider a session with a councellor.... (read in full...)
Should girls shave their pubic hair, or do guys find it attractive?
Q. ok i hope no one thinks im nasty or something but should girls shave pubic hair? or do guys find it attractive for girls to have it? im not haveing sex or anything i just wanted to know? ...
A. 22 February 2010: Keep it short and well trimmed or else it can cause odours. That way everyone is happy. Long and bushy is disgusting.... (read in full...)
Old wives cure for acne
Q. Is urine good for acne and for the facial skin? My friend told me this and I don't know if to believe her....
A. 21 February 2010: Just using common sense - urine is a waste product that has bateria in it. Why would you want to put it on infected skin?... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend but guys only want me for sex!
Q. everyone i meet say am really sweet, friendly and caring.. ive been single for 14 months and ive had 8 guys come my way and they ALL WANTED SEX:( and off course i didn't give in all these guys have disappeared..cos i want relationship +sex ...
A. 21 February 2010: The best way to meet good guys is through a common interest - a hobby e.g. gym, church, join a band or dance or sport, voluntary work. You will get to know them as friends first. This is always the best way for relationships to develop. Meeting ... (read in full...)
My Prince Charming says he'll only stay with me if I give our baby up for adoption.
Q. Hi, i am 18 years old, i am having a baby, i am 17weeks today, me and the father are together but he says he will be with and stay with me if i give the baby up for adoption, and if i keep it he will leave, I am stuck in a rut and im not sure what ...
A. 17 February 2010: How did you get into this position? You must not let this man make decisions for you. You have that little child growing inside you made out of love. I think asking someone to abort a child or give up their own flesh and blood are evil. If I was ... (read in full...)
How soon is it too soon to have sex??
Q. how soon is it too for non virgin to have sex with a guy you just met?? when you want a relationship+sex and not just sex, so the guy would not think ur easy. oh and if guys like girls who makes them, wait, then why do they always ask for s...
A. 17 February 2010: When a guy gets moody because you want give him sex - tell him to go and get it somewhere else. He just wants someone to use and will whisper anything in your ears to get it.
You should not let guys use you. They donot love the way women do... (read in full...)
How do I survive this without him?
Q. i have a fifteen year relationship, two wonderful kids, seven and three. he will not marry me as i am so interested in money. what will i get out if it, not the fact of our children (young as they are), he is well off, but hasn't always been, he had ...
A. 11 February 2010: You question is rather vague. It sounds like this man has worked hard to build up what he has got. Did you help him? Because he knows what its like to not have money he is being cautious. Why you you know what to marry him? why did you not do ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will leave me because I am too clingy.
Q. My Boyfriend just told me he is afraid that I will become too clingy. I feel as if i lost almost all of my friends because I work too much and a certain situation that makes things akward. When he told me i need to hang around my friends more it ...
A. 7 February 2010: Sorry to hear your pain. At your age, when you are in love you just want to be with that person night and day. However boys feel differently. They feel they cant breath and need air. Listen to what he is saying. He is not dumping you. He wants ... (read in full...)
My son's 18 year old friend wants to have sex with me - I'm 45! What do I do?
Q. I'm a 45 year old woman and I have a eighteen year old son. My son has a friend who is also eighteen. Yesterday I found out he is possibly going to Iraq within a month. He told me he's had a huge crush on me and that he wanted to have sex with me ...
A. 25 January 2010: Boys are boys and if he and your son fall out it may come out. You should be flattered that you are attracted to him but find someone who has not connections to your son. You only live once. Go for it!... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman, please help?
Q. My husband recently left me for another woman. We were married for 16 years and he met her at work. I just wondered if anyone else has had that happen to them? and how did it turn out? how long did it take the hurt to go? ...
A. 24 January 2010: I am sorry you have had to go through this. I can feel your pain just by how little you wrote. You must of suspected something was going on.
Anyway, you need to work on getting on with your life. And time does heal. You have not said much abo... (read in full...)
Since I asked him out on a date, he now ignores me! What should I do?
Q. Im fustrated with this and hope someone can help. Im friends with this man, that ive grown to love. We use to get along so good, always flirting and helping each other out even talking a little online. (we're co-workers) Ive asked him out before and ...
A. 14 January 2010: Back away from him a bit. Maybe you are a little to forward and some men find women like this overpowering. In time he will softening. Let him make any further moves now.
If not forgot him in that waya nd remain friends.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
How can I work on my issues so I don't withdraw from my relationships?
Q. I need help with a problem that I have that I seem to keep repeating in my relationships. When I get preoccupied with problems in relationships or outside of my relationships, I tend to get extremely withdrawn. I don't why I do this but it seems ...
A. 10 January 2010: When I read your problem I could see a bit of me in it. I am not certain if I am the right person to give advice as it still affects me know.
The difference between me and you is that your boyfriend asks how you are and is very attentiv... (read in full...)
He has been unfaithful and violent but I still love him
Q. Just to fill you out on the background first: Me and my boyfriend started courting at the slightly young age of thirteen, and now we're fifteen, so we've basically been going out for two years. The first three months of our relationship were no...
A. 10 January 2010: Dont be a door mat or a punching bag. Have respect for yourself. Men who are violent often saw their fathers treating their mothers like this so have no respect for women. There is somehting disturbing him and he needs to be cured. I am sure he ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this is normal
Q. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend on December the 30th, I didn't bleed and the pain compared to stubbing a toe. Then on NYE we had sex again, and I didn't bleed. So I assumed I wouldn't bleed at all because this time was quite rough so if I was ...
A. 10 January 2010: You probably have a very high hymen. Everyone is different. Do not worry about it. Just make sure you are using protection. Your virginity has now been taken with his finger.... (read in full...)
How do I improve my relationship with my sister after her car wreck?
Q. I am from india and live abroad with my sister. She is 25 and i study in medical college. I am 20. She is not my real sister but is adopted. She loves me a lot, and so do i. Recently she was involved in a fatal car accident. She was in hospital for ...
A. 10 January 2010: It will get better in time. time is a great healer. She will get better.... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over a guy that I barely had a relationship with?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a wonderful guy. When I first met him, I had been hanging out with another guy for about 4 months. I was very attracted to this other guy, but I didn't feel comfortable hanging out with 2 guys at once...
A. 10 January 2010: For you to be thinking of another man maybe there is something wrong with your current relationship. It sounds like you might need to take sometime out and reflect on what you really want.... (read in full...)
Ladies, here's something for you. I want your opinions on this?
Q. Is it true that you girls will never forget or always feel something for the guy that you "never got"? The one that you knew you loved but he never asked you to be in a relationship. Do you still think about him even after you're in a new ...
A. 10 January 2010: I do find guys who are not too forthcoming a little more attractive than the guys who are in your face. At the moment I am trying to come out of a dead end relationship. Another man has become attractive to me.
I can tell by the way he looks at... (read in full...)
Girl wants to have unprotected sex with me and I'm only 14!
Q. I am 14 and a girl i kno wants me to hav sex with her i am about 5 inches when erect and uncircumsised i am a virgin and she is not ... she wants to do it unprotected and hav a kid ... confused :S help pls...
A. 10 January 2010: What would your parents think if they found out:
1. You are having sex at your age.
2. You are involved with this nutter and her intentions.
3. If she did become pregnant you could have a damaged child or she may be damaged as her bo... (read in full...)
How to keep a relationship going
Q. a relationship is very important you dont want to loose it over something simple or small to keep a relationship going you need to do a few things always remember ur loved ones birthday and celebrate it in a special way always keep good coversations ...
A. 10 January 2010: I agree that communication is key in a relationship. Nothing turns me off more than a man who does not speak. Trust is also important. If you are in a relationship and a man does not introduce you to his friends and family - get out of it - he is ... (read in full...)
How do I improve my relationship with my sister after her car wreck?
Q. I am from india and live abroad with my sister. She is 25 and i study in medical college. I am 20. She is not my real sister but is adopted. She loves me a lot, and so do i. Recently she was involved in a fatal car accident. She was in hospital for ...
A. 10 January 2010: Your sister has been through a horrendous experience. She is probably still very depressed about it and probably still in pain. It was very kind of you to help her through. She feels guilty for your studies. The only way to solve this is to keep ... (read in full...)
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