Like what
she writes?
... Add *ibra1963 to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *ibra1963 a private message | | | *ibra1963's profile:I am a mother of 3 and I teach 16 to 19 year olds. I have had many experiences throughout life with men and family problems.
I can relate to many of the problems identified and have always been able to come out of them with my head held high. I would like to help others do that to and see that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
I have felt pain and loneliness. I feel I have the experience to help others. |
|
Rumour has it he left his wife and children for me, but I hardly know him!
Q. I started working at my current job at the beginning of the year. This is my first job after university. I am a fairly open and friendly person and am friendly towards all the people I work with. This has led to one of the men at work to develop a ...
A. 5 December 2009: You don't kow for sure he has left his wife. It could all be rumours. You dont know for sure he has feelings for you. You dont know for sure why he hangs around an area.
You could be imaging something that may cause you embarassment in the long... (read in full...)
He left his wife for me, but now he treats me badly
Q. Hello, I have been on here several times and I wanted to update my stories. I was seeing a married man for six years. His wife finally left him, and we moved in together. I thought things was really going to be okay, and that I was finally goin...
A. 4 December 2009: Its never a good idea to get involved with married men. They made a comment to someone else legally. If he did not love this woman he would not have committed to her. Its hard enough trying to get men up the aisle so it was a big thing.
Most ... (read in full...)
How do I kill my masterbation habit?
Q. I am 22 addicted to masturbation for about 10 years or so.I masturbate more than once in day.I want to leave this habit. What should i do for the restlessness i feel when not masturbating?Especially if i get bored ..and have nothing to do I ...
A. 26 October 2009: At your age boys tend to have a high sex drive. It sounds like you need the real thing. If you are continuously doing it, you clearly are not satisfying yourself. Maybe do it watching a XXX film or with magazines. You should get so aroused that ... (read in full...)
Is it really that serious?
Q. they say when your in love you'll know.......is it really that serious??...
A. 26 October 2009: You cant stop tinking about th person. Every monute of the day. You habits change and you start taking more care of yourself - you know you are in love. You start hurting at the slightest thing they do to you. Your there!... (read in full...)
After 8 yrs and all this I don't know what to do anymore, any help please? I don't want to lose her.
Q. ok she broke up with me afew weeks ago and yeah its been hard.we finally stated some what talikng and texting after she wouldnt answer me for awhile before.but i think i went to far we where together for 8 years and i just dont want to let go.i ...
A. 17 October 2009: It sounds like you do not understand why you broke up. Was it something you have done. By the way you have written I get the feeling you are quite obessed with this girl. You love her TOO much. for girls, this can be scary and suffogating.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's abusive and underwent a mental health evaluation. What do I do?
Q. Ok so ill try and keep this short. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is CRAZY. He's abusive. Verbally, emotionally and recently, he's starting to get a bit psychically abusive. (pushing, shoving) We have a baby together. I love him but i hate him. He ...
A. 16 October 2009: I really feel for your boyfriend. I can see why you love him. He has had a horrendous upbringing and I can see why he has so much anger. when he hits you - its not that he really wants to hurt you but due to his upbring he has a lot of anger ... (read in full...)
Was being fingered last year making tampons hurt? I just cry...
Q. hi , i am 14 years old . and i have first got fingured last year , but recently i met this new boy , and he isnt dooing anything wrong . but it hurts . I cant even use Tampons , ii cry just trying . when ever my bf tries too figure me i make him ...
A. 16 October 2009: Maybe he has long nails. check his finger nails. Or maybe just being too rough.
You need to advise what is comfortable for you.
Don;t make boys take advantage of you. You are still very young. Try and keep your reputation in tact as boys ... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted ONLY to older MEN?
Q. Hi there, The thing is I'm not coming here for professional advise, but for some educated opinions, and maybe a parallel to one's own experience (if there are any). I did seek some help on this issue when I was an undergrad and my school therapist...
A. 8 October 2009: You are looking for a father. Many women who did not have a good relationship with their father go through this. If it makes you happy go for it. You can not change your father. He is who he is.
There is nothing wrong with being attracte... (read in full...)
Married but in love with another but I don't want to lose my children!
Q. I have been married for 15 years. For most of those years I have not felt that desire, longing for my husband. I do not feel passion or any sexual desire for him. Within the past 2-3 weeks, I have been talking to someone I graduated high school ...
A. 16 September 2009: If you are not happy in your relationship, get out of it. You only have one life. It sounds like you have tried with your current relationship.
Your children will come round. They need to understand that you just want to be happy.
If you ... (read in full...)
Do the aunts feel the love here?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for the past 14 months we have great sex but we get on well together and have similar interests, i am separated from my husband. The man I am seeing has never told me he loves me nor have I told him that I love him. ...
A. 16 September 2009: If he really loved you. he would leave his wife. It must hurt you with the thought that he returns to her each night.
We are mot psyicics so can not read into his mind. If yu want to waste your life away with a man you may never leave his wife... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I want to stop having sex for a month and he said he would get his pleasure elsewhere!
Q. ugh ok so obviously alot of people have read my questions now let me ask you this. I told my boyfriend that I feel like I'm in a more physical relationship than an emotional one. he never kisses me unless i do it first and when i do its onl for like ...
A. 11 September 2009: Learn to respect yourself. A good man will wait. Do not give it so easily. I know its hard. these young guys do not see sex as we women do. We give are hearts and emotions. Not half as much as they give.
Best wishes... (read in full...)
We broke up 8 months ago, but I can't move on
Q. Hey guys I broke up with the love of my life 8months ago but to me it still feels like yesterday. Recently I tried to move on and date other guys but I end up comparing them to him. Sometimes it feels like no one can ever replace him and the sad ...
A. 11 September 2009: You are not ready for a new relationship yet. You will know when you are ready. It takes a different amount of time for different people. When you start eyeing up the man at the bus stop or in the super makret, you will now that you are better. ... (read in full...)
My friend keeps hitting on my boyfriend!
Q. ive been going out with this boy 4 atleast a month now and my mate has a boyfriend in a diffrent school and she just flirts with my boyfriend alot and me and my b.f talk on msn and he says he doesnt like her shes a dog and stuff but it really p...
A. 10 September 2009: Tell her that her behaviour is upsetting you and if she wants to remain friends with you she needs to stop. I am sure she would not like you doing this. I dont think she realises that she is hurting you. Give it a try.... (read in full...)
My friends wont accept me for who I am
Q. I have friends who I don't think I can be friends with anymore. They don't accept me for who I am and I am sure they talk behind my back! I am not good at confronting people. What should I do?...
A. 9 September 2009: Who are you? What are you? You can not stop people talking - people will always talk. If you do not want people to talk about particularly subjects ... do not tell them.
Wy were they friends in the first place?... (read in full...)
Why is my ex boyfriend reading my emails but not responding?
Q. ex boyfriend of 15 years, that I lived with, dumped me two years ago. I loved him very much! more then i could express in words. he ended up marrying a foreigner. His third marriage. blocked me from his email, won't talk to me. Pretty much disowned ...
A. 6 September 2009: I am feel your pain. You must still be hurting after all this time. Things must have been going wrong in your relationship prior to him leaving. Maybe if you reflect on the bad things, you may find the pain easy to deal with. Its takes a sp... (read in full...)
He says he's not in the mood and then watches porn all night
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now and all was great until the past few months. Suddenly he seems very uninterested in me sexually. It makes me feel unattractive and not like a woman at all, I've tried everything from ...
A. 1 September 2009: Why dont you try making your own porno movie. Watch something together then enact it. Maybe the guys in the films are making him feel insecure. If he sees himself it may boost his confidence.
Just an idea. Its up to you. You could always d... (read in full...)
He won't give me an orgasm because my semen smells too strongly
Q. Hi. I'm a 22-year-old gay guy, and I have an extremely difficult decision to make. My partner and I are on the verge of breaking up. The reason for our break-up has to do with our sex life. For the two-and-a-half years we've been together, my ...
A. 1 September 2009: I dont know much about gay relationships so I am not certain if I am in the position to comment but as an outsider, I am wondering whether there is something external that is causing the smell. As a hextasextual person I can only imagine lubicates ... (read in full...)
I sometimes give him head - will it affect our friendship?
Q. Ok so ill give a lil bit of our history to this day so you can see whats going on.... We met in high school year 9.. and i had a lil bit of a crush on him when we became friends.. used to talk all the time.. He left at the end of year 10 and had a ...
A. 31 August 2009: You need to talk to him. You dont know where you you are and we cant advise you either. All I can say is that he is taking advantage of you. Do not let him use you unless you are getting something back in return.
It sounds like there is some ... (read in full...)
In love with my teacher. He is single and I want to get more involved
Q. I've had feelings for my teacher for a while now and I;m pretty sure he feels the same way by the way he talks to me, approaches me, and we even hug and slightly touch sometimes. Anyway, he's single and I want to get more involved but im not sure ...
A. 31 August 2009: You are not in love with your teacher, you are infatuated with him. It's not real. You are reading into something that is all in your mind. You need to take care not to ready into things too much as you could get him into serious problems... (read in full...)
Do you think I was TOO harsh with my ex? Should I apologise?
Q. It's me again, with the ex problem. Okay so I bought the Magic of Making up, and the guy who wrote it says that if I want to get back together with my ex I need to not have any contact with him for a month and write him a letter telling him these ...
A. 30 August 2009: Hi There I know exactly what you have been through and I too learnt the hard way. What you are doing now is the best thing. You said your self that you were weak and needy. You did not make this man chase you so you were an easy bait and he... (read in full...)
Married but sexually incompatible
Q. I am a 32 yr old woman married to a 38 yr old man. We have been married for almost a year and everything else about our marriage is good except that we are completely sexually incompatible. When we were dating he was very slow moving in the sexual ...
A. 23 August 2009: He sounds sexually inexperienced or maybe someone has knocked his confidence. I would suggest that you try training him and tell him what you want. I would even go as far as seeing a counsellor as he maybe brought up to believe that sex is dirty ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her how I feel, or do I just wait for her?
Q. I'm a 20 year old guy, and i think i am in love with a 17 year old girl, I have known her all my life but just realised how beautiful and how nice her personality is. I sent her a message the other day telling her how i felt but the next day i sent ...
A. 23 August 2009: The age - dont be silly - my feloow is 6 years older than me. My father married a woman thirty years younger than him.... (read in full...)
I have many health-related questions, please help!
Q. I have rather large thighs and am wondering what is the best excercise to lose some fat? ----------- I am a virgin but have had oral sex done on me. I tend to bleed. I thought for the first time it was my hymen breaking, but it happens every time. Wh...
A. 22 August 2009: Losing weight on the thighs is difficult. You need to diet and do aerobic exercise. Power walking, cycling should be good. Concentrated leg raises. Nothing will work without you cutting down on your food. Most women get spots on bikini line -... (read in full...)
He proposed the 'no contact' rule but he violates it
Q. My ex when we broke up asked me to stop texting him so we would both recover fast. I agreed to this and tried my best. The thing is, we still remained in contact because there were things we needed to return to each other. I told him, if indeed h...
A. 21 August 2009: It sounds like he is messing you about and it is eating at you. Have you asked him outright has he still got feelings for you and is there someone else? Maybe he just needs a break away for a while. Let him retreat to his cave and you spend ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her how I feel, or do I just wait for her?
Q. I'm a 20 year old guy, and i think i am in love with a 17 year old girl, I have known her all my life but just realised how beautiful and how nice her personality is. I sent her a message the other day telling her how i felt but the next day i sent ...
A. 21 August 2009: No harm in telling someone. Its a real compliment. If you like her do not keeping going on distancing yourself and see how she reacts. You were foolish to lie about the text. Be confident but discrete.... (read in full...)
I can't seem to bring myself out of my shell. Please help!
Q. Hi all, I've never dated before. I have asked out girls in the past (and got rejected obviously), and I've tried to work out what is wrong with me - the things that are making me undesirable - and I've pretty much got the jist of it. And what a l...
A. 16 August 2009: I haven't read what the other posts have advised but just reading your post, you sound like a really interesting person. I feel you need some assertation training. You are doing all the right things. Where girls are concern, play cool. Its a turn ... (read in full...)
Stange lump something to worry about?
Q. Warning you now this is going to sound gross but I just wanted to ask on here incase its nothing because I'd rather not have to show this to a doctor or anyone. A random sort of pea sized lump has grown in my anus, most of the time I can't fee...
A. 15 August 2009: It sounds like piles. It is in your best interest to get it seen by a doctor. I know it is embarassing but doctors have to look at all sorts of things throughout the day so do not feel embarassed. If it is piles it can be pushed back.
Do no... (read in full...)
Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009: When people cheat it is often for selfish reasons. Its like having an extra sweet from the jar. They dont need it but have it because of the buzz of it. Thats the basis for cheating.
Please do not get yourself wrapped up in suppose it happens.... (read in full...)
I've tried to get away, but the harrassment continues ...
Q. Well, if you have followed my other posts, you will know that i had a married woman chasing me at work, tried to get away, finaly got away, had to cry "hostile work enviroment" to management, they changed my schedule, but it still overlaps hers 3-4 ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hi there God you have gone through a lot. Please take sometime off work. You are making your self really ill. I am sure your employers will understand. Hopefully they will realise that they need to get rid of someone and it will not be you.... (read in full...)
I betrayed my best friend by sleeping with his girlfriend... now she's pregnant! Help!!!
Q. How am i supposed to get out of this dilemma, my best mate and I had a disagreement that resulted in us falling out. After a few weeks we still had not resolved the issue. Next thing I know his girlfriend is at my house trying to get us to sort it ...
A. 26 July 2009: What a dilemma you're in. Firstly you need to speak to this girl further. Has she been seeing anyone else apart from you? Its really difficult as it sounds like she has made up her mind about keeping it. I can understand how confused you mus... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about his online dating account?
Q. My bf and I have been together for more than a year. We dated for 5 months and I had to go back home but came back after 8 months and moved back in with him. we never ended the relationship and we are deeply in love with one another. Recently I ...
A. 24 July 2009: It sounds like you have rushed this relationshipship. A year is a very short amount of time to really get to know someone yet youare living together!
I would suggest time apart. Ask him outright how he feels about the relationship. Maybe wh... (read in full...)
How can I have feelings for anothe when I'm supposedly in love with my partner?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for the last 4 1/2 years, we have been through a lot and have always been there for each other. Our relationship was great from the start and we have a lot of history together, which made the feeling of f...
A. 24 July 2009: We are always attractd to the sweet jar. You know you shouldn't but you do. It sounds like your relationship has survived a great deal.. Why ruin it for a relationship that may not even last. Be friends with this person but it has taken many ... (read in full...)
Thinking about boyfriend's bestfriend while masterbating.
Q. Is it really ok if I masturbate while thinking about my boyfriends best friend?? I kinda feel bad about it....
A. 24 July 2009: Is there a problem in your relationship? Why are you not thinking of your boyfriend. Maybe something is lacking in your sexual relationship. Maybe try doing something different with him in a different setting. I feel when your mind starts w... (read in full...)
She likes multiple guys, including me
Q. ok ok theres a girl i really like. alot! she said that she likes me too, but im not the only guy she likes. today she broke up with her bf and everyone thought bc of me, but idk. she told her cousin that we were "talkin" but she isnt looking for ...
A. 23 July 2009: You asked for more advice - dont have sex with her. You are stil too young. Go out with her on dates and kiss her if you want to become intimate but leave it at hat until you are older and wiser. She will hurt you and you will be sorry you did ... (read in full...)
She likes multiple guys, including me
Q. ok ok theres a girl i really like. alot! she said that she likes me too, but im not the only guy she likes. today she broke up with her bf and everyone thought bc of me, but idk. she told her cousin that we were "talkin" but she isnt looking for ...
A. 23 July 2009: This girl does not sound like the sort of girl you want to be around. Yes you are too young to be having sex. You did not say how old the girl was. It sounds like she is very experienced sexually.
Save your first time for someone special ... (read in full...)
Can I get HIV's if he is positive?
Q. i have recently been with a guy who is very promiscuous, we didn't completly have an intercourse because i was drunk and dry so he just got his tip in for a few milimiters and then took it away before we came, what i am worried about is that he ...
A. 23 July 2009: The little contact you had, I would say is very unlikely however, if any liguid was exchanged the likely would be high if he was positive.
I would advise you not to get into that situation again and always keep your wits about you. Do not get ... (read in full...)
Down with shaving!
Q. I've got this problem, since last year I've been getting an ingrown hair on my vagina area. I went to the doctor when I first got them and she said that all I can do is exfoliate and there's no treatment unless for severe cases you get surgery so I ...
A. 21 July 2009: It sounds like you need to leave the hairs for a while to grow out. You must be really causing the skin a lot of truama witht he plucking and exfoilating.
Coutinue to do what you need to do to stop them from growing under the skin and then giv... (read in full...)
I like him but he smells...
Q. i kind of like this guy and i know for a fact that he likes me as he was over at my house over the weekend. he was talking to me and before i left to go to someone else's house, he wanted to know if i wanted his number so we could hang out sometime ...
A. 20 July 2009: You did not say exactly how he smells or where. If it is body odour be brutal. This is a guy you like. What will your friends think when you introduce him. Some people do not realise that they can have all the baths and showers in the world but ... (read in full...)
Smitten... after only one week! Should I tell her?
Q. I think i have developed feelings for this girl after only one week. we met at the park and started talking. We are into the exact same things we have both had the same problems in our life so we understand each other. So should i inform her on my ...
A. 20 July 2009: Get to know her as a friend first. If you come one too quickly it may put her off. See how she reacts. If you feel she likes you too then go for it.
You can always tell when someone likes you by there body language, the way they look at ... (read in full...)
Opinions please. Why won't he have sex with me?
Q. My ex and I broke up over a week ago. We're still attracted to each other - obviously and our break up had no real reason/ I think he just felt overly stressed w/ everything his life but neither of us were happy bout the breakup. We've been ...
A. 20 July 2009: It sounds like you have really exhausted him. You seem to have a very high sex drive. Can you not find ways of pleasing yourself. Four times a day is quite a lot regardless of what age you are. Too much candy does make you sick.
You are righ... (read in full...)
What is the best position when you have sex for the first time?
Q. I am 13 and im having sex for my first time in a couple of weeks because my boyfriends parents are on holiday and he said i could come round for a couple of nights if i wanted to ... i said yes ... he later asked me if i was ready for sex and i knew ...
A. 20 July 2009: You are tooyoung to even be thinking about sex. you need to fill your live with interests. What are boys going to think of you having sex at your age. You may not be with this boy for the rest of your live. Other boys will find out as they do ... (read in full...)
I've tried to get away, but the harrassment continues ...
Q. Well, if you have followed my other posts, you will know that i had a married woman chasing me at work, tried to get away, finaly got away, had to cry "hostile work enviroment" to management, they changed my schedule, but it still overlaps hers 3-4 ...
A. 20 July 2009: It sounds like this women needs help. Do not allow her to affect your job. If there is anyone who should go its her. Having slept with management I am surprise she has not been shown the door already.
The previous advice is good. Keep evidence... (read in full...)
| *ibra1963's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ibra1963 has
added them and they have added *ibra1963!
|
