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Will I look back and regret sleeping with a 46 year old man?

Q.   Hi, thanks for your time, I'm 17 and the guy I'm having casual sex with is man who is 46, with the benifit of hindsight will I look back and think what he is doing is wrong? It's just a pattern I've noticed throught life, as I get older I look bac...

A.   25 April 2010: Well you have well and truely doused my passion, perhaps for the best I know your giving good advice but there is always the chance we stand at different levels on a moral scale and therefore would not percieve it how you do at your age I do... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and a virgin and I want to have sex. If I don't wait for the right person, will I regret it?

Q.   I'm 15 and still a virgin. All of my friends have had sex, i think im ready to but i really don't know what to do. i m not sure whether to wait for the right person or just go ahead and do it. if i don't wait for the right person will i regret it ...

A.   25 April 2010: Your still young, you may feel like the odd one out now but when you can look back in pride and your friends can't you'll be alot happier... (read in full...)

Limp after foreplay?

Q.   okay so im 18 years old, and about 3/5 times that im messin around with a girl, i usually get too much into foreplay and exert all my energy and become tired (dry humping for a long time etc) and i guess it tires me out and when we progress and ...

A.   25 April 2010: It might sound stupid but... Being more healthy?? If you do any drugs, even weed you can have trouble keeping it up, maybe eat better or do some excersise? Then see if it's still a problem... (read in full...)

She went from warm to cold in 48 hours..what happened?

Q.   Right guys, this will be long, been seeing a girl now for 6 weeks or so, everything was going great. We really clicked, loads in common, she kept saying we should go here and do this go here and do that, which i was cool with. I did the same and...

A.   25 April 2010: It sounds like you got carried away and then it was doused for her, sadly the feeling isn't mutual... :( you have a right to know why... (read in full...)

I'm only willing to date women who are Christian and in my area of attractiveness. How can I get better at dating?

Q.   Hi, First off, I'm not too concerned about this, I'm more just curious if there is anything else I can do. Secondly, I'm a Christian man really only willing to date women who strive after Christ with my passion, and are in my area of attracti...

A.   25 April 2010: Ask out a single woman at church for a drink, talk to her first, then drop the question.... (read in full...)

How do I play hard to get?

Q.   i've known this guy tom for a few months now and he told me he loves girls with a sense of humour, brunette (which i am) and have blue eyes (i have blue eyes) and when we met up with a few friends he did flirt with me for a bit. And he told my b...

A.   25 April 2010: Are you sure you want to play hard to get before you know he definately wants to persue you?? You might as well just tell him to leave or something, unless of course, your deffinate that he won't be put off. If you want to play hard to get just... (read in full...)

How can I stop feeling so worthless???

Q.   Hi dear cupid audience, how are you all? I want to ask for advice, since this is truly destroying me inside. I need help dealing with regret and guilt, i don't know how to stop me from feeling like im worthless. =( The problem is when i go out. I...

A.   25 April 2010: Try and stop going out, if you know what happens when you do then DONT DO IT!! If you feel worthless then stop doing it!! It's quite simple, just make sure you stop it being a posibilty, you'll have to say no to your friend, it'll be hard, but you ... (read in full...)

Will I look back and regret sleeping with a 46 year old man?

Q.   Hi, thanks for your time, I'm 17 and the guy I'm having casual sex with is man who is 46, with the benifit of hindsight will I look back and think what he is doing is wrong? It's just a pattern I've noticed throught life, as I get older I look bac...

A.   24 April 2010: Okay, so in reply, we met at a pub in the lake district, I was on holiday there in my friends second house and I wet down for a drink, I have allways had a thing for older men so when I was getting the eye off him I did wink back, my friend went the ... (read in full...)

I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?

Q.   "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...

A.   24 April 2010: That girl sounds horrible. Don't let her put you down! Size matters but it's not all that matters!! If you know the female "anatomy" then at yours and my age that's quite rare! And it'll impress most girls Other factrs are skill, good at foreplay... (read in full...)

Closeted lesbian, homophobic society and loveless relationship, please help!

Q.   I am a 30yr old lesbian from a small town in India. I have a problem which is weighing my heart down because ending my 5 yr relationship seems to be the only solution, i can formulate. I hope you will be patient in reading my letter and giving me ...

A.   23 April 2010: Have you ever considered emigrating? Just as a suggestion, feel free to take no notice of it, I personaly think there is a great tollerance of homosexuals in the uk, my best friend is a lesbian and it's never bothered anyone, you do deserve ... (read in full...)

Premature ejaculation help!

Q.   when i am doing sex my sperm out quickly so what i do?...

A.   23 April 2010: I'd advise going twice, the secon time you will last longer!! Change condom if you use them though!... (read in full...)

My parents won't accept my boyfriend because he is only 2 years younger than they are!

Q.   Hi I am 24 years old, my boyfriend is 40. I have 2 boys, and their dads aren't reslly around. I'm not trying to replace their dads i just want a male figure in their lifes. I have dated guys my own age and the don't want the same ehings as me. I've ...

A.   20 April 2010: If you're happy then it's all good, don't leave him you have your life sorted, maybe they just need to know how you feel! Explain to them that it would really hurt you to leave him and hopefuly they will want what is best for you!... (read in full...)

Besotted by my teacher...

Q.   I am 15 years old and I am in love with a teacher at my school who is 25 years old, I may sound naive but it's not a silly little crush and I didn't choose to like him and I have never been a believer of age meaning anything, also he is single so i ...

A.   20 April 2010: Think about how he sees you, you'll seem like a stupid little girl, no offence but I doubt the feeling is mutual and if you tell him then you'll be embarased... (read in full...)

Friend says she wants to sleep with me

Q.   (Moderator note: broke this into paragraphs to make it easier to follow) One weekend back when I was in school I saw a girl from one of my classes walking by the food court in the mall. I just happened to see that she had some type of accident...

A.   19 April 2010: Go for it!! It's like your dream woman! I'd advise looking up some things like what's what on and in the vagina so you know what your doing! Good luck, just be greatful... (read in full...)

Will history repeat itself if I go back?

Q.   My wife of 20 years and I recently separated because of problems over intimacy and mutual supportiveness. Having put up with this for a long time I finally started an affair with someone else and once my wife found out I was sent packing, six months ...

A.   18 April 2010: Tell your "wife" that you need intimacy and that you no it's no excuse but she needs to know the same will happen again if things don't change... (read in full...)

My friend keeps dragging me around then leaving me for someone else

Q.   Hi, A year or so ago my friend came out as bisexual. At first I was okay with it, but now its going over the top, she's 14 years old and talks to girls she doesnt know over the internet and arranges to meet up with them, she asks me to go...

A.   18 April 2010: This is difficult I know because it happened to me, but my main worry is that this is seriously dangerous! She could be meeting anyone, you should really tell her parents cos if something happened and you hasn't you'd feel responsible, tell her ... (read in full...)

One boob bigger than the other!

Q.   Hi, im 16 and im really really self conscious of my breasts. basically ever since i was about 13 they have been really uneven, one at least a cupsize smaller than the other. it never used to bother me, but now ive started getting into more se...

A.   18 April 2010: You just have to learn to not mind it, I have a similar issue but "down there" and I have learned to ignore it and I'm fine, just remebrr you have your health! ... (read in full...)

Trying to lose weight for the summer

Q.   I need some suggestions about a diet because I'm in serious need of one. Over the past few months I've put on so much weight its unbelievable. I can barely fasten my school trousers :/ and to be honest its proper getting me down because now that ...

A.   18 April 2010: Go vegitarian, I did it because I care about the life of other living things etc but as a bi-product I've lost a stone and I'm loving it:) I've almost got a flat stomach ang great legs, I'm natrually toned and tanned so I've never had to worry about ... (read in full...)

Was the whole relationship just a lie?

Q.   I had an affair with a married man, I myself am married. The affair lasted for 10 months, it started out as friends, and built into a trusting, wanting, and deep relationship. My marriage was already in trouble and I was just co-habitating with my ...

A.   18 April 2010: He has kids, think of them, what your doing is wrong and therefore why should you deserve happiness in the end? You cannot build your happiness on other peoples sorrow. ... (read in full...)

Celibate marriage.

Q.   *OP's own title* I am also in a sexless marriage. I have been married for almost 6 years. My husband has some very deep issues and hang-ups about sexual intimacy. Through these years he kept saying to me that he will go get help. He finally sees the ...

A.   17 April 2010: He knows the score you will have to see if he cares enough sort himself out. If your needs aren't been net maybe suggest getting with another man for sex? Atleast maybe that would shock him and get him into action!... (read in full...)

I'm 17 and in love with my friend's father!

Q.   Hi, I have a huge deliemma and I'm so confused. I'm in love. One of my close friends loves me, but I am in love with his father!!! I am 17 and my friend's father who we will call Max, is 36. He loves me back as well. I know it is absolutly insane, ...

A.   17 April 2010: It seems a shame to loose a friend, I agree with the coment above it's teenage feeling I get them too, but, that doesn't stop them being real feelings! I think you have best judgement as you know all the factors however I would say talk and say I ... (read in full...)

In My New School Should I Tell People I'm Gay or Not? and Advice

Q.   Hi I am 13 and Im gay. Recently I've been getting more and more attracted to men and not at all women and I have been looking at gay sex and straight sex and I've always been atrackted to the penis never the woman and although many people say that ...

A.   17 April 2010: I allways find adults say how can you know your gay at that age and stuff! It's ridiculous for someone straight to try and comprehend, it's like when they say "you don't know your in love" but one in 3 marriages end in divorce so I'm pretty sure ... (read in full...)

Life of misery

Q.   i hate the people hurt me and every day i get sadder and sader and more unhappy no body cares about me home.i have be going counsellors since i could read,i have been bulled,attack,called names, rejected,ingorned,even stacked,no body cares abut me ...

A.   17 April 2010: Try to wake up one day and have a fresh start! Make it this Monday! Join clubs and meet friends! I know it's easier said than done. Maybe take up running for your appearance worries as excersise makes people feel happy! Good luck I really hope ... (read in full...)

Please help, I'm dreaming about my teacher

Q.   Im a junior at highschool yes im young but i have had a crush on my anatomy teacher, i used to just think he was an interisting humerous man untill my best friend(who had him for biology her sophmore year) confided in me and told me she thought he ...

A.   17 April 2010: Hm, I allways fancy teachers, it's so anoying!! But they're just phases and clearly can't be acted upon, despite you looking upto him without trying to be mean he probably sees you as an impressionable young girl and as he has traveled etc he would ... (read in full...)

Am I asking for disappointment if I ask this "lad" out to the pub?

Q.   Recently I hooked up with a guy who I would call a bit of a "lad" he's older than me (20) and is very confident ad doesn't stay with one girl very long if any time at all really! I was considering asking him out to the pub or somewhere as I quite li...

A.   17 April 2010: I don't need ID and never have seem as I look older and I'm from the UK not the USA so the ages are different over here. Thanks for the advice x... (read in full...)

Believeable or Just Another Lie?

Q.   Hi, I've been with my boyfriend going on 3yrs. and he use to tell me about his exes and the sexual experiences he's had even once said one of them gave better head than me but this third year in our relationship we got into an extreme argument, you ...

A.   16 April 2010: We can't posibly know but he has lied one way or another and once people start to lie unless they snap out of it pretty soon it seems to be a slippery slope!... (read in full...)

Causes and treatments for psychological impotence?

Q.   What is the treatment and the causes of psychological impotence? I'm 47, and few years ago I lost my sex drive and my erections. Suddenly. Went to doctors,but they have no idea,what is going on, as Im not sick. All tests are normal.. My marriage is ...

A.   16 April 2010: Sorry missed the end of the question. But yeah, lack of desire I would go for?... (read in full...)

Causes and treatments for psychological impotence?

Q.   What is the treatment and the causes of psychological impotence? I'm 47, and few years ago I lost my sex drive and my erections. Suddenly. Went to doctors,but they have no idea,what is going on, as Im not sick. All tests are normal.. My marriage is ...

A.   16 April 2010: I would say it could be no desire, and I wouldn't assume you lost it just that there is no one you truely desire at the moment? Are you married? A Bachelor? ... (read in full...)

Husband says he wants only me so why is he still looking at personal ads?

Q.   My husband and I had a huge disagreement over a chat I was having with a friend of the oppistie sex and he wanted a divorce. He joined an online dating site and even tried to meet girls from personal adds. After long talks we decided to work it out. ...

A.   14 April 2010: Who knows why he still looks atbthe personal ads? Immaturity? Unable to be faithful? Perhaps after a taste of single life he realised he preffered it? Bit what ever the outcome you deserve to be treated better!... (read in full...)

Underdeveloped virgin hates his genitalia and sexual feelings....

Q.   *OP's own title* Hello all, before I go on, here's some specs about me. I'm male, mid-30's, still a virgin. I have an aversion to sex. I do think it's become way too mainstreamed and stripped of any passion and love in today's society; look at toda...

A.   14 April 2010: I have the same problem but as a woman and 18, you are not alone! If you care ... (read in full...)

Why can't my husband understand that I don't want any more children! We have 2!

Q.   I have been married for 15 years and have 2 beautiful children with my husband. Unfortunately, my pregnancies were not easy, 4 pregnancies, cyst removal on one of my ovaries, 2 miscarriages between my 2 successful ones, no natural birth only ...

A.   14 April 2010: Your husband can't understand what you went through. He just gets joy at the end he doesn't have to go through it all- you need to tell him that... (read in full...)

Are men interested in girls who model?

Q.   Hi all. For my future career i want to be a model. My first question is how could i pursue this safely as a 14 year old girl, what agencys etc. any suggestions? my second question is that is it true some men don't like to go out with models? im ...

A.   14 April 2010: There is no guarentee that you can perdue this safely, and I would be amazed if any models got through a career without any eating disorder also alot of young girls just end up doing porn so watch out people don't persuade you. At 14 you haven't ... (read in full...)

Help! I think I'm bi. How do I only think about girls?

Q.   help! i think im bi. i think about guys and girls but i only wanna thik about girls. help! ...

A.   14 April 2010: It's probably curiosity to physically compare yourself with other guys not a sexual attraction. These are pretty normal teenge feelinggs... (read in full...)

I'm afraid I'm going to lose the baby! The doctor said 'no sex' for one month, but my husband went ahead anyway...

Q.   Last week(8th april) only I came to know that I'm pregnant. Since I didn't get my period on time(3rd april), I went to see doctor. Doctor did pregnancy test and confirmed that I'm pregnant. Doctor advised us not to have sex for next one month. But ...

A.   14 April 2010: What he did is discusting and it's even worse if you told him about the harm that could be suffered as a result of sex. Maybe try and satisfy him with oral sex, however, I don't think he deserves it seem as he pretty much seems to have raped you but ... (read in full...)

I'm scared of getting pregnant at 14, but I really want to have sex!

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together 7and half months, he means everything to me and we've started to touch each other but i do want to have sex with him but we're not sure, im scared of gettin pregnant at 14, but do you think im pushing to far ...

A.   14 April 2010: You will regret it later in life trust me, I know a few people who lost it that young and they feel like slags now. Don't do it... (read in full...)

First kiss left me feeling molested!

Q.   I have a question about my first kiss. It happened some years ago. Here's some backstory: I'd met this girl in ychat, and we just started talking. Turns out we had a lot in common. We hit it off. We arranged a meeting. Anyway, that night(H...

A.   14 April 2010: Don't let her knock your confidence I've met plenty of guys who aren't great kissers but that you had the confidence to ask her for a kiss will make up for that... (read in full...)

My boyfriend went nuts after I checked up on him using a fake facebook account. We have split over it, but I want him back!

Q.   I have dated this guy for 2 years, and all of a sudden he just changed. He flirts too much on facebook, it was more like i didn't exist at all. Ok, i know i did a bad thing when i created a fake facebook account about a month ago, and jeez, he said ...

A.   14 April 2010: He shouldn't flirt you shouldn't spy you need to drag yourself out from under his thumb ... (read in full...)

I'm about to run away

Q.   [Moderator note: this post has been edited for clarity] my mom promised me a phone for christmas. She said the place was too busy and she said we'd get one 'tomorrow'. That happened again and I still didnt get it. Today she got a phone (for herse...

A.   14 April 2010: Grow up, find some people with real problems and see how yours compares. You sound like a really spoilt typical western kid... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to want to dance with other boys if I have a boyfriend?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now, we've known each other for 2 years though and were bestfriends untill we decided to start dating, he constantly tells me he's in love with and never wants us be apart, I know we won't last forever. ...

A.   14 April 2010: Your friends are jelous. But don't worry your age on here is 13-15 so your still young! ... (read in full...)

The sex is very bad. I have to keep reassuring him about his penis, he has some annoying habits in bed and he keeps forgetting where my clitoris is! I'm tired of faking it!

Q.   When I have sex with my boyfriend he does some really annoying things. He likes to listen to the radio and sing in my ear while he's on top of me. I hate that. I told him that I didn't like that and he got his feelings hurt. So every now and ...

A.   14 April 2010: He sounds immature and annoying, he also has you wrapped round his little finger because when he doesn't get what he wants he throws a strop tell him to grow up... (read in full...)

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