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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 I might remember him but I don't dwell on it or want him back. If I wasn't good enough for him then he sure wasn't good enough for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): I loved him.Of course I will remember him from time to time.I am not too foolish.So I cherish the guy with me who looked at my tear filled eyes and said,"I can love enough for the both of us".
If he came back its a definite "NOOO"
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 I do find guys who are not too forthcoming a little more attractive than the guys who are in your face. At the moment I am trying to come out of a dead end relationship. Another man has become attractive to me.
I can tell by the way he looks at me at he likes me but he will not make any effort to move it on.
I think about him all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): he's only in the back of my mind because i let him be, because we still have contact and i sometimes think....what if!
but have before and could again forget about him x
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reader, xAx  +, writes (9 January 2010):
 I've had that feeling before but i moved on. I gave up waiting for something that wasn't going to happen :)
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (9 January 2010):
I do. I had this guy friend I met when I was 9. When I was 12 I started to like him...each year I liked him more and more but never said anything because I didn't want to ruin the friendship. I finally got over it when I was 18 (so 6 years) and began dating someone longterm.It's funny because a few months ago I was talking to him and we were talking about the past and whatnot and I finally told him the truth about stuff...and it was then at age 21, I found out that he had liked me too and didnt say anything either because he didn't want to ruin the friendship. So I hid this thing for 6 years and found out it could have been something. But its too late now, I mean I am fine with that, because he has a gf and I have a bf, and we live halfway across the country from each other now.I don't "like" him like that anymore...but I do still think of those days from time to time wishing I would have said something :(
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (9 January 2010):
 It's true that they come in and out of your mind at times, but it doesn't prevent a woman from falling in love and having a very happy life with a man. It's just a memory that fades with time, and pops in to say hi once in a while. BG
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): It will always depend on the girl and the situation and the guy. There will be girls that say yes, and girls that say no. I have a guy from maybe 15 years ago (middle school age) that I thought I was in love with. I think of him once in a while now but I wouldn't dwell on the fact that he got away, it was just meant to happen and it opened the door for much better guys to come along. My mom obsessed over "the one who got away" and 30 years later they got together and it was nothing like they thought it would be. So be careful you can create this ideal in your head about this person and build it up in your head that she/he was perfect and you can't go on living until you find out what it would be like to date that person only to find it's not that good. The big picture: don't dwell on the ones that got away, enjoy the good times you shared with them but move on and enjoy the new experiences and relationship you are opened up to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): No way! Like the other poster said- I look at the one Im with and think I got the right one :-)If you are with a female who does that then she is a rarity. Women generally tend to be into the man they are with now.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 January 2010):
Yeah, I always think of my previous "ones who got away."
I mostly think "What on EARTH was I thinking wasting all that time on HIM??? Urgh."
Then I look at the one I am with now and give him a kiss because he is SO much better.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, applebite8821 +, writes (9 January 2010):
 Unrequited love. One sided love affair.For me, yes it's true. There is one guy in college who never loved me back. At some point, he almost liked me and even said he thinks he wanted to live with me. But I chickened out fearing so much I would lose him if i ever make one move forward. And until now, I have in my mind the what ifs. He has never left my mind. Even when I am with someone, just one hello from him makes my knees weak. I had opened his profile on facebook many times and studied the people in the pics with him. I knew who he was going out with. From time to time I would say hi and he would say hi back online. But he never knew how much I am crazy about him. But I just let him live his life. Until now, even though not as often...he still crosses my mind and I will never think twice if he would ever ask me to be his girl.This guy who I never had...
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