How do I really know that I made the right decision?
Q. Hi Everyone - your help is needed! I split up with my partner of 4 years over two months ago now. I had been feeling confused over my feelings for him for a good few months before finally ending things. I think I have changed over time and don't ...
A. 9 July 2007: You will have to make the decision to stay in an unhappy relationship where neither of you were realy happy,or move on. We all can give you advice. But when push comes to shove, You'll need to go with your mind and your heart. Please Note That I put ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 18 June 2007: For me, The children who have some idea about death, Oh my Lord! My heart is a river of tears too, that flows into your river of tears.You do need to tell the children that their Grandmother will be leaving soon. The letter from Grandma,even if you ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me..he wanted me back. But I found out..he dating another woman! What should I do?
Q. My ex has been begging for me to take him back for months. I recently found out that while he has been telling me how much he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, he's been dating someone else, and telling her he was falling for ...
A. 3 June 2007: Your EX doesn't seem to know what he wants outside of the bedroom. Don't see as any of his relationship are going to be anything but sourmilk affairs. The anonymous repy was right on, good advice. Perhaps any woman to your Ex is just another notch ... (read in full...)
My ex bf's marriage is unhappy and he wants me back. How do I handle this?
Q. My ex boyfriend have been confiding telling me he still loves me but the only thing is that he's married now. He regrets being married to her because of the what she's put him thru. The use of drugs, physical and verbal abuse, living from house to ...
A. 3 June 2007: He moved on and out of your life, why not let him live that life. Kind of looks like you need to get your own life together, not add more problems to it. As the German's say, Sometimes we get too soon old, but too late smart.... (read in full...)
Followup: "Someone posted pictures of my bf " We found out his ex did it and the police won't do anything. Any advice?
Q. A follow up to my original question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/someone-has-posted-a-picture-of-my-boyfriend.html as for how they got the pictures, I found out his ex-girlfriend posted them up as a joke without his consent or knowledge. ...
A. 3 June 2007: Me I would like to know what kind of pictures you are talking about? They must not be in the buff. So no big deal forget it move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Due to celebrate our 10 year marriage anniversary in 1 week... and I find out my husband has been having an affair with a girl 22 years my younger!
Q. i have just founf out that my husband had an affair for 6 months last years we should be celebrateing our 10th wedding anniversary in a weeks time.he told me it ment nothing and he is so so sorry for what he has done he worked with the person and ...
A. 3 June 2007: Sweetheart: We all have Mental-Sexual-Affairs of the the mind, that's okay, or is it? Yet when we step out of our marital relationship then it's physical adultery, WOW! Now that's a big deal Guess that makes all of us cheats in one way or the ... (read in full...)
His mom doesn't want him to leave the house because she doesn't like to be by herself...
Q. This is going to blow your mind.... What should a girl do when she has a boyfriend of many many years that still lives at home. His mom doesn't want to be by herself ever since her husband died 30 years ago and she is inviting a "friend" over tha...
A. 3 June 2007: I'llpassonthis one great advice. Eve.... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my husband any more.
Q. I've been with my husband for 5 yrs and I'm not attracted to him anymore and get angry being around him and he's a good person can you help me understand why I feel this way....
A. 3 June 2007: Rhythmandblues2 is right-on. you need to paint more of a word picture of what is going on in your five year marital relationship. Perhaps what hasn't been going on,to make you feel loved and cherished... (read in full...)
Should I stick it out with my boyfriend or end it?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a guy for the past 4 years. For most of the relationship things have been great. I know that I was lucky to find him. We always talk about marriage, kids, where we'll live and other things like that. But, the last ...
A. 3 June 2007: I don't really see that the two of you have much going for you. Do you think that 4, more years or even a 100, more years will help you two get it together. You own body is telling you what to do. your no sex drive is making it quite plain that your ... (read in full...)
I am wondering whether I need to find someone financially stable to share my life with regardless of the deep love we share for each other.
Q. Hello Everyone! I am 22 years old and have been engaged to my best friend David for two years now.We have dated for 7 and a half. We love each other more then words can express. Two years ago he asked me to marry him. Immediately, he wanted to plan ...
A. 3 June 2007: You got to know when to hold, know when to fold, know when to walk away, "know when to run". Well, Baby it's time to run. Get on with your Education so you can depend on number-one, Yourself. Do you really need a messed up relationship, or stability ... (read in full...)
He fingered me and I bled! Is this normal?
Q. hey everyone,i just have a little question...my boyfriend and i decided to get a little intimate a few days ago...things were going well..then he decided to finger me..when he did this, there was a little sign of blood on his hand..later that day,i ...
A. 3 June 2007: Dear: He Fingered Me: The next time that he manually strokes your innermost vaginal area have him use a condom over his finger or fingers.Chances are his fingernails were the cause of your bleeding. He might want to try oral sex the best way to fly. ... (read in full...)
I feel constanty pressured to do well, to be cool and popular! Am I not happy with just 'who' I am?
Q. hiya i constantly feel pressured the whole time to do well in everything and to be cool and popular. Life feels like a competiton of who is happier and has the best life. I know that i should be happy with who i am but im not and constantly thrive t...
A. 2 June 2007: Dear Low Self- Esteem. First off I would like to say that all parents want the best for their children, but we don't often see our children as growing away from us in many, many ways. We too can be Physically ,Emotionally and Sexually controling. In ... (read in full...)
Had an affair..am I doing the right thing by ignoring him?
Q. i had an affair with a married man but recently i refused to accept his calls and even i acted so rude to him cuz i want to get out of his life.But i know he loves me.Am i doing the right thing by ignoring him? ...
A. 1 June 2007: So you shared bodies, but don;t call that love,it's not LOVE. Love goes deeper than one-night-stands,as for rudeness, it is never called for. Hey! You gave your body freely. Why wouldn't he want more? Gee! I would, as would most other men.... (read in full...)
In love with a girl who feels I am too good for her! What can I do?
Q. im in love with a girl who feels that i am to good for her. as if thats not enough she cant stop thinking about all the pain she has caused me in the past i dont care about the past but she cant forget and its making her very sad. i've done all i ...
A. 1 June 2007: I think the two of you have a bad case of poor esteem, and you both have-not learned to love yourselves, unless you can do that how can you learn to love each other? you cannot.Fat chance that your relationship will work,now or ever. You both need ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and want a relationship, but I fret about the size of my penis..any advice?
Q. Hi iam 17 and still a virgin i would love to have a relationship with a girl but iam very insecure about the size of my penis as it is only 6 and a half inches when erect should i be woried or am i fretin about nothing ...
A. 1 June 2007: Hey! Most men and women's fingers can stimulate the woman's clitoris. And being as most penises are longer than fingers. You got no problem, So enjoy sex when it happens.... (read in full...)
I am in a very unhappy marriage and have fallen in love with someone who is also unhappily married.
Q. I am in a very unhappy marriage and have fallen in love with someone who is also unhappily married. We so much want to be together it hurts being apart. What is your advice....
A. 30 May 2007: DEAR UNHAPPY IN LOVE; HAVE YOU FALLEN IN LOVE OR FALLEN IN LUST? IF THE NOW MARRIAGE ISN'T WORKING,AND I AM SURE THAT THERE IS MUCH TO BE DESIRED IN YOUR PRESENT RELATIONSHIP. TO START WITH THERE IS NO COMMUNICATION GOING ON BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR ... (read in full...)
Can't orgasm and different positions don't work...what can I do?
Q. I have been having sex for over a year but cant orgasm, i have tries different positions still dont work. please help...
A. 30 May 2007: Dear Can't Orgasm.It's a known fact that only one woman out of three can't have an orgasm with Penile Vaginal Sex, M/F Intercourse.Your are one of those two,no biggy.So what I read between the lines is just this. Neither of you know your genitals, ... (read in full...)
How do I really know that I made the right decision?
Q. Hi Everyone - your help is needed! I split up with my partner of 4 years over two months ago now. I had been feeling confused over my feelings for him for a good few months before finally ending things. I think I have changed over time and don't ...
A. 30 May 2007: Hey! You did make the right decision.
I go along with Irish 49, Great advice from a woman who has it together. You would do well to listen to her.... (read in full...)
Off to college next year! I want to be single..how do I break off with my bf?
Q. Hey im 17 and I have a boyfriend that is really great, he's sweet, smart and very good looking. Im going to college next year but i don't want a boyfriend in college just because i don't want to be so committed and obligate to one person just yet. ...
A. 30 May 2007: Hi! Off to college
Why don't you two just sit down together and talk about how you feel. Only way that make any sense, as far as I see it.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 29 May 2007: Dear How do I tell my Children? Why Don't you read to them.
A LETTER FROM GRANDMA
To my Dearly Beloved Grandchildren.
When your mother reads this letter to you. I know that you will be thinking of me with much sadness in your hearts. Plea... (read in full...)
My mother caught me masturbating and now I feel soooooo ashamed!
Q. am i normal? im extremely curious and i heard some girls in my class talking about masturbating so i decided to try it, i was in the shower one day and out of curiosity i layed on my back and let the water drip onto my 'area' and i pulled back the...
A. 29 May 2007: Dear Caught Masturbating; Don't worry, There't a good chance your mother masturbates too. Besides it is the only way both m/f can learn about their bodies. And how we each want to be love and how to love our partner"s body. Sex for one, ... (read in full...)
I discovered that my mother masturbates, what should I do?
Q. i discovered that my mother masturbates herself , what should i do?...
A. 29 May 2007: My mother Masturbates. Give the praise and the glory to God she's the kind of woman I would love to know. I'm going on 80 years young, and so do I. Don't bother your mother unless you help her find Someone to share the rest of her life with,if thet ... (read in full...)
I'm in my early twenties and don't think I've had an orgasm!
Q. Hi I've never written for sex adivce out of nervousness but I need some advice. I am in my early twenties and don't think I have ever had an orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I told him I have had then but infrequently, but now ...
A. 29 May 2007: Hi Don't Have An orgasm.
Wecome to the "I don't Have An Ogasm Club" Being A man, Doesn't make me qualified to say how a woman should or should not feel Orgasmicly Speaking. What I do have to say comes from what many women. and what they have to say ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't understand the effect that lack of sex is having on our marriage...
Q. I have been married for 28 years, no children, my husband didn't make love to me and this went on for 5 months with him insisting there is nothing wrong and nobody else, he did still cuddle and be affectionate though. He did go to the doc's for a ...
A. 29 May 2007: Dear Lack of sex. None of us men lose the desire for sex, unless there is something physically wrong or emotionally wrong with us. In your husband's Case I would suspect that His problem is both of the above.In your marital relationship has He been ... (read in full...)
Foreplay, cum, fantasy etc, etc...Explain all these 'sex' words to me?
Q. what is fore play?..fantasy a girl?..is orgasm same thing as cum?..how do you know when you orgasm?..what is all this sex words!!..i dont get it!! plz explain! tnx!...
A. 29 May 2007: Hi! Sweetheart.
Lots men think that Foreplay is part of a football game, and they wouldn't know how to explain Foreplay to you anyway. Here is what Foreplay really is all about. It is hugging, kissing and touching of each others bodies. And also... (read in full...)
Is there life after death? Is there hell and heaven? Is there reincarnation? Do we wake-up, and find out we're all aliens?
Q. hey this is a very wide question but hopefully itll mean i get more peoples opinions on it!! what you think happens when people die, is there life after death? my dad died recently and i cant help thinking whats happened to him so i'd like to know...
A. 29 May 2007: Hi! Is there life after death? I'll not talk about the Bible, Although it does have many good points when it comes to understanding death. I'll not say that I,m sorry that you Father passed away, as that would be a lie. Just am sorry that he isn't ... (read in full...)
One year of resumes rejections in my country have helped to develop in me a sense of personal and professional insecurity Is this abnormal?
Q. I don't know why I'm posting this. I guess I just want emotional support. I was kind of O.K. whith my one year old unemployment status. I have a Master's Degree and were I live this evidently overqualifies you for most jobs. Nobody in my country ...
A. 29 May 2007: Dear Personal and Professional Inseccurity.
If you haven't gotten your life together in your country ,don't think that going to the U.S.of A will help you one bit. Perhaps you have let your Professionalism go to you head. Why not do a mental self... (read in full...)
Should the man have more rights than a woman in a relationship?
Q. is it fair when a guy gives him self more rights than a girl as to be more controlling or to give him self the privlige to do things that he would not allow his girlfriend to do?...
A. 29 May 2007: Dear Should He have more rights in a relationship then me? All relationship in or out of bed if they are to be healthy Ones must be based up-on what is called Mutual, Agreeable Abuse. Where each of you put the needs of each other before your own, ... (read in full...)
What are the signs of falling out of love with someone?
Q. HI i am in a bit of a dilema. My husband and i have been married for 2 yrs and 3mths, but we've known each other for 4yrs. I am not happy any more. My husband and I want different things in life! I am 23 and he is 32 he wants kids, and i dont (not ...
A. 28 May 2007: Hey! confused; here I am a man about to tell a woman about Love,well no man can do that.But a lots of wonderful women can, and will. So let me introduce them to you. the first one is Shere Hite who wrote, "THE HITE RREPORT,"1976.By MACMILLAN ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with an unhappy married man!
Q. I'm in love with an unhappy married man and he wants to leave his wife but she is controlling his every mood. what should i do to help him get out of that and be with me were he want to be?...
A. 28 May 2007: Hey! Milk left out of the frig. sourers, so does any neglected relationship,and who's to say which one, or perhaps both, are souring their togetherness.I'll lay my money on the husband. And being a man, Most of us never get beyond SEX, SEX, SEX, in ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but just lately I've been having lesbian tendancies... I'm so confused.
Q. Im straight and have a boyfriend but lately i have beeen thinking about being a lesbian i look at pictures of naked women and feel the need to masturbate. after i have masturbated i feel dirty but i still like boys :S im confused please help tara x...
A. 28 May 2007: Dear Lesbian Tendancies.
Often on this rockyroad of human sexuality we do tend to take a wrong turn. And we blindly just follow the In Crowd,which has always been one of Heterosexuality. And just as there was no room in the Inn for baby Jesus, So t... (read in full...)
I keep losing my erection halfway through sex!
Q. I'm 19 years old. I can get an erection on my own perfectly, and with girls sometimes too through oral sex, or just teasing. But sometimes when I'm having sex I lose my erection half way through it. It happens a lot of times and it's really a...
A. 27 May 2007: Hi! Losing my erection halfway through sex: Welcome to the Club of Failed Erections. Just being a male makes you a member of the club. Like most of us men, you set yourself up for ED-Erection Dysfunction- early on in your childhood.And here is how ... (read in full...)
Husband is unable to perform sexually, due to drinking! What can I do?
Q. My Husband can no longer perform sex from drinking to much, and im very sexual woman, what in the dam can i do when he is my husband and i need good sex and affection, please help me please with some wisdom.......
A. 27 May 2007: I don't often give this Advise to people, But in your case you can forget that better or for worse you said when you got married. Once a man who cnnot fulfill his marriage vow due to fault of his own My Good Book,The Bible, says you don't have a ... (read in full...)
I found out my husband had an online affair!
Q. I recently found out that my husband had a 'Virtual' affair. I discovered a email address that I did not know he had. It was about four years ago and we were going through a rough patch I had put on alot of weight and work was very demanding. He ...
A. 27 May 2007: Dear ONline Affair. If I were to sum up your relationship, It is quite clear that neither of you have much going on at the communicational level, which makes for very little sexual- compatibility in bed also. The two must go hand in hand if a ... (read in full...)
I'm a 20 year old woman and my sex drive is non-existant!
Q. I just recently turned 20. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years but best friends before that for 2 years. Our relationship like most relationships in the beginning had a lot of affection and sex, but slowly they started to demolish on ...
A. 26 May 2007: Gee!Dear Lost My Sex Drive. Being a man really doesn't give me that much insight into how a woman thinks or feels sexually. However I can put you in touch with some of the greatest Sexperts. "WOMEN" They are the only ones who can tell it as it re... (read in full...)
Should I make the first move on my inexperienced virgin girlfriend?
Q. Hi, i'm a 23 year old male from England. I have recently just started seeing someone who is still a virgin and i am a little more...experienced so to speak. The problem I have is that i really like her and I am willing to wait for her, but should ...
A. 26 May 2007: Hi! Should I make The First Move? I would wonder why you would make any move at all. You say that you have had experience with other women, which leads me to the question. Were all those others just ego notches on your penis? It would appear that ... (read in full...)
He finds it hard to maintain an erection because he's used to have sex with multiple partners!!! What to do???
Q. What to do... this is a sorta sex based question so if you've had any experience with a situation that somewhat resembles this, I would love your imput! I just started a relationship with a guy whom I was friends with first. He's a lot like me in...
A. 26 May 2007: You both need to get some good books on Human-Sexuality, it is quite plain the you both know many things, but very little about you own bodies, your Genital Ignorance must be dealt with. If you both want to maintain a loving ,caring and lasting ... (read in full...)
Neighbor is wanting to call the police as his kid looked in our window, and saw us having sex! I think you should be able to do what you want in your own home! Any views?
Q. My neighbour has threatened to call the police as his 11 year old son saw my partner and I having sex in our living room. he also says it is illegal to walk around naked. The boy must have been in our back garden looking in the window so surley h...
A. 26 May 2007: The Good News:
If I was your Neighbor, I would be busting my kids butt,not worrying about the Police. If you adult neighbor was the one doing that. He would be charged with a crime,call window -peeking, there is a much better word for this kind... (read in full...)
My bisexual girlfriend is married and back with her husband
Q. I met this girl in a bar, we clicked straight away and spent a lot of time with each other that night, the next day she told me she was married and had two girls but her husband knew she was bisexual and didn't mind her going with women, so we ...
A. 25 May 2007: Hi! Love; It kind of looks as if you are on a oneway street of giving love, but not getting much love in return, as I see it. It's true that your lover has a commitment to her husband and family more so than to you. Guess, That she can't come rig... (read in full...)
Im bisexual... When Im dating someone I always fantasise about the other sex, any advice at all ?
Q. I am a bisexual girl, who has always been physically attracted as well as emotionally to both sexes. When I am in relationships (no matter how I feel for the person) I always fantasise about the gender that they aren't and this hurts me greatly ...
A. 25 May 2007: Hi! My bisexual Friend; Wecome to double-trouble, Whereas a homosexual has to worry about keeping just one of the gender in his bed happy you have to worry about keeping both gender happy It's perfectly normal to be having sex with one body, and ... (read in full...)
First time sex with my bf hurt real bad! Was this normal?
Q. I am a 20 year old girl and me and my boyfriend tried to have sex yesterday for the first time (I was a virgin, he wasn't) and it really hurt and I had to tell him to stop. Now I feel bad that I had to stop him and I'm scared something is wrong with ...
A. 25 May 2007: Dear First Time Sex:
Most of us, young and old,didn't have a sex manual to go by, when it Came to "How to Love a Man or a Woman". But then how is Mommy or Daddy going to tell us all about sex, when they are about as ignorant as you and me. So get ... (read in full...)
I want to convert to Judaism but my husband doesn't - does this mean I won't be allowed to convert?
Q. I've been carefully considering converting to Judaism for a few years now and believe it's what I really want. That's not the issue though; the problem is, I'm married and my husband isn't Jewish. I know that a Jewish person isn't meant to marry a ...
A. 25 May 2007: Dear:
Wanting to convert to Judaism. If you believe that the Bible is the word of God, then you also must believe that Jesus Christ,as set forth in that same Bible. Is the Son of God, and co-equal with His Father.Here is what Jesus has to say to y... (read in full...)
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